I've been seeing a psychologist for a couple of years for
anxiety/depression. Last year she said I had a lot of Asperger's
symptoms (autism spectrum disorder). I looked it up and I was a text
book case. She referred me to a specialist for a diagnosis...
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I've been seeing a psychologist for a couple of years for
anxiety/depression. Last year she said I had a lot of Asperger's
symptoms (autism spectrum disorder). I looked it up and I was a text
book case. She referred me to a specialist for a diagnosis and I was
formally diagnosed with ASD.I have continued to my psychologist monthly,
but she is now focused on "fixing" my perceptions. She sees my anxiety,
depression and confusion over my relationships with people as 100% my
misperception. This includes my increasing distress over her
increasingly dismissive attitude towards me. I have always been
"difficult" in that I get angry when I get hurt, but before the ASD
diagnosis she was empathetic, supportive and intuitive, which was
extremely helpful to me. I continue to be depressed and suicidal, but
her response is now mechanical, like a robot, straight out of the CBT
textbook. My main anxiety with all people is that I can never do the
right thing. Whatever I do and say I end up with people getting angry
with me. This is now happening with my psychologist. We were talking
about that today and she asked me today if I trusted her. I told her the
truth: "no". She got angry and asked why I had bothered to keep coming
back if I didn't trust her. I replied with the truth: "I keep hoping
things will go back to the way they were and I keep wanting to give you
another chance". This made things worse.I am beginning to think that
despite my best efforts to reconnect, she is unable to see me as the
"normal but depressed" person I was, and now sees me as someone who does
not have anxiety or depression (I still do) and only needs feedback
about how inaccurate my perceptions are. She sees me as being critical
of her, which is not my intent. However, not saying things in the
"right" way has always been my problem. Prior to my ASD diagnosis she
intuitively grasped the feelings and intent of what I said. Now she
argues about details and seems to be deliberately ignoring my hurt and
distress (although she states that this is my misperception, too).I've
tried to re-connect with her, but can't. Is it time to get a new
psychologist? It is very hard for me to trust and the loss of this sole
source of support will be huge, but is it hopeless after a year of
trying to reconnect? I now hate CBT, so how do I find a new therapist
who does not use CBT? The thought of CBT makes my skin
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