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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Doolhof Happy Mother's Day 2020
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I wasn't sure where to post this, as "Mother's Day" could come under many different headings depending on what the day means for the individual. Corona Virus has added another twist to Mother's Day. This is an opportunity for people to express their ... View more

I wasn't sure where to post this, as "Mother's Day" could come under many different headings depending on what the day means for the individual. Corona Virus has added another twist to Mother's Day. This is an opportunity for people to express their feelings about Mother's Day. It may be a chance to send a greeting to a Mum who is no longer in your life, a message tot he Universe perhaps. You might have a fond memory of your Mum you would like to share, or of any female you have a close connection to like a Mother figure. For some it may be a time of grief and loss, either in relation to your Mum or to children who are no longer with you. For me, I will be phoning my Mum, going to work and will spend some time thinking of my babies in Heaven. I will remember fond moments with my Mum and memories of a very special lady "J" who was a gift of love in my life. I will recall happy moments with other people's children over the years and how precious those times were. I will be working, so I will try and make Mother's Day special for those I will be working for and with. For those who celebrate Mother's Day, I wish you a special day. May you be able to embrace and accept this year will be different but it can also be okay. Kind regards from Dools

Lilly18 Help for out of control anger
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Hit me with ANYTHING please that has helped you with being angry. My anger is not ok and its not 'normal' I have ruined furniture, I'm without a dining table + 8 chairs, holes in walls, chests of draws, dishes, ipads you name it. I could elaborate bu... View more

Hit me with ANYTHING please that has helped you with being angry. My anger is not ok and its not 'normal' I have ruined furniture, I'm without a dining table + 8 chairs, holes in walls, chests of draws, dishes, ipads you name it. I could elaborate but probly best I don't. I have seen psychologists, on antidepressant (have tried quite a few) and they honestly don't help. I can take an anit anxiety tablet but I don't like to feel sleepy especially when the kids are non stop. I think i know what sets me off, but there must be more behind it for it to be so bad. I'm at the end of the tether and I have said that so many times in lost count. Practicing Mindfullness, the deep breathing etc just doesnt work for me. I just can't sit down during the day to do a meditation app because I need a clean house before I could do something like that or maybe I just don't want to be still in my own head. What can I do? I'm at the end of my tether, I have lost count how many times iv said that I need help and don't know where or how Sorry this was only going to be short but eh

Ggrand Creative writing for Distraction..
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Share your imagination of fantasy, Magic or happy stories here, so others can enjoy Hi everyone, This is a thread I thought might be a helpful form of relaxing, for both writing your very own virtual fantasy peaceful escape from our busy lives..Maybe... View more

Share your imagination of fantasy, Magic or happy stories here, so others can enjoy Hi everyone, This is a thread I thought might be a helpful form of relaxing, for both writing your very own virtual fantasy peaceful escape from our busy lives..Maybe you just need to sit back, read and relax or maybe you want to go on your virtual fantasy escape and put it in here for other to read or join you... Please give it a go, you might find it a great distraction from negative thoughts, as I do..and others can escape with you. I started walking into the tunnel, looking around, the ceiling and sides were covered with tiny little bright pink,yellow and darkest blue tiniest flowers you could imagine, the ground was of the darkest, thickest, greenest grass, so soft I take my shoes off and feel the cool refreshing grass under my feet and between my toes, so relaxing as I continue walking towards the sun rays I can see up ahead...lol my feet are green from the softness and greenness of the grass. Out through the other end of the tunnel, I'm greeted by, a brilliant sky of orange, purple, and clouds of the deepest greyish red, a sun that's setting in the distance..I stand and take in the beauty of the sky, a feeling of serenity passes through me...Walking further ahead I come across the same thick carpet of lush cool green grass, feeling serene and grounded I continue until I come to a small waterfall, that falls into a crystal clear lake with tiny brightly coloured butterflies flying around, they are beckoning me to enter the lake. On entering the lakes crystal clear water I head towards the waterfall, there I sit in the water with the gentle waterfall cascading onto my head, down my back, the feeling of the water running down me is just pure relaxation, the water surrounding my body is so cool and refreshing yet peacefully relaxing..I stay there it's to good to move, then I see the Butterflies flying around me, dropping tiny little sachets into the water the water becomes bubbly, bubbles of lavender scent , as the waterfall hits the water the bubbles are multiplying so much that they start to tickle my skin..The scent of the bubbles begin to make me feel sleepy..relaxed.... My eyes lids are so heavy, they want to close, slowly they close, as they do a gentle breeze blows, and I can here the tranquil sounds of wind chimes in the background so peaceful so gentle the sound, the sounds fading deeper and deeper into the background..my body, my mind is relaxed beyond belief as I slowly drift off into a peaceful, tranquil,deep sleep.. Grandy.

Titine After some chats due to lonliness and trying to avoid self medicating with alcohol
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Hi ive never been on a forum before. A little bit unsure what to write. I thought id try and see if it could help by talking to other people who are possibly going through similar anxieties. Im in a difficult stage in life. I have had to deactivate a... View more

Hi ive never been on a forum before. A little bit unsure what to write. I thought id try and see if it could help by talking to other people who are possibly going through similar anxieties. Im in a difficult stage in life. I have had to deactivate all social media. Im not working and have had my licence suspended due to a seizure. Ive had to cut off most off my friends for various reasons. And now with the current added isolation, im really suffering. I live on my own in a tiny unit and feel panicy and anxious all the time. I feel trapped. Ive been fighting a battle on and off with alcohol, as its all i can think of to numb the pain. But it just makes things worse. Im trying to keep positive and get out for a walk each day but i still cant shake this horrible feeling and fear i have inside me. Thanks for listening

Travelbuddy Im new here Coronovirus Anxiety
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Hi, This is my first post. I have been coping quite well with the coronavirus situation up until the last couple of weeks. My husband and I are both retired in our mid to late 60's We have been virtually self isolating since mid March apart from supe... View more

Hi, This is my first post. I have been coping quite well with the coronavirus situation up until the last couple of weeks. My husband and I are both retired in our mid to late 60's We have been virtually self isolating since mid March apart from supermarket shopping and daily walks. My problem is that we have another family member who lives with us. They have to go to work but have started to go out socially too even staying at someone else's home for the night. And as restrictions are lifted I can only see this is going to get worse. I did explain this and was told I needed counselling and that they didn't think the same. Definitely not the reaction I expected. Such a difficult situation without causing arguments. So I've let it go now hoping they do the right thing. If it were just me and my husband in the house I'm sure I would be fine as I know exactly what we do but its the unknown I am struggling with. I wipe down door handles, light switches etc every day so doing as much as I can there. Keep my distance in the house. Even hoping just writing this all down helps!?! Wondering if anyone else is struggling with a similar situation?

miniature_tiger Looking for better ways to convince myself?
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Hi, I've been struggling with depression/anxiety for a number of years, but in the past year I've started to seek help, including antidepressants and journalling. I'm hoping to see a therapist once the lockdown eases a bit. My family does not know ab... View more

Hi, I've been struggling with depression/anxiety for a number of years, but in the past year I've started to seek help, including antidepressants and journalling. I'm hoping to see a therapist once the lockdown eases a bit. My family does not know about any of this, but they have seen changes in me and seem happy for it, which makes me happy, too. However, we still get into arguments from time to time- whenever they yell at me, I end up crying. I cry very easily when someone raises their voice, but I think they are convinced I am playing the victim to make them feel guilty. When I was younger, I was probably very prone to this, as I often had a pity-party rather than making any changes to my personality. Now that I am older and trying to fix the way I communicate with myself and others, I feel like I have grown past this, but I still cry when shouted at and I am prone to wallowing in sadness and blaming myself. I know I am on the path to self betterment, and I know that I am actively trying to change my thought patterns instead of telling myself I am a bad or unloveable person. However, I still feel like I am....pretending. I feel constantly like I am just a bad person who is perfomatively pretending to be good to gain sympathy. I know that actions are reality, and even if I'm only pretending to be good, if I do end up doing good, I will sort of be a good person? But I really hate feeling like I am pretending. I feel like I am manipulative. It upsets me that my parents still see me as this manipulative child, but sometimes I worry that they're really just the only people who are right about me and can see me for who I really am. I am looking for any suggestions on how to combat this feeling of pretending, or to convince myself I am not pretending, I am actually getting and doing better. However, I don't want to do that and actually just be deluding myself that I'm becoming more mature and emotionally stable. Do any of you feel the same way? How do you deal with it? Do you distract yourself from it, or is there a way of dealing with it head on? Thanks everyone for listening!

Lady_D Why Relax Social Distancing! We have aPROBLEM
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Two weeks ago we had 3 known cases of COVID 19 in my postcode. Now it’s SEVEN郎郎郎 Why are we relaxing the rules???郎郎郎

Two weeks ago we had 3 known cases of COVID 19 in my postcode. Now it’s SEVEN🤬🤬🤬 Why are we relaxing the rules???🤬🤬🤬

golden82 Cure worse than the disease...
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This may not be 'popular' but for several weeks now I am finding the cure to be worse than the disease. As an already isolated person living alone in a flat with no family and no true friends and with a long standing eating disorder and other mental ... View more

This may not be 'popular' but for several weeks now I am finding the cure to be worse than the disease. As an already isolated person living alone in a flat with no family and no true friends and with a long standing eating disorder and other mental health issues, I am really struggling to get through the days. When the Prime Minister and others talk about making the most of it and spending time at home playing puzzles with the family or having an Easter camp out in the backyard....not everyone has a family or even a backyard. This whole situation is highlighting for me just how very isolated and alone and unloved or cared for I actually am. And I am sure there are others out there doing it tough in this regard too. Whilst it is good the PM talks about checking on your elderly neighbours; it is not only the elderly - I am only 37yo but totally alone. I find I am not represented at all in this discussion and it is people like me who slip through the cracks. There will be so many suicides from this reaction; and whilst initially I thought the govt was doing a good job of handling it, I really do not think all 'side effects' were considered.

Daniel0712 What's your "I should have done" during the Coronavirus?
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Hello all, I read some advice today that struck a chord to do with finding positives arising from CV-19. The idea is to take advantage of the forced extra time we might have for ourselves due to having to stay at home everyday with our social calenda... View more

Hello all, I read some advice today that struck a chord to do with finding positives arising from CV-19. The idea is to take advantage of the forced extra time we might have for ourselves due to having to stay at home everyday with our social calendars being wiped out. It would be good to not look back with regret in a few months and say "I should have" done this or that. I'm trying to get into a routine of waking early & doing a run around the park in the time I would normally travel to the office, although I have to admit I'm still not sleeping great. Can anyone suggest other things they "should" now definitely do in the next few months?

Belinda24 Coping Strategies
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This isolation has prompted me to go back in time and access some silly little coping things I used to do about 25 years ago when I had a breakdown. I had the BEST counsellor EVER. She knew that overloading me with psycho babble was too much for me d... View more

This isolation has prompted me to go back in time and access some silly little coping things I used to do about 25 years ago when I had a breakdown. I had the BEST counsellor EVER. She knew that overloading me with psycho babble was too much for me during the ACUTE crisis stage. We got down to the nitty gritty once I no longer panicked So here are a few SIMPLE "tools" she suggested to help me cope: * One Day at a Time kept me calmer cos I knew tomorrow was another NEW day * One foot in the past and one foot in the future meant I was piddling on the present Love this one!! * Gave me a "God Box". If I became obsessed with a repetitive thought or fear, I'd write it down and put it into my God Box, then GET OUT OF MY OWN WAY * I am not remotely religious, but I've had enough evidence in my life to reassure me that something or someone takes care of me all the time. So, I "LET GO, LET GOD". I've found this to be very freeing at times. Takes the weight off my shoulders so I can get on with my day * She reminded me that 95% of EVERYTHING I ever feared over my lifetime (I'm 70), NEVER happened. This has been absolutely true * The two questions that keep me STUCK and highly FEARFUL are: WHAT IF.......... (future predicting) IF ONLY............(past regrets) * Everything happens for a reason. My belief is that COVID-19 is happening because the western world has been upside down for decades and something drastic was needed to get us back on track to being a society that puts people before profit * We need to go back to loving people and USING money, instead of the opposite, which has been the status quo * I hope we do things differently once this crisis is over. Cos repeating the SAME behaviour and expecting a different result is just plain NUTS I actually feel so much better just having typed this post. Cheers everyone. THIS TOO SHALL PASS