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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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ScarlettR Can depression last a life time?
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I am a 30 year old female, and have had chronic depression since 2013. I had been put on antidepressants, and yes, they do help a bit and make the depression not so horrible to bear. If anything, it stabilises my emotions and the anxiety that comes w... View more

I am a 30 year old female, and have had chronic depression since 2013. I had been put on antidepressants, and yes, they do help a bit and make the depression not so horrible to bear. If anything, it stabilises my emotions and the anxiety that comes with it. I am scared though, because it's been nearly 5 years and I still haven't "recovered". The things I get depressed over are fears of my loved ones dead, homelessness and being alone all my life. Until 2013, I never used to think about these things to the extent I do now, and certainly never used to let it bother me to the point where I get panic attacks or start crying. I'm still working out if I'm dealing with a possible lifetime of depression or maybe these thoughts are normal, and everyone thinks them? The good news is, since 2015, I have gained control over depression and had found happiness in my activities again by building up on small pockets of enjoyment, until those pockets of enjoyment start growing and fill the hole in my heart again. So while I'm dealing with life a lot better (and mostly done this on my own efforts), I still sometimes have the odd night when I crawl to bed because I don't want to face anything, and think about upsetting things that I believe I must face one day. Can depression last a life time?

Guest_598 How can I get my husband to see his depression?
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Hi All, I would really appreciate your advice and help. My husband is clearly going through depressive phases again and again. The last one (he is not yet really out) has been one of the worst and longest lasting. Ever since I noticed these recurring... View more

Hi All, I would really appreciate your advice and help. My husband is clearly going through depressive phases again and again. The last one (he is not yet really out) has been one of the worst and longest lasting. Ever since I noticed these recurring phases, I have read up a lot about depression and noticed over time that most of his behaviours and the things he says are clear symptoms of depression. I subsequently read up a lot on what can be done and how to help and I have managed to propose to him to see a psychologist more than once. Unfortunately in the past, they did not help much and the treatment was not for long. This time however, he has been seeing a psychologist for about six or seven months and it seems to help him, albeit very very slowly. However, although he realises that he feels depressed sometimes, he seems to not want to accept that this may actually be "the real deal", i.e. real depression that he would usually get diagnosed and treated for. Every time I speak to him about getting properly diagnosed and potentially considering medication, he blocks and says that everyone, including me, gets down from time to time, so why should he be any different. Based on his phases, our marriage is currently in danger because I have come to a point where I am simply exhausted to go through these crises every year. Fully knowing that every beautiful episode is followed by the same horribly painful pattern. So my question is, what can I possibly do to enable his understanding and willingness to explore further options before this illness that he does not want to accept because he sees it as stigma will ruin our otherwise beautiful relationship? I know the psychologist visits are great but they are not sufficient. At the moment, we are getting into a better period again but I have lost all trust in this relationship staying better and not drifting off into the next crisis again in a few months time. What can I do to support him to embrace the thought rather than pushing him and hence making him want to move further from it? I feel without him going and acknowledging that he may be ill and he may need medication to support the psychology, our marriage will not survive because I cannot stay in this painful situation. To me, it is so clearly visible what is going on but he just cannot or does not want to see it. I would hate to end this relationship as we have a lot of love for one another. I don't want the end be based on an illness. Can you help?

tlouise Broken Wings
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Dear Someone, I am in recovery from anxiety and depression and my wings are broken. I often feel so overwhelmed that I feel numb. Maybe I’ve cried too much or maybe I’m still in disbelief. I have just come home from rehab and just when you think you’... View more

Dear Someone, I am in recovery from anxiety and depression and my wings are broken. I often feel so overwhelmed that I feel numb. Maybe I’ve cried too much or maybe I’m still in disbelief. I have just come home from rehab and just when you think you’ve reached rock bottom you fall a bit more. I know recovery is a long term journey. I am at the very bottom and I need support. I found out my partner had been seeing another person while I was away. I can’t even explain the pain, anger and shame I’m feeling. I can’t help but blame my own inability to control my anxiety and depression as reason to deserve this. Maybe my self esteem is that broken. Some days I can’t get out of bed and face people because everyone expects me to be “better” now I’ve been to rehab. I have my phone permanently on do not disturb because I don’t want to talk to people. How do I fix my wings?

Latrodectus91 Ignored
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This is my first thread. I guess I'm just feeling like crap, because pretty much everyone I know ignores me. Not that I'd talk to them about the way I feel anyway, because it seems like they wouldn't care if I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't sit the... View more

This is my first thread. I guess I'm just feeling like crap, because pretty much everyone I know ignores me. Not that I'd talk to them about the way I feel anyway, because it seems like they wouldn't care if I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't sit there and prod people to feel sorry for me or anything. This is when I make general conversation. I'm pretty sure I haven't done anything that could justify people treating me like I don't exist. So I have this friend that I used to be really close to. We're both female. I met her in high school and she's my best friend, although considering the way she treats me, I don’t know why I call her that. We were really close in highschool, closer then I was with my own sister. She had a bad homelife or atleast that's what I gathered. She was always very secretive. Anyway, she basically lived at my house at some points. It was always a strange friendship. It was like I was always trying to gain her approval and I was like her lapdog or something. I'd do anything for her, try to protect her. I loved her so much, I just wanted her to be happy. She could be mean sometimes, insulting me in front of other people. Hell, she kicked me in the shin in front of a bunch of people once. Wow, you're thinking, why would you ever want to be near someone like that? It's hard to explain but she was really charming and intelligent as well. She made me feel loved but also like I was a walking piece of human excrement at the same time. It was weird. Over the years though we drifted appart from time to time, as you do. I got a girlfriend. Other then that though neither of our lives advanced much. She would also do this thing were she would just completely drop off the face of the earth and no one would hear from her for, damn, years even. We've been in contact allot more the last few years, usually because I push and push until she starts talking to me again. It also tends to be when she needs something, or I'll coax her by offering to share. Anyway, its gotten to the point where she's blatantly ignoring me again. My sister is also ignoring me, which is less usual. Although we don't talk much in general and she's a pretty busy person. Although, she seems to have time to post stupid things on Facebook apparently. I feel like crap. These people that I love don't even care enough to reply to a message. They don't even try to hide it. It's like they want me to know I mean nothing to them. Or they just don't care if I know...

ScottM Sadness
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Where do I even start. I am sitting in a public library, and I just want to burst into tears. I haven't slept for months, and I have been unemployed for over two years, and am so lost. I am male and 35. I feel like I am treading water barely and goin... View more

Where do I even start. I am sitting in a public library, and I just want to burst into tears. I haven't slept for months, and I have been unemployed for over two years, and am so lost. I am male and 35. I feel like I am treading water barely and going no where. I can't remember the last time I smiled or even laughed at something. I finished a course in health with flying colours, but then when I started the clinical placements for the course, I very quickly realised the work wasn't for me, after wasting 12 weeks doing the study. Just another thing that I have failed at. I have no idea of what I want to do with my life professionally anymore and live with my elderly parents because I can't afford to live on my own, I have never been in a relationship as I am gay and not out. Everyone around me is kicking goals, living the prime of their lives and I just stay where I am treading water without a penny to my name. While I am not suicidal, I really am beginning to wonder what the point of living is. It's just the same cycle of getting up each morning to another day of sadness. Everyone around me is kicking goals, and living the prime of their lives while I am going no where.

Lulu1630 Overwhelmed and numb. How do you reach out?
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If my loved ones were feeling so lost, overwhelmed and numb, I would hate to think they couldn't reach out to me! Yet life is TOUGH! I'm so overwhelmed that even trying to cook a stirfry (our quick and easy meal) paralyses me. I feel I can't reach ou... View more

If my loved ones were feeling so lost, overwhelmed and numb, I would hate to think they couldn't reach out to me! Yet life is TOUGH! I'm so overwhelmed that even trying to cook a stirfry (our quick and easy meal) paralyses me. I feel I can't reach out as I barely have the energy to write initially, let alone respond. How do you ask your loved ones for help? How do you move past your paralyzing moments?

Blues_hearted_Lady no self confidence
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I have never been diagnosed with depression, but the older i get the worse i seem to fear everything - (im 33 for reference) i can't socialise properly, im scared of people. im terribly confused about what to do with my life because im too afraid to ... View more

I have never been diagnosed with depression, but the older i get the worse i seem to fear everything - (im 33 for reference) i can't socialise properly, im scared of people. im terribly confused about what to do with my life because im too afraid to take the plunge into something new- i can't stand up for myself in conflicted situations and always give in to keep the peace. I basically hate who i have become. My home life is unsettling. where do i go from here.

Marnz First time posting, not sure what to do
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Hey everyone, This is my first time posting and I'm just asking for some advice. I left my job a little over 12 months ago, to begin a new one with a relative in their business. I thought it would be great because it's closer to home and I was promis... View more

Hey everyone, This is my first time posting and I'm just asking for some advice. I left my job a little over 12 months ago, to begin a new one with a relative in their business. I thought it would be great because it's closer to home and I was promised the flexibility as I was studying towards a degree at the time. It being a new business, it was a struggle to get it off the ground and I really struggled in that first year with being burnt out that has gradually made feelings of depression creep up on me. The job itself is very high pressure and I have been battling severe work stress for atleast a year now. I have never struggled with any feelings of depression before beginning this job, although I do struggle with social anxiety. I thought it would be easier for me this year as more people were hired to help me, but I find it isn't the case. I have been trying to sway my thoughts to the positive but it isn't working. I find myself always saying to myself that I have to just through one more day, and one more day and so on... I go to bed with anxiety about having to go to work the next day, and then wake up with anxiety about having to go to. I feel like I would rather do anything but this job. It's just not for me. I don't know what to do as I live out ofhome and have a lot of expenses that my partner cannot managed on his own and it being a relatives business I'm worried about letting them down by leaving. I feel like I am trapped which isn't making it any easier. I don't know what to do anymore...

KayStin34 Alone
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I have lately been through some pretty traumatic stuff and i have not been myself, all my parents see is an ungrateful spoilt child who gets everything she wants so im apparently not entitled to feel emotion. With this in mind, i feel disconnected fr... View more

I have lately been through some pretty traumatic stuff and i have not been myself, all my parents see is an ungrateful spoilt child who gets everything she wants so im apparently not entitled to feel emotion. With this in mind, i feel disconnected from my life as though im here physically but not mentally and its scaring the crap out of me. Why do i feel completely and utterly alone all the time? or why do i feel so disconnected from the world?

Pysis Back again
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So last year I had depression really bad and used these forums for support when I needed it and they really helped. I wanted and probably should of continued to post on the forums but life got to busy and I couldn’t find the time. Anyway I feel like ... View more

So last year I had depression really bad and used these forums for support when I needed it and they really helped. I wanted and probably should of continued to post on the forums but life got to busy and I couldn’t find the time. Anyway I feel like I’m depressed again and I don’t know what to do. I have a beautiful girlfriend, gorgeous puppy and good friends but I am working a job that is distroying me. I work at a camel dairy and was pretty much made assistant manager after a month of being there. I enjoy trianing and working with the camels but the hours aren’t great and I feel the camels aren’t getting the right care they need it the training that they need. My girlfriend works there as well and really doesn’t enjoy it either. Things are slowly getting worse with the camels and seeing them in pain and stressed is slowly killing me inside. I feel like I should be happy as my bosses are nice they just don’t really know what they are doing and I have an alright life at home. Becuase of the hours I’m working I don’t have time for my animals at home or any of my hobby’s or study and when I am home all I want to do is sleep. I’ve been offered a few jobs now and want to take them I just have no idea how to go about it and quit. I feel like I’m slipping mentally more and more everyday and I don’t want to get back to where I was last year, I don’t know what to do anymore.