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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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GloomyGirl I feel like I am the third wheel
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I have 2 friends that I am really close to but they have become even more closer. I just feel like I am their third wheel. I hate the feeling of not being apart of something that's happening. Like I don't understand their 'inside jokes' because I was... View more

I have 2 friends that I am really close to but they have become even more closer. I just feel like I am their third wheel. I hate the feeling of not being apart of something that's happening. Like I don't understand their 'inside jokes' because I wasn't apart of it. I get clingy very easily so maybe that is why. I think I clinged on them because they help me a lot as I have depression. I think that I should just not talk to them because they have each other anyway and at least they will be closer. I don't know what would hurt more; feeling like I'm the third wheel or not being their friends at all. I had a sleepover with them and they were video chatting this person I don't know and I felt so left out. The person even called me a 'loner' which made me feel worse. I think I should just not be their friends because I don't like this feeling. I think maybe I have FOMO (fear of missing out) cause I hate it when I miss out on things especially socially. Any ideas on what to do?

Miaaa333 Struggling with everything!
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I just don't even know where to start. I've never been depressed or unhappy - I've had a pretty great life until the past couple of years. Things started to go bad when my first serious relationship ended and I found it hard to pick myself up. Eventu... View more

I just don't even know where to start. I've never been depressed or unhappy - I've had a pretty great life until the past couple of years. Things started to go bad when my first serious relationship ended and I found it hard to pick myself up. Eventually after 18 months I finally stopped hurting and I found myself being able to live without the sadness erupting every time I thought of him. I recently moved out of home and changed job roles. The new job has been great and I love where I live - its fantastic and everything I ever wanted. But I'm so unhappy. 6 months ago I started to date, I'm 24 and decided that it was time get back in the game. I knew it wasn't going to be easy…but I didn't expect to find myself sobbing on my bathroom floor all the time. In the past 6 months I've been let down by 4 different guys which can only lead me to one conclusion - its obviously me. I don't know what I'm doing, I don't text or call them constantly - I'm always nice and never rude and I'm always willing to accommodate him. My mum tells me its because I intimidate men because of my career - I don't believe that. I'm just so angry, hurt and confused. I feel like a doormat who gets stomped all over and used constantly. What makes it worse is my family and their constant interference. As soon as they are aware there is someone in my life, its 20 questions and I'm constantly questioned about it - when did he last speak to you, what did he say? whats this…whats that? I just can't handle it anymore but I feel guilty for not sharing it with my mum. I just don't know what to do - I feel like I'm constantly not living up to their expectations and its really hard when I hear mums friends ask her why a girl like me doesn't have a boyfriend. I feel so completely inadequate and like a failure. I just need to know how I can learn to love myself for who I am and what I'm not. I hate feeling like this. I just want to be happy. It really doesn't help when I've lost my best friend to her boyfriend. I used to spend time with my best friend every weekend and text her all the time. Now I'm lucky if i see her once every 6 weeks or so. I miss her so much and I feel like I have no one I can turn to. I'm so alone. I just want someone who can hold me whilst I cry my eyes out. I'm so god damn sad. Please tell me theres a way to feel better?

janeo13 Private Inpatient Treatment for Teens
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HiMy 16 yr old daughter has had depression and anxiety for the last 2 years. Last year she deteriorated and started self harming. She was admitted to a public hospital for a month as she could not keep herself safe at home,she has had several more ad... View more

HiMy 16 yr old daughter has had depression and anxiety for the last 2 years. Last year she deteriorated and started self harming. She was admitted to a public hospital for a month as she could not keep herself safe at home,she has had several more admissions since, 5 in 6 months. She is on medication and seeing all the drs, her medication keeps changing as she does not seem to be responding.We have other children to look after and are at our wits end trying to work out how much longer this goes on for. I may have to give up work as my husband cannot take any more time off, and we do not want to leave our daughter, who is not going to school, alone for too long as she has tried to harm herself when left for too long on her own,Wondering if anyone has been to a private hospital for long term treatment ie 3months, does it work?kind regards beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

TWLOHA_4_LIFE Out of my comfort zone.
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Hi This may sound trivial compared to what a lot of other people go through but because of my past I have struggled to do things outside of my comfort zone, I once tried joining women's football (soccer) but once I got to the fields I felt sick and j... View more

Hi This may sound trivial compared to what a lot of other people go through but because of my past I have struggled to do things outside of my comfort zone, I once tried joining women's football (soccer) but once I got to the fields I felt sick and just wanted to cry and walk away and I don't understand why I feel this way.. The weekend just passed I went to a show with my partner and his sister and his sister and I went on a ride that's kind of like a whizzer that spins around really fast except that this one tilted you on nearly a 45 degree angle, I was fine until it increased speed and began to tilt.. Thus ending in a major panic attack mid ride. I don't understand why doing things out of my comfort zone end in me either feeling nauseas and on the verge of tears or ending in a panic attack.. To be honest it kinda limits me to doing things in life because doing new things absolutely petrifies me

huge relapse into depression-feeling helpless
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Hey guysI'm new to this forum I'm 19 year old man. Last year I fell into depression and anxiety for the first time and was completely overcome by it for several months-could not stop worrying, felt worthless, socially incapable, isolated, could not c... View more

Hey guysI'm new to this forum I'm 19 year old man. Last year I fell into depression and anxiety for the first time and was completely overcome by it for several months-could not stop worrying, felt worthless, socially incapable, isolated, could not concentrate in the slightest, completely lost interest in everything etc etc I finally got some help-started seeing a psych & started antidepressants, and quite quickly I felt "like myself" again. The next half year or so was probably the best time of my life so far-I felt confident and super motivated and just seemed to be able to get the most out of everything- I started uni and was getting involved with a few clubs there, exercising lots, volunteer tutoring, was happy with my part time job, and enjoying going to parties and catching up with friends everything was great. A few months ago everything took a turn in the wrong direction again, I can't even really pinpoint what caused it or exactly when it startedbut it took over very quickly. Now again I have no motivation, no confidence, seem to take no pleasure out of anything, I feel so positively low about myself and hopeless. Been put on an increased dosage of the medication I was on-not seeming to help yet (been on increased dosage for three weeks now). I feel completely debilitated, I can't ever focus on anything, can't ever think of anything to say, and even things like running and swimming that, aside from during the worst of times last year, always seemed to be able to lift me up for a bit are just doing nothing for me. I feel constantly exhauseted and like there's no point to it all. Going out to social events has become such an unappealing concept because I really struggle with basic social interactions, and study is so positively daunting because I just can't seem to get focused and get my self interested/get my head around concepts that I know deep down I would usually be interested in. I really just feel like nothing is helping and feel stuck-any time things feel like they might be improving just a little I slump right back into a very dark state of mind-viewing everything especially myself in a very negative way. I still live with my parents and my current living situation is stable-and objectively really not bad at all. Really not sure what to do, I don't know if anyone here has any helpful words? Not even exactly sure what I expected from this but yeah any advice is very much appreciated. Thank you!

TashK Depression feels like.....
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I wanted to know how depression feels for other people, like if it feels like constant doubts and sadness or something like you feel really guilty and alone. I thought it would be good for others to share how it feels and maybe to relate with other p... View more

I wanted to know how depression feels for other people, like if it feels like constant doubts and sadness or something like you feel really guilty and alone. I thought it would be good for others to share how it feels and maybe to relate with other people. To start off for me depression feels like a constant weight inside of me, it doesn't feel overwhelming it just is there pushing me down. It also feels like I've got no energy at all, my energy is so low and all i want to do is sleep but i cant even do that because my thoughts just keep me awake. That's half of what depression feels like for me so yeah! Just say what you feel and hopefully it helps someone x

bounique Not sure what to do
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Hi, First time posting on here, so I'm a little bit nervous. I've had depression/anxiety for three years now, in those three years i lost two friends. It has been very very trying. In the past two weeks I have been struggling a lot, i've managed to p... View more

Hi, First time posting on here, so I'm a little bit nervous. I've had depression/anxiety for three years now, in those three years i lost two friends. It has been very very trying. In the past two weeks I have been struggling a lot, i've managed to push a lot of my close friends away and now they won't talk to me. My boyfriend of 1 year has copped a lot of my depression, and I feel like I've completely wrecked my relationship with him. I'm at a complete loss of what to do, i make everyone feel like i don't appreciate their support, when in reality i definitely do. Has anyone else been through all of this? how did you make things right? Thank you!

Muddy_Waters Thinking for last Resorts for my Depression & Anxiety .
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I've been suffering severe Depression & Anxiety for the past 5 years, I'm a 20 year old male. I've been hospitalised twice for my condition in hospital. Now these days my depression isn't as bad as it was when I was younger but it still haunts me. My... View more

I've been suffering severe Depression & Anxiety for the past 5 years, I'm a 20 year old male. I've been hospitalised twice for my condition in hospital. Now these days my depression isn't as bad as it was when I was younger but it still haunts me. My Depression was so bad back then that I couldn't even speak, with outbursts of crying and anger moulding in with despair and shame. The pain I feel now is like, living in a prison made by my own device. Having anxiety pretty much makes it hard to help stop the depression in it's tracks. The way I feel about myself stops me from going outside to see people, or do things. There's this fear and I have that won't allow me to do certain things. I also worry about the smallest weirdest things like, how I dress myself? I feel like I'm OCD at times. I won't go out because the shoes I wear doesn't fit these jeans which will make me feel insecure about myself, stuff like that. You know, so to go outside I need to look good, so I feel good about myself. I have this fear of people looking at me and judging how I perceive myself. THIS fear is stopping me from conquering my depression. Dealing with my depression, I feel lifeless... the only things I've managed to do in the last few months was go to the gym and go for walks/jobs which has helped to a degree but I haven't seen the results I want because I know the exercise I'm doing isn't the correct or right way, and it's very hard to push just yourself. Yet I don't feel anxiety when I do these activities because I'm by myself for most of the time. The last few weeks however I've been purposely sleeping in because I want to dream and escape reality. I stay in home all day most days watching videos on youtube to escape reality. Somedays I feel hope and optimistic about the future, most days I feel very dark and gloomy inside. I've just started living with my dad for the past 6 months now, and he lives very unclean. So the household attracts lots of mice and cockroaches, which I hate. Plus the house is falling apart, the place is like a ghetto. Lucky my mums family place is up the road and I spend alot of my time here because it's more or less relaxing. I know environment can impact how you feel, but this just isn't the case, sure it's gotten harder but nothings hardly changed in the 5 years I've suffered depression. I guess I just wanted to see what tips or help I could achieve in online forums, I've got a doctors mental health plan installed on the 27th of this month.

bumbleb33 Need Advice
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Hey all I've been suffering from depression for about a year. The last 6 months have been the worst. I've taken a break from uni, mostly stayed at home and just had little energy to do anything. But more importantly, I've isolated myself from a lot o... View more

Hey all I've been suffering from depression for about a year. The last 6 months have been the worst. I've taken a break from uni, mostly stayed at home and just had little energy to do anything. But more importantly, I've isolated myself from a lot of my close friends. They have tried to get in touch with me but I stupidly closed my facebook, phone and just ignored any sort of contact. They don't know about my problems and have probably just assumed I found new friends or didn't want to hang out. I've started to feel better recently and have realised how stupid I've been. But I really don't know how to approach them again and I don't want to mention my depression either......can anyone give me some tips? Thank you

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