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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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_-Jack-_ I just feel down and alone.
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I have kind of resented these kind of sites, but i have no one else i can talk to. Im 15. I feel like i am completely alone, i thought i had so many friends, friends i thought i could count on. But suddenly they have all kind of drifted away from me ... View more

I have kind of resented these kind of sites, but i have no one else i can talk to. Im 15. I feel like i am completely alone, i thought i had so many friends, friends i thought i could count on. But suddenly they have all kind of drifted away from me and i can't figure out why. Sure, i have laughs in class with a few of my mates but i wouldn't consider them someone i would want to see outside of school. These friends i once had, i trusted them with my life, i told them all my secretes... now poof they're gone. To make matters worse some of them have told some of my deepest secretes to other people in my year and now if i attempt to make conversation with someone i don't really know, i get a weird look and they just walk away so I've kind of given up on talking to anyone new. I have a group of about 10 mates who do make my school life bearable but as i said none of these guys would be like my old mates, I couldnt trust them, maybe thats because my trust was so badly broken before? On the weekends i used to go out with my mates, now i sit in my room and feel down because i have no one who wants to go out with me. As far as I can see i haven't changed since I was friends with them all, so I really struggle to see what i did wrong. I get jokes made about my weight, i act like i don't care and its funny, but i do- it really hurts. Today has got me feeling extra sad, all my year level (120+ kids) are doing something fun for halloween, they all do it in their friendship groups, trick or treating or partying and i wasn't invited to a single one of those gatherings, i mean even the 'losers and nerds' at my school are doing something and heres me, halloween night typing out my feelings to whoever will listen. At school I act like the class clown or the joker because i guess, if i can't be happy, putting a smile on someone else face is just about the closest thing ill ever get. I guess you could say I exaggerate the parts of me I like to try and stop the sad parts of me from coming out, I've put on a smile and act like a clown so much I don't even really know when I'm sad anymore. Ive had two of my immediate family pass away this year, i really needed someone, a friend, someone who i could count on to cheer me up. But there was no one. I just want to turn back time, about 4 months, when i had what i thought were really good friendships. Now i question myself, were all these friendships just lies? I just feel alone, sad and friendless. Thanks for listening.

sagelovet scared of not having enough fun while being a teenager
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i see other people and i want to be like them, the people having the time of their lives. but i'm always feeling awful and it's like i'm always angry at nothing? i can't even explain it. when my friends are talking at school i don't join conversation... View more

i see other people and i want to be like them, the people having the time of their lives. but i'm always feeling awful and it's like i'm always angry at nothing? i can't even explain it. when my friends are talking at school i don't join conversation sometimes because i feel as if everything they're saying is stupid, when it really isn't. i disagree and use a lot of sarcasm at them which has caused me to lose friends and right now if making me slowly drift apart from people. it frustrates me because i want to change so badly but i can't. i can't stop being difficult and hate my friends for the things they say. sometimes i think i need new friends but i've thought that for my whole life and that has caused me to change friend groups constantly and im still not happy. have i just not found the right friends yet or am i the difficult one? i am also very very afraid of growing old and not being a teenager anymore. im 16, almost 17 and all i want to do is have fun but im not. i feel like my teenage years are being wasted because i cant have fun all the time. i always say next year i will have fun but it never happens. the thing is though, i love life but im afraid im not spending as much time having a fun as i should be like the others... i dont know, maybe im being dramatic

feeling_blue1 Spiralling
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Seriously feeling like my life is just spiralling out of control... Been feeling like this more the last couple of months but if I look back can see changed happening in the past 2 yearsi tend to isolate myself more, I don't feel I'm able to express ... View more

Seriously feeling like my life is just spiralling out of control... Been feeling like this more the last couple of months but if I look back can see changed happening in the past 2 yearsi tend to isolate myself more, I don't feel I'm able to express emotions as I used do (don't feel sad/low), concentration and memory are crap, lack of interest, difficulty communicatingi just feel alone and hard to express myself. I have tried pushing myself to catch up with people, tired to get myself into a good routine but I get distracted so easilythings haven't been good in my personal life fathers in hospital, and work conflict (changing my role and feeling like I'm more a gofer then having a sense or purpose)just feeling at a loss not sure what to do from herehas anyone been in a similar situation what made you feel better... I've tried talking with a counsellor, tried healthy lifestyle changes, don't really feel depressed so haven't asked my GP for any antidepressants

Lostsoul_x Feeling lost
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I'm at a loss at what to do or how to cope. I'm too ashamed to tell my friends and family how bad it's getting. And when I try they don't understand. I lose myself in music, pretending I am someone else, successful, living a completely different life... View more

I'm at a loss at what to do or how to cope. I'm too ashamed to tell my friends and family how bad it's getting. And when I try they don't understand. I lose myself in music, pretending I am someone else, successful, living a completely different life where I'm happy and fulfilled. It's the only way I can escape. But the cold reality is always there waiting for me when I return. My partner doesn't understand, I tried to tell him what I was dealing with and he somehow made it about himself. I just want to feel for him again but I can't. No intimacy and we don't talk anymore. It feels like I'm being suffocated, and I'm running out of air. I just want to feel again, I'm hurting everyone around me by my mood swings but part of me doesn't care, I feel so cold inside.

Jakes_razz Any advice for my sleep problem
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So I'm new here and not sure how this all works so I apologise in advance. I'm 20 years old and dealing with this stuff really gets me cranky cause no one I know has delt with this problem witch makes it hard to talk about. /hints why I'm here/ i hav... View more

So I'm new here and not sure how this all works so I apologise in advance. I'm 20 years old and dealing with this stuff really gets me cranky cause no one I know has delt with this problem witch makes it hard to talk about. /hints why I'm here/ i have a issue were people who were once a big part of my life who are not anymore. Old friends, family members who have passed away, ex partners it started when my high school girlfriend left me suddenly after 3 years for no reason apart from the generic "we grew apart" this sent me down a dark parth witch was embarrassing for me as hard as coping was buy far the worst was the dreams I'd have they'd either be memories of us on repeat or a horrible accident happening to them and those dreams would effect my mood all day till I slept again and I couldn't reach out to her since she moved to the city and made it clear that she wanted nothing to do with me it then progressed to old freinds and relatives who have passed away and I never spoke up to those old freinds because how do you start a conversation with I dreamed about you, how are ya? Haha these dreams had been fewer and fewer and I was happy about that but my recent loss of a freind have brought them on again and I would like any advice someone can give and to hear I'm not the only one going though this this felt good to type my story thank you for reading

Casualfriday Depressed or Lazy?
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Hi everyone! Ok, where to begin? Two years ago I was diagnosed with depression and general anxiety disorder and i've been on and off anti-depressants since then as well as seeing a great psychologist - it is being managed. BUT here's the thing, I've ... View more

Hi everyone! Ok, where to begin? Two years ago I was diagnosed with depression and general anxiety disorder and i've been on and off anti-depressants since then as well as seeing a great psychologist - it is being managed. BUT here's the thing, I've noticed that I have no motivation to do pretty much anything that requires any slightly uncomfortable effort and I can't tell if it's because of poor mental health or if it's a personality flaw. I'm in my first year of uni, living on campus, and most of the time I have no problem hanging out with my few friends but whenever it comes to studying, shopping, cleaning or anything similar I literally just avoid doing it. This means usually napping or binge watching Netflix. And it's not like I'm feeling depressed about it, it's more a feeling of apathy. I feel like i'm the laziest person ever but I know in the back of my mind it's probably a result of me not taking enough care of my mental health. I'm just really struggling because I don't want to just blame it on my mental health issues but I just don't have the energy to change myself. So... am I actually still depressed or am I just lazy? Keen to hear your thoughts

Unnamed7 I Feel Nothing
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For quite a while in the past, I have felt angry and miserable most of the time. Now I feel nothing. I never talk to anyone about my issues and every time I do they use it against me. I feel like no one knows the real me. I'm always pretending I'm ha... View more

For quite a while in the past, I have felt angry and miserable most of the time. Now I feel nothing. I never talk to anyone about my issues and every time I do they use it against me. I feel like no one knows the real me. I'm always pretending I'm happy, I crack jokes and laugh but never really am 'happy'. Sometimes I just don't feel anything. I used to get angry when people were telling me things like 'you're worthless, don't waste my time, why do I even try with you, you're a disgrace" etc but now I just sit there and take it, and I honestly couldn't care less. I feel like I have nobody to talk to, no girl that would ever like me. I'm too scared to actually open up. Since I was a child, I was a very emotional person. My dad always used to shut me down and talk over me, and tell me things like 'You're a disgrace, you seriously need help. You really should see a doctor because I think you're retarded". and shit like that If I was to mess up. Maybe that is the reason I can never open up now, because I could never really be myself around my family, let alone other people. Someone please tell me how I can feel again.

Kic My dad said he is disipointed in me
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I can't go see my family because I have lots of homework to do. My dad and sister both said they are disipointed in me and that has really hurt me

I can't go see my family because I have lots of homework to do. My dad and sister both said they are disipointed in me and that has really hurt me

ZivaNCIS Hey
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Hi I am Rachel.

Hi I am Rachel.

WhySoSirius Can't get to school
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I have depression and anxiety and i just can't get out of bed to go to school. Just the thought of going makes me physically sick and I am so drained. I do well in school so it's not really about my grades, I just don't really want to go and honestly... View more

I have depression and anxiety and i just can't get out of bed to go to school. Just the thought of going makes me physically sick and I am so drained. I do well in school so it's not really about my grades, I just don't really want to go and honestly my friends don't seem that indifferent with my always being away. One of my best friends doesn't really understand and says I'm really lucky and I shouldn't be sad because I have great friends. I know I do but crying and sleeping are the only things that make my pain go away. My mum is always trying to push me to go because my attendance is low, but I feel like that is just a number and it's not worth going to school because of that. Idk wat to do