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Anxiety & ROCD

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Hi there! This is my first time posting about anything like this online, so I'm sorry for the messiness of all of this! Basically- my current issue is that I'm having some major anxiety issues in my relationship. For quick background- I've been diagn... View more

Hi there! This is my first time posting about anything like this online, so I'm sorry for the messiness of all of this! Basically- my current issue is that I'm having some major anxiety issues in my relationship. For quick background- I've been diagnosed with anxiety, bulimia(recovering now) and PTSD alongside having shown signs of OCD. This happened about 4 years back however and I've never followed it up past a bad therapist experience. I've been with my partner for almost two years now and we've known each other for 3. We've been living together for almost a year and things are usually amazing.. We're best friends who do almost everything together. We study the same degree and have the same classes, and because of this we also tend to have the same friend group. We still enjoy doing things on our own however, but we primarily like to be in each others company even if we're not doing something together. Now, on most days- things are perfect. Even more then perfect. Some days my heart absolutely sings with how much I love this man. Sometimes, and this is probably my third or forth experience with it- I get these intrusive thoughts. I get these "I don't really love him", "you should break up with him", "first loves never end up together", "you don't love him enough" thoughts circling through my head and they make me absolutely weak with worry. I get worried that my mind is trying to tell me I don't love this man, and that there's someone better out there for me. This breaks my heart, because more often then not- I feel like I love him more then anything in the world. Then suddenly, sometimes after seeing a post online about how relationships are 'supposed' to be (all infatuation) or something of the like- these thoughts occur. I've been surrounded by dysfunctional relationships all my life, and my mother has always been looking for the "spark" and the "knight in shining armour" who will just take care of her. Because of this, I've had multiple men come into my life and I've just watched her pick up and leave when she feels the spark is gone. I'm terrified that I'm going to be like that- and that maybe what I'm feeling about my partner is a sign that I should pick up and go. I'm terrified that what if I'm falling out of love with him? I think it's my anxiety and a bit of ROCD (things do seem to match up?) because most days- when I'm at my least anxious- the big, warm happy comfortable love is there. I'm just so confused and don't know what to do.

How do you know if it's depression?

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So I was just wondering how to tell if you are depressed or if you're just suffering from normal teenage moodiness. Lately I've been feeling pretty down and restless but I don't know if I'm just having a bad couple of weeks or if it's something more ... View more

So I was just wondering how to tell if you are depressed or if you're just suffering from normal teenage moodiness. Lately I've been feeling pretty down and restless but I don't know if I'm just having a bad couple of weeks or if it's something more serious.

Depression and loneliness in teens.

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Okay so I'm a teenage boy in my final year of high school and suddenly out of nowhere I'm depressed. Throughout my schooling I've been to a total of 7 different schools due to family reasons and as a result I don't have many friends. At my latest sch... View more

Okay so I'm a teenage boy in my final year of high school and suddenly out of nowhere I'm depressed. Throughout my schooling I've been to a total of 7 different schools due to family reasons and as a result I don't have many friends. At my latest school, a rumour is going around saying that I'm gay and as a result I'm ostracised by my peers. I'm originally from NZ and I moved here when I was 5 before going back home when I was 8 and have been in Australia since I was 11. I haven't told anyone about this because they just don't get it. I'm usually extremely witty with a great sense of humour and because of it people expect me to make them laugh when they're feeling down. Although the rumour was eventually proved false the damage was already done and now I feel even more isolated than ever. My manager at the cafe I work at for a part time job has noticed that I've been feeling particularly down and has asked me what's wrong but I seem to lie to him as I feel like I'd be burdening him. I just feel like I'm alone in this fight brcause no one seems to care about me.

Not sure where to start...

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Not sure where to start with this exactly. I guess i'm just trying to get some clarification on what exactly is going on with me. I wouldn't say i'm depressed but at the same time I wouldn't say i'm happy. I'm just in this limbo stage where it feels ... View more

Not sure where to start with this exactly. I guess i'm just trying to get some clarification on what exactly is going on with me. I wouldn't say i'm depressed but at the same time I wouldn't say i'm happy. I'm just in this limbo stage where it feels like I feel sorry for myself, but tell myself that I need to get over it.My life isn't as hard as others. I'm 22 and live out of home with my girlfriend and recently a new room mate (more on that later). I work full time and I am depressed at my workplace (been here for 15 months and applied for numerous jobs but to no avail. - so I've given up on that). I've been with my girlfriend for 20 months and we've never really had any problems. But over the past 6 months or so I feel myself distancing from her more and more. I haven't been interested in any form of emotion (holding hands, hugs, kisses, intercourse etc.) and last night she told me she was sexually frustrated. I'm not sure how to proceed because I just don't find myself interested and despite what she said, I feel myself not caring. I do care for her but it feels like I can't express it. I tend to get drunk every weekend but after Saturday that just passed I have decided to quit alcohol altogether. Reason being, the new room mate moved in last Thursday and I found myself getting along with her really well, to the point where we were up all night Friday talking. I don't have feelings for her, I only see her as a friend but on Saturday night, being my drunk stupid self I decided to announce to her I have feelings for her (my gf is unaware of this). I've apologised to her and told her that what I said was not the case - that I only want to be friends. She has since told me she needs time to herself and does not feel comfortable around me and is considering moving out.When I was in high school I self harmed for about 2 years (attempted suicide once) but eventually just stopped and moved on with my life. But over the past year or two I feel myself becoming less and less emotional towards everything. I always seem to be full of anger and I couldn't wait for the weekends so I could get drunk and forget about reality. I've never thought highly of myself and can never forgive myself for the mistakes I make that inflict others. I guess all I'm trying to achieve by this is to talk to someone who might have been through similar emotions. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read all of this. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Anxiety + nightmares, are they related?

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Hi everybody. im pretty new here, my name is Jay I'm 19. Im currently pending diagnosis for PTSD and have had generalized anxiety for a few years. I had a pretty crappy upbringing - parents were drug addicts who beat me up every night as well as my s... View more

Hi everybody. im pretty new here, my name is Jay I'm 19. Im currently pending diagnosis for PTSD and have had generalized anxiety for a few years. I had a pretty crappy upbringing - parents were drug addicts who beat me up every night as well as my siblings, didn't look after me right and we often went without necessities. My siblings and I got placed into foster care when I was 15. i don't know if I can say my nightmares I have been having are anxiety induced or what... Although I try to cut off contact, I still see my mum, she is on drugs, very manipulative and abusive. My dad died last year due to drug overdose. i have having these reoccurring nightmares nearly every night for over a week, it's of me running away from home then getting found and locked up alone with my Dad - who would no doubt hurt me until i couldn't feel it anymore. Same dream I had when I was 8. anyone else have issues with nightmares? im not sure if it's worth seeing my GP, I mean, really, what can they do?? I'm already on anxiety treatment.

Social Anxiety!!

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This is my first time posting but I feel as though reaching out for some kinda of help is a good idea. I am a 21 year old uni student recently moved to a big city with my partner. It was so exciting and felt like the right thing to do however since b... View more

This is my first time posting but I feel as though reaching out for some kinda of help is a good idea. I am a 21 year old uni student recently moved to a big city with my partner. It was so exciting and felt like the right thing to do however since being settled in I have appeared to obtained an overly anxious approach to everything and have began to avoid any social interaction. I feel desperately that I really want to make friends, but every time I'm in a social situation I avoid any form of engagement (e.g pretend I didn't see someone, or don't initiate conversation first). I'm constantly in fear of embarrassing myself yet I'm constantly yearning for a social life outside of just my partner, and that makes me feel really lonely. I was volunteering for the first few weeks of living here but have even stopped doing that because I constantly felt uncomfortable engaging in conversation with the other workers, and even though it felt rewarding I always dreaded going because of fear that I would make a mistake. I recently got a part time job and every morning before my shift I am overcome with nerves and even though every time I work there, the staff are so nice and every thing was well, its like I start to analyse everything I did there and convince myself that my colleagues don't like me, that they were laughing at me and think I'm hopeless or lame. It's just constantly manifesting in my mind and its got to the point that even though its enjoyable when I'm there I think about not having a job and wishing that I could make it by on my own. Today I think I had an anxiety attack and all I was doing was studying and all of a sudden my chest felt tight and I wanted to cry. My breathing felt hard and I need to lay down and try and calm down. I feel really on edge now and like I have a pit of worry in my stomach. I honestly feel like nothing triggered it today as its been one of the better days. About 4 years ago I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and was on an antidepressant and whilst it did its job, it was obviously a temporary thing and I am no longer on it. I did see a counsellor as well but felt like I was just a number to her as she often forgot my name and who I was despite having 10 or so sessions. For about 2 years I have been relatively fine and even felt at my happiest but lately I'm just worried I'm spiralling. If anyone would have any suggestions on how to find motivation to exercise/combat social fears/ or methods to deal with it?

She says we're just friends but it seems like more

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Last year I moved away from my hometown for work to a different state with one female friend who I had studied with at uni. I have known this girl for 3 years and before we moved we had been what I would call close. I.e hang out on weekends, talk at ... View more

Last year I moved away from my hometown for work to a different state with one female friend who I had studied with at uni. I have known this girl for 3 years and before we moved we had been what I would call close. I.e hang out on weekends, talk at least 2-3 times a week, played sport etc. Living in shared accommodation together with other people for 12 months last year we continued to spend even more time together, going out for dinner, watching movies nearly every night and spending all day on weekends when we weren't both at work etc. Prior to moving from our hometown I knew I had stronger feelings then just friends for her however due to job uncertainty I was't going to pursue a relationship. We both found out we would be working together (which had not been planned at all and was purely coincidental) and after a few months of living in the new state I told her I had stronger feelings for her. She instantly shut down on me and told me we never had a chance of being more then friends, much to my surprise due to the amount of time and what I thought were signs of interest from her, naturally I was greatly disappointed. I managed to put the disappointment aside though and we continued to be great friends for the rest of the year. However this year we have moved into a house together with nobody else, I raised the issue to her when we spoke about living together telling her I didn't think it was a good idea as we would only ever be "friends" according to her and I thought living together would not be ideal for either of us, however she expressed she didn't think it would be a problem. Everyone at work thinks we are dating, her family have pushed the point to her that I am a nice guy and that they think we are secretly dating, which seems to really annoy her. I am now finding that we are drifting apart as friends, some days we can talk to each other but other times I feel her responses are forced, and she regularly will try and put me down with insults etc which she never used to do. I have tried many times to shake my feelings of interest towards her but I am struggling a great deal with it and find myself avoiding other social activities without her due to this. I'm unsure whether approaching her and telling her I still have feelings for her will create more problems, but on the other hand I don't understand why we are drifting apart and think maybe it is because she is getting annoyed that I haven't tried to pursue a relationship again. Any advice?

IS IT ANXIETY??

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Hi, For the past couple of months now I have been having this really strange thing that is happening inside my head. I have episodes where I feel as though every little sound (e.g. someone tapping) is getting magnetised to my head so that's all I can... View more

Hi, For the past couple of months now I have been having this really strange thing that is happening inside my head. I have episodes where I feel as though every little sound (e.g. someone tapping) is getting magnetised to my head so that's all I can focus on. These ar generally brought on by doing schoolwork (currently in year 11) as the workload is becoming too overwhelming. I experience a lot of self-doubt and feel as though I'm not good enough, and downright stupid. My main concern is that I don't think anybody understands what's actually going on inside my head, I struggle to explain it as when I am having these episodes I panic so much that it all ends up in one big blur. I am also always highly self-conscious of what I look like and what people are thinking of me and I feel as though everyone is judging me all the time and I get really paranoid. I also worry a lot about silly things and over think almost everything, right down until the last detail. I also need everything to be perfect and when they are not it bothers me greatly. I do get a bit compulsive as well, for example if a powerpoint is not being used, it must be turned off, no matter what. I am not sure if what I am experiencing is an anxiety disorder or a panic disorder or whatever but I am just struggling to cope with these crazy episode things, please help me!

I feel like I am the third wheel

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I have 2 friends that I am really close to but they have become even more closer. I just feel like I am their third wheel. I hate the feeling of not being apart of something that's happening. Like I don't understand their 'inside jokes' because I was... View more

I have 2 friends that I am really close to but they have become even more closer. I just feel like I am their third wheel. I hate the feeling of not being apart of something that's happening. Like I don't understand their 'inside jokes' because I wasn't apart of it. I get clingy very easily so maybe that is why. I think I clinged on them because they help me a lot as I have depression. I think that I should just not talk to them because they have each other anyway and at least they will be closer. I don't know what would hurt more; feeling like I'm the third wheel or not being their friends at all. I had a sleepover with them and they were video chatting this person I don't know and I felt so left out. The person even called me a 'loner' which made me feel worse. I think I should just not be their friends because I don't like this feeling. I think maybe I have FOMO (fear of missing out) cause I hate it when I miss out on things especially socially. Any ideas on what to do?

Struggling with everything!

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I just don't even know where to start. I've never been depressed or unhappy - I've had a pretty great life until the past couple of years. Things started to go bad when my first serious relationship ended and I found it hard to pick myself up. Eventu... View more

I just don't even know where to start. I've never been depressed or unhappy - I've had a pretty great life until the past couple of years. Things started to go bad when my first serious relationship ended and I found it hard to pick myself up. Eventually after 18 months I finally stopped hurting and I found myself being able to live without the sadness erupting every time I thought of him. I recently moved out of home and changed job roles. The new job has been great and I love where I live - its fantastic and everything I ever wanted. But I'm so unhappy. 6 months ago I started to date, I'm 24 and decided that it was time get back in the game. I knew it wasn't going to be easy…but I didn't expect to find myself sobbing on my bathroom floor all the time. In the past 6 months I've been let down by 4 different guys which can only lead me to one conclusion - its obviously me. I don't know what I'm doing, I don't text or call them constantly - I'm always nice and never rude and I'm always willing to accommodate him. My mum tells me its because I intimidate men because of my career - I don't believe that. I'm just so angry, hurt and confused. I feel like a doormat who gets stomped all over and used constantly. What makes it worse is my family and their constant interference. As soon as they are aware there is someone in my life, its 20 questions and I'm constantly questioned about it - when did he last speak to you, what did he say? whats this…whats that? I just can't handle it anymore but I feel guilty for not sharing it with my mum. I just don't know what to do - I feel like I'm constantly not living up to their expectations and its really hard when I hear mums friends ask her why a girl like me doesn't have a boyfriend. I feel so completely inadequate and like a failure. I just need to know how I can learn to love myself for who I am and what I'm not. I hate feeling like this. I just want to be happy. It really doesn't help when I've lost my best friend to her boyfriend. I used to spend time with my best friend every weekend and text her all the time. Now I'm lucky if i see her once every 6 weeks or so. I miss her so much and I feel like I have no one I can turn to. I'm so alone. I just want someone who can hold me whilst I cry my eyes out. I'm so god damn sad. Please tell me theres a way to feel better?

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