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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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rhiannon13 I feel like there's no hope left
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I've been suffering with anxiety and depression for a couple of years now. It all started when I was diagnosed with anxiety by my GP and I was referred to a psychologist. I've been seeing my psychologist every two weeks for a year now and although I ... View more

I've been suffering with anxiety and depression for a couple of years now. It all started when I was diagnosed with anxiety by my GP and I was referred to a psychologist. I've been seeing my psychologist every two weeks for a year now and although I have learnt a lot about how to cope with anxiety, I feel as if my depression is getting worse. I find it very hard to open up to people and I leave my appointments regretting not saying more. I have just turned 18 and although my dad drops me off for my appointments I have never discussed exactly why I go to them. I don't tell anyone about my anxiety and depression because I feel as if people will judge me for it and I also don't feel like anyone care's enough to talk it through with me. I really don't know where to go from here and I feel as if I'm getting worse and worse each day. My thoughts are scaring me and I'm becoming ashamed of the way I think. My self esteem and confidence have dropped and I've come to the point where there is nothing about myself that I like which make's me feel worthless. My life at the moment feels as if it's just one big vicious cycle and I'm worried because I don't know what to do about it

I_was_born_to_be_depresse Why Am Like This?
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please help me ? I'm so sad all the timeI think I'm crazy???beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community ... View more

please help me ? I'm so sad all the timeI think I'm crazy???beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

gmc I feel guilty of being who I am.
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When I decided I'd write this, I knew that every answer would have something that would break me down. I don't intent to read this post again before actually posting it, so sorry for any grammar mistakes, I'm not an English native.To begin, I've alre... View more

When I decided I'd write this, I knew that every answer would have something that would break me down. I don't intent to read this post again before actually posting it, so sorry for any grammar mistakes, I'm not an English native.To begin, I've already tried to see 4 different specialists because of feeling very sad and very angry. I've been seeing the first two ones a year each of them, in between having many depressive periods, then the third one I've seen for 9 months and she also sent me to a psychiatrist (which was rubbish) for medication. I left from all of them because I felt that it wasn't working for me. I asked to see a psychiatrist that is also counseling, so this is where my story begins for this post.I hate asking for advice. It makes me feel so useless and powerless and I am doing my best not to ask for it, but I guess I am not succeeding. He says that in all of his year as a very experimented specialist, he' s never seen anyone like me, that he doesn't know what therapy would be useful for me and that he has to focus on our relationship and let me say whatever I want so that he'd follow me. He also says that he feels like he's in a yard with a wild horse that has been very traumatized and every time he makes a bad move, he runs in the other corner, miles away. Or that he goes on a slippery path and when he feels like he reached something to hold on, he slips away.I told him about some of my experiences a child, how I've been feelingabused as a child and as a teenager, he keeps telling me like everyone else before him that it's me who doesn't move on from where I am, that I'm guilty from feeling how I feel. (continued in the first comment below)

jazcat Will I be missed?
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This is really hard for me to write, as I am new here, and I've been judged and bullied all my life;As you kinda already no, I've been bullied all my life, picked on, everything, I Don't no who i am, or why i am here, I feel like i have no use being ... View more

This is really hard for me to write, as I am new here, and I've been judged and bullied all my life;As you kinda already no, I've been bullied all my life, picked on, everything, I Don't no who i am, or why i am here, I feel like i have no use being here, and im a waste of space, i cry myself to sleep most nights, and i cant help to feel sad and always question my life, i push everyone away and id rather be by myself, I haven't ever talked about my feelings, i dont know who i can trust, so i have not been to any doctor, or anything, i can't help to feel depressed all the time, and i use to self harm, i just say i fell in sticks and stuff i know it sounds stupid, but it works , and i really dont know what to do, whether anyone will miss me or not, i just feel like life would be easier for everyone without me, even my family, i have arguments everyday. I just feel, like im a waste, know one knows, i just act happy at school, or if i don't, im just 'tired'I hardly can ever sleep, my thoughts get the better of me, and one day they will win. How do i get over this, i can't handle this anymore i dont know what to do.beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Liam007 A small victory
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I've wanted to be an actor a while. I auditioned for a community play a while back but quit due to anxiety problems. Anyway, whilst I was rehearsing with that I also had my school one being rehearsed at the same time. I was worried that the same thin... View more

I've wanted to be an actor a while. I auditioned for a community play a while back but quit due to anxiety problems. Anyway, whilst I was rehearsing with that I also had my school one being rehearsed at the same time. I was worried that the same thing could happen again... But I'm pleased to report I made the whole way through!!!!...from opening night to closing night!!!! I found it weird that despite having low self-esteem I was able to get up on stage like that. Anyway, I just wanted to write something positive for a change, hopefully I'll start getting involved with community theatre again. One down problem down!!

Liam007 How do you learn to love yourself?
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Hi all, I'm just seeking some advice. For the last few weeks I've been feeling awful about myself and viewing myself in a very bad way. I feel inadequate compared to my peers at school, they get praise from teachers and the community, I've done nothi... View more

Hi all, I'm just seeking some advice. For the last few weeks I've been feeling awful about myself and viewing myself in a very bad way. I feel inadequate compared to my peers at school, they get praise from teachers and the community, I've done nothing on their level and feel like I'm worthless. I don't get invited to hang out on the weekends with the people in my classes, I feel like they hate me. I have a job which is terrible for me, I take orders at McDonalds. I worry the customers think I'm rubbish and a idiot. Honestly, I have no clue what I'm doing. I can't think positively because I feel my brain tricks me and just shuts it down. I feel like I don't like myself for screwing up so much. I'm just wondering, any advice on how to learn to appreciate yourself? Thanks

CrashCoyote Can anyone young give me a hand?
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Hi everyone, My name is John and I am a fifty year old guy with five kids. I had a career once (Police Sergeant) and suffer P.T.S.D. and depression and like to drink a little too much. I have not given up on life and fight every day to be a better pe... View more

Hi everyone, My name is John and I am a fifty year old guy with five kids. I had a career once (Police Sergeant) and suffer P.T.S.D. and depression and like to drink a little too much. I have not given up on life and fight every day to be a better person. One of the things that helps me stay in the fight is posting on here, mainly because I can be anonymous and there is no judgement on this site, just acceptance. I guess I also like to think that my hard earned experience can benefit some people here so I like to help if I can. There are others on here that have their own life experiences and who also try to provide support for those that need it. My reason for this post is that I think my well intentioned posts sometimes lack one thing when it comes to young people, and that is relevance. Experience is something earned over time and as we earn it we get older and fall out of touch with youth. The world of today is so much more difficult for young people and people my age cannot hope to really know what youth of today are faced with. Those of you that are young may feel you have nothing to contribute to others here, even though you may like to, because you are young. Nothing could be further from the truth. You actually know what your peers are facing today because you face it yourselves. I am asking if some of you get the chance, and would like to, would you please post to other young people? If you are able to do that once in a while, it will mean that other young people on here are getting advice that may make more sense than that of a person old enough to be their dad! If you can help, please don't under estimate the value of your contribution. I hope to hear from any of you that want to take part. Kind regards, John.

ViperMist My story of surviving
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Hi their, I feel like typing away the reason I have joined this lovely helping site, and I only joined yesterday.I say this all started from grade 1, in grade 1 I was still learning to talk propery. (I was born with grommets blocking my ears out so m... View more

Hi their, I feel like typing away the reason I have joined this lovely helping site, and I only joined yesterday.I say this all started from grade 1, in grade 1 I was still learning to talk propery. (I was born with grommets blocking my ears out so my speech came out wrong) this led to my lunchtimes be taken up with teachers trying to help me. Wich caused my friend at the time to find a new group of people, so when I had a lunch time break I would play with them, but they didn't like me, I didn't notice this until grade 3 when they told me I was 'it' for hide and seek. They were cruel and told me the no go eras, and when I was searching for them I saw then laughing together right were they said no one was allowed, so I left. I sat alone until grade 5, this is when I made a friend (Freind 1) who made a friend (friend 2) now I grew more closer to friend 2 but friend 1 didn't like that so she would physically and verbally bully me. Grade 7 I put up with this until I relises this is wrong and I told my mum, the school did NOTHING. So I went to highschool depressed and afraid to make friends. What sucks is that this crap didn't stop their, I had about three teachers who hated me and would continually pick me out of the crowd and show the world how bad I was, this led tomy anxiety with my marks and grades, I only made a friend who is extremely shy in term 4 and this is when I started harming, I felt all these terrible emotions that still corrupt my day to day life. It wasn't until term 3 in grade 9 did my mum found out about my selfharm, I have since then had six session with the physiatrist and I feel like I need more, I was placed on medication this year (grade 10) and they have just become numb to me. That was my school situation....I have many home situation, my dad cheated on my mum, and is an alcoholic, my mum works to the bone and my sister has type 1 diabetes And they all never see the damage that has been left on me. Thank you for reading~ ViperMist beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Liam007 I feel like I drive people away from me
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This last week has been awful. I feel like the reason I have no friends is because of me and the person I am. When I'm around people all I want to do is just "friendly chat" but I feel like I screw it up. I constantly apologize "If I said something t... View more

This last week has been awful. I feel like the reason I have no friends is because of me and the person I am. When I'm around people all I want to do is just "friendly chat" but I feel like I screw it up. I constantly apologize "If I said something that I upset you, I'm sorry" or "I didn't mean any offense". It doesn't matter if they have stated they are offended or not I still apologize. I feel like people view me as a social weirdo. After a uncomfortable experience like that I go on social avoidance, a teacher was trying to compliment me in Visual Arts, I just responded with "Yep, yep, thanks, oh cool" I wasn't being a jerk, I'm just scared to even speak up now. I had one friend just completely ignore me out of no where. I have no clue what I did. I tried to apologize for whatever I did but he ignored me and probably will never speak to me again. I feel like I have no friends and the people who do talk to me probably hate me so much. I feel like no one wants me around. Despite all this, I've bee invited to a party with them at the end of the year. I feel like I'll just embarrass myself and drive people even further away

Jqxmine Feeling so lonely
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Recently, within the past few months, at school every things okay, i have friends and we joke around but when I'm alone at night time I break down, and I'm at my worst because I'm alone with my own thoughts. I don't tell people this because they can'... View more

Recently, within the past few months, at school every things okay, i have friends and we joke around but when I'm alone at night time I break down, and I'm at my worst because I'm alone with my own thoughts. I don't tell people this because they can't help, and my parents just say its a phase. Its awful because online Facebook chatting is just over a screen and i feel the need to tell someone and I'm really close with this guy but I'm scared if i confined in him i will just be a burden and annoy him. Its hard because my parents always yell and my sibling is younger than me but thinks she is superior an has authority and my parents yell at her and when they get angry, their angry and I feel whatever i do will tip them over the edge. I just feel so sad when I'm alone an i crave physical contact, not sexual but hugs from friends but i can't get to them because its so busy and at school is another world but i feel like i need someone to talk to and just express whats happening. People ask if Im ok and i can't say I'm good because I'm lying but i can't say not good because I'm just sad for no reason and i can't explain it, i just feel so alone