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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Queen_E Can I live with anxiety?
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Hiya, I guess you could say I've been dealing with anxiety since my first major episode in 2015. I seemed to be fine until Covid and lockdowns. I had my first major attack in 5 years following Melbourne's first major lockdown in 2020. It crippled me.... View more

Hiya, I guess you could say I've been dealing with anxiety since my first major episode in 2015. I seemed to be fine until Covid and lockdowns. I had my first major attack in 5 years following Melbourne's first major lockdown in 2020. It crippled me. Fastword to now and I have been seeing a therapist since February as things were quite bad. Some days are better than others. I'm currently struggling with the physical effects of my anxiety and starting to feel that this will never go away. Reaching out to say hello, hear your stories and hopefully gain some insight on management of anxiety. Thanks and much love.

KitesR Doing it tough
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Hi All, I have just signed up and this is my first post. To be honest my main reason to sign up was to give I guess for lack of a better term, an uptick to so many posts that I have read on the forum. So many amazing people on here, like they have pe... View more

Hi All, I have just signed up and this is my first post. To be honest my main reason to sign up was to give I guess for lack of a better term, an uptick to so many posts that I have read on the forum. So many amazing people on here, like they have peered into my windows and know me. Makes me feel less alone. This is the beginning of my journey, I have finally come to terms that i do struggle with anxiety and depression which is strange because I have always tried to be a provider and protector for my wife and family, a fortress if you will with no fear I thought but, I do now acknowledge that I cant run and hide from the things that have formed me any longer. Long story short, I know I have so much to be grateful for, an amazing wife,I don't know where she gets the strength, and in material things, they however don't make me loathe myself any less and it makes me wonder why somebody like my amazing wife would bother with me. Many thanks.

CountryHousebond Countryhousebound
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Not sure about this but I need to try find help I can't seem to get our of this depressed mood I'm in I've been like this for months the only thing that seems to help is drugs or alcohol

Not sure about this but I need to try find help I can't seem to get our of this depressed mood I'm in I've been like this for months the only thing that seems to help is drugs or alcohol

Dwings I'm new here
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Hi I'm new here and was recommended to join the forums. I dont know where to start. I'm in my mid 30s, still single, and recently Ive felt so depressed that I can't do anything. Friday just felt like the worst day ever and I haven't been any better s... View more

Hi I'm new here and was recommended to join the forums. I dont know where to start. I'm in my mid 30s, still single, and recently Ive felt so depressed that I can't do anything. Friday just felt like the worst day ever and I haven't been any better since. Its like a whole bomb was dropped on me. My account was overdrawn, I keep getting rejected, people take advantage of me. I feel like there is no way out of this. I felt this way last year and though I could deal with it but it just keeps coming back. I tried making plans and changing but it just keeps failing. Ive had the worst bad luck

Lonely1006 Feeling so alone
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Hi I’m in my 40s, 3 kids and married. I have no diagnosis but I feel like I’ve come to a fork in the road and I need to face this or it’ll ruin me. I seem to swing from feeling super elated and so happy with life to just pure darkness. Right now I’m ... View more

Hi I’m in my 40s, 3 kids and married. I have no diagnosis but I feel like I’ve come to a fork in the road and I need to face this or it’ll ruin me. I seem to swing from feeling super elated and so happy with life to just pure darkness. Right now I’m in the darkness. I’m also a nurse and I am totally drained. I’m so sick of listening to everyone’s else’s issues. The world right now just doesn’t seem to be a place I want to be in. I don’t find any joy on anything. I dread waking each day. I’ve tried to talk to my husband who ends up making it about him and tells me all I do is complain. I feel so alone and so down. I feel ashamed to feel like this. I’m usually the social one, the bubbly person. People don’t know the real me. And yet the ones who I try and be vulnerable with just disregard me. feeling so lost and alone

idontknowwhattomakemyname introduction
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hello, I am new here and I don't know where else I should be posting this I just started uni and I feel like I was going really well for the first two weeks and getting everything done, but now I feel so overwhelmed and tired and like I can't focus o... View more

hello, I am new here and I don't know where else I should be posting this I just started uni and I feel like I was going really well for the first two weeks and getting everything done, but now I feel so overwhelmed and tired and like I can't focus or concentrate on my work, in my lectures I can't pay attention for more than 10 minutes and I feel like I can't read any more then a few pages of my textbook without feeling overwhelmed or exhausted. I've been sleeping for 9-11+ hours every night but I still just feel so fatigued and unmotivated all the time, I feel like I have no interest in my course or life at all. I know I'm a smart person and the work isn't that hard but it just feels so impossible to do and like it just keeps adding up. yet I feel so invalidated because I always hear that every single uni student is going through the same thing and so guilty that I can't just do my work because its not that hard. I guess I am looking for some advice on what to do, because I enjoy learning and doing something with my life and I want to get a degree of some sort but I genuinely feel like everything is too much at the moment. sorry for the length of my 'introduction'! thanks

Help_for_my_boy Reaching out for help for me young adult son
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Hi there, I am reaching out to see if anyone has ideas on how I can best help my 18 year old son. He has had mental health issues that have been quite serious for the past 3 months, he is engaging in some treatment, but he is really up and down and I... View more

Hi there, I am reaching out to see if anyone has ideas on how I can best help my 18 year old son. He has had mental health issues that have been quite serious for the past 3 months, he is engaging in some treatment, but he is really up and down and I am not sure whether he is taking his medication. It is difficult as I now live in a different state to him and cannot travel to where he is due to current restrictions. I love him to bits and want to help, but I'm not sure how I can best do that. I am also a bit wary of doing things that might make things worse for him. He often doesn't respond to my texts or answer my calls and I am left wondering if it has all become too much for him. Any suggestions would be welcome.

SunflowerShan New to forum - seeking study tips from adults diagnosed with ADHD
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Hi there, I've never been part of a forum before so I'm not exactly sure how they work. I have a few chronic conditions (anxiety, type 1 diabetes, CPTSD to name a few) but the thing I am struggling most with at the moment is my ADHD. I was diagnosed ... View more

Hi there, I've never been part of a forum before so I'm not exactly sure how they work. I have a few chronic conditions (anxiety, type 1 diabetes, CPTSD to name a few) but the thing I am struggling most with at the moment is my ADHD. I was diagnosed when I was 23 and I am medicated. I recently left my job to commence a fully-online university course and I'm continually brought to my knees in tears of frustration because though I want to do the work, I just can't. I am interested in the topics, I'm quite capable of learning the content and demonstrating my understanding but I just cannot seem to 'sit and do'. I have upped my medication and tried so many tips, tricks and hacks - timers, lists, sit/stand desk, fidgets, concentration music, library study, study buddy, removing distractions, do not disturb sign, headphones with music, headphones without music, turning study into a game/challenge, using a text-to-speech app, being kind to myself, being hard on myself, verbalising my goals/to do's to others, visually displayed my 'why' - and nothing has worked. I have a support plan from the university which gives me an extra week to complete assignments (thankful!) but I'm really concerned that I'm still not going to make it even with the extensions. My ADHD was manageable in the workplace but this is just next level and I'm not sure what else I can do to help myself. Please, if you have any ideas or suggestions, I'd be most grateful. Thank you

abig5ail Young, lost, confused and hopeless in a pandemic
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Hey gang, Welcome to my first post. Since the pandemic started it has just heightened everything that I was brushing under the rug in my life. I completed my University degree last year and completed my placements in big Melbourne hospitals and then ... View more

Hey gang, Welcome to my first post. Since the pandemic started it has just heightened everything that I was brushing under the rug in my life. I completed my University degree last year and completed my placements in big Melbourne hospitals and then I would return back to my essential job to be abused by the public. I hate my job and the degree I studied but I am just so burnt out that I have no ambition to do anything with my life. I struggle to just do basic things like eating, showering and brushing my hair. Growing up I was really creative, bubbly, out going and ambitious, which I still have those qualities, but for years I have just felt this dullness over me. It doesn't matter how good of a day I am having or how much I am enjoying the company around me, I still have this dullness. I honestly thought those feelings were just a sense that I was growing up and that it was normal or maybe it is because of the pandemic. Growing up I always felt off with my mental health and though it was depression. I would reach out but I was always put down and told I was "asking for attention" or "doctor shopping". So I have always found it difficult to ask for help. I struggled in school so I thought maybe I could have a learning disability and it wasn't until a couple of years ago (when I was nineteen) that my parents thought the same thing but "couldn't be bothered" getting my tested. All I know is that the only thing that brings me joy and certainty in my life is my boyfriend and my dog, but sometimes I don't know if that is enough.

Mokoloko Ugly
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Hello, this is my first time sharing on this forum. I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression in March of this year. Prior to this diagnosis, I thought of myself as a very strong woman, both physically and mentally. Being indigenous of New Z... View more

Hello, this is my first time sharing on this forum. I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression in March of this year. Prior to this diagnosis, I thought of myself as a very strong woman, both physically and mentally. Being indigenous of New Zealand, the woman carry themselves with so much strength and considered the back bone to there family and community. I worked for an organisation for 10.6 years in the community sector, working with young people in care.. I loved my job so much. In Oct of 2019, we had a new House manager that started with us. Cut a long story short, from Oct 2019 to March 2021, I was subjected to work place bullying. For the 10+ years working with young people of complex behaviour and high needs, I coped with the constant verbal abuse and the behaviours, because I loved what I did and built a great rapport with all young people I worked with. Our new house manager, I felt, broke me in every way through her work place bullying, not just me, other workers and our clients. As a Maori woman, who are bought up to be strong, I felt weak at the hands of this woman. I worked with anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts from my clients. I had empathy for there mental state of mind. I thought I had some understanding of what they were going through, and I did,until I ended up in a similar situation to them. I have sought help through my GP, who I have a close relationship with, I was on work cover for 3 months, my organisation cancelled that and througout this, I finally resigned from my job. I started drinking alot, even went back on having a joint once and a while, so I can sleep. I have lost a lot of weight during this time. Wearing my 11 year old grandaughters clothes and finding it very difficult putting weight back on. I understand I need to eat for me to put weight on, I feel like a n unintentional anorexic. I also have social anxiety, I will only leave home if necessary and I was a very socially person. I have had suicidal thoughts as I hate how I'm feeling. I have a house full of people living with me, but still feel lonely, I have next to no confidance anymore, believing I am ugly. I no longer have access to a psychologis, due to being cut off from work cover and I can't afford one. I am now on centrelink payments, which has taken from me my self worth. I feel so exhausted from all these ugly feelings and I'm so tired of feeling tired.