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A_Tech PTSD for Medical and First Responders
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Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting t... View more

Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting to others). Im a 40 year old female that has spent the last 10years in the State Trauma Hospital as an Anaesthetic Technician. My PTSD was brought about after years of exposure to shocking traumas, deaths, and no support from management. I would love to hear from anyone that has a similar story, or just wants to chat. Cheers

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Ploughman Domestic violence & Male survivors
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Hi All, here's my story. Three years ago I was attacked by my wife. It wasn't the first time I was abused by her, but it was certainly the most violent. I stayed in the 9 year marriage because very early in we had a daughter and I stayed because of h... View more

Hi All, here's my story. Three years ago I was attacked by my wife. It wasn't the first time I was abused by her, but it was certainly the most violent. I stayed in the 9 year marriage because very early in we had a daughter and I stayed because of her. I was diagnosed with PTSD. I finished with therapy in February because we came to the decision that I have got the tools to cope and I was doing OK. Some days I am OK, but some days I'm not. I cope ugly. I just wish that when people talk about DV, even experts, they could mention Male survivors. I feel that I don't have a voice and because domestic violence comes up in the media often it cuts deep into me. No one talks about male survivors, I feel like I am treated as nothing. Over the years I never hit my wife, but she hit me. Funnily enough it was my Psychologist who told me I was a survivor of DV, I thought it was something that men did to women. I just wish that people would speak the truth about it. Thank you for reading my post.

Tezza_101 Miscarriage Struggle
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ok so this is harder then I thought it would be.. Hoping to get some advice. So last year in August I had a missed miscarriage. I was not in a serious relationship so no support from a partner. When I found out I was pregnant I started seeing a GP we... View more

ok so this is harder then I thought it would be.. Hoping to get some advice. So last year in August I had a missed miscarriage. I was not in a serious relationship so no support from a partner. When I found out I was pregnant I started seeing a GP weekly as I have struggled with depression for as long as I can remember, I'm 34 yrs old. My GP specialises in mental health, so after my missed miscarriage which has destroyed me, I continued to see my GP weekly. But instead of talking about the miscarriage he wanted to do EMDR therapy, so starting from the beginning of my depression/life. Which I found very difficult to put aside what had just happened and try to focus on the past. I stuck with it until recently and we still had not reached the topic of the miscarriage. I am wondering if this was the right approach? I'm feeling let down and like I had no support with what happened. I no longer talk to any of my friends who have kids, I still haven't gone to visit my sister and meet her 2nd child who will be 1 year old next month. I just cant bring myself to do any of it. But I also feel like its been nearly a year since it happened and that I should just be over it now. How do I just get over it and move on?

Mar8ie Still recovering from an abusive relationship
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It's been a year and half now since I finally left, when it finally became too much. Which you might realise was about the same time the pandemic hit. The problems began well before then of course, what I didn't realise at the time was that his failu... View more

It's been a year and half now since I finally left, when it finally became too much. Which you might realise was about the same time the pandemic hit. The problems began well before then of course, what I didn't realise at the time was that his failure to get the medical and mental health help he needed was because he was in hiding. The guy I spent six years with, that I spent a good portion of that time trusting, loving, caring for, was actually on the run from the police and had been doing so for a good ten years. I am still in the slow process of understanding just how he slowly manipulated me and healing from that, learning from it so I know and aviod the signs if it ever happens again and also undoing the damage he has done to me on a mental and emotional level. It's hard because I had built up such a picture in my mind of how things should have gone. I feel like I am grieving and I am greiving the dream, if that makes any sense and I am dealing with the depression that is a result of the fact my life at 40 doesn't look remotely like the one I envisioned.

Tearainy Struggling to cope after multiple traumas and child loss
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I'm not even sure where to start. The I've survived so many traumas yet now.... I'm at breaking point. I survived childhood physical abuse, a 2 year relationship where I experienced emotional, mental and physical abuse as well as repeated sexual assa... View more

I'm not even sure where to start. The I've survived so many traumas yet now.... I'm at breaking point. I survived childhood physical abuse, a 2 year relationship where I experienced emotional, mental and physical abuse as well as repeated sexual assaults which resulted in my 2 daughter's. I reached a point where I was so low I tried to kill myself, and that was how I escaped my ex. Yet I didn't really escape... I had to fight like hell to keep custody of my daughters while my ex kept dragging my name through the mud. A few years after I got out of that "relationship" Imet my husband. We had a son born with 1/2 a heart. I survived 6 months in hospital watching him go through multiple surgeries and procedures. Seeing him die and be brought back more times than I can count, then the terror of bringing him home where there was no nurses and doctors on hand..... Watching him get sick over and over again and rushing him to hospital fearing the worst every time.... While dealing with that our 2nd son was stillborn. My eldest daughter was diagnosed with autism and needed lots of therapy, my son needed therapy...I suffered through 5 miscarriages and when I was pregnant again our first born 3 year old ended up back in hospital and dieing in front of me. I kept going despite wanting to crawl into his casket with him. I had to think about my baby on the way. But now almost a year after my son's death.... I'm not sure how long I can keep pushing through and pretending I'm alright. I've endured so much stress and grief continuously over the last 8 years that I'm always in a heightened state of anxiety. I get panic attacks daily, I can't sleep because every time I do I relive the moment when my 2nd son was stillborn or the day my first sons life support was switched off and I felt his life leave his body. Food tastes like ash in my mouth.I jump at every noise. I can't let other people watch my kids anymore because I always freak out thinking of all the bad things that can happen to them. Every time my daughter has behaviour issues at school and I get called, I feel like I'm failing as a mum.... Because I can't seem to help her do better. And secretly I want to just crawl into bed and give up. Every single problem even the small ones seem like too much to handle. At this point I don't know how I can clime back out of the darkness. I love my kids too much to end my life I can't put them through that pain. But I don't want to keep going either.

halomusic I don't know if I actually have PTSD
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Last year I had sex with this boy I'd been talking to for months. (we were both 13) I really liked him and trusted him and he'd said he loved me and I believed him. At the time it happened, he told me he liked another girl and I thought that was ok. ... View more

Last year I had sex with this boy I'd been talking to for months. (we were both 13) I really liked him and trusted him and he'd said he loved me and I believed him. At the time it happened, he told me he liked another girl and I thought that was ok. After it, he kept ignoring me and blocked me a couple of times, syaing I was "too clingy", "attention seeking" and "annoying". I completely believed it all. I then got really depressed becuase of what he said to me and considered suicide. I told the boy and he said that I should and it's a good idea. One night after he'd blocked me again I tried to end my life. But it's a year later and I'm alive. I think I forgive the boy but i'm not sure because I still can't do some things or think about certain things because of what he did to me. For example, he used to play basketball, and up until 2 weeks ago, I still couldn't sit at a basketball game without havign a panic attack. I'm not sure if this is PTSD or what but I know it was traumatic for myself. Also, I have autism so I'm already not good at relationships so I'm not great at seeing red flags and things and now i'm worried that because my first romantic/sexual relationship was literally only sex and then isolation that's what I expect from the rest of my relationships which is bad because I'm almost 15 and I still don't know how to have a healthy relationship. But idk if it really is PTSD or not. I know I was in denial for a long time that the boy didn't cause my depression, but now I know he at least triggered it so, yeah. does anyone know what i should do?

ACPP Trauma from the death of my newborn baby
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Hi there, I want to make this brief. My first born son, Parker, passed away at 40 weeks pregnant due to medical negligence. This was a little over a year ago now. I am now blessed with another son who is 14 weeks old. Every day I am pained by what ha... View more

Hi there, I want to make this brief. My first born son, Parker, passed away at 40 weeks pregnant due to medical negligence. This was a little over a year ago now. I am now blessed with another son who is 14 weeks old. Every day I am pained by what happened. My whole life has changed. I have anxiety, depression and PTSD now. Iv never suffered from any of these before until the death of my son. Parenting after loss is so hard. I’m in constant fear of losing him too. I have flashbacks of when they confirmed “no heartbeat”, when I was begging to save his life but they wouldn’t listen. I have been seeing a psychologist since he passed Away very regularly but I feel like it’s just not helping as much as I want it too. Thank you for listening. Much love to all.

JMumma Dictator
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I’m new to this, not really an emotional talker. Not really much of a talker at all but find myself questioning everything about my life at the moment. I find that my husband appears to have become a dictator in how I live - he controls who I can see... View more

I’m new to this, not really an emotional talker. Not really much of a talker at all but find myself questioning everything about my life at the moment. I find that my husband appears to have become a dictator in how I live - he controls who I can see, insisting on a word by word account of every conversation I have. previous requests by me to get marriage counselling result in more arguments and him belittling me. Maybe I do have some mental health issues but I believe that many of them are caused be his behaviour. we live in a small community and every time I try to become involved in any thing he takes over or belittles me in front of the community and I walk away. I would like to sell up a go our separate ways but he refuses to acknowledge the death of our marriage and we don’t have the finances for me to establish myself somewhere separate to him. he has caused a rift between me and anybody that I tried to reach out to. I wasn’t allowed to take HRT because he believed that it was bad for his health if we had sex while I was on it. He monitors every thing, dictating where I can work and what hours I can work. obviously I have allowed this to happen, but know the children are grown and moving on I scared to be alone with him the mental abuse is the issue. Is there anything I can do to save my sanity?

TheBigBlue AFTER the psychologist/psychiatrist appointment
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Just curious. I always feel so drained & emotionally overwhelmed after my appointments, that all want to do is curl up in bed & cry. At the very least, I’ll nap on the lounge. I know I’m using sleep as an avoidance, but I can’t seem to break this cyc... View more

Just curious. I always feel so drained & emotionally overwhelmed after my appointments, that all want to do is curl up in bed & cry. At the very least, I’ll nap on the lounge. I know I’m using sleep as an avoidance, but I can’t seem to break this cycle. I just had a Telehealth session with my psychologist & as soon as the video call ended I just wanted to burst into tears. And now all I want to do is sleep for hours & hopefully the emotional pain will be less when I wake up. Does anyone else experience something like this? Has anyone managed to break the cycle? I know I should get up & do something to distract me from these thoughts but I can’t quite bring myself to take the first step. As soon as this is posted I am going to roll over & go to sleep

Starrysky1 witnessed mother in laws death. distressing content
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Distressing content I'm not even sure what I am trying to get out of this, but I've been really struggling. Back in 2016 I found out I was about 6 weeks pregnant. I was on a medication at the time, that meant, IF my child even survived he or she woul... View more

Distressing content I'm not even sure what I am trying to get out of this, but I've been really struggling. Back in 2016 I found out I was about 6 weeks pregnant. I was on a medication at the time, that meant, IF my child even survived he or she would most likely have severe disability and physical deformations. We were advised to terminate. The day before my appointment I miscarried in the shower, at home, completely alone. The pain was unbearable, both mental and physical. This was pretty much hidden from everyone except my partner and mother, because mum thought it would be to hard for people to know. About 1 month later my partner had to unexpectedly fly over to another state to be with his mum, who was diagnosed with lung cancer and only given weeks to live. About a week after he fly over, I got a call to say get here now. At short notice I left work and got on a plane. I spent 1 day there. The next night, while we were at hospital and I was watching my partners nephew, while they had some family conversations. His nephew had an asthma attack and had to be taken to the hospital about 10 minutes away, but my partners, sister in law. My partners childhood friends also travelled over to say there goodbyes and we were staying at his brothers house. I was asked to stay with there mum that night (As she didn't want to be alone) Most of the night she just slept, her last son left the hospital at 7pm. I sat next to her all night and about an hour later I grabbed a pack of biscuits that was out. The rustling made her wake up and she started coughing and choking. I instantly hit the big emergency button and nurses came rushing in. I stayed there the whole time with her as she passed. Afterwards the nurses told me to go and get cleaned up before her family arrived. And for some reason once they all left the room, I rang her sons to let them know. I layed there next to her for about half an hour, (family was at least an hour away) before a nurse came in to start cleaning her up before her family got there. They covered her body upto her shoulders, so her family couldnt see the mess that had happened during her death. I am still struggling to deal with what I seen and the fact that I couldnt do anything to help her. Ive tried getting family and friend support, but they dont want to hear it, and obviously I cant talk to my partner or his family about it

jemma09 I wish my loved ones understood that you can't just 'get over' something traumatic.
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Hi everyone I hope you are doing well today. First off, I am so thankful that this forum exists and all you wonderful people are part of it. I feel like this is a place I can always go to and I can get things off my chest. As per the title, my loved ... View more

Hi everyone I hope you are doing well today. First off, I am so thankful that this forum exists and all you wonderful people are part of it. I feel like this is a place I can always go to and I can get things off my chest. As per the title, my loved ones often tell me to 'get over it' if I am struggling about a traumatic time I had in the past. I understand why they take this stance, they are stoic and believe in just keeping on keeping on. I wish they would listen to me if I wanted to talk about it. But I have had to manage on my own with it a lot. I feel that some people may not realise that something traumatic does not just 'go away' once the event itself finishes. Sometimes something will trigger it again and the trauma resurfaces. I have got a friend I can talk to, but they have having some struggles so I might talk to them about it in a day or two. I have also been to therapy for this issue which helped a lot. My ex partner stalked me after we ended the relationship mutually. This kept going for about two years after. I had to tell the police. I saw him today. I just can't believe it. I was planning to enjoy catching up on some shopping and browsing the aisles for what I fancied. He was there. I could not escape. I was forced to be near him and interact with him as he works at that store. I still did my shopping, I do not let this beat me. There were other people around, I felt safe. He had to check my shopping bags before I left as their store policy. I hope he did not see my hands shaking. I do not want him to know how much what happened has impacted me, and still does. I did some more shopping. But I felt like I could not go home right away. I wanted to just drive, get away. I almost decided to drive to another town but stopped myself. I just felt this need to be distanced. I was still shaking. I hate I was so close to him, it was less than a metre. When I got home I showered. I scrubbed my arms because they were close to him. I threw away the bag he touched. I have felt very numb and odd for the rest of today. I am upset. I told my family it was 'a lot' seeing him again. I tried to see if I could have a hug from one of my loved ones and they said no. We do not hug much generally and joke a lot. But that hurt a lot. They make me feel as if I am weak for what I am feeling. So, I stopped talking and went to bed to lay down. I am trying to manage it. I am still feeling upset. I know I will be okay. Thank you for reading!