Sexuality and gender identity

I kissed my friend (whose the same gender as me) and now she doesn’t want to talk about it.

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Hi Forums, I’m new here, so sorry if this post isn’t in the right spot or something like that. I’m seeking some advice/guidance if anyone is kind enough to offer up their thoughts. So, on Friday night after having gone out one of my friends and I wer... View more

Hi Forums, I’m new here, so sorry if this post isn’t in the right spot or something like that. I’m seeking some advice/guidance if anyone is kind enough to offer up their thoughts. So, on Friday night after having gone out one of my friends and I were lying on an oval. I’ve liked this girl for a little while, and I thought she liked me too as she always seemed really happy to see me, went out of her way to help me and had said things like ‘I love you’ before. But she is also one of those outgoing personalities who is really bright and friendly to everyone, so I wasn’t sure. Anyways, we were lying on the oval next to one another and after a while I asked her if I could kiss her and she said yes. We made out for a little while and then went home separately. I asked a few times throughout if she was ok with it and if she wanted to stop, but each time she wanted to keep going. The next morning I sent her a message and said we should probably have a chat - just to talk things through. But now she doesn’t want to talk about it, and I’m worried that it’s something she regrets. I don’t mind if we just stay as friends, but I don’t want things to be weird between us. She’s the first girl I’ve ever properly kissed and I’m just feeling quite confused about the whole situation. I thought she enjoyed it, or at the very least was ok with it and I’m not sure why she doesn’t want to talk about it now. I don’t want to put her in an uncomfortable situation, but I’m just feeling so lost. I would appreciate any advice. Thanks.

My husband is Gay

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Hi, after 14 years my husband has told me he is gay. We have 2 beautiful children and I honestly did not see it coming. He he tells me he still loves me and doesn’t want to lose his best friend. I love him and always will I am gutted but want to supp... View more

Hi, after 14 years my husband has told me he is gay. We have 2 beautiful children and I honestly did not see it coming. He he tells me he still loves me and doesn’t want to lose his best friend. I love him and always will I am gutted but want to support him. We aren’t planning on separating yet but I’m sure it will come in due course. I want ant to stay strong for him and the kids but can’t stop crying. I’m lost

Empty inside

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Hey all. I've always known i was born in the wrong body since childhood. A repressive and emotionally abusive childhood prevented me exploring my gender. I met gay woman whose acceptance of her sexuality triggered my courage to explore my gender. I c... View more

Hey all. I've always known i was born in the wrong body since childhood. A repressive and emotionally abusive childhood prevented me exploring my gender. I met gay woman whose acceptance of her sexuality triggered my courage to explore my gender. I came out last year during lockdown as i had no where to go or people to reinforce my assumed gender. I had to confront my own thoughts and fully accept who i am. I found a psychologist who specialises in LGBTQIA+ and was formally diagnosed with accute gender dysphoria. I was referred to a specialist GP for women's and transgender health and was approved the same day for hormone treatment. I then changed everything admin related early this year (same time as hormones started). Legal name change everywhere i could think of. Legal gender change through Medicare and my passport. Anywhere there is a name field or gender fields i changed it. Gender bullying at my last job forced me to leave. I found a new job where i was accepted as my correct gender. It's going very well and is very confirming just about all of the time. I'm just about always correctly gendered now most places i go. But... Someone i was getting close to, who is non binary and lesbian suggested the only reason women like me back is because they are curious about the effect hormones have on MtF transition. That is I'm still a guy but with boobs now. I've almost given up overnight and have been crying for two days now. I'm emotionally numb and empty inside. I'm seriously questioning my identity and I think I'm a fake and pretending. I'm suicidal again and have never been so low. How can i bounce back?

Having a slight crisis atm (I'm new here, sorry if I mess something up :P)

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Is there a label for being sexually attracted to one gender, but being romantically attracted to another? I've recently realised that I'm sexually attracted to women, but not to men, and now I'm wondering if there's a label for that? I'm sorry if my ... View more

Is there a label for being sexually attracted to one gender, but being romantically attracted to another? I've recently realised that I'm sexually attracted to women, but not to men, and now I'm wondering if there's a label for that? I'm sorry if my wording is a bit off btw, I'm really sleepy xD

I don't know who I am anymore

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I'm a 28 yr old male. I'm scared and confused. Short version; I think i like being in women's clothing. Today I've been wearing nail polish for the first time because I wanted to and every time I see my nails, i feel slightly happy inside. Longer ver... View more

I'm a 28 yr old male. I'm scared and confused. Short version; I think i like being in women's clothing. Today I've been wearing nail polish for the first time because I wanted to and every time I see my nails, i feel slightly happy inside. Longer version; I thought I knew who I was growing up. But recently I've been questioning it. Looking back, I remember in my teens I wasn't sure where I was in the sexual orientation category, straight, gay or bi. I was always called gay from family and others and it would always get to me.I'm not and I can say that with complete certainty. But I did like wearing my sisters' clothing. I would wonder what it would be like to be a girl, even came up with a name I'd use. Always thought penises were gross as well. I get jealous of women because I want to be able to be pretty and beautiful like they are. I'm scared of what the future holds and what I emotional need. I have a daughter and don't want her to grow up feeling like she has to hide whoever she ends up being, because I was too scared to be who I am. I don't know what I'm doing. I know that if I do change somehow, my family will be understanding, but it's the 'I told you' and 'I already knew that'. Because they don't know. I'm not what they jokingly called me. I am attracted to the opposite gender. I just want to be able to be one of them too. I'm so confused. It's really hit hard in the last few days and I don't know why. I've been on the verge of tears numerous times now. I don't know if this is easy to follow, or just jumbled bits of information. But I just needed to put it out there

Asexual, Biromantic Lesbian or Bisexual with Repressed Trauma?

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Hi, In school I always felt uncomfortable talking about sex even though I know it's normal I remember sex ed classes at12yo feeling uncomfortable talking about periods, puberty, sex which is normal. Growing up however, I'm laidback discussing periods... View more

Hi, In school I always felt uncomfortable talking about sex even though I know it's normal I remember sex ed classes at12yo feeling uncomfortable talking about periods, puberty, sex which is normal. Growing up however, I'm laidback discussing periods, women's sexual development and can laugh with friends. Except I've recently realized that it's men's sexual development and bodies that I find repulsive and disturbing. Not only with previous sexual experiences in past relationships have I found them gross, but anything that even resembles a penis (for example- cookies). I just find myself feeling deeply uncomfortable. I dont feel this with anything resembling women's bodies though I always felt romantic attraction to guys and have enjoyed going on dates and cuddling and kissing. I've felt sexual excitement with my previous boyfriend and felt like I really wanted to take things further. However, when seeing his genitalia I just feel this like "brick wall". I'd be thinking thoughts like, "I want to feel closer to you" and "I really want to make you feel good", however I just felt like I couldn't even touch his genitalia for too long, having mixed feelings of enticement and revulsion. My previous romantic partners have always been laidback and have never pressured or emotionally coerced me into anything I'm uncomfortable with. Recently I considered whether the past could have changed effected future relationships but im unsure? I remember some child-on-child sexual relations- once at 5yo and a couple times at 9yo. He was the same age as me. As a child and neither of us really understanding consent. I went along with it. I never did make sexual contact with him. I remember later feeling regret and ashamed for kissing on mouth and lower stomach area though. I tried not to think about it too much after that. It became a memory that I would only very very rarely think about briefly. I kind of just carried on with life later on and didn't think it could impact me until recently, still unsure though? Ive also felt crushes and sexual attraction towards girls that Ill explore in future. Ive been reading the am I a lesbian masterdoc online which I can relate to a fair bit. I'm just unsure of past child-on-child relations caused trauma? whether it impacts future relationships? or just lesbian/ ace? Thoughts?

Homophobic Parents

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How do I deal with homophobic parents? I came out to them and they said they support but the mis gender me, dead name me and use the wrong pronouns. I'm so close to running away.

Online Event for Anyone Interested

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Hi all, Just thought I'd post in here for anyone that is interested that author Lucia Osborne-Crowley is doing an online event on Tuesday 14 September 2021 from 6pm - 7pm (AEST) about her book, In My Body Keeps Your Secrets. In her book Lucia shares ... View more

Hi all, Just thought I'd post in here for anyone that is interested that author Lucia Osborne-Crowley is doing an online event on Tuesday 14 September 2021 from 6pm - 7pm (AEST) about her book, In My Body Keeps Your Secrets. In her book Lucia shares the voices of women and trans and non-binary people around the world, as well as her own deeply moving testimony. She writes of vulnerability, acceptance and the reclaiming of ourselves, all in defiance of a world where atrocities are committed and survivors are repeatedly told to carry the weight of that shame. Widely researched and boldly argued, this book reveals the secrets our bodies bury deep within them, the way trauma can rewrite our biology, and how our complicated relationships with sex affect our connection with others. You can book tickets (free) here: https://www.trybooking.com/events/landing?eid=787640& G

i'm bisexual(?) but I have homophobic parents

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I'm new but here it goes, Late last year I started questioning my sexuality, I didn't think much of it and ignored it. Then this year when entering a new school year,( I started a catholic all-girls high school and I'm turning 15 next year) I would l... View more

I'm new but here it goes, Late last year I started questioning my sexuality, I didn't think much of it and ignored it. Then this year when entering a new school year,( I started a catholic all-girls high school and I'm turning 15 next year) I would look at the girls and think they are attractive the same way boys are. It was the usual wanting to kiss a girl, hold their hand and be in a relationship with them. But the problem was I also found boys attractive still. So I did some quick research to make myself sure and came across the term, Bisexual. I started addressing myself like that, and soon enough I developed some type of crush? With a girl in my school, the sad bit is I've only seen her, not met her. My parents soon enough found out near the end of pride month and gave me a talk on how it's a sin and how I'm not Old "bella" anymore or how they could easily kick me out. They treat me quite different now and always check up on me so I'm not watching anything that contains LGBTQ, they say how I'm young and know nothing about the world and how I'm being stupid. I have friends that support me but no one to talk to at school properly since it's catholic. I'm not sure what to do or feel, most of the time I lie and say I'm still straight but can't help the fact that I find both girls and boys attractive. Could someone offer some advice?

Not wanting to accept the fact that I might be genderfluid and just generally confused about my gender.

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I just wanted to rant quickly: I have nothing against genderfluid people, I greatly support them, but for some reason, I can't accept the fact that I might be one myself? Even if I am I'm just not sure if coming out is worth it because I am aware of ... View more

I just wanted to rant quickly: I have nothing against genderfluid people, I greatly support them, but for some reason, I can't accept the fact that I might be one myself? Even if I am I'm just not sure if coming out is worth it because I am aware of the intense judgement I will receive if I do, and the whole concept of genderfluidity is still very confusing to me. All I know is that a lot of the time I feel and picture myself as a male (I'm a female at birth), but I am not uncomfortable possessing the body parts and physique of a female, and I enjoy being a female and doing 'feminine' things. Even if I were to be trans (FTM) it is also very confusing, and I am aware that I don't have the natural build or features to ever feel fully male, and again I don't feel uncomfortable or dysphoric in my female body. With that being said though, I can't help but feel happy whenever someone refers to me with male pronouns and titles. I also don't think I am non-binary because I want to identify as either female or male. It could also be the fact that I enjoy dominance and having the upper hand, which from a societal perspective is often associated with being male. Do I want to be female or male? For some reason I can't understand how to combine the two, I feel like I need to be one or the other. I'll definitely do some research into this but some advice on what this all means would be greatly appreciated

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