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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Tanzi Bee Hi 👋🏻
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I’m new here. I’m not good at groups or forums because I go down hill when I start talking. My psychologist has suggested I go on DSP. I’m a young 59 but she can’t see why I should have to push myself any harder than I have been to continue to work. ... View more

I’m new here. I’m not good at groups or forums because I go down hill when I start talking. My psychologist has suggested I go on DSP. I’m a young 59 but she can’t see why I should have to push myself any harder than I have been to continue to work. I wouldn’t last anyway, I’d be too stressed or depressed yo get out of bed. I have CPTSD of course Anxiety, depression and Bipolar 2. I have a JCA phone interview coming up and I feel like I’m going to fail as I’m really hard on myself and she said it can take many tries to get DSP. Has anyone else gone through this or is familiar so I can prepare myself and not give up? I’m down at the moment hence reaching out. I am a bit of an over achiever and I’m treating this like an exam, that if I fail I did badly. Has anyone else had a JCA Job capacity Assessment I think it is? Thanks ☺️

Char_Teres Long Distance Relationship Depression
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I am having a really hard time in my long distance relationship. We are solid but I am not. I’m finding the lack of control really hard. When we hang up it crushes me. He doesn’t know how to help me and I don’t want to resent the fact that he said he... View more

I am having a really hard time in my long distance relationship. We are solid but I am not. I’m finding the lack of control really hard. When we hang up it crushes me. He doesn’t know how to help me and I don’t want to resent the fact that he said he’d always be there and it feels like he is there for me less now. It’s nothing to do with him truly, he is the best boyfriend. I’m trying to figure out how to cope better because we both feel hopeless. He always asks if I am okay but when I say I’m not he’ll say I’m so sorry let me know if there is anything I can do. I don’t want him to feel bad just because I feel bad, but it’s so hard being the only one feeling bad right now. I get to see him in 3 weeks but until then every day I’m in tears. My instinct is to shut him out to get some control, but it’s not fair to him so I don’t. I literally don’t know what to do so I’m here.

Jorge1 Hi and hugs
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Hi all I'm new here. I just wanted to say g'day and just needed a place to express what I'm feeling. I have been battling mental health issues for over twenty years, engaging with many psychologists over this time. The issues have been with me for as... View more

Hi all I'm new here. I just wanted to say g'day and just needed a place to express what I'm feeling. I have been battling mental health issues for over twenty years, engaging with many psychologists over this time. The issues have been with me for as long as I remember and I'm in my forties. I've been misdiagnosed several times and have stopped labelling my experience as anything other than an episode. I'm feeling slightly nervous about being admitted to hospital today for the sixth time. At the same time I'm noticing all the usual unpleasant emotions I experience on admission are not there. Except perhaps feeling a shyness to tell the Psychs what I know I am finally ready to admit. I've noticed pleasant emotions. This feels uncomfortable oddly, perhaps because I haven't allowed myself to do so for a long time. I'm feeling loved and supported both by others and myself. I am curious, hopeful, determined, strong and proud. I was admitted to this facility for a month last year, it was the first time I allowed myself to be vulnerable in front of group sessions. My self awareness grew exponentially. I felt safe to feel unpleasant emotions while I was there. I used music, journalling and exercise, swaying and rocking in my room to calm myself after. I'm sitting typing this with dance music on so I don't feel odd rocking and swaying to alleviate my anxiety. It's working a treat, I don't feel like a doofus and it feels like a nice big internal hug. I'm being super kind and loving towards myself. I am telling me I have done the hard yards and it is paying off, a few more won't hurt. The other troubles in my life have been parked for revisiting at a later date. This time is for me to work on me. I hope everyone else remembers to give themself a big internal hug today : )

Be_like_a_Tree First time for everything
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Hello, This will be the first time I've ever posted on a forum like this. I'm a little nervous. I'll gather my thoughts and create a proper post eventually. But in the meantime, I'm a mum of three, i'm grieving the loss of a parent, experiencing some... View more

Hello, This will be the first time I've ever posted on a forum like this. I'm a little nervous. I'll gather my thoughts and create a proper post eventually. But in the meantime, I'm a mum of three, i'm grieving the loss of a parent, experiencing some significant financial instability and its all coming out as sheer overwhelm and struggling to cope on the daily - Gosh, life can be A LOT at times. So, hi to all, nice to meet you all and I look forward to chatting online sometime. x

UMMBICKIE Are you grieving too 😞
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Today I woke up and I felt heavy & scared and I cried & I thought why am I crying?Today I realized I am grieving... I am grieving because I have lost the one person that should mean the most to me... METhat may sound selfish to some but for many year... View more

Today I woke up and I felt heavy & scared and I cried & I thought why am I crying?Today I realized I am grieving... I am grieving because I have lost the one person that should mean the most to me... METhat may sound selfish to some but for many years I have been there for everyone, to listen, to help to carry them through tough times and I now find myself alone... I have a partner and he is a great person but I still feel alone. I have lost motivation and interest in what I love which is my horses, my animals. I have lost my confidence I everything I want to do. I question myself and second guess my daily routine. I believe I am a good person who is always there for others why do they not reciprocate... Is it because I disguise my pain from them and they think I am fine or is it they just don't really care if I am not fine..... So I thought am I being relative should I be proactive I have been treated by physicians & professionals for years I take my medication and normally this keeps everything in perspective but life is never a flat line it is a roller coaster, ups n downs but sometimes the downs are a liitle harder to bare..... Today I joined Beyond Blue to be proactive and try to find the helping hand I need to get through the tougher times

Bonnie B Hi I'm new to posting
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Hi, I've just been looking at the posts and threads- thank you! Just writing some of my thoughts and feelings down has, I think, helped

Hi, I've just been looking at the posts and threads- thank you! Just writing some of my thoughts and feelings down has, I think, helped

Cheetoh Trouble moving on from help that wasn’t helpful
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I paid a life coach $4000 I was bed ridden, couldn’t walk, urinate, eat or work and my hair was falling out. I would cry for a minimum 12 hours after an appointment. Was he right for me? Clearly not! But he said he could help “fix me” even though I s... View more

I paid a life coach $4000 I was bed ridden, couldn’t walk, urinate, eat or work and my hair was falling out. I would cry for a minimum 12 hours after an appointment. Was he right for me? Clearly not! But he said he could help “fix me” even though I said I would go elsewhere. So I paid more money by this stage I was addicted to his drama especially when I woke up to “Hey help me out on a video I posted” which was apparently of his ex wife’s flying monkeys, I was addicted to drama from my ex and he knew this! I have also been told by a professional that because he used the words “fix me” I became codependent upon him. He told me all the above health problems were leading to my destiny! Now that I’m out of the sycophant phase that he seems on needing from his followers I can see how gullible I was spending the $$$ on his “help” He had a weird and wonderful way of having you as a friend and changing to a client when it suits his mood so you have no idea where you stand. My own friends and Husband didn’t like him, yet I stood up for him time and again in true empath style. Once I even asked him if he was a Narcissist as I felt very confused and crocodile tears followed, which I fell for… And really should any “professional” ask how kinky you are? Or would it be better to ask how is your labido? Even his own mother believes he’s in a cult! In a way he was fortunate with me as I believed I psychologically transferred my ex onto him so I kept going to him for “help” only to find out he is equally delusional of his own place in life. Clearly my trouble now is moving on, I was supposed to start work at 9am and it is nearly 1pm and I still have no drive.

Mav1 Newbie...having a tough time
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Hi I am new to the forum so here goes.....I am a 49-year-old father of 4 ...2 adult children and 2 under the age of 15...my story so far .... I was happily married to their mother since 1993 and our life together was normal..until she was diagnosed w... View more

Hi I am new to the forum so here goes.....I am a 49-year-old father of 4 ...2 adult children and 2 under the age of 15...my story so far .... I was happily married to their mother since 1993 and our life together was normal..until she was diagnosed with Melanoma approx. 6 years ago.....although we tried all treatments it was to no avail and on June 2015 my wife passed away. As you can imagine my concern was my children as we had already been through previous trauma with my oldest girl having a motorbike accident when she was 16 which left her a paraplegic...it was hard on all of us especially her mum. So after her death, I concerned myself with raising our kids the best I could and helping them deal with the loss as well as my wife's family. I meet someone whom I fell for and recently proposed to her. We have been together for 2.5 years now and I love her and she loves me. We recently got back from Broome we I had proposed to her and for whatever reason the last 3 days I have been all over the place. I feel flat, lost, last night she stirred and asked me to move over a bit and for whatever reason I got annoyed over it and couldn't get back to sleep...I kept thinking`Why doesn't she want me near her...does she does not want me in the room..does she not love me anymore` then I woke this morning still feeling that way ...then I tried not to bring it up but I couldn't ...we then argued as she couldn`t understand why I felt the way I did, and you know what I don`t either, it just leaves me wondering what is wrong with me, am I insecure? The thought of losing her just scares me so. I ask myself why am I sabotaging this relationship when it means so much to me.....

Jo_5 Feeling pretty overwhelmed
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Hi everyone, I’ve never done this before but I’m really having a super hard time and I don’t know what to do. It’s been one thing after another for a while now and living in Vic with COVID lockdown hasnt helped the stress. Just this weekend I lost on... View more

Hi everyone, I’ve never done this before but I’m really having a super hard time and I don’t know what to do. It’s been one thing after another for a while now and living in Vic with COVID lockdown hasnt helped the stress. Just this weekend I lost one of my closet family members suddenly. I’m so shocked snd heartbroken. I couldn’t see him because of restrictions on travel. Then 48 hours later my best friend passed away and I also haven’t been able to travel to see her in Sydney. These were two of my life’s most favourite people. I feel like I’m made of lead and can’t be bothered to do anything. I can’t sleep, I don’t want to eat. I’m usually a very friendly and happy and motivated person but this has really taken it out of me. Nothing feels good anymore. I’m just so flat. Sorry to be such a downer, I hate to be like this.