hi Tricki, I'm sorry that at your age you had to find out, because I believe that your parents had the responsibility and courtesy to tell you at a much younger age, so now you're children are in exactly the same situation as you were in, and whether you want to tell them is a decision you have to make yourself, but I don't believe you can decide by yourself, you need to know all the consequences, some you know and some you may not, and talk with a psychologist, this will then offer you more choice as to what you want to do.
I'm really sorry but it's not going to be as easy as it sounds and whether you want your children to keep going thinking that who they believe as being their family is the best solution, maybe it is, because you decide to tell them, then there will be too many unsettling years ahead for them.
Adopted children should be told at an early age, and not by coincidence, it's the same as kids being told by their friends that Father Xmas isn't real, I think that was my greatest disappointment I could ever hear, so will the same scenario be like telling your children.
If nothing is said then their life will go on with nothing to worry about, but I know how upset you are, and rightly so. Geoff.
