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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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La_ney Don't know how to contain my thoughts OCD and now ROCD
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Hey everyone, I recently posted on the Suicidal thoughts part of beyond blue and figured this part may assist me also. This is probably just a compulsion for reassurance but I really need something to help. I'm 22 years old and I believe I have been ... View more

Hey everyone, I recently posted on the Suicidal thoughts part of beyond blue and figured this part may assist me also. This is probably just a compulsion for reassurance but I really need something to help. I'm 22 years old and I believe I have been suffering from OCD and Anxiety since I was a child, from washing germs on my hands and locking doors etc etc, I don't do those things anymore and I had a pretty peaceful teenage-hood, until late 2012, where my mind was trying to convince me that I would one day become a pedofile, I tried to commit suicide and was bed ridden for weeks, even quit my job. This has subsided, does return occasionally but it dissipates again. But now I also have a mixture of other problems. Currently right now I'm doubting my relationship, like obsessing over whether I love my partner or not, when I know I do, I love him so so much, I couldn't bare to ever hurt him, this has been extremely intensified the past two days, two days ago I was paranoid that I was attracted to everyone and that I would cheat on him and vice versa, I bawled my eyes out all day and today and I still can't get the thoughts out of my head. 3 days ago I was having intrusive thoughts on hurting people violently, and that was also horrible. So I've been through 3 days of hell, but the thoughts run deeper, in 2013 I destroyed my relationship with a combination of these thoughts and the same the year before, so they have come and gone through the years, sometimes closer together or further apart. I've been with my partner for two years and I want to live the rest of my life with him, but these thoughts are getting so intense, I sought out help 3 days ago when the first initial relapse occurred and was provided medication and a referral to a psychologist, but since then, I've hit rock bottom. Does anyone relate to any of this? What did you do?

Matala Feeling dreadful
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I have recently moved house to live with my parents (interstate) as my partner has gone overseas for one year. I have agoraphobia and relied on my partner to take me places. I have sensory integration disorder (I have a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum D... View more

I have recently moved house to live with my parents (interstate) as my partner has gone overseas for one year. I have agoraphobia and relied on my partner to take me places. I have sensory integration disorder (I have a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder), which means that certain sensory input can be very distressing, this is party how my agoraphobia developed. I had been seeing psychologist last year to help with my sensory integration issues, and am now seeing a psychologist in this state to help with my agoraphobia. I had been seeing allot of improvement with my agoraphobia issues, I had been learning to do things by myself, and was feeling very optimistic about everything. Two weeks ago everything changed. Whenever I left the house I would become overwhelmed, for the first week I thought that it would pass, but as time has since past I have developed a strong feeling of hopelessness. On Wednesday I saw my psychologist who thinks that the change I have been experiencing and the stress of adapting to the new sensory environment on top of challenging my fear of public places has become too much for me. The last few days since, I have been experiencing a huge weight of stress and everything has become too much. I should also say that I have also developed bad muscular pain in my neck and jaw area over the last week, which may have contributed to this emotional feeling. I guess right now, I am feeling awful. I don't know how things will get better. I don't feel capable to doing anything to improve my situation either. Even going to the psychologist feels like too difficult.

Fightingself When be kind to yourself doesn't work
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I find my anxiety confusing cause i am quite logical and about the evidence but when it comes to being logical about feelings there doesn't seem to be any ground to work off. Does anyone have things they can tell themselves or do instead of being kin... View more

I find my anxiety confusing cause i am quite logical and about the evidence but when it comes to being logical about feelings there doesn't seem to be any ground to work off. Does anyone have things they can tell themselves or do instead of being kind to yourself that helps, like logical arguments that make sense, I find this helps. Being kind to yourself and maybe I'm just kind of messed up but i can't quantify the purpose of it. The outcome is supposed to be a happier you I guess? I'm a hard kid I suppose who came from a 'toughen up, run some dirt in it' kind of family though so I guess I think I am being kind by being tough on myself maybe...anyone able to agree or disagree or offer advice? Much appreciated

gloria10 Preventing anxiety from taking over
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Hi I am currently seeking advice. My anxiety has been getting stronger and I am aware that it is work related, I had a recent post about it. I have a boss that yelled at me a couple of weeks ago and ever since then I'm finding it hard to face him as ... View more

Hi I am currently seeking advice. My anxiety has been getting stronger and I am aware that it is work related, I had a recent post about it. I have a boss that yelled at me a couple of weeks ago and ever since then I'm finding it hard to face him as I'm worried that the same thing will occur. I have decided to leave and look for another job, but I don't want to make a rush decision and quit without income and I have done this in the past not only with work but relationships. I think it has to do with fight or flight sensation and the flight wins. Does anyone else deal with this? Is there any advice on how to control it?

Princesscinderella Anxiety, looking for advice
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I'm looking for sufferers of anxiety and panic disorder. I've been suffering many years now and would love to speak to others in the same situation

I'm looking for sufferers of anxiety and panic disorder. I've been suffering many years now and would love to speak to others in the same situation

Beckinson1 Anxiety & Religion
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While I have been raised in a non religious household and do not deep down believe I am religious, the idea of a higher being causes me a lot of fear and subsequent anxiety. Particularly when I have OCD type thoughts or thoughts which are in disagree... View more

While I have been raised in a non religious household and do not deep down believe I am religious, the idea of a higher being causes me a lot of fear and subsequent anxiety. Particularly when I have OCD type thoughts or thoughts which are in disagreement to certain religious ideologies I suffer terrifying anxiety and worry a higher being will cause me intolerable pain or will punish me e.g. give me a terminal illness, make my boyfriend cheat on me, cause harm to family etc. I think what makes this type of anxiety trigger so hard for me to combat is the underlying thought that if a higher being does exist, they would be able to cause me suffering regardless e.g. With normal anxiety I could tell myself statistically it is unlikely my friend will get hit by a car tomorrow however, if worrying about a higher being this becomes difficult because a higher being could theoretically make the improbable happen whenever they wanted. Often to relieve myself of this kind of anxiety I will silently ask for forgiveness in my head however, I am trying to break that habit as it only seems to fuel more unwanted thoughts. I know religion is a common element in OCD type anxiety and wanted to know whether anyone else had similar types of thoughts and any helpful tips to help me deal with this? I wish to make clear I do not want to offend anyone and respect all religions, I am just hoping anyone, from any belief backgrounds who suffer from higher being driven anxiety like I do could provide me with some much needed assistance. Thank you. ​ ​

DeterminedGirl Scared of being scared
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Hi Everyone I'm a carer for my partner who suffers from anxiety long term. I've been supporting him since we married but just lately I have been getting very anxious and scared when Im alone in the house. Usually at night, or when it's dark I have a ... View more

Hi Everyone I'm a carer for my partner who suffers from anxiety long term. I've been supporting him since we married but just lately I have been getting very anxious and scared when Im alone in the house. Usually at night, or when it's dark I have a thought that someone is going to attack me, break into the house, quite violent thoughts that keep me up at night, leaving me tense, anxious and fearful of sleeping, and I'm tired the next morning. This only happens when I'm alone and the violent thoughts are increasing that something bad will happen tonight. Has anyone else felt the way I do?

Bluey_moon Having a hard time
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Well hi guys, I guess I'm just needing to talk. As most of you know I struggle with GAD and OCD tendencies. I have a fair dose of health anxiety. I have recently been cleared multiple times of having a psycotic disorder, which is great as I've been v... View more

Well hi guys, I guess I'm just needing to talk. As most of you know I struggle with GAD and OCD tendencies. I have a fair dose of health anxiety. I have recently been cleared multiple times of having a psycotic disorder, which is great as I've been very scared of this. This week has been different. For the last five weeks I have struggled with lady problems and as a consequence have become really tired (I had blood tests to test iron ect today and I am changing the contraceptive pill I'm on). Being chronically tired is flaring my anxiety and making me feel pretty down. I'm also struggling with migraines tonight. I'm sorry to vent! I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice. Skye

Crimson My anxiety take over..
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So I have had anxiety since I was a child I had seperation anxiety which transformed into GAD and panic disorder/boarderline personality disorder into my teens and now adulthood.. It wasn't until I was 21 (and attempted Suicide) that I was full digin... View more

So I have had anxiety since I was a child I had seperation anxiety which transformed into GAD and panic disorder/boarderline personality disorder into my teens and now adulthood.. It wasn't until I was 21 (and attempted Suicide) that I was full diginosed I spent most of my life thinking everyone felt like this.. Since being diginosed I had been able to educate myself I have been able to manage my anxiety and not get into the cycle of depression steaming from my anxiety.. But I feel every few years a bad swing comes round.. And can feel myself sliding at the moment.. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he met me when I was just coming out of a very bad period and was coming off medication.. I talk very openly about my mental illness and sometimes feel that he says he doesn't understand but he is supportive of me, but it's hard for him to understand because he is not in my head and can't see how I see things.. Lately I have been feeling very disassociated and I know this is the tell tail sign of my swinging out of control, and because I'm distant my boyfriend is getting annoyed, I often zone out cause I just can't Handel the small chit chat at the end of the day.. I'm thinking and worrying about other things and just don't listen to what he is saying and it's really starting to grate on him.. Does anyone eles feel like this? or understand? Any tips with how to stay more foucused or should I just communicate how I'm feeling even if I don't like what he has to say.. As you can see I'm panicking about talking about it..

ac1991 HOCD - confusing and scary
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So I've been suffering with OCD for years now, but it wasnt until a few months ago that it became a lot worse. At first I had no idea why I was having these intrusive thoughts or images (and at the time didnt even know that these "intrustive thoughts... View more

So I've been suffering with OCD for years now, but it wasnt until a few months ago that it became a lot worse. At first I had no idea why I was having these intrusive thoughts or images (and at the time didnt even know that these "intrustive thoughts" were part of OCD and not just me going insane) - but knowing what I do now, it became all the more clear to me that intrusive thoughts are just another way of OCD trying to convince you you've lost/are going to lose control. I have experienced many different kinds, but one has stuck around - and doesn't seem to be going anywhere. It started when a friend was sitting with me one day, and made a joke about me being a lesbian because I haven't had a boyfriend in a long time and am not looking for one. I laughed it off, but it set something off and sent me back to square one, only this time with a different worry. My mind was telling me I was a lesbian. I have never been homophobic or had a problem with people of same sex orientation, and had never questioned my own sexuality either. I remember thinking that being attracted to the same sex emotionally just wasn't me. But all of a sudden, this thought would not stop circulating my head. I have always fantasised about finding the perfect guy and all those typical things, but now OCD has got me questioning even something so basic as this. Now I am too scared to be around friends of the same sex and am too scared to even consider the idea of being attracted to the same sex out of fear that I will like it more and stop being heterosexual. I am getting confused between feeling happy when I am around a female friend and feeling the sort of excitement you do when with a significant other - my mind cant even tell the difference anymore. Even on days when I know I am attracted to men, there is still a voice in my head telling me I'm not. Also, the fact that I don't want a relationship and feel nervous and uncomfortable around guys scares me and proves my anxiety more, even though I know it is normal to feel a little nervous and unrelaxed around the opposite sex. I check forums daily to try and convince myself that I am heterosexual, but they only make it worse and scare me more. It comforts me to know that this is a kind of OCD and not just me, and that there are people out there experiencing the same thing. But this is causing me to lose interest in any kind of relationship it scares me.

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