Anxiety

Anxiety is the most common mental health condition in Australia. Share your own story and learn about other member’s experiences with anxiety.

FAQ

Find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions on the Forums.

Forums guidelines

Our guidelines keep the Forums a safe place for people to share and learn information.

Pinned discussions

Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
  • replies: 0

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

All discussions

SherlockandWatson96 My heart won’t stop pounding
  • replies: 6

Has anyone ever felt your anxiety disappear but your heart continues to pound? This has never happened to me before. It pounds pretty much all the time, even when I’m going to sleep.

Has anyone ever felt your anxiety disappear but your heart continues to pound? This has never happened to me before. It pounds pretty much all the time, even when I’m going to sleep.

Jess13 Waiting for biopsy results
  • replies: 1

My partner was told he has a mole that is cancer. We are currently waiting to see what type & he also had a biopsy from his lymph node to see if it has spread. Get the results if it’s terminal ‘next week sometime’well this is the worst scenario for m... View more

My partner was told he has a mole that is cancer. We are currently waiting to see what type & he also had a biopsy from his lymph node to see if it has spread. Get the results if it’s terminal ‘next week sometime’well this is the worst scenario for me, here I am meant to be strong for my amazing partner who is always there for me but instead I am debilitated by the wait. I can’t work, eat, sleep or function in any way. Nothing distracts me as the anxiety has taken over

Hope74 Overwhelm
  • replies: 6

Feeling so overwhelmed.alone and unsupported.Taking small steps is not producing required outcomes .Stubborn people causing roadblocks .meantime g to run away….. but …. runnkng away won’t solve anything . Problems still there if you come back and res... View more

Feeling so overwhelmed.alone and unsupported.Taking small steps is not producing required outcomes .Stubborn people causing roadblocks .meantime g to run away….. but …. runnkng away won’t solve anything . Problems still there if you come back and resurface if you don’t ! some sort of normalcy would be nice but who even knows what that is ????

Lui Mental health in the workplace
  • replies: 13

Just wondering, how do people handle mental health issues with getting a job? I have anxiety, depression, inattentive ADHD. Should i tell a new employer about these issues? At what stage should I tell them? What if they ask?

Just wondering, how do people handle mental health issues with getting a job? I have anxiety, depression, inattentive ADHD. Should i tell a new employer about these issues? At what stage should I tell them? What if they ask?

Aussie.Girl Feeling like I will never accomplish anything
  • replies: 1

Hi, Some of you may remember my post asking if I should quit my job. I haven't (yet), but have had a talk with my boss who reluctantly agreed to reduce my workload. That has been a relief, but I still feel 'stuck' and overwhelmed and I'm unsure what ... View more

Hi, Some of you may remember my post asking if I should quit my job. I haven't (yet), but have had a talk with my boss who reluctantly agreed to reduce my workload. That has been a relief, but I still feel 'stuck' and overwhelmed and I'm unsure what to do about it. To put it briefly, I have always felt like I'm constantly 'running out of time' and will never be able to accomplish all the things I want to do in life. To a certain extent I think this is normal, but I also know it's not something I should be obsessing over all the time. I am in my mid 20's and feel like I have already missed out on so much. I know there is no rule against doing things at an older age, but I just feel like I should have accomplished /something/ by now. Most people my age seem to be getting married, buying houses, having children etc and I've still never dated anyone, and there is no way I will ever be able to afford a house. Idk if I even want kids, but I feel like I have to decide soon or the decision will be made for me. I didn't finish uni (despite excellent marks, I hated it so I dropped out), and I don't have a dream job to work towards because my ideal job is to not work at all. I guess I just feel like time is going so fast and I have very little to show for it. I just want to escape my responsibilities for a while. I'm one of those weird people who enjoyed lockdown because I finally had time to do things I wanted to do. Unfortunately due to circumstances beyond my control even being at home now means being 'switched on' & responsible all the time. I don't want to go into detail but I think part of my anxiety is from knowing that no one is guaranteed a long and healthy life, and I feel like I am wasting my time as a young and healthy adult because the things I want from life are perpetually out of my reach (eg owning a house). I need a break, but I don't know if that's even possible. I feel like I will be 50-80 years old before I can have any freedom to pursue friendships or hobbies and by then I could be too old/sick to enjoy it. Sorry for the long post, hopefully it makes some sense. Any advise is appreciated, thank you.

Lindy77 What is wrong with me
  • replies: 16

I’m struggling so bad. I have been to 3 different doctors and I’ve had ECG’S I’ve worn a 24hr holter monitor which I’m still waiting for the results but all other tests say there’s nothing wrong with my heart yet I swear there is something wrong. I t... View more

I’m struggling so bad. I have been to 3 different doctors and I’ve had ECG’S I’ve worn a 24hr holter monitor which I’m still waiting for the results but all other tests say there’s nothing wrong with my heart yet I swear there is something wrong. I think I’m going crazy… I get heart flutters and palpitations my heart races I get pain in my left arm and I’m my chest I get lightheaded and I swear my heart is just going to stop and this is daily.. but according to the doctors there’s nothing wrong.. I don’t know where to turn next

Londonboy Living positively with anxiety and depression
  • replies: 6

I am suffering with anxiety and depression that has really got me down at times - even suicidal! I would love to hear some Good News stories from others about thow they have managed their condition to live a positive life !! THANK YOU !!

I am suffering with anxiety and depression that has really got me down at times - even suicidal! I would love to hear some Good News stories from others about thow they have managed their condition to live a positive life !! THANK YOU !!

Lostforwords21 Morning anxiety
  • replies: 3

Hi all, I have seen a lot of posts in here about morning anxiety and how people manage it. Wondering how you manage it with children around?

Hi all, I have seen a lot of posts in here about morning anxiety and how people manage it. Wondering how you manage it with children around?

Sapphire06 Bad days
  • replies: 3

Hi, I have been on medication for a few months and today I am having a low / bad day. I am at work but on my own as it is a weekend. My other not so great days since my diagnosis have usually been weekdays and I've been able to snap myself out of it.... View more

Hi, I have been on medication for a few months and today I am having a low / bad day. I am at work but on my own as it is a weekend. My other not so great days since my diagnosis have usually been weekdays and I've been able to snap myself out of it. What are some coping mechanisms that can help when alone?

Orangeicy Ditching fake friends
  • replies: 8

I had a group of friends that were starting to freeze me out. I gathered my courage and finally asked them individually if I had made a faux pas to upset anyone. The reply I got from them individually was "no" but still my messages were being ignored... View more

I had a group of friends that were starting to freeze me out. I gathered my courage and finally asked them individually if I had made a faux pas to upset anyone. The reply I got from them individually was "no" but still my messages were being ignored and being in person around them still ignored me. My anxiety went ballistic. I struggle badly with low self esteem and during all of this I couldn't sleep, couldn't focus, snapping at my family and kids..felt like I was losing my mind. So I decided to pull back. Decided that they can come to me if they want me and if not that's fine too.Seems good on paper, right? Not wasting energy on something if it's not meant to be.But of course I am still upset. And being a small town I will run into them. And then what. Smile and nod? I can't make the break too bad with everyone's kids at the same school but I just feel so odd. So weird. And that voice in the back of my head that won't shut up.I really thought that when people grow up they "grow up"! That they stopped the games played at highschool then I didn't like then or now. I just feel like I can't find Real people. True people. The people who accept you for who you are without any motives. Rant over.