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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Marty89 Hard to breath anxiety
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Hi everyone I'm new to this and not sure where to start but here it goes. I'm a 30 year old man that has been suffering anxiety (mostly by myself without telling anyone) for honestly my entire adulthood. I have had all types of symptoms over the year... View more

Hi everyone I'm new to this and not sure where to start but here it goes. I'm a 30 year old man that has been suffering anxiety (mostly by myself without telling anyone) for honestly my entire adulthood. I have had all types of symptoms over the years such as feeling uneasy and on edge to full blown panic attacks, disassociation etc.. I can manage most of them but my worst is when I struggle to breath.. well feel like I constantly need to take a deep breath and always concentrate on my breathing it's so debilitating, I had it pretty bad around 6 or 7 years ago and took myself to ED thinking I was dying, which they found nothing wrong after several tests and sent me home. The last week or so I'm having the same breathless feeling/ conscious of every breath and it's really upsetting me. I work in a hospital and always find time to put a sats prob on my finger to see if my oxygen is ok it's ridiculous. Is anyone else suffering/has suffered with this horrible feeling and is there anything you have done that has helped you through it? Thank you!

MotoGPFan New Member. Introduction.
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Hello all, Been reading through your Forum and you all seem like a great bunch. Never been a big fan of opening up, nor 'bothering' others with my issues, though I think this is probably the right time. 28 year old Male. Happy, loving guy. Have had a... View more

Hello all, Been reading through your Forum and you all seem like a great bunch. Never been a big fan of opening up, nor 'bothering' others with my issues, though I think this is probably the right time. 28 year old Male. Happy, loving guy. Have had a more than excellent life so far, great friends, perfect family, awesome adventures. Although 2.5 months ago I had my first ever panic attack come out of no where, which was followed by another 2 weeks later whilst driving. I had been living overseas for on and off 4 years travelling, having the time of my life, meeting the love of my life. (Whom which I have just recently bought an engagement ring for) I've always been a bit of a worrier, but this has NEVER stopped me doing anything, nor have I thought of it anymore than just good old natural worries. These past 2 months with Anxiety have been pretty debilitating. I can't drive a car by myself, and am not totally 100% when driving with someone. Public places are a struggle. Just basic activities that I'd do without thinking, have now become a total struggle. I've been home for 1 month now. The whole thing is frustrating me more than anything. I want to get on with what plans I had 2.5 months ago. I still can't work up the courage to apply for jobs, seeing as though I'm not comfortable in any situation bar a familiar one, nor can I drive. I've had one session with a counselor though I'm not sure if I click with this one. I understand that they have a difficult job, though I feel as though they are focusing on something that I feel isn't, and has never been an issue or a worry for me; my future. Not after any answers. Just thought I'd put the feelers out and say hello. To be honest, I've never even thought of mental health, not once. Not in a good, nor bad way, just never crossed my mind. Boy has this perception changed. Thanks a tone for listening, and I wish everyone else the best!

DominiqueM I'm new and I can't get out of bed
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It's a bit longer than I intended, but here it is... Hi, I'm new to Beyond Blue, and so grateful that I can participate. I have been living with a mish mash of depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder for 20 years, though I wasn't diagnosed for the firs... View more

It's a bit longer than I intended, but here it is... Hi, I'm new to Beyond Blue, and so grateful that I can participate. I have been living with a mish mash of depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder for 20 years, though I wasn't diagnosed for the first 10 years (Hindsight is a wonderful thing), I just thought I was going crazy and talking about it to anyone would make them see I'm crazy. I'm 10 years into therapy, medication, regular dr visits and I'm feeling worse today than ever. To be really honest if I was to go back further, I probably started having mental health issues in my late teens, I’m 55 now. I only leave the house for doctors and therapists appointments, I don't go shopping, to the movies, I make excuses not to attend social events, and it's so tough because I know once I can "get over" myself, I'll have a great time, because I love people, I love socialising, I just can't do it now. I'm now at the point where I can hardly get out of bed. Everything scares me. I'm so scared of everything that "might" happen I'm not able to enjoy the now moments. My biggest fear is death. I've had so much death of friends and parents in the past two years, topped up with losing my beautiful Dad last Christmas. I can't get my mind off it, sometimes it's all I can think about. My husband is an amazing support, and keeps reassuring me that it will pass, and it doesn't matter how long it takes (I wonder when did he get so wise). Today I got up, made the bed, dressed (no shower) went down to the kitchen, emptied the dishwasher and reloaded it, and now I'm back on my bed, feeling like the walls are closing in, but I can't find my way out. I take medications, though they made me fat, which doesn't improve my mood. I'm stuck.I cry. I think too much. I’m overwhelmed with life.What next I often think? How can I move forward if I can’t even get of the bed?

The_Sports_Guy Difficulty concentrating, focussing and feeling foggy
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Hi all, Last year I was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Thankfully, I am now almost 12 months in remission and back working and living a pretty normal life. I often have flashbacks of difficult conversations with specialists, flashbacks on... View more

Hi all, Last year I was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Thankfully, I am now almost 12 months in remission and back working and living a pretty normal life. I often have flashbacks of difficult conversations with specialists, flashbacks on being in hospital and feel emotionally exhausted with what I've gone through over the last 18 months. The most challenging and difficult part of this now is having trouble concentrating, focussing and feeling foggy which makes work and everyday life activities extremely difficult. I feel like I'm 'not really there'. I feel like no body fully understands what I am experiencing, which makes me feel a little lost and helpless. I have wonderful support from friends and family, and a fiance - but strangely enough, I still feel like I am battling this alone.

Sonnenblume Functioning with anxiety
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Hello, I can see there is a lot of young people struggling. I'm 47 and had anxiety and depression all my life, no one called it that, I was a "sensitive, shy" child. I've been to the place of "it's just not worth it", and what am I hear for. This wor... View more

Hello, I can see there is a lot of young people struggling. I'm 47 and had anxiety and depression all my life, no one called it that, I was a "sensitive, shy" child. I've been to the place of "it's just not worth it", and what am I hear for. This world isn't for me, I don't fit, cause I am just so different to most people. Thing is everyone here is similar to me, you aren't alone, and who cares if you don't fit. Don't get me wrong, every day I have to get over my fear, pack my lunch bag and go to work. I've worked since I was 15. These days you guys can take a mental health day, if you need it. I want to hide, people are awful and I wish I wouldn't have to face them every day but I need to live, pay my mortgage and put food on the table. I'm a functional anxietist. If you ask yourself what your purpose in life is, don't look at your friends and those huge dreams, look at the day to day stuff, the little things, cause those little things, really do make big things grow. I realised that what I wanted was a house, some land, a horse, dogs, not too far from the ocean and enough money to not struggle. I have all that. Please realise, even with medication you will be dealing with this ALL your life. You have great days and then there are the really black ones, but you come out of it, maybe not stronger, but wiser, with new ways of dealing with it, or the realisation that you can deal with those days. Suicide isn't the answer, it is an easy way out for you, but your actions will destroy the people close to you, no matter how few there are. I've seen it, I've experienced it, it's not a solution. I've seen counsellors and I've taken medication, I've grown and I understand my parents now and why they did what they did. It's easy to "blame" others for how you may be, but we do have to take responsibility and make peace. Making peace is the most important thing. "Fighting" this isn't the answer, accepting it and working with it as best as you can, is the only way. Seek help, got to the gym, go for a walk every day. You do have to put the hard work in, it's not easy, nothing ever is, I don't know how I do it most days and most days I don't want to,but I do. Try to not listen to the negative people, try not to care what others think of you. Don't use your condition as a reason to not try, EVERYONE has their demons. Learn to live with them. Chin up, smile, let the sun shine on you and become that functioning person, that tries to make a good day for themselves every day.

JWB Feeling lost, but no idea why.
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To anybody looking in I have a relatively good life. A roof over my head, a decent job and I am in good health, I have friends and family who love me. But for as long as I can remember now that I know what it is, I have been depressed, anxious and st... View more

To anybody looking in I have a relatively good life. A roof over my head, a decent job and I am in good health, I have friends and family who love me. But for as long as I can remember now that I know what it is, I have been depressed, anxious and stressed. I’ve always felt guilty about it because I feel like I have no good reason to feel the way I do, and think there is always someone worse off. In recent years it has gotten worse, to the point where I no longer know how to manage it. I have been seeking the help of a councillor, making sure I socialise with family and friends, exercise and eat right. I play social sport and do yoga every week. And recently have gotten a second job in a field I am truly passionate about. I feel that I am taking all the right steps, or at least trying to take them to achieve my goals and keep me distracted. But I feel it’s all just that, a distraction. Even on my best days I still find myself wondering what it’s all for and why. On my worst days these thoughts turn a lot more sinister. I am just so tired and exhausted from constantly feeling like I don’t belong here, in this life, but trying to hide it and act “normal”. Even as I write this I can’t shake the guilt I feel knowing that I really don’t have it bad. So why do I feel this way? I don’t really know what I even hope to achieve from writing here, I am just so lost.

Leets Finally worked out how to post!!!
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HELP!!!! I don't know where to start I don't know what has caused my anxiety exactly I just want it to go away I'm sick of feeling like the worst is going to happen or the worst is happening to me!!! I have a really great life my husband is awesome w... View more

HELP!!!! I don't know where to start I don't know what has caused my anxiety exactly I just want it to go away I'm sick of feeling like the worst is going to happen or the worst is happening to me!!! I have a really great life my husband is awesome we have two beautiful healthy children we have a succeful business which we got handed to us I feel like I'm bragging but I'm not. I didn't have the best child hood actually it was one of those really crap ones and even through my younger years I was always the mum to my siblings which there are 6 of us all together I'm the oldest. I also have another three which are on my fathers side which I'm also the oldest of and they are really normal to an extent as in they have never needed to be so dependant on me the others I have stopped doing it with and I am actually good with the decision I have made. One of my sisters suffers from a mental illness where she has delusions that she has made up in her own head and believes it is real when they are not, she has two children and thinks there is nothing wrong with her. I am now at the stage where I think I have sleeping problems which I don't because I have always been a night owl and have always had irregular sleep patterns. Before kids I worked nights in a pub then after kids it was just typical mum sleep. I could go on but I won't, I'm just over feeling like this....

Rock-Me-Hard_Place Newbie, looking for support and willing to give some.
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Hi all .. as the title suggests. Firstly, thanks to BB for being here. I've phoned before, but sometimes writing thoughts, and feelings, are better than words. Not wanting to bore you with "all" that grieves me, I would rather just say at this point ... View more

Hi all .. as the title suggests. Firstly, thanks to BB for being here. I've phoned before, but sometimes writing thoughts, and feelings, are better than words. Not wanting to bore you with "all" that grieves me, I would rather just say at this point is that I need some support with some issues that BB deals with. I suffer from anxiety, badly (to the point of being carted off to hospital by Ambulance a few times), taking medication in the mornings seems to settle it, and I self medicate after work with alcohol. (Yeah, I know) This affliction, the anxiety, is affecting my home life, which makes me sad. I am seeing a psychologist, randomly (due to work and a few other issues) which isn't really helping (the Psych visits that is) in any way, bar, making me delve into my mind and memory for triggers. But this thing seems to be a monster that just rears itself, at almost any given time and circumstance. The only time I seem to be able to hide from it is in solitude. In fact, solitude is where I seem happiest at the moment. When I mentioned the idea of taking some "me time" the Psych said it would be interesting to see if anything changed. I shipped my motorbike (my other affliction) overseas, took some long service leave and picked up my bike overseas and rented a small apartment by my myself for 10 days. Those 10 days were bliss. No work, doing what I wanted, when I wanted and exploring parts of the world I'd never been before on my motorbike. No need to please anyone but myself ........ selfish? Maybe. I then met up with some mates, and spent a couple of weeks with them, partially in solitude, as we rode motorcycles around Europe together. But returning to reality, and the daily routine, has hit with a blow and I want to run from both. I hear the monster coming back again.

Panda912 Daily struggles of mental illness
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Hello, I'm 27 and have been suffering from anxiety and depression for most of my life but the last 4 years have been the worst. I also have some level of PTSD from childhood trauma. I have seen psychologists and psychiatrists. I am medicated however ... View more

Hello, I'm 27 and have been suffering from anxiety and depression for most of my life but the last 4 years have been the worst. I also have some level of PTSD from childhood trauma. I have seen psychologists and psychiatrists. I am medicated however still struggle daily. I can barely work, I'm antisocial and indifferent. (I used to be bubbly) My whole body hurts, headaches, back pain, leg aches etc. My medication isn't controlling my symptoms, and I have tried many types. Constant symptoms daily are too much to handle. I need help or guidance on how to improve my quality of life.

Lozz__ Want to get better but not sure how!
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Hi all! I am a frequent reader of These forums and struggling a bit at the moment so thought I would reach out. I am a third year uni student who has a wonderful family, great home and loves what she studies. And yet for some reason I struggle to go ... View more

Hi all! I am a frequent reader of These forums and struggling a bit at the moment so thought I would reach out. I am a third year uni student who has a wonderful family, great home and loves what she studies. And yet for some reason I struggle to go on. I have had depression and anxiety for the past few years and it always gets worse when I’m studying. There is a lot of pressure to do well and get a job at the end of this, so it is hard to not judge myself or feel guilty when I can’t study. But my brain won’t let me!! I’m a chronic over thinker, and always end up spiralling pretty quickly once I begin to doubt myself. There is a history of mental illness in my family, and I have been on anti-depressants for years. I’ve recently started seeing a new psychologist because I know CBT doesn’t work for me and I genuinely want to get better! We are working on some mindfulness and ACT but it’s hard to remember to do the practice or to actually want to do them. I am cynical and judgemental, but only towards myself. I am always feeling so guilty and ashamed when I freak out and end up just having a guilty nap to calm down, which works but then I feel like I’ve wasted time. I know I am sick and need to have self-compassion towards myself, but I can’t help feeling that in the real world life doesn’t just stop when you get sick. I can’t see any way through this but just to suck it up and push through. I am waiting for my life to have meaning so it doesn’t feel like I am just going through the motions. I have identified one of my problems being that I am driven by approaching life as a to do list. That means I finish my essay tick, get to uni tick, eat lunch tick, go for a run tick, do a meditation tick- so I’m not really getting what I want out of these actions, just getting through them! i just want to know if anyone has some suggestions for self compassion and how to stop living my life like a to do list and try to actually enjoy something/be in the moment every once in a while! i hope you all are doing well and that someone can sympathise, in the past reading these threads and seeing someone felt just like me and got though it really helped! sorry this is long, lauren :))