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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Hello_there K10
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For those who have seen my previous threads, I've been told a lot to talk to a GP and things like that. I've done the K10 test and it told me to aswell (I scored high) But that doesn't feel like an option to me... Does anyone have alternative ways of... View more

For those who have seen my previous threads, I've been told a lot to talk to a GP and things like that. I've done the K10 test and it told me to aswell (I scored high) But that doesn't feel like an option to me... Does anyone have alternative ways of coping? I do sometimes use the kids help line webchat, and I'm thinking I should use it more regularly. Thank you

bluebear why do I feel like this?
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Hey guys, I'm 25 years old and I have a amazing 7 year old son. My whole life I have been through these waves of stages where I am not motivated, constantly tired, nothing humours me and I just feel emotionless. Then some great days I have a surge of... View more

Hey guys, I'm 25 years old and I have a amazing 7 year old son. My whole life I have been through these waves of stages where I am not motivated, constantly tired, nothing humours me and I just feel emotionless. Then some great days I have a surge of motivation and I'm happy, excitable and want to talk more, will cook and clean etc. I am in a job where I am a leader in the business and I'm struggling to be motivated for work and find many days I have my happy/fake face on to tackle the day and by the end of the day I'm exhausted and my wall is back up again, my partner thinks I show no interest in him when really I feel like my body become unable to produce happy emotions, I'd rather just lie down and be silent. I am always tired, like I mean I wake up and I need to go back to bed again. I just don't know what is happening to me, I want to be happy but it is as if my brain will not let me. I have hardly no friends and I hate socialising because it makes me anxious and when I am able to socialise it feels like it is so hard to think of things to say. I hope this makes sense to anyone who is reading. I'm typing this now as I feel like this. Any advice would be amazing.

Mirage5636 Feeling completely lost and not myself
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Hi , I’m new to the forum and I don’t really know how to start. For the last few years I’ve been feeling lost and not like myself - completely lonely and isolated. Recently I opened up to my family and my partner about it and said I needed help , tha... View more

Hi , I’m new to the forum and I don’t really know how to start. For the last few years I’ve been feeling lost and not like myself - completely lonely and isolated. Recently I opened up to my family and my partner about it and said I needed help , that I was deeply depressed and had no will to do anything , always exhausted and have no energy or confidence anymore. Their responses were that I’m lazy , making excuses and/or making up stories to get attention and they don’t believe how I’m feeling. Most have now stopped contact with me and my partner is threatening to leave if I don’t do something about it. This has just made me feel worse and completely lonely now , sad to say I don’t have one friend I could talk to about it. I feel like I hardly function now, 3-4 years ago I was this ambitious , outgoing and healthy girl and now I don’t feel like myself anymore. I haven’t had a restful sleep for years and have no energy , everything is an effort. I’ve gained a lot of weight, have crippling anxiety and extreme mood swings , I’m scared to talk to people , I cry constanly , have no job and always feel sick ,among other things. ive been to multiple doctors and psychologists about it , being diagnosed from clinical depression to borderline personality disorders , taking multiple antidepressants and been to the hospital a number of times and I feel like I’m just getting worse. I’m really scared and need help. any advice is greatly appreciated and thanks for reading.

GraceA91 Diagnosed with bpd and cant hold down a job.
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I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and found out mine is genetic and environmental due to my family having all different mental health issues throughout generations. I have a fear of rejection, no self worth, unstable sense of... View more

I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and found out mine is genetic and environmental due to my family having all different mental health issues throughout generations. I have a fear of rejection, no self worth, unstable sense of self, anxiety, I tend to like people then devaluate them when they do 3 or more things that I consider to be bad, I can not handle any type of criticism,i have trouble maintaining friendships yet I can maintain my relationship with my partner, im always looking for validation from others, I tend to dissociate when under servere stress, I have memory lapses, I hallucinate when my anxiety goes through the roof and I have black and white thinking. Because of all this I have trouble coping in work environments and I had to quit my job. I was recently given exercises by a therapist to help me cope with my emotions and anxiety which has been helping but I fear that if I get a job and am subjected to so much stress that my bpd will get out of control again. Is there anyone else with bpd that has successfully held down a job and if so how do you cope with work related stress?

HlGHNOON How does one find healthy coping mechanisms?
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I’ve been struggling with depression for a rather lengthy extended period, and found that my coping mechanism is to lock myself away and not act as a functional human being. I’ve never really known any other way of dealing with my issues, but I know ... View more

I’ve been struggling with depression for a rather lengthy extended period, and found that my coping mechanism is to lock myself away and not act as a functional human being. I’ve never really known any other way of dealing with my issues, but I know that it’s not healthy and can’t continue on, as it’s making the problem worse. I have ADHD on top of (what I assume to be as of yet) clinical depression, and it’s very hard to stay motivated to keep on going. If you have a suggestion, please let me know! I’d appreciate it to no end.

Alice11 Unemployed, depressed!
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I already spent one month in searching for jobs, still no jobs and no income, feeling hopeless and sad.

I already spent one month in searching for jobs, still no jobs and no income, feeling hopeless and sad.

Major_Tom I doubt my wife loves me
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My wife has shown little affection to me over the last 10 years or more. She says she isn't a cuddly person but will say she loves me when asked. I feel I need to harden up and accept that I don't get much love, but it has worn me down, I am consider... View more

My wife has shown little affection to me over the last 10 years or more. She says she isn't a cuddly person but will say she loves me when asked. I feel I need to harden up and accept that I don't get much love, but it has worn me down, I am considered a blokes bloke, but I secretly crave affection. Anyone else in the same boat? I love my wife dearly.

Lost_and_Unsure Feeling lost
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Hi everyone, new to this kind of thing. i have struggled with depression, anxiety for a few years now. This year it’s to be apparent that it is the worst it has ever been. I have taken 4 weeks off my stressful job to sort myself out. I see a psychiat... View more

Hi everyone, new to this kind of thing. i have struggled with depression, anxiety for a few years now. This year it’s to be apparent that it is the worst it has ever been. I have taken 4 weeks off my stressful job to sort myself out. I see a psychiatrist once a week and she is great. Honesty I just want to spend all my time in bed. I have three kids who are old enough to organise themselves for school, however I feel I am not enjoying them or life at all right now. I take medication and I see my doctor frequently, i have a husband who doesn’t understand and is stressed over money since I’m not working. I don’t know what to do? Sometimes it takes all my strength t leave the house. I never used to be this person I was happy, bubbly, vivacious and loved people. Now I just want to hide..... does anyone else feel this way? What do I do????

Alaskaor borderline personality disorder
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Hello everyone. I am 21 years old and have recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I've known for quite a while that something wasn't right and I suffer from anxiety and depression. I feel as though I can function in a job, I ca... View more

Hello everyone. I am 21 years old and have recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I've known for quite a while that something wasn't right and I suffer from anxiety and depression. I feel as though I can function in a job, I can study and I can have great friendships but the moment I meet a male and get attached to him these things all suffer. I always feel as though they are going to leave, I always question them thinking something is wrong when it probably isn't. I get with them way to quickly just because I have it in my head that maybe they'll stay. It takes me a while to recover from this and I am deeply knocked by it. I just wanted to know if there was anyone out there around my age who has this disorder? or is there anyone out there with BPD that managed to maintain a relationship, to get engaged and get married or have children? because that is my biggest fear. I am able to meet males and maybe go on 2 or 3 dates but soon enough I get attached and its like I purposely wreck it, I overthink and I always assume that they'll either leave or get with someone else. I can be impulsive in the way I text them constantly and I hate that about me. I have recently gone to a psychologist who recommended dialectical behavioural therapy. I want to do it as I feel it'll help me but it is so expensive that I am unable to do it. Is there anyone out there that have done some sort of therapy that has worked or even improved your mental illness that isn't so expensive? I'm at a loss

SweetAmara Confused Why I Feel This Way
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I have previously been diagnosed with general and social anxiety disorder as well as depression. Overall, I think I deal with it okay, though I don't necessarily feel I have any particular strategies. At the moment, my partner and I saving for a hous... View more

I have previously been diagnosed with general and social anxiety disorder as well as depression. Overall, I think I deal with it okay, though I don't necessarily feel I have any particular strategies. At the moment, my partner and I saving for a house, planning for our wedding in six months time etc. I've invested most of my effort into pursuing these goals. As a result, we limit our time out, because we are saving. My aunt who I was close to recently passed away. However, I feel somewhat numb to that, as if didn't really happen to me/her. The part I'm really confused about is how stagnant and depressed I feel in my life. Like I'm living Groundhog Day over and over. I'm content in my relationship but everything else leaves me feeling unhappy and uninspired. I watched movies or read and I deeply desire for something to happen, as silly as that may sound, maybe its just monotony? I don't know how to change that or even more importantly, to make a lasting change for the betterment of my happiness, my partner offers suggestions but between anxiety around saving and social anxiety I often don't feel like taking risks. I feel like I've felt like this too long now. I'm really lost what to do. Thanks.