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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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violetrose Which website should I recommend - Beyondblue or YouthBeyondBlue?
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Hello, My friend is 24 years old and suffering from depression. She is not interested in looking at any websites that have information after information of writing and is written in professional and distancing type of language. I was looking at what ... View more

Hello, My friend is 24 years old and suffering from depression. She is not interested in looking at any websites that have information after information of writing and is written in professional and distancing type of language. I was looking at what websites to recommend her and came across BeyondBlue and YouthBeyondBlue. I know that youthbeyondblue is recommended for young people up to 25 years old. but my friend is pretty much around this age. So would you recommend her looking at the youthbeyondblue website or the beyondblue website? What makes these two websites different? Is the information/content different or are they basically the same, but written in a more adult friendly way whereas the other website is written in a way that young adults would relate more to? I just wanted advice on this before bombarding her with too many websites which may dissuade her from trying to get better with her depression. Thank you so much.

DV_Arjay Long time no see ayy - depression and loss
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Well where do i start... cliche I am here again which means im depressed again. Smoking and drinking every night. I left oz to come to Africa to fix my depression to join my family. I then got a lot better and moved onto bigger things. I spent a year... View more

Well where do i start... cliche I am here again which means im depressed again. Smoking and drinking every night. I left oz to come to Africa to fix my depression to join my family. I then got a lot better and moved onto bigger things. I spent a year in spain working as a teacher and had a great time. However my time was cut short as i was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Which turns out one of the symptoms is depression. Apparently i have had this for a few years and one of the major symptoms arose and gave me double vision and blurry vision. Went for treatment and had it corrected but i am now taking 5 pills every morning and night to fight the symptoms. Since i have come back to Africa and currently living in Zambia. 6 weeks later my father passed away at the age of 55 turning 56 in a couple months time... he had no prior medical issues and was the healthiest man i knew. Now i am completely lost for words as i don't know what to do with my life. We are currently deciding on returning back to oz and i have no idea what is there for me and for our future. I spend nights awake until 2am and hoping my dad will walk through those doors in the morning, telling us that this is all a horrible joke to see how we would react. But i know that he isnt coming back anymore because i watched him die on the golf course and when the doctors asked me to stop performing cpr as there is no hope. I watched his arm fall off the bed lifeless in slowmotion. And its the only image in my head i see when i think of him. That and his smile 5 minutes before he had his heart attack. I constantly think of how the doctor's could have done more. As i watch so many mesical shows. They could have used a defibrillator or maybe put him into a coma and solved the problem in SouthAfrica. But we were 200km from the airport and that was just impossible. I hate this country so much. It took my father from me and nearly killed my sister from poor doctors opinions. He was a true Australian Such a good man that helped people everyday. Life is not fair. now i am supporting my family and trying to hold back the tears every day. Cheers for reading

Phoebe23 Lost and Hopeless
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I’ve only been on this earth for 19, nearly 20 y years. But with out a doubt, 2019 has been the worst year of my life. I’ve never been so depressed. I literally have no direction in life, no passions, no interests and I can’t help but compare my life... View more

I’ve only been on this earth for 19, nearly 20 y years. But with out a doubt, 2019 has been the worst year of my life. I’ve never been so depressed. I literally have no direction in life, no passions, no interests and I can’t help but compare my life to my friends and people around me. The start of the year I was so happy, I went overseas met family members I didn’t even know existed had the time of my life. Was about to start my first year at uni when I got back. When I got back I had an overwhelming anxiety and ended up dropping out of uni after the first week. I couldn’t commit to it, as I didn’t know if it was the right path and I really wanted to be at uni to make my parents proud and I know going to uni will give me a better life. After a gap year and then the following year (2019), dropping out I felt and still feel like a disappointment and failure. I can’t help it. I visited a GP (not my usual one, just a random clinic) told her about my concerns and I just didn’t connect with her she referred me to see a psychiatrist but I didn’t go. For the past month, I’ve been trying to help myself with researching courses, degrees etc for next year because I really do want to study, but I have no idea what to study. But everything I read I either 100% don’t like it or if I have the slightest interest in it I over research it and read all the negatives of the chosen career and then completely disregard it. My heart just feels so heavy and broken and each day is so hard to deal with. Even going to work is such a struggle now my boss wants me to start closing the store and I just don’t want to. I don’t feel capable or confident enough to do it but I don’t have a choice because it’s my only income and I’m only 19. Life right now just really sucks and my biggest issue is my lack of belief in myself and lack of interest with life. I honestly don’t see any hope anymore with anything and it’s just so sad because I was such a happy girl and had the world in my hands and now I’m just broken and lost all faith in life.

Only_the_lonely Being made redundant at 50
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After six years working for a social housing firm, I have been advised last week that my position is made redundant. I was not consulted about this and following week they have taken my user access to the computer. I work remotely from home so I cont... View more

After six years working for a social housing firm, I have been advised last week that my position is made redundant. I was not consulted about this and following week they have taken my user access to the computer. I work remotely from home so I contacted my supervisor via text message. She advised me that they are giving me this week off to find work so login has been suspended. So having a positive approach, I have commenced applying for jobs during the time, but I cannot believe how they are treating me. To add to that, my supervisor advised me to keep the matter hush, hush! I have given my heart and soul to the organisation and I was the person responsible for transitioning the office from paper based to and electronic environment, trained staff, wrote business policies and procedures for management and even visited our remote offices and made lunches for staff members. Actually my general manager had a military background and he strongly believed in having meals together as a troop. Lucky for my limited cooking skills and access to a stove in the kitchen, I was able to knock out something for the staff. I feel disappointed on my bosses not to involve me in the process, let alone advise staff of possible restructure / job losses for staff. I feel let down by my boss but I place my trust in God that he will help me. I have a million dollor loan on my head and my wife works part-time to take care of our two girls. I feel unvalued as my bosses did not consult me. A letter outlining redundancy did not reflect on my performance, but lack of funding from Government office, but still I feel staff should have been notified. No doubt the managers knew how they were performing and that a lack of performance on their part would put the company's prospects at risk. From where I stood, I continued to give my 110% to my work commitments and assisted staff where possible. I never envisaged that I would be treated this way by the organisation I helped so much. I think staff loyality is not longer prevalent in society today. The days of staying in a job until you retired are long gone! Any advise you can suggest please!!

Maui757 How do you deal with it?
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I'm just wondering how everyone else deals with their depression when it strikes hard. I personally really struggle, because when depression strikes I tend to want to get worse instead of better. I'm not really sure why this is, but it makes it even ... View more

I'm just wondering how everyone else deals with their depression when it strikes hard. I personally really struggle, because when depression strikes I tend to want to get worse instead of better. I'm not really sure why this is, but it makes it even harder to motivate myself to start working on the self-care stuff. I see a psych, I have loads of things I can do to help (exercise, meditate, read little midfulness tips, activities I find relaxing, talk to my friends, eat healthy and drink plenty of water etc) but I find myself getting stuck below these things. It gets so bad that I can barely get up to get to work on time, and then I spend the drive to work fighting the urge to turn around or do something that means I don't have to go to work. So I'm wondering if anyone else experiences similar things? And what you do to combat them. Does anyone else find themselves making themselves worse instead of better? Do you take time off work? I never know if I should be taking some time off and resting/recovering, or if I'm supposed to push through when times get like this. I continue seeing my psych, but there's only so much we can cover in one session, and there's only so many sessions I can afford. Maui

Me_from_63 Depression
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I am new here and must admit I am battling with so many things.

I am new here and must admit I am battling with so many things.

Bazleenus Handling the fatigue during a Low Episode with Bipolar
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Hey guys, just more here to gather some advice or personal experiences on how to deal with the fatigue during a low episode with bipolar. Not sure if many of you experience anything similar, but its almost like where your body aches so bad its like y... View more

Hey guys, just more here to gather some advice or personal experiences on how to deal with the fatigue during a low episode with bipolar. Not sure if many of you experience anything similar, but its almost like where your body aches so bad its like you had a flu, and your neck, shoulders, and your whole body really become stiff and sore, and you just sleep and sleep and sleep, and you loose motivation to do anything including cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc etc Ive tried having baths, and excersising as much as i can to try like combat the feeling of no energy but its really hard when your body aches so bad. Im also diagnosed with adhd, so i take medication everyday, and usually this helps me focus and become a little more energised, but whilst this episode is happening, its like it doesnt even work... Have any of you found ways to combat this? Or is it more just a ride the wave and wait till it hits the shore kind of thing?

Mikey_girl Depression: need advice
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Hi I'm new here. I went off antidepressants last year after 25 years. There is a long story behind this which I won't go into. I've been ill for most of this year and whether this was due to coming off antidepressants is undecided. No cause has been ... View more

Hi I'm new here. I went off antidepressants last year after 25 years. There is a long story behind this which I won't go into. I've been ill for most of this year and whether this was due to coming off antidepressants is undecided. No cause has been found after extensive tests. Im physically better but have become quite depressed to the point where I just want to stay in bed all day. I'm seeing a psychiatrist and am back on medication. Ive only been on the full dose for 2 weeks and also on some anxiety medication. I care for an adult daughter with a disability and my life has to work around this. Up until early this year I seemed to have a relatively happy life but I've completely lost the threads of that life. I feel empty and despairing. My question is this: at this stage do I force myself to do things like go for a walk etc? I've lost all motivation and I'm terrified I will feel like this forever. I don't seem to be able to feel any happiness at all at the moment. I live with my husband and 2 young adult children. My husbands been great but he has to work. Any feedback greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Rod_h Depression or Reality?
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So I'm 44, ugly, weird... the kinda guy you see on public transport and are immediately uncomfortable around. When i'm introduced to people i can read the expression on their face they don't like what they see by the forced smile accompanied by a sub... View more

So I'm 44, ugly, weird... the kinda guy you see on public transport and are immediately uncomfortable around. When i'm introduced to people i can read the expression on their face they don't like what they see by the forced smile accompanied by a subtle, slightly uncontrollable snarl from the upper lip. In the workplace i have no hope of ever getting a high position. women don't want to be anywhere near me. Men don't either. Apparently I'm depressed? What if I'm not depressed? What If I'm just hyper perceptive? What If i can see clearly that I'm being judged by my appearance. Perhaps you are like me. Do you think a pill will make it all go away? chatting with a shrink will make it all better?...It won't change a thing. I've tried.

nicko44 How on earth do you get over the past?
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I've made so many mistakes in my life. I feel so depressed about it. No matter what i'm doing i'm always thinking about it. I know there are so many people in worse positions than me but it doesn't make me feel better. I literally feel like killing m... View more

I've made so many mistakes in my life. I feel so depressed about it. No matter what i'm doing i'm always thinking about it. I know there are so many people in worse positions than me but it doesn't make me feel better. I literally feel like killing myself all the time. I've gone to the GP and seen a psychologist, it helps but i can only see him every few weeks. I'm 25. Wasted my education, been fired from jobs, i can't even get a proper job now. I didn't make any friends in the last 4 years. No one wants to talk to me or hang out with me. My hair has receded and i've gotten ugly. I met a girl online a year ago and went out with her for 7 months. It made me feel so good but now she has gone and she won't be coming back. I've gambled away all the money i've earned. I have about 500 in savings whilst my friends and people on instagram are buying houses. I spend my time and money going to brothels because i'm lonely. Hell, i've even made friends with some of the ladies and sometimes just go to talk to someone adn talk to a girl. I want to go back in time so bad. What the hell happened? Where did it go wrong? I want to end it so badly.I don't see it getting better too. thanks for reading i guess .