My daughter is angry at the world and me

[blondguy]

Hey Everybody. I ma really stuck and need advice with my daughter. I love her to bits but she is angry at the world and me. I have been on the forums since January and being an old guy I just thought I ask for some help. Here is some background...if you can help me

• She gone all gothic and weird...post natal depression...wont talk about it or accept any help...
• Dyed her long blond hair jet black and wears a lot of black and umm...self injured last year when she couldnt see her married BF..
• She sent me a MMS of her 'injuries'...that really hurt to see
• Has just had a baby to her boss...he is married with 3 kids..and he has warned her not to say anything
• she asked me to borrow my 2007 XR8 when she had her car impounded and I said no...Now I am evil for saying no
• i did mention that under 25's cant drive the XR8...she didnt care...she just wanted to use it..I still said no...
• Christmas day 2015 I turned up with presents at her place and she said.."I have had a late night...can you come back tomorrow"?

I use bullet points so it would be easier to read and respond to. (I cant stand mega paragraphs) Do I just give her space...or just a phase?

She lives 10 minutes away and has 2 great kids to 2 different dads. I daughter who is 3 and her new baby son who is about 3 months..She doesnt do drugs. She wants everything now ....Platinum Foxtel...Leather lounge....VE SV6 Commodore.....and the single mums pension of course.

I spend a lot of my time on the Depression/Anxiety threads....but I am lost here....should I just let her find her own way? Any thought/opinion would be gold to me right now.....also...whats an emo?....and yes Im serious..is it a dark and depressed person?

Thankyou for reading and please do respond if you can help...Have a great weekend too!

My kind thoughts and respect

Paul 🙂

[Lost_Girl]

Mr.Woof,

Have you considered internet dating to look for a companion?

Carol xx

[blondguy]

Hey Carol...sure did..worked well short term....a very high percentage of career gold diggers hunting there though...thanks Carol xx

[Petra]

Hi Paul

Geeze. Gold diggers? Scary.

I wish I could help with some advice here but I've got no idea. I know that I spent considerable years wanting to meet someone 'just like me'! I think there's something to be said for the saying "be careful what you wish for!" Boy I must be a right royal pain in the butt sometimes! Hubby's 'just like me'! I wouldn't have it any other way though. He gets me, and I get him. We came across each other at the worst time too. The Universe works in mysterious ways. I'm still shaking my head to this day.

I have two single friends, who have been single for years. One has a theory that once she decides she's ready for a relationship, she'll begin to give off the correct pheromones, and it'll just happen. The other has unrealistic expectations, extinguishing any possibility of pheromone release I'm convinced. I say nothing because I've got no idea.

I don't know what the answer is my friend. Perhaps 'puting it out there' in this post is good enough for the Universe to start its magic for you.

When you want to share your life with someone, you want it to start now.

All the best to you on this journey sweet.

Pet 😶 xx

[Lost_Girl]

Just need to look for a hidden gem in amongst the gold diggers xx

[blondguy]

Well said Carol....:-) xx

[lookingforme]

Hey Paul, I'm not feeling the words much but...here's a (Hug) for you, just because.

Take Care

[blondguy]

Hey Joelle....your hug means a lot to me....more than you know...you are precious xxx

[blondguy]

Hi Pet...I wasnt being 'critical' about internet dating. I was fortunate to have some great GF's and the ones that worked were married. There are some wonderful people on internet dating sites..but unfortunately the girls I really 'clicked' with always ended up saying "so paul...are you renting or buying this house?".....say no more lol

Petra...I liked what you said...."Perhaps 'putting it out there' in this post is good enough for the Universe to start its magic for you".......

Nice1 Pet! and thanku xx

[Petra]

Hi Paul

I've got absolutely no idea about Internet dating, and no opinion on it (what's that I hear? Are you chuckling? Finally there's something Pet hasn't got a personal story for?!) Yes, 'tis true! Hee, hee!

Whatever works my friend, but I truly hope for it to work well for you.

Yes.....I do think ..... you may just have put it out there!

Pet 😊 xx

[blondguy]

Thankyou for being understanding Pet, yes you made me smile and I need have a chuckle 🙂 It used to work Pet but I have lost all interest in signing up for internet dating again. I would rather meet someone walking my dog Prince (65 kilos).....trouble is when a girl are walking towards me with their dog.....they cross the road and walk on the other side....lol.

Thankyou for the great idea though........"you may just have put it out there!" Nice1 Pet xx