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BeyondBlue Hey there - read this to see what this section is all about
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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team keeps the Forums anonymous, posts are still online for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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Sunny3 Family therapy
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My parents want my whole family to go to therapy due to conflicts among us which are not getting resolved. I have agreed to go however I want to take my partner with me as I am very anxious talking to people I don't know and talking about my feelings... View more

My parents want my whole family to go to therapy due to conflicts among us which are not getting resolved. I have agreed to go however I want to take my partner with me as I am very anxious talking to people I don't know and talking about my feelings (In the past for sessions with a psychologist for just me they have attended and it made me feel at ease). My parents have refused to let them come and their only reason was 'we do not have a problem with them' and so they do not need to be there. I have explained the reason why I want them there and asked them if its because it would make them uncomfortable but they said it wasn't and that it is because we are not married yet they are not considered family and therefore cannot come. My parents have also said that they are there to support me, however as the issues are mainly related to me not feeling their support/respect for my feelings I would like my partner to attend). I am an living at home as I am in second year of TAFE and my partner (of 2 years) and I take turns sleeping at each others house so we basically live together. I'm not sure what to do as I really don't want to go without my partner's support but also feel guilty as parents are saying if I don't come without them then i don't want to sort out the problems.

blossom4298 It has all come to an end...
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A week ago my husband told me that he no longer wanted a relationship with me. He had just come back after being on a job for 8 weeks. We have two beautiful children ages one and four my only concern is for them as I felt that our relationship was he... View more

A week ago my husband told me that he no longer wanted a relationship with me. He had just come back after being on a job for 8 weeks. We have two beautiful children ages one and four my only concern is for them as I felt that our relationship was heading to an end ...didn't think it would actually happen but boy was I wrong. At first he moved into the backroom which we both found really hard so today we both agreed that it would be best if he moved out. So he decided to start straight away and didn't come home till later that night once the kids were asleep to get his clothes etc. I moved out with my husband when we were 18 (now 34) and haven't been on my own since... so now what do I do that I have a house and two kids to look after all by myself. I also have a 10 year struggle with depression, is much better now but obviously with this new venture I am very concern with loosing my shit completely.

jd25 found my daughter
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20 years ago my girlfriend was heavily pregnant with our daughter, when she left to go back to Victoria we were both young i was 17 she 21, i lost contact with her shortly after my daughter was born, for a long time i have been searching the net for ... View more

20 years ago my girlfriend was heavily pregnant with our daughter, when she left to go back to Victoria we were both young i was 17 she 21, i lost contact with her shortly after my daughter was born, for a long time i have been searching the net for any trace of her to mo avail, a few days ago i found a message on fb from my daughter saying she was looking for her father, the message was sent 4 years ago, I've only just seen it now, i replied but haven't heard back, don't know what to do my heart is broken

Quiettall Redefining your relationship in retirement or when one returns from long absence due to work
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Hello I have been pondering recently about how one redefines a relationship with your partner after returning from a posting away from the household. As an example, I have had 2 long (3 month each) postings overseas working in different cultures to w... View more

Hello I have been pondering recently about how one redefines a relationship with your partner after returning from a posting away from the household. As an example, I have had 2 long (3 month each) postings overseas working in different cultures to where I live back here in Australia. I have returned to find a real confusion or sense of disillusionment about how Australians put so much value on their possessions over their relationships and more meaningful issues in life. I find it hard to sit and participate, let alone listen to the mundane conversations that go on between friends or family members, who have not experienced working and living in poor conditions. It is a real adjustment and for me, has shone some interesting lights on what are important in my life, and how I want to re-examine those issues with my partner, although she is more than happy to just cruise along, oblivious to the wider world. Although I missed home andwas glad to be back, I sometimes find myself thinking I now am in a mind space which is more comfortable with less, and being able to dfo more meaningful things in less fortunate community situations. I would be really interested in other peoples' views, who may have experienced similar things.

PattyGM Discover infidelity 9 years ago but still feel depressed
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Hi, I decided to tell my story because for 9 years I have been suffering alone and it is getting worst. After 3 years of marriage I got pregnant right when we were about to go to study abroad. We both had been awarded scholarships to go to Spain, so ... View more

Hi, I decided to tell my story because for 9 years I have been suffering alone and it is getting worst. After 3 years of marriage I got pregnant right when we were about to go to study abroad. We both had been awarded scholarships to go to Spain, so we decided to go and have the baby there. I left first as I had an interview to present and he was supposed to join me in Spain two weeks after. The night right after my interview I had a horrible dream and when I woke up I decided to check his email, something that I never did because I trusted him 100%. To my surprise I found three horrible emails where he was saying goodbye to this other woman in the most romantic way, she did the same and basically they were thanking each other for the wonderful time they had had together. I almost die of sadness, being 10 weeks pregnant I only wanted to stop that pregnancy but I did not do it. He came to Spain and somehow convinced me that it was nothing, that there was not sex involved, that he "lost his mind" and that that relation only lasted one month. I forgave him but still felt that what he told me was not the truth. I got the phone number of this woman and asked directly if she had had sex with my husband to what she said yes. I faced him again with the new information and he accepted it. Since then we are still together (9 years have passed), we had another baby, but I have regular periods of depression, I feel that not all the truth was said, that he is lying to me on everything he says. I became the most obsessive person checking his email every single day, his mobile, his wallet....this is going to sound weird but somehow I have the hope of finding something else. Perhaps I am looking for a excuse to convince myself I do not want to be with him anymore. The maximum I have found along these years is porn pictures or videos, which has stolen my self-esteem completely. I have lost the desire to live, I continue with my life because two children are a huge responsibility and I continue working hard and doing the best I can only for them. However, almost every night I pray it is the last nigh of my life, I just want to disappear. We look like a normal family, but I just feel totally empty. I fear so much being without him, but I fear even more that he will cheat on me again. I do not want to tear this family apart because I do not want my children to suffer. I am losing control of my own mind, just too depressed. I need help...

anonymous175 30 Day Contact Challenge
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I have decided to do a 30 Day Contact Challage. I realised I have spent my entire life contacting family and friends. Organising events etc... I am tried of this and no one seems to reciprocate. Thus I decided not to contact anyone for 30 days in the... View more

I have decided to do a 30 Day Contact Challage. I realised I have spent my entire life contacting family and friends. Organising events etc... I am tried of this and no one seems to reciprocate. Thus I decided not to contact anyone for 30 days in the hope that I could determine who in fact wants to talk/spend time with me. I am in week two of this challenge and no one has contacted me. I feel sad and deverstated. Has anyone done/been through a similar experience? How did you deal with it at the time? What did you do post the challenge/experience? Help

anonymous175 Facebook & 'Friends'
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I really struggle with Facebook. I have several 'Friends' that are toxic and/or I don't want contact with anymore. The issue with this is I live in a small country town therefore it's hard to do something about it. I have already 'Unfollowed' these p... View more

I really struggle with Facebook. I have several 'Friends' that are toxic and/or I don't want contact with anymore. The issue with this is I live in a small country town therefore it's hard to do something about it. I have already 'Unfollowed' these people, but feel it's time to cut ties for good. Do anyone have any suggestions regarding my dilemma?

Doolhof Crying tears on the inside
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Yesterday was the 23rd anniversary of our son's premature birth and early death. I feel like I have no one here to share those thoughts and emotions with in person. That makes me feel so very much alone and very sad. I've been crying rivers of tears ... View more

Yesterday was the 23rd anniversary of our son's premature birth and early death. I feel like I have no one here to share those thoughts and emotions with in person. That makes me feel so very much alone and very sad. I've been crying rivers of tears on the inside. I keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep plodding along through the day. I'd love for this pain to leave me alone. At times it feels so consuming, like it will swallow me up. But I keep going on. One painful step at a time. I never knew that love and grief could hurt so much. My dearest son, at least you are there with your siblings, where ever "There" may be. I will always love you all with all my heart. Huge hugs and never ending love, from your Mum xxx

Jodee49 NEWBIE - Relationship issues
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Hi I'm new to BB but have battled with depression for many years but in the last two years when my husband was terminally diagnosed with a rare cancer, I had to increase my medication x4 to cope and have struggled ever since. The hard part for me is ... View more

Hi I'm new to BB but have battled with depression for many years but in the last two years when my husband was terminally diagnosed with a rare cancer, I had to increase my medication x4 to cope and have struggled ever since. The hard part for me is that he is considered to be 'stable' at the moment and appears well from the outside- he goes to work everyday, however he drinks heavily when not at work. My dilemma is that I'm trying to get myself better and feel he is dragging me back every time I get two steps forward. Don't get me wrong he is not violent or abusive when he is drunk he just doesn't have a stop button and falls asleep and becomes unsteady on his feet (he has had many many falls). To compound this I have had a few major meltdowns in front of people who I thought were my friends in the last couple of years and have managed to alienate myself from them so I feel quite lonely most of the time. I do have other friends but not a lot and I see them occasionally. I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place so to speak. I love him and don't want to leave however staying where I am is destroying me slowly and painfully.

novemberhaze Feel/ have like I have lost everyone
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I have never posted before, I am new to BB. I feel like I need to tell someone, however I feel like I have no one to tell - nor to be there for me. I got really sick a few years ago, after a long battle with acute anxiety (for as long as I can rememb... View more

I have never posted before, I am new to BB. I feel like I need to tell someone, however I feel like I have no one to tell - nor to be there for me. I got really sick a few years ago, after a long battle with acute anxiety (for as long as I can remember). I learnt the hard way that people don't really like sick people - unless they get better quickly - OR if you have great friends who will be there for you, which I found out I didn't. Now, after a few years I am at a point where I do not have anyone. The girls who were my closest friends in my group (which is rather big) won't talk to me. I wish I could see myself from another persons perspective because I don't believe myself as a bad friend or person but I have managed to exile myself by some actions. This seems to have brought them closer, I feel so, so alone. I never talk about friend problems, because it makes me feel like a loser but I am really lonely. I don't know where or how to start over again. I've done all I can to try and fix things but it have fallen on deaf ears and seems I guess I have to move on. Has anyone been in the position where you have a big group, who will still talk to you but your closer friends incorporated in the group make it hard to hang out with everyone? How do I start over? How does someone make friends after school? Especially since I've been with these girls nearly 10 years.