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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Blue_Dog Finding the courage to speak out
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My name is Kat and it is my first time to this forum. I am not good at talking face to face about my disorder to anyone as it is too overwhelming to be summed up in a few words, not to mention impossible to explain to someone when you don't fully und... View more

My name is Kat and it is my first time to this forum. I am not good at talking face to face about my disorder to anyone as it is too overwhelming to be summed up in a few words, not to mention impossible to explain to someone when you don't fully understand it yourself. I have suffered depression/anxiety for many years, but have just lately started on a real downward spiral and feeling at a total loss, so while introducing myself to the members here, I would also like to thank you all for being brave enough to speak out as you have so people like me can read here, feel a little less alone. I will hopefully find the courage (and the words) to contribute to this forum soon, but until I do, just reading has been a big help, so thank you.

JCogz Hello and Hi
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Hi there. Today marks an important day for me. After having one of the Beyond Blue volunteers come to my workplace yesterday to speak on his journey, I walked out of the presentation and realised I needed help. Interestingly enough, I've been down th... View more

Hi there. Today marks an important day for me. After having one of the Beyond Blue volunteers come to my workplace yesterday to speak on his journey, I walked out of the presentation and realised I needed help. Interestingly enough, I've been down this path before. I've had my mental health plan, visits to the GP, psychologists sessions and have even tried medication. In the end, I ditched the medication and made a major lifestyle change, including a new job. Things still aren't 'perfect' and over the last month or so, I've realised I still have a while to go before I can manage my anxiety and depression and hopefully rid myself of that gut wrenching feeling on a daily basis. I'm looking forward to my psychologist session tomorrow. The thought of talking about everything, already makes me feel better. I know its a step in the right direction.

Julchen Mature thinker joins the crowd
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Hello! With a lifetime of experiences I hope to be of use in these forums and also get some help myself. I am a single female of 63 years of age and was forced out of my job as Nursing Assistant through a work-related accident 5 years ago with still ... View more

Hello! With a lifetime of experiences I hope to be of use in these forums and also get some help myself. I am a single female of 63 years of age and was forced out of my job as Nursing Assistant through a work-related accident 5 years ago with still 1 1/2 years to go now until retirement. There are lots of ups and downs in coping with my situation, sometimes the loneliness gets to me, the financial worries and the unfairness of all (not much hope of finding a job when 60 or older). Unfortunately I live semi-rural and transport is often a problem as I am aware of social activities etc. that would help. My Volunteer work with a group in a Nature Reserve maintaining the area, counting Koalas and the morning tee is a welcome change every week. I am computer literate, like browsing and discovering things on the net. I am hoping to find other ways through these forums to "tackle" the increasing stress and perhaps anxiety that keeps building up.

LawrieM A Greying ol' Wombat has entered the fray
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Hi. Funnily enough, the title was the easy bit. According to the test I took a few hours ago, I am a fair weather traveller with regards to depression, Anxiety and anger, and low for alcohol and drugs, which is good to know. (Smoking doesn't count in... View more

Hi. Funnily enough, the title was the easy bit. According to the test I took a few hours ago, I am a fair weather traveller with regards to depression, Anxiety and anger, and low for alcohol and drugs, which is good to know. (Smoking doesn't count in this case LOL) I know that I am not alone in these and that others are in higher strata, and yes I am still trying to put into words what exactly it is that is/are the causal reasons. Long-term employment, financial stress, home stress (as in I rent and the unit is again for sale and well, the rent is now a pain on a fortnightly basis, but as a loner I don't want to share) and that is probably another part of my 'problem'; I actually LIKE my loner status. It is a freedom but at the same time I am realising that it is also a contributing factor. I am also a (sort of) creature of habit, which means I can be bright and chirpy when dealing with folks I know, and withdraw into my shell as soon as the door is locked behind me. I do volunteer work 3 days a week to keep DSS/Cenrelink/Human Resources happy and yes, I like it and the folks I meet and deal with there, but when I am in a funk (couldn't give a stuff about anything/too lazy to get into even my online game and it is not one of those Facebook thingies) I know that something somewhere is wrong. Besides that, I am your normal Aussie male (as one of the lasses described me one day at the Volunteer place). Love the Rabbitohs, Swannies, Sydney uni or Randwick (depends on who's doing best LOL), the Green and Gold (all four), also Green Bay Packers (curse you Denver). Balding, loss of muscle tone.. you know, all the things ya gets once ya hits 60. I'll probably add stuff as I go on, but methinks that'll do for now.

Goanna hi im new to this site, my feelings have brought me here.
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hi there. i am currently going through some depression. i decided to go on this site to speak to people with similar experiences. i am hoping to learn how to deal with things better. i have been dealing with depression on and off for 26 years, and st... View more

hi there. i am currently going through some depression. i decided to go on this site to speak to people with similar experiences. i am hoping to learn how to deal with things better. i have been dealing with depression on and off for 26 years, and still have no magical cure lol would love to hear from anyone who has some good advice on how to deal with getting upset with family, friends, and work-mates when they let you down. also interested to hear from anyone who has kicked a poker machine habit and how you did it. look forward to hearing from you

Kelly_bee Hi
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Hi, my name is Kelly and I have been suffering from depression for nearly 20 years of my life. The older I'm getting and the experiences in life I am facing I'm finding that my depression is getting worse. Today I found this site and thought I'd turn... View more

Hi, my name is Kelly and I have been suffering from depression for nearly 20 years of my life. The older I'm getting and the experiences in life I am facing I'm finding that my depression is getting worse. Today I found this site and thought I'd turn to here to see if this will help me. I feel like no matter what I do to help myself that I'm still struggling and drowning in how I feel. I'm not sure what it is that can really help.

Sweetpea3 New to Beyond Blue
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Hi, I just moved to the Newcastle area of NSW after living in Coffs Harbour for 3 years (originally from Syd). Don't know anybody here, living in Dept Housing unit (stuck inside these 4 walls) and family are in Sydney. Strained relationships in our f... View more

Hi, I just moved to the Newcastle area of NSW after living in Coffs Harbour for 3 years (originally from Syd). Don't know anybody here, living in Dept Housing unit (stuck inside these 4 walls) and family are in Sydney. Strained relationships in our family, particularly with my one and only adult daughter who lives in Sydney. I feel socially isolated, very lonely and miserable, forgotten and lack self esteem. I've been going to bed at 2 am and sleeping till 10 am as I have nothing to do nor look forward to every day except try to think up things to do ... alone. I need to reach out to others, but feel like I'm different, not upbeat or the life of the party .. even my family don't have any time for me. Been here 3 months and only one visit. They know I have major depression but I am an afterthought to them. Its very painful. I've been out of the workforce since my Mum died in 2007 - I was her Carer. I'm fed up with applying for jobs and getting no response. Feeling really crappy today and in need of someone to care and really need a hug!!!

Viper Hello peeps
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Hey new to this forum hoping I can find some people I can relate to with anxiety so on .... Been getting anxiety attacks off and on for a year now or so didn't ever think would happen to me I live a pretty great life with things most people could wan... View more

Hey new to this forum hoping I can find some people I can relate to with anxiety so on .... Been getting anxiety attacks off and on for a year now or so didn't ever think would happen to me I live a pretty great life with things most people could want or dream of I am aprechtive of life and my spoils... Only to find myself not being able to breath shaking scared of traffic and even really exciting holidays and other things.. I was a guy with no limits no cares in the world sometimes I wanna punch on with the anxiety someone who was so strong to even say to his own friends nah anxiety is just in your head its all going to be ok to now no how it is... Really stuck in life at the best parts I should be enjoying not scared to get into a car and drive and hour or convince myself I am sick to make myself nearly sick arghhhh positive note I have learned to manage things better breathing especially sleeping and being out doors but for some reason just creeps up on me at times or my mind is always making the story before it happens filling it with the worse case to happen that never does anyway hope I can share my tricks i learned here to others to help if I can that's my story so far viper