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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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CooperPatton I need help
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Things wrong with me: Constantly negative thinking Constantly thinking about the past Constantly comparing myself to others Starting to really hate my appearance in basically every way possible Poor Memory Poor Focus Basically zero gratitude. Extreme... View more

Things wrong with me: Constantly negative thinking Constantly thinking about the past Constantly comparing myself to others Starting to really hate my appearance in basically every way possible Poor Memory Poor Focus Basically zero gratitude. Extremely low confidence "Every one is staring at me" feeling when I'm at the shops If somebody asks me what's the matter and I decide to explain, I start crying to the point I can't explain what's wrong. I always have something to worry about, if I fix one issue and stop worrying about it another issue will pop up and I'm feeling awful about that until I eventually get over it, then the cycle repeats. I never laugh even when I know something is funny. I smile at best I can't have a conversation with someone without focusing properly, making eye contact etc. As much as I want to I can't even watch TV to distract myself, I end up zoning out thinking about the past and future, comparing myself to people on the TV. The list literally goes on. I'm turning 21 in a couple of months, people in my family are all doing great things and here I am. ^^^^^^ If you have any questions or advice, please don't hesitate. I've been trying to improve myself for so long and I'm starting to lose hope. Thank you for reading x When I do find myself in a positive head space I

The_Dark_Nugget My girlfriend broke up with me because of her parents.
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Hi Everyone This is my first thread so here goes. I ment the most amazing girl ever and I instantly fell in love with her, and she felt the same but her parents didn't want her to have a boyfriend so we had to keep it a secret. It went well for weeks... View more

Hi Everyone This is my first thread so here goes. I ment the most amazing girl ever and I instantly fell in love with her, and she felt the same but her parents didn't want her to have a boyfriend so we had to keep it a secret. It went well for weeks but somehow her parents found out and she had to break up with me. I feel like she cares way to much about what other people think because she didn't even hesitate to break up. Am I wrong for thinking this? Her sisters and her friends keep hassling me about it. And its getting harder it go to school because I have to see her everyday. Thanks for listening. tdn

Oblivious1303 Dealing with self hatred
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Hey guys, I just need a bit of support if, that's all good. Recently I've been going through a bit of self hatred, and a couple of days ago, my ex broke things off with me and now I'm stuck in a rut. I hate how I deal with things when I get emotional... View more

Hey guys, I just need a bit of support if, that's all good. Recently I've been going through a bit of self hatred, and a couple of days ago, my ex broke things off with me and now I'm stuck in a rut. I hate how I deal with things when I get emotional or upset, because I manage to take it out on the people I care about. And that's why she broke things off with me. That was the last thing I wanted, I hate what I've done and now it's gone to complete sh*t. I can't fix it, she wants nothing to do with me anymore but I want to keep trying to fix things. I don't know how to cope with this. I hate myself so much right now, I just don't know what to do.

Perryson Dude where's my head?
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Hi guys first time using these online forums, so bear with me. ill start off with my background and where my life's at now... about 7 years ago I finally broke, split up with my partner in which I thought was a serious relationship, wasn't enjoying w... View more

Hi guys first time using these online forums, so bear with me. ill start off with my background and where my life's at now... about 7 years ago I finally broke, split up with my partner in which I thought was a serious relationship, wasn't enjoying work, wasn't enjoying where I lived, just wasn't enjoying life as a 23yr old should. I had a load of debt and not much to show for it. I drank, turned to party drugs. I was tired and 'had enough'. every choice I made felt like a downward spiral at incredible pace...i remember breaking down in front of my mum...my poor mother, I felt like I was making her feel guilty for seeing me in my low. It was the best thing that could have happened at that time. Like a weight had lifted and I had someone to help me. i saw a doctor, I can't remember what his diagnosis was because I was so nervous, embarrassed, all the emotions. I got medication for it which I took for a week but made me feel like a zombie.. since then I've felt good. in the last 2 years I've been happily married and moved states to be with my wife's family, were building our first home and expecting our first baby. im unsure if it's stresses of a house and baby at once or if it's my brain. I'm not on a high point or a low point, it's more lacking in excitement or pleasure. Simple things like buying myself a $50 item I talk myself out of as I can't see reward in it and it's feeling like it's most things. I don't really have any male friends in my new town and even my good mates from home seem distant. Sorry if it makes no sense, but thought I'd connect with others so it doesn't build up in my head. Any pointers would be appreciated. Many thanks

CusCus Stuck in a deep rut of isolation
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This is my first time ever visiting this website after considering it for a long time. I just felt like I needed to get this off my chest but at the same time don't feel too comfortable bringing it up with my family members. As the title suggests, at... View more

This is my first time ever visiting this website after considering it for a long time. I just felt like I needed to get this off my chest but at the same time don't feel too comfortable bringing it up with my family members. As the title suggests, at the moment I feel as if I am stuck in the social aspect of my life. I'm now going into my second year of university and realised I made no new friends that kept in touch from first year. As of late, I find it more and more difficult to make friends which I feel is related to my history of friendships. Way back in primary school, I had a really tight group of friends (a squad haha) that would always meet up at class and every weekend and holidays. However, going into middle school, a huge amount of new students entered our year, and so our group sort of split up. While everyone seemed to find their own group of friends, I was the only one who was caught in the middle and couldn't quite fit in to a single group. All the way through to Year 11, people told me I seemed so charismatic and confident, but in reality I was crying on the inside. I didn't have a best friend and anyone to confide in. In Year 12, I met someone who was overwhelmingly optimistic. He would always talk to me and skype call me to just talk about life. We had a great time that year, but as the year went by, I found myself replying to his facebook messages later and later. I think I was scared of losing contact with him after highschool. Sure enough, over the Summer holidays, we just lost contact. We got into different universities but I tried messaging him a few times to arrange a meet-up. He'd always reply with things like "Yeah we totally need to catch up!" and sound really excited. But when the meet-up time comes, he says he's busy. I haven't really talked to many people during my time in Uni. I've only really talked to two others who went to the same high school as me. However, even with them, I feel so alone because when we meet up for lunch, they're just chatting with each other while I sit there listening. Also, they tend to arrange meet-ups without me so I feel so excluded and hurt. I just feel like my past friendships and sudden snuffs of friendships have heavily impacted on my ability to make new friends. I just feel so scared that every friend I make in the future will act the same way and just cut off all ties with me. I'm sorry if this seemed really messy, but I would really appreciate any help I can get.

ineedsupportandspace guidance and help guys and girls
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Hi my name is Harry whatever is happening rightnow for my future self my non negotionables are sleep, healthy organic plant based food , and a water filter to remove fluroide from our water, i have absolutley $3 and am a swirling greyish cloudy sun, ... View more

Hi my name is Harry whatever is happening rightnow for my future self my non negotionables are sleep, healthy organic plant based food , and a water filter to remove fluroide from our water, i have absolutley $3 and am a swirling greyish cloudy sun, how Can i get some money to buy organic fruit and vegtable to eat during these times to maintain my health, my parents have money but buy so much silly food instead, how can I earn money to maintain my health, for my future self, I think I can write and articulate my thoughts to a good standard, naturally will happen when alone for this long... anyone know where I can get paid to write about or for someone, hm an biography on someone maybe

Teenageanxietyguy Health anxiety 17 male........ desperate
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So , just like that a panic attack from literally just a day of being really stressed out about something so small had changed my life . 9-10 months fee I like with health anxiety and every day I could swear will be my last . I cannot help but think ... View more

So , just like that a panic attack from literally just a day of being really stressed out about something so small had changed my life . 9-10 months fee I like with health anxiety and every day I could swear will be my last . I cannot help but think I will have a heart attack from this shortness of breath or mild chest pain , or that I have meningitis or I'm going to faint . LIFE IS SO HARD . I'm healthy, I train I'm fit I try having a good education but why are these thoughts lingering . I feel so alone ? This is extremely petrifying and I can't live with every minute not being able to simply just breate. and of course the derealisation hits and I feel numb at times all of my relationships fall , because of this , social life falls because of this work and school life falling . I just find it so difficult . To deal and I just need to reach out

Skippydundee Am i the only one
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Hi all this is my first time one something like this and part of me feels stupid for even doing it because 70% of the time i dont feel i have any issues. Other than me being my own issue. but the other 30% of the time and that number is increasing i ... View more

Hi all this is my first time one something like this and part of me feels stupid for even doing it because 70% of the time i dont feel i have any issues. Other than me being my own issue. but the other 30% of the time and that number is increasing i feel like im in a forever deeping hole that the walls are caving in. Im 26 years old. Originally from the uk been im oz 4 years. Moved from nsw to qld.3 months ago. Partially because i think running from myself will work stupidly. But i am driving myself insain. And yet im sure many peoples view would be geezzz whats your problem. Which is why i havnt been to see anyone because they will probably tell me there is nothing wrong and im wasting everyone's time. I do not know how to be happy or content. I live in a great country. In a nice.area.on the sunshine coast. Some peoples dream. I dont like what i do for work. Im a sales manager for motor company. Which runs veru different to my old employer. But its all i know how to do. And i dont know what else i would want to do. I sit at my desk driving myself insain looking for an answer i dont have. Thinking to myself it would all just be easier to end it and no longer have hate my own existence. The responsibilities of life all just mount up. Bills rent costs of living. I just want to run away from reality but know it solves nothing. I dont know how to change it. How to be happy. Im angry frustrated and driving myself crazy. What do i do. How do i get outof my way and find happiness in life which isny just fake or a bandage trying to cover-up. I know i have problems but will everyone just think im stupid and brush it off like nothing. But for me i feel everyday i am drowing and see no reason to continue for another day of mental hell and my thoughts driving me mad. am i the only one to feel like this Sorry for wasting everyones time

Raisaga I feel like something bad will happen soon and it makes me tired and stressed.
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I have this feeling that something bad will happen soon, but I have no idea why. I get this feeling once or twice a year, and when it happens, I just want to get the feeling to go away. Nothing bad actually happens, but I'm afraid it may also be a si... View more

I have this feeling that something bad will happen soon, but I have no idea why. I get this feeling once or twice a year, and when it happens, I just want to get the feeling to go away. Nothing bad actually happens, but I'm afraid it may also be a sign of something else going on that I'm not aware of. It's really putting me down this time, so I feel like it will just get worse the longer I wait. Can someone please tell me what might be going on? I want to try prevent these feelings from ever happening. Thanks in advance.

azaleahey Depression, anxiety, weight, family, moving
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Hi, new member here and have been struggling with depression & anxiety for over 5 years now.. I’m only 20. I don’t really know how to put this in all words but basically I’m so tired of feeling alone, angry, nervous and worthless just about everyday.... View more

Hi, new member here and have been struggling with depression & anxiety for over 5 years now.. I’m only 20. I don’t really know how to put this in all words but basically I’m so tired of feeling alone, angry, nervous and worthless just about everyday. I’ll start getting so worked up and make myself so angry and upset that I just can’t help but cry, which I then get frustrated with myself for feeling this way over something so silly or nothing at all, which turns into me crying harder and digging my nails into my skin. I live with one of my sisters, her fiancé and two year old son, and I know it’s making my depression so much worse. This house involves arguments everyday between my sister and her partner and a toddler abusing the hell out of me everyday. I’m currently unemployed because I just moved back here again (I’ve moved around so much) and that’s definitely not helping. I’m so scared to tell her that I can’t live here but she got so mad and upset at me the last time I moved away from her. I’ve struggled with my weight for years, I was always a skinny child but in grade 4 or 5 I started to put on weight after we moved states. I then moved different states again in 2009 (grade7), which I then lost the weight. In grade 10 I started to put it back on, that started when I found out we were moving to another town 5/6 hours away and haven’t been able to drop it since. I’m sorry this is long and there is so much more to get out, such my headaches I get everyday, my anger issued mum. My family who are barely altogether at once, that when we are, all there is are arguments, some that have nearly turned to physical violence. I will also tell you that I don’t have any friends, ever since leaving that town in 2013, for some reason can never stay in contact or make a effort anytime i had moved new schools, maybe it’s because I’m so used to moving there was no point. There’s no doubt more but this is too long now. I’m sorry but I just need help before I hit breaking point even more.