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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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idkwho i have no idea how this words
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hiii guys, im new here. i have literally no idea how this works but i remember a few years back we have some beyond blue volunteers talk at my school... and i realised maybe this would be a good volunteer thing to have written down. i heard this is a... View more

hiii guys, im new here. i have literally no idea how this works but i remember a few years back we have some beyond blue volunteers talk at my school... and i realised maybe this would be a good volunteer thing to have written down. i heard this is a safe space to just talk? i need some of that too, it gets a little tiring being the therapist friend when you're the one who needs therapy too lmfao. but yeah, this is all for my first post!

OldHeadNZ How to Navigate the Melbourne Mental Health System for Support
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Hi Errbody, I'm currently going through a manic episode (diagnosed with bi-polar last episode). I was living along St Kilda Road in the City last time. I am now living out in the Western Suburbs. This episode, I have documented all my interactions. P... View more

Hi Errbody, I'm currently going through a manic episode (diagnosed with bi-polar last episode). I was living along St Kilda Road in the City last time. I am now living out in the Western Suburbs. This episode, I have documented all my interactions. Phone calls, texts, in-person conversations with Nurses/Doctors. I'm not sure If I'm allowed to be recording all these people without their permission, so please let me know if I should delete all this footage. It's kind of hard to focus on one task at the moment. But if there are people out there that are interested, please let me know.

LPW_ Anxious about the covid-19 vaccine
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Hello, i am anxious about getting the vaccine (I have PTSD and Anxiety with phobias), i also have many auto immune conditions. In the past i have reacted badly to the flu vaccine and really don't want to get the covid-19 vaccine. I feel like i am bei... View more

Hello, i am anxious about getting the vaccine (I have PTSD and Anxiety with phobias), i also have many auto immune conditions. In the past i have reacted badly to the flu vaccine and really don't want to get the covid-19 vaccine. I feel like i am being pressured into getting by businesses saying they wont let you in if you aren't vaccinated, also media is constantly talking about it it seems that all that is being talked about is the vaccine. I want to get a medical exemption but can't find anyone in South Australia that will give me one. My anxiety is off the scale at the moment i am not sleeping, i am afraid to go outside, my stomach is constantly sore with the worry. I am looking for help please.

Too_many_narcissists Narcissistic abuse
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Hi All Just realised the man I divorced 4 yrs ago was a covert Narcissist. That means I suffered gas lighting, hoovering, passive aggression and Narcissistic rage. Does any one else identify ?

Hi All Just realised the man I divorced 4 yrs ago was a covert Narcissist. That means I suffered gas lighting, hoovering, passive aggression and Narcissistic rage. Does any one else identify ?

Athenry Work anxiety
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I have a pretty stressful full time job, and a busy life with two little kids. I enjoy my job, it’s one that a lot of people would love to have. I feel like I’ve become a bit bitter towards some people I work with because my journey to get this role ... View more

I have a pretty stressful full time job, and a busy life with two little kids. I enjoy my job, it’s one that a lot of people would love to have. I feel like I’ve become a bit bitter towards some people I work with because my journey to get this role has been much harder than theirs, my experience is above theirs, and they’ve just been able to waltz in and have been given the same role as me, after I was kind of in charge of operations unofficially for six months. I get that I was overworked and had too much on my plate, so now my tasks can be shared out, but it feels to me that there’s no acknowledgement that I decided XYZ needed doing and did it. Now there are so many opinions on everything, all we seem to do is waste time in meetings and it feels like my opinions aren’t ,being listened to as much. This has made me so frustrated because there’s actual work to be done and it gets confusing when everyone weighs in on everything. I think I made a mistake in confiding in a colleague about how I’m feeling and yesterday in my end of year conversation with my boss she said a couple of things that made me suspect this colleague has told her what I’ve said. I mean, I got a glowing report but I can’t shake this feeling that she knows I’m miserable and angry about a few things and it’s bringing out the worst in me. I didn’t say anything really nasty to this colleague that would get me in trouble, just a lot of venting that would make me seem like a total princess who doesn’t play nicely with others. Heck, this post probably makes me sound like a princess. This behaviour isn’t like me and I constantly feel now that everyone is rolling their eyes in my direction. anyway… so today is my day off and I’ve been unable to stop fretting about it since yesterday. Feel so crappy. Worst bit is there’s a chance I’m being completely paranoid and none of this is even happening but I can’t shake this feeling and I’m hating myself for venting to that colleague and now I don’t know if I can trust her or not.

Scapegoated Hi Just got out of the hospital, and trying to deal with being locked in with a Narcissist
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Being trapped with my mother is what landed me in the hospital. I cannot stand the way she devalues people. No one has any value unless they are "pretty." She never can laugh with me about things unless it is to put someone else down. I don't find th... View more

Being trapped with my mother is what landed me in the hospital. I cannot stand the way she devalues people. No one has any value unless they are "pretty." She never can laugh with me about things unless it is to put someone else down. I don't find that fun; I find it really depressing because she does that and did that to me my whole life. I don't think I am going to survive another lockdown. I have to go to school and my friends' houses and get away from her. So, I guess what I am asking people is to give me some ideas on how to have fun by myself in my room. I love to write. I like to create characters who are funny& nice. I VALUE them and they aren't pretty. It makes me feel good to read my stories so I guess I can do that but sometimes my body dysmorphia literally gets in the way of that. WHat it is, is obsessing , having intrusive negative thoughts that you can't seem to get away from about how you look. They loop around and around in my head-and i am not vain at all-it is just the opposite. People who have this are attractive but we think we look like monsters. It would be funny if it weren't so painful because i look back on what I thought when I was six and it was so far from reality it actually is funny but the disorder isn't. It falls on the OCD spectrum and it is Very distressing. I have to be honest with everyone here-I am not okay with the fights going on about Covid-19 and i know how psychopathic people can be because of my mother and I know that people in power are just like her and this is extremely stressful. ignorance is bliss I suppose if I did not have a sociopath for a mother i wouldn't know what those in power in the world are capable of. People like my mother have no conscience. She cannot FEEL anything for me. She does not FEEL anything for the people she laughs at and mocks. It is a terrifying time with these mask mandates, social distancing etc. I'd prefer to get the virus seriously. This was the first time I ever did anything bad and ended up in ICU. I need to find a way to make my world happy even though she is outside. So here is what I have done so far. I asked my father if i could sign up for a yoga teacher training-I thought this would force me to exercise and help me relax. he said he would think about it so in the meantime i have signed up for a free 7 day trial what do you think? I am going to write a new character after I complete this post to cheer me up too. any ideas are welcome. Thanks.

A_tired_person Hello everyone.
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Hey everyone, new user here. Still currently in school and dealing with anxiety and autism. I'm currently sort of OK right now, but i'm probably going to post a few times on here. Thanks for taking the time to read this, i don't really know what else... View more

Hey everyone, new user here. Still currently in school and dealing with anxiety and autism. I'm currently sort of OK right now, but i'm probably going to post a few times on here. Thanks for taking the time to read this, i don't really know what else to put here.

Mostapha Hi. New here. Thank you 🥰
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Hi everyone how are you? I was just searching on Google about psych wards and I found this beyondblue forum. So thought I would introduce myself and get to reading. I've been admitt into hospital in my entire life around about 12 times. I have schitz... View more

Hi everyone how are you? I was just searching on Google about psych wards and I found this beyondblue forum. So thought I would introduce myself and get to reading. I've been admitt into hospital in my entire life around about 12 times. I have schitzophrenia. I'm on the psych ward now I had to get a negative covid test and isolate in one side of the ward for a day then they moved me to the other side. I've been suicidal before and I have attempted it once. But my life isn't as bad as I think it is. I think very negatively and put myself down a lot. I'm in a relationship with a family friend of my mum's sister. And she is in Morocco. I need to get over there to get married to her and get her a visa application. All the best I would appreciate any advice on how to be happier these days. Thanks.

BlueyRed too much nervous energy
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I'm currently 6 days into 14-day mandatory quarantine. I'm fully vaxxed and have tested negative three times already. I'm so full of nervous energy I can't sleep. My current way of sleeping is staying up until my body crashes and I just sleep wheneve... View more

I'm currently 6 days into 14-day mandatory quarantine. I'm fully vaxxed and have tested negative three times already. I'm so full of nervous energy I can't sleep. My current way of sleeping is staying up until my body crashes and I just sleep whenever that happens. My hands are constantly shaking and nothing works. Not baths, not tea, not meditation, not deep breathing. I've run in circles around my house, I've worked out with resistance bands, I've even done yoga daily. I've used everything my psych has told me for anxiety. They worked in the past, but not now. I don't know what to do. I have this constant pressure and energy in my chest. I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm looking for literally any help right now.

Sea_Eagle_2021 Hi All Sea Eagle here
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Hi just joined the Website. I suffer from depression and it seems to be cyclic , as in i am on top of the world on week and then won't leave my bedroom the next week, i was on medication and seriously thinking about getting back on to it. I am anxiou... View more

Hi just joined the Website. I suffer from depression and it seems to be cyclic , as in i am on top of the world on week and then won't leave my bedroom the next week, i was on medication and seriously thinking about getting back on to it. I am anxious when i hear my phone ding with a text message . I am fearing a text from my Ex wife who has given me hell over the years. or fearing that something has happen to my rental property , where previous tennants have treated my house like a dump . Little things set me off to depression. I have a loving partner but i find difficulties in making friends and feel very anxious around potential friends . And also i get this feeling of being small and invisible when my partner is talking to one of her friends . its a hatered feeling toward my partner that i am getting ignored , when i understand that is is not her fault at all.