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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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deletrious New here, looking for some Advice/Help
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Hi, I'm at a young age of 15 and i'm currently in a relationship with my girlfriend of nine months. The tricky part is the fact that ever since i've got in this relationship i've had mental issues.. Thoughts and feelings that are so negative they rui... View more

Hi, I'm at a young age of 15 and i'm currently in a relationship with my girlfriend of nine months. The tricky part is the fact that ever since i've got in this relationship i've had mental issues.. Thoughts and feelings that are so negative they ruin all my motivation to actually live my life. They get to a point where I just want to end this relationship just so they can be over and I can be normal again but I know for a fact if I get into another relationship they'll still be somewhere on the horizon. These thoughts are vicious, they're the basic thoughts of 'Oh, she's out with her friends.. I wonder if she's cheating on me' then it goes to the extreme of 'Is she even thinking of me? Could she be cheating on me or found a better guy..' 'Why is it taking her so long to reply is she in-danger?' Then it comes to the basic negative thoughts that are not as prevalent and in the mind as the ones above like. These thoughts start off as 'Is she losing love for me? Am I going to lose her' These thoughts are so negative that it ruins my day and injects poison into our relationship when I need reassurance (She doesn't take it to well when I ask these things) I don't know if this is anxiety or insecurity but i'll state the fact of in my past relationships (Yes besides the fact im at a young age they were all within a year of eachother) I never had these thoughts, I could be continously happy and enjoy my relationship and be ontop of the world. I don't know what to do and it'll be the end of us if I don't get these sorted out but first I need some information on what i'm experiencing so I can find a way to suppress and treat the issues. Is there anyone that could shine some light on this, it would be much appreciated? :s

LeedsUnited21 Jumpiness and Fear
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Ok so for about a year now iv been really really jumpy and have bad anxiety now.. my bodyis in fear all the time.. I cant relax and have muscle pain and stuff.. I don't think im depressed as it hasnet stopped me going out and and working but its maki... View more

Ok so for about a year now iv been really really jumpy and have bad anxiety now.. my bodyis in fear all the time.. I cant relax and have muscle pain and stuff.. I don't think im depressed as it hasnet stopped me going out and and working but its making life very shit indeed cause I jump not only for noises butwhen someone walks around the corner and its quiet etc.. I have no idea why.. I tried some pills and stuff but nothing has helped.. please help does anyone else have this?

jakyl Help, I'm over feeling like this
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I have shocking depression/anxiety, and there is no reason why, as my business life is starting to become successful. I have had this thing for about 13 or 14 years now, but it is so erratic like super highs to super lows in seconds. In my school day... View more

I have shocking depression/anxiety, and there is no reason why, as my business life is starting to become successful. I have had this thing for about 13 or 14 years now, but it is so erratic like super highs to super lows in seconds. In my school days I was kind of popular but now I am hated equally by everyone (except for my wife, she is gold) I am so scared of speaking on the phone, and I used to have good phone skills (10-12 years ago). I walk in to a room and I feel like everyone starts talking about me (am I schizophrenic?) and meeting new people, just forget about it! when I go to a supermarket for example as soon as I say hello their facial expression just drops. Even people that I have known for 15 years, I feel very uncomfortable around them, and don't say much because my voice quivers I am that nervous, it shows and then they hang serious crap on me and I'm just over it. I have gone to the doc and been prescribed an antidepressant a couple of times and a serotonin thing once,but neither worked for longer than a day or 2 (placebo effect maybe?) and the doc's just blow me off every time and make me feel like I'm making stuff up (as I feel comfortable with a doctor for some reason, and don't show symptoms there for some reason???? I don't even go very often like 3 times in the last 5 years) I took a lot of xtc and smoked a lot of weed not so long ago, but clean now and still feel like crap. Anyone had something similar and can help out with anything, I mean anything I'm desperate! Cheers

jenjo1 Anxiety/Phobia
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Hi everyone! I am new to these forums but am hoping to deal with my anxiety/phobia and panic attacks once and for all! My anxiety is mainly centred around a specific phobia of mine - heights! Therefore I hate bridges, flying - anything high! This is ... View more

Hi everyone! I am new to these forums but am hoping to deal with my anxiety/phobia and panic attacks once and for all! My anxiety is mainly centred around a specific phobia of mine - heights! Therefore I hate bridges, flying - anything high! This is coupled with driving anxiety. I panic when I can't picture the route (ie. going over any bridges) and when I go anywhere new. My panic attacks are centred around my response to the situation (I am terrified that when I fly I am going to panic and open the door and jump out!!). Does anyone else have a specific anxiety and/or panic attacks relating to specifics and how did you address them? Does CBT really work??? I am really keen to change my current life pathway and reconnect with the outgoing person I once was! Thanx!

Wasso64 Not sure what to do...
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Hi, I have only just joined and its kind of reassuring to see other people dealing with similar issues. I was supposed to have my first ever counselling session today which i was feeling optimistic about but I couldn't leave the house this morning an... View more

Hi, I have only just joined and its kind of reassuring to see other people dealing with similar issues. I was supposed to have my first ever counselling session today which i was feeling optimistic about but I couldn't leave the house this morning and I'm now feeling worse then ever. I have the most amazing husband who is so lovely and sweet but just doesn't understand how it feels to worry over every single tiny thing and feel like people are laughing at you or hating you all the time even though you know it's probably not true. Every time I leave the house I feel like something bad happens or I build it up so much in my head that it feels awful and I always find something negative to take away from it no matter what it seems really difficult to have a positive or happy experience without something bad happening afterwards even thinking back to our beautiful wedding all the negative points are foremost i my mind before the happy ones. We live with my inlaws and I'm certain they think I'm rude and lazy as I can't leave the house and try to avoid socialising with them I don't mean anything personal against them it's just that socialising is difficult and essentially a chore for me. I feel like I say stupid things and always feel awkward and misunderstood. My friends at uni have started talking about me and getting annoyed that I miss so many classes when they always go I still work really hard and I'm happy with my marks but I constantly feel judged by them which ironically makes it harder to go and confront them so I miss even more classes. will go to the ends of the earth to avoid confrontation which is very difficult as I work on checkouts in a supermarket and deal with some pretty horrible people sometimes on a daily basis and just have to take it. Simple daily tasks that are so easy and normal for people become massive mountains for me and I can get so worked up over it then I feel really lazy and awful and I've been gaining a lot of weight which in turn makes me more uncomfortable to go out as I feel like nothing looks nice and have never really had good self esteem. I really wish I could have made my appointment today, I feel like I'm missing out on my entire life and friends and ruining my husbands life too. I get way too much sleep and still feel tired constantly. my sisters and family get annoyed and angry with me as I go for months without talking to them it's not intentional i just don't realise. I know what I should do I just put up all these blockages I make myself and feel so stuck and as though people don't really understand or just think I'm shy or a bit weird. i just needed to let some of this out as I'm having a particularly bad day today.

Bearifly Will I ever feel ok?
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My anxiety started when the never ending pressure of my job got too much. The feeling of being tense, of feeling sick, shortness of breath is awful. From that job I have felt I'm not good enough and everything I do is wrong and that I feel that I wou... View more

My anxiety started when the never ending pressure of my job got too much. The feeling of being tense, of feeling sick, shortness of breath is awful. From that job I have felt I'm not good enough and everything I do is wrong and that I feel that I would let people down. When I have an attack sometimes I feel spacey, like light headed and I lose concentration. My face feels red hot. Now though I have more good days than bad. If a problem pops up I tend to talk it out with the person involved or just some one in general. A weight seems to lift off my shoulders even if it is for a while. I take everything day by day, but it seems to be there hiding in the back. One day I will shake it off. Thanks Bear

Hardy524 I'm new here, and feeling desperate.
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Hi all, i have just joined this group in the hope that I can stop feeling alone. I am 36 and have dealt with mental issues since 17. I have been diagnosed as having depression, OCD and Generalized Anxiety. Just this year I have started having panic a... View more

Hi all, i have just joined this group in the hope that I can stop feeling alone. I am 36 and have dealt with mental issues since 17. I have been diagnosed as having depression, OCD and Generalized Anxiety. Just this year I have started having panic attacks. I have a major major fear of vomiting and diarrhea. Lately even just hearing the word sets me into panic mode. I have also just recently convinced myself that my anxiety symptoms may be something worse like colon cancer or gall bladder problems. This weekend I'm dealing with " that time of the month" and have not eaten great. At 2pm today on the way home from a BBQ I had stomach pain and tried to go to the toilet which I seemed to be a bit constipated. I thought I would do the right thing and take the dog for a walk for 30mins. When I returned I had bad stomach cramps that were relieved when I went to the toilet. I still felt a bit worried there might be something wrong with me and an hour later I had a bit of diarrhea. That sent me into a full panic attack. I was in tears, hyperventilating, my legs felt numb and I felt sick. I was so worried I might have a stomach bug. That was 2 hours ago. I feel completely drained and tired and very stupid. Although I am not fully panicked at the moment the "what if" thoughts are still lingering. I am going through counselling every fortnight and thought I was doing ok but I guess not. Is it unusual to have a fear of something so simple? Cancer I can understand but a stomach bug? Everyone gets them at some time so I can't escape it. I just feel like I'm in a deep hole and can't get out.

Emma_Appleby Confused :(
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I think I may be suffering with anxiety attacks, but I'm not sure. I can feel fine for weeks at a time but then one little thing could make me sad, like buying the wrong shade of foundation, and I could get into a flurry. I get hot and stuffy, like I... View more

I think I may be suffering with anxiety attacks, but I'm not sure. I can feel fine for weeks at a time but then one little thing could make me sad, like buying the wrong shade of foundation, and I could get into a flurry. I get hot and stuffy, like I can't breathe, I feel claustrophobic, get headaches, I cry, and I hyperventilate. But then, after about 10 minutes I am okay and I might not feel bad again for a few weeks. Should I be getting checked out? I am a 16 year old girl.

leashie I don't know what to do anymore.
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My name's Alicia, I don't know where I should write this but this is the most relative. Its more anxiety than depression. I moved to England, all my problems really started when I moved here. I missed most of my first year of high school in year 10. ... View more

My name's Alicia, I don't know where I should write this but this is the most relative. Its more anxiety than depression. I moved to England, all my problems really started when I moved here. I missed most of my first year of high school in year 10. I hated everything and cried everyday. I don't know why im starting this far back. I haven't always felt that bad but I've never not felt bad. Lately its been worse. All I seem to do is worry about every tiny little thing. I panic and keep it inside till I explode, which no one sees. Work is hell. I didnt even get the job because I was good. The biggest joke is im selling lounges and I hate nothing more than talking to people. Its awful, trying to start small talk, fixing deliveries and worst is problems and angry customers. I think of things to say and come out something completely different. Yesterday my boss put me on the spot and made me tell a customer that shes wasn't getting her ottoman, she was cool with it, getting delivery another day. Then she phoned back a bit angry saying she wanted to cancel all together. I took message with her details and my boss is, all well you know what to do fix it. Now I have to be at work in the morning for 7.30 to give another ottoman to the delivery guy. I don't know why I feel so guilty. Plus earlier I was made to climb a ladder not too much of a big deal other than I hate ladders, ever since I was little. It was awful. I just want to tell them to stick their job. But I can't afford not too. I knew my boss before working with him too, he's a cool guy and I want to be nice to everyone so I just push my problems away. At least try to look like im doing things right. I really just feel so locked in and dont see the end of the day. Everyone says I dony know why you freak out.. well, I don't either. I just do. Im seeing a psychiatrist and she's amazing to talk too. Then as soon as I leave the room im back to reality where no one must know my problems. I really cant talk about anything without bursting into tears. My mum left to start a cafe with the rest of the family I feel so out of that loop. Plus problems with my parents and my dad. I cant even write anymore. I don't know what to expect from this. I guess its just some way to get it off my chest.

hyrola Hello I'm new to Beyond Blue. Anxiety and OCD about diseases.
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Hello, Not sure how to go about this. Anyways my story is that I have anxieties about diseases especially HIV. I completely practice safe sex all the time. I'm just worried and terrified about it for some reason. To be honest i don't know if it's mor... View more

Hello, Not sure how to go about this. Anyways my story is that I have anxieties about diseases especially HIV. I completely practice safe sex all the time. I'm just worried and terrified about it for some reason. To be honest i don't know if it's more about anxiety or OCD. I seem to be obsessed all the time, I research the net all the time, i go on medhelp.com and read all the posts on there. I have been worried for a couple of years now. I don't like to look at my body just in case I find something on there. I have seen professional help and that helped for a while but now not doing so well i suppose. With all my worries i still have sex. (not a great way to fix the problem) I had a one night stand a couple of weeks ago and now i'm going crazy. I don't know if its anxiety but I keep getting symptoms and people keep tell me to move your safe, nothing to worry about. I'm just wondering any similar people out there, going through the same as I am. What have done to overcome this?