Hi, I can't summarize this situation if I tried, but I have attempted to
condense it as much as possible (13 posts...lol) My ex-girlfriend of
4.5yrs (who I will call Sara) a 27y/o from NSW, Australia has been
successfully groomed by an online sexual ...
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Hi, I can't summarize this situation if I tried, but I have attempted to
condense it as much as possible (13 posts...lol) My ex-girlfriend of
4.5yrs (who I will call Sara) a 27y/o from NSW, Australia has been
successfully groomed by an online sexual predator (21y/o from Laredo,
TX) that she has never met last year, and his abuse continues. (I will
call him Miguel), and I need help stopping it. I was (un)fortunate
enough to have experience with almost exactly this scenario before
before with some female friends about 13yrs ago, so immediately saw all
the red flags and identified what was going on after the break-up,
otherwise I would have up and left her the moment she broke up with me
(as a result of his influence), and viewed the whole thing as "she
monkey branched, she cheated, she's a horrible person, don't look back",
I am staying and fighting because the women I knew who suffered at their
hands of online predation engaged in suicidal behaviours...1 died by
suicide, the other lived to tell the tale, in great detail. I hoped I
would never have to have that experience...but here I am, in the midst
of it. He groomed her over a 2 month period, caused her to 'break up'
with our mutual friends, and mistreat her family. Her poor behavior
created a divide between her and I, and since she had no friends, she
went to him, and he manufactured a break-up (which I've since found out
she WASN'T wanting to do, but did it because at the time, she was
angry), then immediately (within 3 days...possibly less) told her he
loved her and started love-bombing her, and isolating her from everyone,
right as we had JUST moved into a house on our own that her parents
owned after living together at her parents place for the last 2.5yrs in
a DLUG that we renovated. 9 days after the breakup, she questioned his
intentions in a really naive and silly way (I snooped messaged to find
out what I was dealing with, I had never snooped in my life),
effectively telling him that she wishes she didn't care what people said
about him, but she does, and is hoping he will clear up her doubts,
before asking him if he is manipulating her (doh!). 2 days after that,
he sexualized their relationship online. I lived with her for 2 months
in the new house, it was hell. Whenever we got close, he told her things
like "Be careful of yourself around him" and "You had a moment of
weakness". He would match her hours of sleep, or cut his sleep so he
could be with her more (almost 24/7), and hoover her with love bombing.
MRI scan and inpatient treatment
