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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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svitteh How can I not be excited for a big holiday?
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I havent been anywhere to be diagnosed or anything so I'm sorry if when I say that I was "depressed" I've gotten it wrong. I know many people have actual diagnosed depression and I don't want to make that seem less important. About 2 years ago I was ... View more

I havent been anywhere to be diagnosed or anything so I'm sorry if when I say that I was "depressed" I've gotten it wrong. I know many people have actual diagnosed depression and I don't want to make that seem less important. About 2 years ago I was depressed and not thinking straight. I'm not sure what exactly got me out of it but I think a combination of exercising and finding new hobbies helped. I'm now going downhill again. Right now I have a huge assigment thing that has no deadline. That seemed like a good thing but it really isn't. When I was in school I lived off deadlines and they really helped me get things done. I've ended up setting my own deadline, finish it before my birthday (start of April) and it's failing miserably. Things I used to love doing now seem awful. I used to love cycling. Now I don't want to go anywhere and it's crazy. I'd cycle 3 hours or more to get to somewhere if I really wanted to and now I don't want to go the 10 min to the library or shops so nevermind the 40 min to get to my closest friends (closest as in distance, but I guess theyre pretty close to me too). I've tried pushing myself to do these things but it's like I don't want to enjoy them even though I do. Deadlines and threats don't seem to bother me anymore and I don't seem to care. I've taken a job that I don't need because I'm basically a kid and I think I just got overambitious. I'm proud that I've kept it for this long but now all it does is drain my energy that I need to be putting into my schooling. And to make this post even longer I've got my whole trip problem (my main issue i guess? Just the most confusing for me). Last year when I'd gotten out of things and was happy I planned a trip to England (I'm in Australia). I saved up and in January bought the tickets, thinking I'd get over this if I kept doing the things that make me happy. Well I leave in June and I'm terrified. I have no reason to be, everything's sorted and I'm staying with family, everything's payed for and I should be happy but I don't know if I'm making a really dumb mistake. Basically I'll try anything at the moment, my parents are out of work with all the shutdowns here and everything's falling apart. I have no clue what to do anymore.

Turtle_eyes Looking backwards through binoculars.
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I feel like my Life is like looking through Binoculars backwards. I was once a hopeful, happy and positive person. After a workplace accident in 2004 that triggered a deppressive episode I have been dealing with the condition ever since. I am not ful... View more

I feel like my Life is like looking through Binoculars backwards. I was once a hopeful, happy and positive person. After a workplace accident in 2004 that triggered a deppressive episode I have been dealing with the condition ever since. I am not fulfilled by anything it seems anymore. I dread going to work as the owners of the business have lost faith in my ability to perform and it has eroded my confidence badly. My colleague is not happy there either. He said to me the other day that he had lost weight, I said that he looked good, but his response to me was 'I probably have the big C' (being Cancer). That made me feel like walking out then and there. I only work there part-time, but I am not sure I can even do that. This has been my third attempt at finding a suitable job in 12 months. I no longer even like the Industry, but what do I do when I feel I have nothing to offer an employer? I don't want to suffer anymore, it makes me so tired all the time and I feel like I am looking at an ever shrinking life ahead, like the binocular scenario. I feel that a move to a smaller town near the sea and away from the City might be a good move for me, away from the hustle and noise, but my partner is commited to her job and a move at this time is out of the question for her, and as I am unsure I could live without her, I remain stuck......looking through those binoculars.

ShellFish98 Always feeling numb
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Hi, I'm new to this so yeah. I've always had depression and anxiety since I can remember, it feels like my whole life has been one massive battle that I can never win. I know why I'm depressed and why I get anxious there has been a few times in my li... View more

Hi, I'm new to this so yeah. I've always had depression and anxiety since I can remember, it feels like my whole life has been one massive battle that I can never win. I know why I'm depressed and why I get anxious there has been a few times in my life where I have felt OK and that's when I've been working so my mind focuses on that and I'm to tired to think about my feelings. Now I'm out of work and can't even seem to get a job interview. I stay home all day and have 0 motivation to do anything. I started off being sad at first now I just feel numb, I don't feel sad or happy or angry I just feel empty. I want to change but I just don't know how. I'm seeing a physiologist but I feel like talking about my problems gets me nowhere. I'm really in a rut and I don't know how to get myself out of it. I guess I'm asking for advice on how to motivate myself to help myself. Thank you.

sloanekirby I don’t want to reach out anymore
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Everyone always says to ask for help and to talk about your feelings but I feel like I can’t do that anymore. I feel so alone and it never ends. All I do is distract myself from it for a while Im scared of talking about how I feel because no one ever... View more

Everyone always says to ask for help and to talk about your feelings but I feel like I can’t do that anymore. I feel so alone and it never ends. All I do is distract myself from it for a while Im scared of talking about how I feel because no one ever knows what’s to say or how to help Ive been to therapy and all it is is new ways to distract myself I don’t have any reason other than my family to live

Sad_Mushroom I was born this way
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Hi all, I've read thousands of posts and seen all the advice and it's all good BUT I was born this way. Nothing happened to me and my parents did not do anything to me. I was just born this way. No one touched me as a child, I was NOT abused or felt ... View more

Hi all, I've read thousands of posts and seen all the advice and it's all good BUT I was born this way. Nothing happened to me and my parents did not do anything to me. I was just born this way. No one touched me as a child, I was NOT abused or felt up. I was just born this way. I hated people from day one and thought they were all suspicious. I have never liked anyone. I would rather hate people than get to know them because no doubt they would turn on me. I just wanted a thread for people who thought they were born like this rather than all the threads that state something happened to make them like this. Nothing happened to me....I was born like this. SM

Guest_4 Brief Intro
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Hi BB'ers This is my first thread. I'll keep it short as I'm on the train going to my dreaded job. Plus, would rather give bits of info at a time. 35 year old male from Sydney, Australia. I guess I have a mix of depression, anxiety and the overall is... View more

Hi BB'ers This is my first thread. I'll keep it short as I'm on the train going to my dreaded job. Plus, would rather give bits of info at a time. 35 year old male from Sydney, Australia. I guess I have a mix of depression, anxiety and the overall issue of bipolar type II. I've had 20 jobs (19 to be exact) since I was 17. Have had counselling and was on meds for 3 years which I stopped 2 months ago on my own accord - the meds weren't worth it. Anyway - I feel good now as I generally do on the train in the morning. I'll be updating this thread over time with more detail about myself, my current state of mind, and contributions to others. Chat soon Nicholas

Guest_7659 No motivation
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Hi, I am a new member. This is my first post. I am struggling with motivation even though I have a full time job that I love. I am motivated when I am at work, but when I am at home I often struggle to do simple things like putting on a load of washi... View more

Hi, I am a new member. This is my first post. I am struggling with motivation even though I have a full time job that I love. I am motivated when I am at work, but when I am at home I often struggle to do simple things like putting on a load of washing. I am 37 years old, single and have no children. I live alone because I love peace and quiet. I have a "to do" list which is never even close to being finished. I just feel like I can't be bothered, and I am tired most of the time. However, overall I am disappointed with myself for not getting things done. Symptoms suggest that I have moderate depression. Please don't tell me to go to a GP. I was on antidepressants for 6 years (2011 to 2017). I stopped taking them about six months ago - against medical advice. I was sick of the side effects (low sex drive and difficulty to orgasm). Also, since stopping the meds, I have noticed very little change in mood. I have had problems with fatigue and motivation for many years. I had a blood test less than two months ago which was normal. I.e. iron, B12, blood sugar etc. are all within the healthy range. I am also quite fit and regularly ride a push bike (1-2 times a week). But I used to cycle a lot more. Has anyone here had a similar experience and was able to get their motivation back? How did you do it? Thanks for reading.

Aussieonblue Do I hate my life due to depression or am I depressed due to my life.
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Hi Firstly thank you everyone for just being here. I am currently diagnosed with depression and taking medication. As per the heading, I am trying to work out, am I depressed because I do not like my current situation or do I not like my life because... View more

Hi Firstly thank you everyone for just being here. I am currently diagnosed with depression and taking medication. As per the heading, I am trying to work out, am I depressed because I do not like my current situation or do I not like my life because I am depressed? I have a good job, make good money, have a good house and a good relationship. But I hate my job, I hate the city I live in and just do not like the things we do. I have become a hermit and really only leave the house to go to work and social events I can not find an excuse to avoid. I am counting the days to my “early retirement” so I can get out of here, but 2.5 years seems to far away and it was when I considered other ways out I visited my GP. My partner knows how I feel, but she is happy in her own world and gets annoyed by my excuses and “lazyness”. Becasue of my “comfortable” situation no one canundetstand why I am unhappy. Would changing my life make me happy or will depression just follow me into a new life and make me hate that one too? Thanks for listening. Cheers Craig

Poppet I just want to stay in bed and not do anything
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I am not coping with anything at the moment, work stresses me out, home stresses me out, I just want to stay in bed and not do anything! Just want to hide from everything! I am on meds and have been for some time, just feel like I am on a downward sp... View more

I am not coping with anything at the moment, work stresses me out, home stresses me out, I just want to stay in bed and not do anything! Just want to hide from everything! I am on meds and have been for some time, just feel like I am on a downward spiral! Feeling lost and alone

arealinsomniac Severely Depressed & Anxious? (I don't know how i feel anymore)
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Hello everyone, i am new to the forums and felt like it would be good for me to write how i feel, and what i have been feeling for the past couple of years that i have been afraid of opening up about. I'm 22 years old, and feel like i am severely dep... View more

Hello everyone, i am new to the forums and felt like it would be good for me to write how i feel, and what i have been feeling for the past couple of years that i have been afraid of opening up about. I'm 22 years old, and feel like i am severely depressed and anxious in general. I have little to no friends, no social life what so-ever due to my parents being super strict growing up due to religious beliefs and my 'safety' it was in their 'duty' to keep me safe at home and not find out who i truly am by making relationships with other people outside of school and so on forth. I feel like it had spiraled from when i was in primary school i would say 1st, to 2nd grade i would get bullied a lot by kids, and it kept happening from then on until 6th grade. It caused me to end up going home crying every single day. Starting highschool the same thing. I've never been a type of person to stand up for myself. In general i am not that aggressive looking at all i am petite, and small only 4'5 of course everyone had towered over me at school even other girls. I was born prematurely, very early! so that is why. Nobody seems to understand it, i've realised through out my life people are quick to judge and point fingers once they see something 'out of the norm' I am a perfectly healthy girl, nothing wrong with me except i am very short. I feel like all of my pent up emotions as a child, and how people have treated me have just made me hate myself. I often look at other people and wish i could be like them. I think i have depression, and anxiety. I cry a lot, almost every single day, i feel uneasy about being near people i prefer to be alone. I often get sad, and just cry away my feelings until my head hurts. I have seen a school therapist when i was younger, but i honestly am not sure if i have depression i think i am just lonely in general. I have noticed nobody in my life stays, i feel like i am a person who loves too much and i seek for the love, i give out. for somebody to reciprocate those feelings. i feel unwanted 100% of the time, and i am scared that i have a dependent problems. I love being alone in my bedroom for hours, but then at night i get lonely because i feel like i have nobody in my life who cares about me truly. I feel like i am so depressed but then again i don't know if i am i feel like there are people who have it much worse and that i am 'not worthy' or getting help, or getting medication because i don't know if i am depressed, but i feel it.