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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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River_15 No longer friends but still hurt and angry
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Two of my close friends got into a fight a couple of months ago and the one that got angry about the particular situation vented to me about it and bought up everything from the past that the other friend supposedly did to wrong her. She refused to t... View more

Two of my close friends got into a fight a couple of months ago and the one that got angry about the particular situation vented to me about it and bought up everything from the past that the other friend supposedly did to wrong her. She refused to talk to the other party or even tell the other party why she was angry even though the other party tried multiple times to reach out and apologise. Because of this I became wary of that friend. I felt like I couldn't trust her character if she can't even be an adult and instead played childish games like ignoring the other girl and walking away when she would try to talk to her. I felt like it was a matter of time before something I did would also anger her and she would decided not to talk to me anymore. We all do competitive sports and in a recent meeting, someone was being treated very unfairly. After the meeting the club president called and was investigating. I was honest about the situation and how I was not comfortable with someone getting yelled at and treated so badly. My friend tried not to answer because I think she felt that person deserved what was happening to her. I suspect (although I'll never know) that she might have thought I thew her and everyone else in that meeting under the bus. Ever since that day 2 weeks ago, she just stopped messaging me and when I messaged her, she'd just give curt one word replies. When i see her in person she just walks right past me. Although I am hurt, I realised that she's not the kind of person I want in my life. So I am relieved that we are no longer friends but I can't help but also feel so angry that she wouldn't even find out my side of the story before deciding not to talk to me and side with the people at the meeting. People who are not as much of a friend to her as I was! And I can't help but to resent that I have done so much for her as a friend and over one situation she decides to no longer talk to me. I'm also feeling so awkward because I pretty much still have to see her every weekend at club events. I feel self conscious like I have done something wrong! When I haven't and I don't know why. I still want to go to the club events and I refuse forgo something I love and enjoy just because she's going to be there. But I can't help but feel a bit of anxiety every time think I might see her again. Is this something that I will just overcome with time?

Jaybird77 Professional help
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I don’t know where else to seek help from so I have come here. After many years of living in my own hell inside my own head I finally went to my gp to seek help to see a psychiatrist. He gave me a referral and wrote down what he thinks is wrong with ... View more

I don’t know where else to seek help from so I have come here. After many years of living in my own hell inside my own head I finally went to my gp to seek help to see a psychiatrist. He gave me a referral and wrote down what he thinks is wrong with me. But when I started looking into finding one I never in my life realised it’s not so easy to get one. I need to have one that will do only video calls or phone calls as I don’t leave the house and have agoraphobia. How on earth do people afford to get help with the cost of these psychiatrists? I may not be able to get help now and that was my last hope of staying on this earth. $250 to $300 for a hour is not the kind of money I have. So I may have to for go seeking help and I know I’m getting to the point of no return been on this earth and ide rather just leave. I have Medicare but even with that it’s still more then i can afford. I am at such a loss now and feel so alone in this and am starting to feel there is no other way out but to just leave . How do people on very low incomes afford to get help to keep them living ?

Servent Gut health ruined due to stress
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My stress and anxiety causes a lot of digestive problems and discomfort.The worst part is I am getting sharp crampy pains around my stomach and bowels.It's like a gas trap...I do a lot of burps trying to relax but still sometimes get these disturbing... View more

My stress and anxiety causes a lot of digestive problems and discomfort.The worst part is I am getting sharp crampy pains around my stomach and bowels.It's like a gas trap...I do a lot of burps trying to relax but still sometimes get these disturbing intense pains.

Freind Bullying at work
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Hi any tips on how to deal with being bullied at work? Powerless and can not do anything and not wanting to do processes. Thanks

Hi any tips on how to deal with being bullied at work? Powerless and can not do anything and not wanting to do processes. Thanks

MelBouza Adult ADHD
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My brother in law was diagnosed with adult ADHD last year. The main issue we are having with him is his anger. Whenever a conversation doesn't go the way he wishes, or something happens that annoys him he will fly off the handle. He is also very self... View more

My brother in law was diagnosed with adult ADHD last year. The main issue we are having with him is his anger. Whenever a conversation doesn't go the way he wishes, or something happens that annoys him he will fly off the handle. He is also very self-centred and will constantly talk about his issues for hours. We try and offer advise that he regularly rejects and if we try and move the conversation away from him then he loses his temper. We've tried ignoring the outbursts, confronting the outbursts, talking it through, -- but no matter what we do he seems to not feel like we are doing enough. We've suggested he seek pyschological help, and maybe even consider family counselling so we can all get on the same page. But its like he's refusing to take responsibility and that its all what we are doing wrong. Does anyone have any hints/tips/help for dealing with this scenario?

RMB113 Anxiety
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Hi everyone and thankyou for having me in the forum. I live in rural NSW and my daughter has been having trouble with Anxiety attacks around a historical assault case, and there happens to be a boy at school who has become a trigger to her memories. ... View more

Hi everyone and thankyou for having me in the forum. I live in rural NSW and my daughter has been having trouble with Anxiety attacks around a historical assault case, and there happens to be a boy at school who has become a trigger to her memories. She hasn't been able to attend school and now the school have decided she cant attend until she gets her Anxiety around this issue in check as she is disturbing the other kids. Well have our local health professionals involved but things don't seem to be getting anywhere. She is only 11 and a half and everywhere i contact has told me they don't deal with kids this age and to refer her back to them when she is 12. Can anyone tell me or suggest where i can go or who i can talk to around getting her some support. I just don't know how to help her or where to turn to next.

Tilsa Should I quit my job?
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I am a 43 year old female. I work in a hospitality job, doing Front of house, and the chef has got a huge grudge against me. He glared and gives me dirty looks. Looks of disgust. He will not talk to me only to the other people working there. If he do... View more

I am a 43 year old female. I work in a hospitality job, doing Front of house, and the chef has got a huge grudge against me. He glared and gives me dirty looks. Looks of disgust. He will not talk to me only to the other people working there. If he does have to talk to me he yells at me. I work at the other restaurant, where his daughter is the chef, and she treats me like I am a person who doesn’t know what I am doing. She questions every single order I put through, tells me I made a mistake when I didn’t because it had been what the customer ordered. She is also not in Front of House, she is the chef. I have been there for over a year and this treatment started about 5 mths ago. About a week ago I was asked why I am a lesbian, which I am not. I told them that I’m not but it shouldn’t matter either way. The next day one of the other male chefs took his shirt off and asked me to give him a massage. Should I leave this work environment? I need the money, is the reason why I’m still there.

Sickofeverything Next of kin
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Is there anyone else out there that does not know who to make next of kin. I come from a large family and have no support. When being admitted to hospital or when in accident you have to nominate a next of kin, can’t get it through people’s thick sku... View more

Is there anyone else out there that does not know who to make next of kin. I come from a large family and have no support. When being admitted to hospital or when in accident you have to nominate a next of kin, can’t get it through people’s thick skulls that if you don’t have one you can’t nominate one. As for close friends, near impossible. I am socially isolated and any friends I have are only friends because I don’t burden them with my problems. Other issue is, who when you have no one do you leave your estate to

riddle95 My partner doesn't understand my anxiety
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Hi, I love my partner with my whole being and it pains me to say that we are polar opposites when it come to our mental health. I consider him to be the lucky one because he is so care free and comfortable compared to me. I have GAD and take medicati... View more

Hi, I love my partner with my whole being and it pains me to say that we are polar opposites when it come to our mental health. I consider him to be the lucky one because he is so care free and comfortable compared to me. I have GAD and take medication for it daily. I've been diagnosed for about 8 years now and until 2 years ago, I was battling severe bouts of anxiety and depression daily. Panic attacks, no emotional regulation, suicidal ideation and was just not in a good place at all. I have come so, so far and I feel happy with myself. I am working full time and living a productive and relatively healthy life. But here is my issue: My partner does not understand my anxiety. He is so care free and makes comments that are really hurtful because whilst he is just "joking around" sometimes, he goes too far and too often he does not validate what I am feeling. He does this because his mind functions differently and he cannot fathom someone getting worked up over something so "simple" when to me, it could feel like I am about to die or it is a big deal. Often it is fine and I get over it. But it has gotten to the point where he doesn't even consider what I am feeling because I am being "unreasonable" or "ridiculous" because it isn't an issue for him. He makes jokes about my reactions and it is fine when it is actually something that is unreasonable or minor that I am genuinely over reacting to - but my issue is the big stuff where I cannot help feeling like I am going to die. Being in the car is one of them and he won't even recognize how I interpret situations or experiences because if it isn't "scary" or "dangerous" to him, then it mustn't be at all and anyone who thinks that is "wrong." I have tried encouraging him to learn about my anxiety but he is so damn resistant and when I try to talk to him about it he just says that he "doesn't understand." He even says "it must be hell living inside your mind." And I say... "well, yes. That's why I take medication and had severe depression until I learned coping techniques."I don't know what to do. I am incredibly sad and frustrated and don't know how to talk to him. How do I get him to understand my anxiety and how he can help me rather than setting off my triggers and making a joke like it isn't a big deal if he does set off a trigger? I hate how this creates arguments some times. I feel like my anxiety ruins everything.

GreenEgg Managing health anxiety
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Hello I can’t stop wondering about and researching ADHD. I’ve never raised it with anyone because I feel guilty even thinking it, let alone mentioning to my GP or psychologist. How do you know if something is real or not, something you’ve convinced y... View more

Hello I can’t stop wondering about and researching ADHD. I’ve never raised it with anyone because I feel guilty even thinking it, let alone mentioning to my GP or psychologist. How do you know if something is real or not, something you’ve convinced yourself? I feel so guilty because although the symptoms resonate with me, I know what I’m like. I’m definitely a bit health anxious and sometimes my anxiety completely spirals, even if I have evidence to the contrary or it’s just not common sense. I feel guilty because there’s someone in my family with ADHD, and because my mother worked in a school setting with kids with learning needs and disabilities. Surely she would have noticed, or someone would have. Also I can’t help but think I’m probably just like convincing myself on the false hope that there’s an explanation and a magical fix, like being able to take medication. G