Hi,
I've been going out with my boyfriend who has depression for 7 months. He has been depressed for 10 years.
It's the first time that I met someone with depression, so I don't know how to manage the bad times.
Our relationship was great for the first 4 months. I understood that he doesn't like feelings/emotions and doesn't like talking about it, he doesn't really know what love is so he will not tell me he loves me. But I could see that he did have feelings for me at some stage, I could see it through little things.
After the 4 months, I was away for work for 5 weeks, and since things have changed a little bit. He is more distant and cold with me, his feelings seems to be gone. We talked about it yesterday and he said at the moment he don't want to see anybody, he just want to be alone.
He said that yes he had feelings for me few months ago, but that he can't manage feelings and emotions and it became too difficult for him. I imagine that's why things have changed since.
I would like to know what to do when he says that he doesn't want to see anybody, me included (not even text messages, nothing). Should I respect his choice and leave him alone or should I visit him/text him a little bit? Because I know he says that because he's very depressed at the moment
About his feelings issue, how can I manage that? Would he let his feelings come back and grow?
I'm a bit lost, I don't know what to do. Hearing all this has broken my heart. But I love him, he's a very nice person, I don't want to give up, I know it's because of his depression.
