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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Soberlicious96 Verbal abuse - got yelled at today.
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One of those days today. I got yelled at and sworn at repeatedly down the phone by a customer. Other customers actually broke stuff ..... they let kids just jump on things. Another customer is yelling at me because of a missed order, that we have cha... View more

One of those days today. I got yelled at and sworn at repeatedly down the phone by a customer. Other customers actually broke stuff ..... they let kids just jump on things. Another customer is yelling at me because of a missed order, that we have chased up from our end several times now and even WE keep getting the run around of "Oh yeah, sure' we'll look into that." and then they just palm it off to someone else and don't bother fixing the issue. I start annual leave tomorrow ..... but I'm going to spend half my day fixing the issues that our suppliers haven't bothered to fix. I'll say it again; I start my annual leave tomorrow, yet I'm spending half a day fixing issues that others are not taking responsiblity for. And I'm not even a manager or anything of any kind. I'm just a lacky. I pretty much spent the whole day jumping out of my skin almost, every time the phone rang. I feel so agitated tonight. I know that tomorrow is a new day, and I will likely feel heaps better after a good night's sleep. And I'm a good sleeper too, which helps. I just don't like these horrible days where people behave horribly. I don't get paid nearly enough to have to put up with their crap. Anyway, thanks for reading.

Priceless Anxious about being Anxious ???
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Is anyone else in the crazy merry go round ?? Always checking for signs of anxiety, and then letting it feed on it’s self until it’s out of control.

Is anyone else in the crazy merry go round ?? Always checking for signs of anxiety, and then letting it feed on it’s self until it’s out of control.

Horse_Crazy TRIGGER Pattern
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Hi. I'm new to this but I thought I needed to start somewhere. I have suffered from Anxiety for many years now and have been hospitalised and have taken different medications over this period. I thought I had pretty much gotten to the point where I w... View more

Hi. I'm new to this but I thought I needed to start somewhere. I have suffered from Anxiety for many years now and have been hospitalised and have taken different medications over this period. I thought I had pretty much gotten to the point where I was in control of my anxiety and knew what to do when an anxiety attack comes along. BUT.... over the past 7 years my husband and I have wanted to move onto property as we have horses and want to live on property and set ourselves up for retirement. On several occasions we have tried to sell our existing property (that I love dearly) and purchase a new one, but as soon as it comes to signing any documents and following through with the process of selling and buying my anxiety hits me like a freight train and I panic and go into a state of fright where I feel like I'm going to die. We then cancel everything and once I feel better and normal again we go through the process again and it happens to me again. I hate my anxiety stopping me from doing what I want to do in my life. I'm really lost and have no idea how to get past this so we can move and enjoy a life together that we have worked so hard for.

Faye2412 Social anxiety on the other side of the world!
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Hey everybody! This is my first time posting in here, so hello to you all! I am currently living in Australia a whole world away from my family and friends back home in England. This is my second year in Australia. My first year was full of fun, frie... View more

Hey everybody! This is my first time posting in here, so hello to you all! I am currently living in Australia a whole world away from my family and friends back home in England. This is my second year in Australia. My first year was full of fun, friendships, a great social life and travelling where my anxiety was all under control. This year however is extremely different. I have no friends and in constantly inbetween new jobs and houses. I’ve found it extremely hard to meet people and make friends since moving out of a hostel where I used to live. I have my amazing partner, however my anxiety prevents me from wanting to spend time with him and his friends. I also want to be able to have my own friends, I often just feel like the tag a long girlfriend who has no friends. I also have no hobbies! I’m meant to be out here living my dream, instead I’m watching other living the dream that I want. I have tried so many jobs which aren’t working out, therefore I don’t have much money, I have to rely on my partner. Each day I spend waiting for bed time so I can sleep and forget about how anxious and sad I’m feeling. I’m always alone. I know to make me feel better I need some friends, a social life and a good I come. Where do you meet friends and how? Ive always had such a good social life but ive really let anxiety get in the way this time and let it take control of me! Thank you for taking the time to read this. please share similar experiences and ways I can get my life back!

bluehorseshoes Seeing red flags, listening to instincts
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So I had an experience recently that I want to get out of my head I’m unemployed but not desperate yet. I’ve used the time to work on managing anxiety after avoiding it for so long and I’m glad I’m coping better with medication/therapy and no longer ... View more

So I had an experience recently that I want to get out of my head I’m unemployed but not desperate yet. I’ve used the time to work on managing anxiety after avoiding it for so long and I’m glad I’m coping better with medication/therapy and no longer rely on substances to cope – even in this most recent situation, so that’s something I got my “dream job”, but there were several red flags I ignored: 1. The interviewer didn’t want to answer many questions (and I didn’t push) 2. After passing a phone screen, interview, and ref check I was asked to come “meet the team/finalise details”. Here I was met with screening questions normally for phone/first interview (i.e. “Explain your past duties, What do you want from this job, Walk us through your resume, Why did you leave this other job etc.) which led to CEO interrupting the new questioner because “It was a bit hard to be asking all these questions when I’ve already pretty much offered her the job!” (Thought it was strategy but there was obviously communication problems in leadership) 3. The company using some “creative accounting” to employ me via another linked company, so name of the company I would work at every day wouldn’t actually appear on contract (Should have asked but was so excited) Those were the warning signs I refused to acknowledge before, below are the red flags I couldn’t ignore after starting: 1. Co-worker surprised I returned to work after lunch (thought this was a joke but then I heard about turnover) 2. Like me, workers/equipment was being funded through other linked company and office was actually the converted house of leader’s family 3. Boss (another recent hire) often held face in hands, didn’t take breaks, ignored multiple calls from their family, whispered to others about problems, and complained to me on second day about leadership disagreements 4. Leadership focused on new customers/markets despite not being able to care for current customers with 100s of queries unanswered 5. No investment in training, workers self-taught and said it wasn’t right computer system for business, leadership admitted they rushed into buying it 6. During a presentation meeting, CEO stayed seated in room to make phone call which distracted presenter, CEO was then reprimanded by leadership for interruption 7. Open distrust over current direction with leadership criticising new vs old ways continued below...

Hayls13 Overwhelmed with life
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Hi there, I’ve been building up the courage to create an account and to post, so here I go.. Last year (2018) my sister’s mental health deteriorated which resulted in a suicide attempt. She was in and out of hospital for a few weeks. I was very upset... View more

Hi there, I’ve been building up the courage to create an account and to post, so here I go.. Last year (2018) my sister’s mental health deteriorated which resulted in a suicide attempt. She was in and out of hospital for a few weeks. I was very upset and stressed after that, but I tried my best to enter 2019 with a clear and positive mindset, however, within the first week of 2019 my mum told me she has breast cancer. I cried everyday for weeks and even typing this now I still feel emotional. Two months later, I was involved in a car accident with my brother. At this point it felt like everything in my life was falling apart. Fortunately, my brother, the other driver and I had no major injuries. My car was a write off. The thought of driving again is making me feel anxious and sick to the stomach. I constantly cry about it because I think of what could’ve happened to my brother if it had been worse. I’ve been having nightmares about it. The guilt is eating me alive. I want to go to counselling, but I feel like an inconvenience to tell my mum (who is currently going through treatment for cancer) and dad, especially since I saw first hand what an impact my sister’s depression had on them. I don’t know who to speak to or how to get help. I’m sorry if this is a long post. I hope to receive some advice on what to do. Thank you.

Mjm94 Separation Anxiety and Pregnancy
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Hi. Im wanting to know whether anyone has experienced something similar. Im currently 11 weeks pregnant with my second child. I suffered HG (severe morning sickness) with my first and now again with my second. My husband works away 7/7. When he has b... View more

Hi. Im wanting to know whether anyone has experienced something similar. Im currently 11 weeks pregnant with my second child. I suffered HG (severe morning sickness) with my first and now again with my second. My husband works away 7/7. When he has been home I am typically okay, still feel very ill etc but I can manage when he is around. He went to work at the start of the week for the first time since me being sick. He was only away one day/night and my son was at daycare most of that day. I was so sick. I then hit a brick wall and became instantly emotional, sobbing and crying for him. I would call him and beg him to come home, I would call my mum who suggested other people to come over and look after me but I just kept begging for my husband to come home. To the point that he finally made the hr trip home for me. Pretty much as soon as he got home, I was fine. I wasn’t emotionally crying and sobbing, I felt better, not as sick. I honestly feel like I had severe anxiety because he was away from me. I am chasing ways to cope with this feeling. As I can’t keep dragging my husband home. We’re losing out on income every time he has to miss a day at work. Thanks.

ephemerides advice?
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i need advice because i don't what to do. so i have work this weekend and my parents are hella pissed at me like all they’ve been doing is screaming at me lately. my mum told me that she wants to get run over a train because i’m so hard to deal with.... View more

i need advice because i don't what to do. so i have work this weekend and my parents are hella pissed at me like all they’ve been doing is screaming at me lately. my mum told me that she wants to get run over a train because i’m so hard to deal with. they told me not to get work this weekend and i forgot that i had it this weekend and now i’m having a freak out because i don't know if they’ll take me and i’m even scared to tell them i have shifts. my parents pull this a lot so i have to call in sick and shit and my manager was like you’ve done it a lot recently and now i can’t do it and i’m having a panic attack and it’s eating at my soul and i don’t know what to do and i don't want to talk to my manager about it

Mattimuss Is this anxiety?
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How’s it going everyone? Can anxiety try make you doubt yourself over something that happened, making it like something else did? To hopegully explain more I’ll give a quick story. Ladt Friday the 23rd November 2018, it was a windy and had been raini... View more

How’s it going everyone? Can anxiety try make you doubt yourself over something that happened, making it like something else did? To hopegully explain more I’ll give a quick story. Ladt Friday the 23rd November 2018, it was a windy and had been raining during the day. After watching a movie and about to head to bed as I was feeling sleepy. I noticed that the fireplace wasn’t going to make it through the night so went out back to get a log. After I got the log which was just over a metre or so from the back sliding door. When almost back inside I heard a weird vibrating noise that was quite loud and with an occasional thump. It gave me a freight, looked around and didn’t see anything so quickly went back inside and closed the door. I then later thought in bed just as I was about to fall asleep my mind came to the conclusion I was bit by a bat. I didn’t see or feel anything land or even bite me but somehow my mind came to the conclusion I missed it even though I’m confident I didn’t. The next morning I was telling my parents about the noise and my dad said it’s from the wind pushing some styrofoam against a pole along the pavers next to the fence as he occasionally hears it too when windy feeding our dog. I did also make the mistake of using ole google and that made it worse reading about the diseases bats have such as rabies or Ablv in Australia even though it’s rare I freaked out and couldn’t help myself. We do have quite big bats around the area, however for some reason my mind thinks I missed seeing it and feeling it land on me and subsequently biting me. I know it’s illogical however the thought of what if is there a lot of the time, coming and going throughout the day. So can anxiety play tricks on you and create doubt over something you know didn’t happen? Thanks for reading and helping out

Flapmon Am I being paranoid?
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I’ve had 6 days of intense panic attacks, worry and everything else thrown at me .. Look I know this is possibly the worst thing to do but ... what if it’s not just anxiety? What if other problems I have are actually from other things? For instance, ... View more

I’ve had 6 days of intense panic attacks, worry and everything else thrown at me .. Look I know this is possibly the worst thing to do but ... what if it’s not just anxiety? What if other problems I have are actually from other things? For instance, I feel fine aside from breathing problems, slight coughing, headspins and pressure in the front of my head. Then again I can just as easily talk myself into a panic attack and they did check my blood pressure, pulse, oxygen and temp and they’re all normal. I’m just over thinking things aren’t I?