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Flashbacks re being unwell at Uni

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Hi there, I'm wondering how people at University have coped when they have got mentally unwell and had to pull out of a course.... When they redo a course, how do they cope with flashbacks... - memories of being unwell trying to cope I've been in the... View more

Hi there, I'm wondering how people at University have coped when they have got mentally unwell and had to pull out of a course.... When they redo a course, how do they cope with flashbacks... - memories of being unwell trying to cope I've been in the situation for example, when I was on an antidepressant and it was upped was like a zombie so I pulled out all courses but one but still couldn't do it so I had to drop out of it... I've been in the situation when I was put on an antidepressant and got antidepressant induced hypomania and then had to pull out... I've also been in the situation where I was having sleep issues and affecting my concentration I was told that intelligent people need less sleep by my mother and tried to continue I've also been in the situation where I've made an appointment with a psychiatrist waited 2 months for the appointment and had my referral rejected and had to wait another two months for an appointment when during this time I felt intermittently suicidal and sleep and concentration issues and the semester's started and put on a medication but I didn't feel better from it.... so I tried to hang on and had to drop out but my mother suggested I still sit in the lectures... but the next time I did the courses I get flashbacks of not being able to concentrate and remembering feeling suicidal With this COVID-19 situation, I'm at home which has made me depressed (because when I've been depressed or mentally unwell I've been at home) so I've had to pull out.. (I can't have antidepressant medication) Basically, it's making my life hell... No one seems to understand the impact... Problem is I'm feeling isolated at Uni due to this... Because I've been doing a reduced course load anyway... so yeah, it's not something you can talk about... And I don't think any of psychologists I have been to have had this... I did have one psychologist mentioned that her practical arrangements in Uni got mucked up so she had to do it the next year but that's not exactly the same thing... I also get the association of being unwell with Uni sometimes with places and courses and stuff... The thing is I don't have any friends at Uni (like I tried making connections with people this semester but COVID-19 struck and then I got contacted for help with assessment items). Sometimes I wonder when I have seeing people in groups whether it also makes me feel isolated being at Uni... Do people get well re depression and hence haven't had this problem multiple times?

Fibro

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Im 19 I have Tourettes, anxiety and depression. After 6+ years of sickness and pain I have finally been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. now every problem I have all makes sense and it makes me so happy that they found something, everyone who said the pa... View more

Im 19 I have Tourettes, anxiety and depression. After 6+ years of sickness and pain I have finally been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. now every problem I have all makes sense and it makes me so happy that they found something, everyone who said the pain is in my head is now proven wrong, but at the same time im sad. im 19, I have no energy, im tired, im sore everywhere among so much else this isn't usually diagnosed until average age 45, It developed young and only 3-6% of the world have it I don't feel so trapped anymore as for ages it was an ongoing circle of all pain and sick and no results (fibro doesn't show on any test) and now I know, but I feel kinda more alone and still stuck for an answer as to what I can do. im working with a team to help manage my symptoms but it'll never be cured, there is no cure and every day will bring some degree of pain. My partner is lovely and mum is helpful, but they just don't all understand. on the outside I look happy to them as I found something, but in reality im scared because I know what can happen and know I will never have it quite as easy as others, I get told just not to think about it but obviously its not just that easy I don't know, I just feel stuck but in a different way

Hi

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I am young, most of the threads I see are older than me. So I want to come on here and express how I feel being a teenager that's almost about have a load of responsibilities dumped on me. But I also just want to find people like me. Anyways Hello View more

I am young, most of the threads I see are older than me. So I want to come on here and express how I feel being a teenager that's almost about have a load of responsibilities dumped on me. But I also just want to find people like me. Anyways Hello

extreme pre-exam stress

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Growing up, I was never one of those diligent kids; you know the type. Those that go around holding massive organised binders with highlighted notes and study timetables... I would show up to class, occasionally listen, and binge study the night befo... View more

Growing up, I was never one of those diligent kids; you know the type. Those that go around holding massive organised binders with highlighted notes and study timetables... I would show up to class, occasionally listen, and binge study the night before; strangely, I managed to get by until year 11, when my grades began dropping quite extremely. This year, I am in year 12, the final grade of school. Afterwards, it's university where my life can truly begin, and I can mostly be independent and free. But before then, there's this hurdle I must cross; the HSC. The moment 2019 began, something clicked and I felt this resolve; I must study hard, I must work to get the best results I possibly can. Surely that's great, ambition is key to success and all that, right? Nope. I've heard stories of people who've gone overboard, and I've always pushed that aside. People told me that you should always put your health and wellbeing above studying and they're definitely right, as I've learnt much too late. Now I've fallen into a deep dark hole that I can't get out of. The start of the year was great; I made sure I slept at 10:30pm, I kept a diary, I made sure most of my homework was done and studied hard over the monthlong summer holidays. Alas, it wasn't enough. <- Result of me being too lax throughout year 11 Now I'm in the middle of my assessment block, which'll go on until end of next week. We get ranks in these. As a result, I'm finding myself studying until 3-4am, I'm studying on the train, I'm skipping meals to study, I don't take breaks... Incredibly unhealthy. I've been suffering from low blood sugar levels, and now I've fainted twice in public from fatigue, and fell onto hard concrete both times so I've currently sustained injuries on my arms, legs and fingers (making it difficult to write fast). Not long ago, something happened (not going to go into much detail, it's not too relevant) which wasted an hour of my time. I had a completely mental breakdown, and refused to eat dinner, sobbing and panicking in the fear that people may have 'caught up' to me in that one hour. I have a stomach ulcer as a result of skipping meals, and the pain worsens when I'm hungry. Yet despite starving from skipping meals, I felt as if I had to catch up due to that lost hour. Just that one mere hour. I have gone from overly lax to excessively stressed. I can't help it, and I don't know what to do. If anyone could leave advice, I would so grateful. I just can't go on like this. C74

Struggling more than ever

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When i was 13 i broke, My mother never really listened to me or understood how much id missed out on. School, i never had the right uniform and was ridiculed by teachers and students. Big sis would always get lunch money, i never did. At home, i miss... View more

When i was 13 i broke, My mother never really listened to me or understood how much id missed out on. School, i never had the right uniform and was ridiculed by teachers and students. Big sis would always get lunch money, i never did. At home, i missed out on birthdays because of bills, and when i was told it would be "made up to me" at tax time, instead me and both my sisters would get stuff, so i was still left missing out for my birthday. Anytime id ever try telling mum of any of my problems, she acted as if they were too hard and sent me to my room where id spend the rest of the night crying. When i broke, i yelled and sceamed and shut her down whenever she would speak. I made her listen to me i explained everything i had a problem with, she eventually agreed it was all very unfair. Soon after she took me to the doctors where she told him "My son gets angry all the time, i think its just teenage hormones" thats when he suggested i may have bi polar (he knew this from the 1 line my mum said) and from then i had been put on mood stabilisers. That was 11 years ago, im still broken, i still get angry everyday, ive begged my mum to go back to the doctors and actually explain what my problem is/was, she refuses. I feel as if i never got the right "help". I never got help for being broken. Now i feel as if im too far gone, and am so lost as to what to do anymore

A bit of a mess

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Hi, it's my first time on here so I feel a bit weird to be honest. I thought I might come on here and rant for a bit just because I feel like letting some stuff out. Recently I moved schools, halfway through last year I fell into a depressive state a... View more

Hi, it's my first time on here so I feel a bit weird to be honest. I thought I might come on here and rant for a bit just because I feel like letting some stuff out. Recently I moved schools, halfway through last year I fell into a depressive state and was having panic attacks and I just wouldn't go to class because I didn't feel like doing anything at all at the time and everything seemed really pointless. Anyway, I just moved this year thinking I was going to have a fresh new start and all my problems would just magically fix (it was really stupid I know) I was disappointed and all my expectations weren't matched obviously. It was the same thing all over again but worse, I had to start from scratch and make friends and I was falling behind in class, I had made friends that had turned out to be toxic and overall I just felt terrible. It's really overwhelming and I feel so lonely right now. i feel like I can't talk to anyone and I want to get out but I know im probably overreacting. I feel like I have no one to go and talk to, but that's mainly my fault because I'm too shy and scared about it. I feel like I'm causing a problem, like if I seriously talk about myself I'm being extremely selfish because so many other people need help more than me. im sorry this was all over the place but I don't know what to do right now.

Alone

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Hey guys This is my first time posting on one of these, where do I begin. So I recently ended a friendship of 10 years with my best friend, it was my choice ( I had reasons) I did not want to but it had to be done. I have other friends but they all h... View more

Hey guys This is my first time posting on one of these, where do I begin. So I recently ended a friendship of 10 years with my best friend, it was my choice ( I had reasons) I did not want to but it had to be done. I have other friends but they all have boyfriends now and I feel like they have ditched me. I feel so alone now I feel like no one cares about me. My own family doesn't understand . I cant go out at the moment as my sister has special needs and cant get sick, so I have to wait until winter is over I just dont know what to do, I hate being so alone. I have had so many failed friendships and I dont know why, I try my best to be a good friend. It feels like people take advantage of me as ive been told i am to nice. All I want in life is a group of friends.

Feeling anxious, lonely and confused

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So I left home when I was 17. It's now been almost 18 months living in a town I had never been before and didn't know anybody. I have family and friends that live within a 70km radius although have hardly visited them as some times I feel like I may ... View more

So I left home when I was 17. It's now been almost 18 months living in a town I had never been before and didn't know anybody. I have family and friends that live within a 70km radius although have hardly visited them as some times I feel like I may be intruding. I thought it would get easier as the time passed, but since turning 18 and meeting the most amazing boyfriend I have been really struggling with living away from my home town. I enjoy my own company a lot and I like to do my own thing although now it feels a bit much going to work everyday then coming home to no one. I message and call my parents and boyfriend so much but it's not the same as talking in person. I'd move home in a a heart beat although I do struggle with worrying constantly. I worry about what people think and I am never focused on trying to please myself it's always everyone else. I recognise that but need help with pushing past and learning to be true and honest with myself. I also worry about money as I am on trainee wages and paying rent and a car loan. There aren't many jobs in my home town and I am worried that I'll leave a full time job to potentially nothing for a while. In also struggle with what people will think of that ! I'm blowing up at everyone for no reason and am so moody and on edge and have been for the last 12 months at least. But I have also changed for the better since meeting my boyfriend 12 months ago. I feel terrible when we fight but I'm so bad for snapping at him and taking everything out on him. It's hard living away from him and sometimes I can be so blunt and nasty with messages because I'm just 'not in the mood' I definitely need help with changing before I lose him and my family ... I need to learn how to cope with things and techniques for living with anxiety and sometimes depressive feelings (sad,moody,tired a lot)

21, lonely, single, empty & fantasy

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Hi, I dont even know how I got here. I have never even read any threads on here let alone written any. But here we are. I doubt this will even help, but at least I'm willing to try. Oh man where to begin. In a nutshell I am in university, studying so... View more

Hi, I dont even know how I got here. I have never even read any threads on here let alone written any. But here we are. I doubt this will even help, but at least I'm willing to try. Oh man where to begin. In a nutshell I am in university, studying something I really love and am passionate about. I've traveled, I have supportive friends, loving and devoted parents. And yet. I am almost 21 and have never been in love. Not even close. I am a virgin. I crave love, I yearn for it, I spend hours (and I mean hours and hours) imagining and daydreaming about what love could be like. I am addicted to movies, tv and books about love. And at the end of all of them I am left feeling more empty and alone that I ever would have. People would describe me as bold, outgoing, honest, brave, strong. But i feel like my insides are made of glass. Like there is hardly anything there. Like my body is one giant hole. I am a happy person. I am passionate about life. I care. But i am lonely. Every, single, day. It's like I have to fight my imagination, my desires about being wanted. Because I am deathly afraid that it will never happen for me. Watching those movies, reading the books, is the most short-lived escape and provides me with the only flicker of feeling that i wouldn't otherwise have. Its like loneliness sits on my shoulders and in my stomach. Everything feels heavy sometimes. I binge watched a romance show last night and spent most of today lying down staring at nothing. I dont like how this makes me feel. But I have always been alone. This is not new. Sincerely,

Moving back to my old school

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So, a bit of backstory first... My mum moved an hour away from my highschool to live with her boyfriend. Due to this moving, I also moved schools to one around the corner from our new house. This happened around August of 2019. Currently, he has abus... View more

So, a bit of backstory first... My mum moved an hour away from my highschool to live with her boyfriend. Due to this moving, I also moved schools to one around the corner from our new house. This happened around August of 2019. Currently, he has abused my mother verbally and physically while in the relationship but the police refuse to look at our evidence as it's a matter of Family Law, and we were evicted from the house because this ex boyfriend has convinced the police that we only lived there for one month too. I'm now living at my Nans for the time being which is nearby my old school. It's difficult to attend my current school as its an hour away, so my mum had suggested I move back to my old school as it's more convenient. I'm in Year 11 so it's difficult moving schools during my prelims but I can see the pros of moving back. I would be with all my old friends, with teachers I know and in a familar environment. However, at this new school I met a girl and we've been dating for three months. We were both new students when we met so she is new to the school as well. I see how convenient it is to move back to my old school, but I don't want to leave my girlfriend in a new school with few friends, and it will also be a strain on our relationship trying long distance (realistically we probably won't see each other much if i go back to my old school). I'm really stumped. I know the right choice would be to go back to my old school but i really don't want to deal with any of this at all. It's all very stressful.

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