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I've had enough of being a nobody -just need to vent

Lee lee 73
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I know what I feel but struggle to find the words.

I've had clinical depression for 10yrs. Numerous suicide attempts and hospitalisations.

I think about suicide every single day. Can't remember a day where I haven't. Everyday I wish I was dead and to miraculously not wake up. My family are toxic, I've never had a loving relationship, never felt mutually cared for or loved, never been proposed to, never married, never had kids. As a woman i feel embarrassed and ashamed of this. Feel ostracized because of this and so struggle to have things in common to form strong female friendship. My only support network is my psychologist but after5yrs of therapy I'm done talking. Done sounding like a broken record.

Yes, I know I dwell on what I don't have but this has not always been the case. I triedd and tried and tried. I'm sick of hesrinf my own thoughts 24/7 year after year. I've had enough. No one really knows what it's like to live totally alone year after year. I can't help but dwell on this. It's not natural to not have been loved, it's not what being human is about, I'm not human. I'm a nobody.

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Dear Lee,

I do so hope you are able to find ways to work on those battles that are raging in your head. I do understand. Many of us here understand. It is horrid to feel this way. I do so get the feelings of anger and frustration and wishing life could be different.

Depression has a way of making us feel like we are all alone and like no one cares. That is so far from the truth at times, but our sick minds fill our heads with these negative thoughts.

Please don't feel like you shouldn't be seeking help and assistance, if it is there, accept it!

Would it help you to write down how you are feeling and handing that to the psychologist.

There have been times when I have written down pages of stuff. Then I would go back and highlight the bits that were really bothering me and showed them to the psychologist. Just writing it all down helped.

The written word is so easily misconstrued as well Lee, it is so easy to take things the wrong way now and then.

Your pain and suffering right now is very valid, I certainly acknowledge the difficult time you are going through.

Reach out to the psychologist, keep reaching out here as well.

Some days we need to just accept we can't do much about our depression, it is here. Fighting it can make it worse. Acknowledging it is what it is and trying to work around it helps me some days.

Dear Lee, I do so hope you are able to find ways to sense even a little peace amongst the turmoil.

Thanks for pointing out you didn't understand my message to you, as I certainly do not want you or anyone to think or believe I don't understand or have empathy. Words don't always come out the right way do they!

Cheers to you from Dools

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hello dearest Grandy,

Thank you so so so much for your beautiful words...I don't know what to say Grandy. ..I'm crying😢. ..but I guess they are tears of comfort if that makes sense????? Why can't there be more people like you in this world Grandy? ?

I can sense that you have felt triggered a lot lately Grandy. It's sooooo not fair the services aren't there for you to easily access - omg it makes me mad even - frustrated and sad also, because I so want you to get the help and support you deserve. I can't even begin to imagine what you have and are going through Grandy - I'm so sorry lovely lady..I truly don't know what to say. It breaks my heart that there is no one there to help you and I fear the longer you go without, the worse you may feel and that's sooo not fair. You are a beautiful kind caring and compassionate person Grandy and you are Gold 😊.

Grandy is your mhn still visiting You? If so have you thought to ask if there are psychs that provide sessions on skype or even phone sessions? My apologies if you have already looked into this.

I do hope Kya and ebony are you giving you lots of cuddles my beautiful friend. I too wish I could give you warm hug Grandy. I wonder how our furbabies would get on if they were altogether? Iszy is a brown burmese - my beautiful little girl.

I hope you are ok Grandy? I'm mindful tomorrow is Tuesday. I do hope the day is bearable for you. Know that I will be with you. We can do this.

Sending you big warm returned hugs and lotsa love Grandy. Thank you lovely lady. My beautiful friend.

Hope you sleep well tonight

🤗🤗🤗🤗🐶😻🐶 🌻🌹

All my love

Leexx

Lee lee 73
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Blue Voices Member

Hi Dools,

Thank you so much for your lengthy reply and for your kind words. I apologise for not replying sooner.

I don't have trouble actually talking to my psychologist (not now anyway ), I literally just do feel pathetic and really have nothing left to say. From your and Grandy's encouragement, I will think about it.

The thing is, I know that when I'm not going through a depressive episode, it seems the world is my oyster. But now, all that seems fake. Of course, I do have the tools to address this but not the motivation .....

Thanks again Dools ...thanks for understanding.

I do hope you are going ok? Bad crap happens to good people I reckon 🙁

Warmest wishes

Lee

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

You're beautiful Grandy,

I read your post a couple of times today - it helped me get through the day. I do feel bad that here I am declining therapy and you're struggling to receive it... I do hope it happens for you lovely lady. Wish I could wave a wand and you be here to get the support you need. ...gees if I had a wand...I would take your pain away completely. Love you loads my dear friend. Was thinking of you often today 🤗🤗😍😘🕊🕊.

Lee

Ggrand
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Community Champion

Hello lovely Lee,

I know you have a beautiful soul...Thank you for your very kind words and your love and care, I can feel them through your words and they have comforted me yesterday and today....💜🤗🕊🌹..

I really just popped in to ask how your doing today, and if your okay?

Just curious sweetheart, do you think you will try councilling again...I tried without and got continuously worse..I believe a good therapist should be able to heal most peoples mental health enough for that person to have a decent life.... I need a good psych..one I can trust..I’ve lost trust in mine....

I hope your doing ok lovely friend...you deserve only happiness....

Can I please send you some beautiful 🌹 roses for a special person.and a virtual candle. Rose scented...I love my candles and will sit of a night with my candles burning ( 5 ) of them, lights out and just watch the flames with some Leo Rojas playing his peaceful pan flute...peaceful....

Please dearest Lee, enjoy your night and I hope you have a good sleep....and peaceful relaxing dreams....

Love and squishy warm comforting hugs 🤗🤗🤗...

Grandy..

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hello beautiful Grandy,

I'm o.k my dear friend. I managed to go to work yesterday and today. This morning, on arriving at my first clients place, I was greeted at my car by her two beautiful doggies....it was so heart warming Grandy.

I hope you are able to have a peaceful sleep tonight too - especially given your day today.

Sending you squishy warm returned hugs (i'm on my laptop so don't have access to emojis)

.......oh Grandy, I did listen to Leo's song you suggested....so beautiful and yes .......peaceful. I can just imagine you sitting/lying at home soaking it up dear Grandy.

Thinking of you often my dear friend. I wish I was there with you Grandy....
lee

Lee lee 73
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Blue Voices Member

Hello dear Grandy,

I hope you don't mind if I talk to you do you,? I feel guilty because I know your pain goes much deeper..

Grandy just when I think I'm going ok I crash. Just when I think I'm having better days I'm not. I'm sick of this roller coaster. I don't think I can go back to my psychologist, she can't make someone love me. I wish I could change who I am. I don't talk to my family anymore - they just seemed to take take take until I had nothing left to give. Sometimes all I want is for my mum to hug me but she is narcissistic she doesn't even acknowledge me let alone my illness. By way of explanation, she showed up when I was in the psych ward once, and the first words she spoke was she "was lonely" (like mother like daughter I know 🙁 ). Then silly me gave her a hug and made her a cuppa. Not even my family love me.....so to me that just means I'm a nobody. I've done everything on my own.

I feel I'm stuck in limbo. Fed up with doing this alone. I know you feel the same Grandy. Life doesn’t seem fair does it? I feel like I'm an alien....i don't belong.

I don't expect a reply to all this Grandy, I just needed to vent I guess . I'm ok.

Thank you for the roses and my virtual candle. I love candles too Grandy except now I'm in a rental property I'm scared I will set off the fire alarm.

I hope you were able to have some peace in your day my dear friend. You are in my thoughts always lovely lady. I'm so honoured to be your friend Grandy. ❤

hope you sleep well. .🤗😚😚😚😚🐶🐶🐺

Lee

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello beautiful Lee,

Just thought I would call in before I try to sleep, and let you know that you are loved and cared for and you are special and very worthwhile person..

Being greeted by two dogs, that’s so sweet Lee and I know how much that would have lifted your spirits for the day....

I hope you sleep restful tonight Lee and I really really hope that tomorrow you have some peace and light in your day....

Much love 💜💜And heaps of hugs 💜🤗🤗🤗🤗..

Grandy...🕊🕊🕊..

Good nite lovely Lee ☺️😚

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hello dear Grandy,

Thank you for always thinking of me. It means more to me than you may know.
Grandy, I think your post arrived before mine was posted (my post before this one).

How was your day, what did you get up to?
I had a teary blubbering start but I got through it. I'm home with Iszy now, so I'm ok....I guess

Hope you were able to smile (at least once) today my dear friend. I popped in to yours to see how you were.

sending you big warm hugs always dear Grandy, ….and a peaceful sleep. Goodnight beautiful. (on laptop again...so no emojis)

Lee

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxooooooooooooooooooooo

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello lovely Lee,

The dreadful roller coaster, I think it’s a part of our journey to wellness...

Lee, please darling, don’t ever give up, I believe the ups of the roller coaster get longer each time and eventually we will be on a 24/7 up....

I have listened to your post..atm my thoughts are all mashed up and I really cannot put what I want to say to you sweetie into words that make sense...but I will be back later tonight or tomorrow..

I really do care deeply for you and will be back..just not able to talk atm but I’m okay....

Much love...and lots of hugs...💜🤗🤗..

Grandy...