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BeyondBlue Welcome to the Grief and Loss section
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Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and annivers... View more

Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and anniversaries, and honour the memories of your lost loved ones. Everyone’s experience of grief or loss is unique. You might experience all kinds of difficult or overwhelming emotions, and you might sometimes wonder if the sadness will ever end. This - and anything in between - is a normal reaction to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but it can help to allow yourself to share your grief, and let others support you. Please be aware that discussions in this section of the Forums may include references to self-harm and suicide. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. If need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Griefline – between 8am and 8pm (AEST), call 1300 845 745 to chat with a specially trained volunteer You are not alone in this, and we are here to support one another. Thank you for being here. Kind regards,Beyond Blue

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Helpmepleaseee keep losing friends to suicide
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Ive just lost another close friend of mine and my partners to suicide. A week away from itbeing 1 yearsince another close friends suicide. This is the 6th person i know over a few years to have committed suicide. I have two young children and I feel ... View more

Ive just lost another close friend of mine and my partners to suicide. A week away from itbeing 1 yearsince another close friends suicide. This is the 6th person i know over a few years to have committed suicide. I have two young children and I feel like I can never grieve properly because I dont want to cry infront of them. Does anyone have advice for me? What am i supposed to say to my toddler when we go to his funeral. He is two years old. Why does this keep happening? All males too? How can i help my partner get through this? this is another one of his best friends.

Bec775 Absolutely Lost
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Hi, First post & brand new to this. It's been 10 yrs since the death of the one I mourn for but although its a but easier, its still a struggle. Seeking tips from other members who have dealt with immense grief. I have been to a psychologist, done wh... View more

Hi, First post & brand new to this. It's been 10 yrs since the death of the one I mourn for but although its a but easier, its still a struggle. Seeking tips from other members who have dealt with immense grief. I have been to a psychologist, done what I think I can within my reach but I just cannot get over the daily burden of grief. Welcome to all suggestions.

Stussi 26, Widowed, and a little bit lost
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Hi all, I lost my fiancee on our Wedding Day Feb 2015 before we were married, we were both 24 at the time. Flash forward 18 months and I'm back at work doing well, I have friends and family who love me, but I feel so lost and don't know how to talk t... View more

Hi all, I lost my fiancee on our Wedding Day Feb 2015 before we were married, we were both 24 at the time. Flash forward 18 months and I'm back at work doing well, I have friends and family who love me, but I feel so lost and don't know how to talk to anyone about it. I'm lonely and sad and find it hard to relate to anyone my own age in and out of relationships as I don't know anyone my age who has been through the same thing as me. I feel like I have to be strong too, it's just part of who I am, but I am sick of being strong... I suppose I am looking for someone to relate to, someone who understands... Happy and open to talk.. any help would be appreciated. Thank you in advance

Button69 I lost my mum and dad to suicide and I don't know how to feel
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I lost my mum and dad to suicide and i dont know how to feel. I loved them very much but im trying to forget there memories because i feel so much guilt and pain when i think of them. I feel like im slowly heading down the road they took. I want help... View more

I lost my mum and dad to suicide and i dont know how to feel. I loved them very much but im trying to forget there memories because i feel so much guilt and pain when i think of them. I feel like im slowly heading down the road they took. I want help please

Devislust Angel mummy
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Today has been the worst for my mental health. Being referred to a psychologist tomorrow to talk about everything. I've recently lost 2 babies due to miscarriage and its the only thing in my mind. I can't describe how I feel. Nobody I know understand... View more

Today has been the worst for my mental health. Being referred to a psychologist tomorrow to talk about everything. I've recently lost 2 babies due to miscarriage and its the only thing in my mind. I can't describe how I feel. Nobody I know understands. I'm too scared to go into the shops cause I'll break down crying. Even going for a simple blood test plays on my mind. I don't know what to do.

Solosombra Can't remove the image from my memory! Words to my baby! *possible trigger warning*
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Aurora Jane mason: not one day has gone by that I haven't thought of you. I remember the day before you were born I was a total mess stressing over everything and nothing, people were telling me that this will be the most memorable moment of my life!... View more

Aurora Jane mason: not one day has gone by that I haven't thought of you. I remember the day before you were born I was a total mess stressing over everything and nothing, people were telling me that this will be the most memorable moment of my life! hearing your own baby girl cry out for the first time. So six years ago today daddy finished work and rushed to meet you and mummy at the hospital, full of pride for the first time I was so excited too meet you. But the entire floor was quite when I got there and all I could hear were heartbroken cries and tears,still born is what they told me. Daddy is so sorry he wasn't there, daddy is so sorry that he never got too hear your first scream, daddy is sorry he didn't have the strength to stay in the hospital with you and mum and ran off! I will always remember your ethereal face though my baby for the rest of my life! And your life which was taken from you will continue to play out in my dreams... It is the price I pay for living while you are no longer here. Love always and forever Dad xox

Jen78 Coping with the loss of my dad
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3 weeks ago my family and I lost my dad to cancer after a 2 year battle. My mum was his primary carer and also my absolute hero. Seeing him in so much pain was terrible but his passing has given us some comfort he is no longer in pain. I live alone b... View more

3 weeks ago my family and I lost my dad to cancer after a 2 year battle. My mum was his primary carer and also my absolute hero. Seeing him in so much pain was terrible but his passing has given us some comfort he is no longer in pain. I live alone but spent several weeks with my family. Now I am back home and getting back into work it literally does not feel real. I feel like I don't cry enough. I do have some moments where I break down but then soon after I feel better. It seems to come in waves. Living alone with not much of a social life is hard, and I do spend as much time with my family during this time but also understand we need our own space too. This is the first time I have experienced loss.

Kizzels Five weeks after my stepfather died my son passed away
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Hi, I am new to forums and this is my first ever post. I'm not sure what I am hoping for but two years ago I lost my mum very quickly and unexpectedly. Then in January this year mum's husband passed away. His death stired up the loss of mum again and... View more

Hi, I am new to forums and this is my first ever post. I'm not sure what I am hoping for but two years ago I lost my mum very quickly and unexpectedly. Then in January this year mum's husband passed away. His death stired up the loss of mum again and I thought losing mum was the hardest lost I would ever have to endure - I was wrong! Five weeks after my stepfather died my son passed away. That phone call was my worse nightmare coming true and after the autopsy to find out his death could have been prevented if the people he was staying with would have called for medical assistance makes it all that much worse. I am trying to find a balance with my youngest son, I am trying to not smother him but I don't want him to feel as though I am not always there for him either. Myself, I am totally lost and can't find any enthusiasm to do anything and have been off work since my son died. If anyone has gone through something similar or even lost a child, I could really use any words of wisdom. I feel like I'm in a downward spiral and can't seem to get a grip on my way down. I know my life has changed forever and I am not ever going to be the same person but I don't know how to get through this. My children have always been my life.

Emma_1 struggling
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Hi Im new to this for the first time in over 20 years I feel totally alone my husband died and left me with 2 great kids but lately I find it hard to cope I miss my friends and have no one to talk to can anyone help me?

Hi Im new to this for the first time in over 20 years I feel totally alone my husband died and left me with 2 great kids but lately I find it hard to cope I miss my friends and have no one to talk to can anyone help me?

Autumn_Leaves Pregnancy loss & Possibility of cancer.
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Hi everyone,This is my very first post here. I decided to come here, because i feel so lost right now. I literally feel numb, i cry all the time, i can't sleep properly.A little about my background: I was diagnosed with severe depression in November ... View more

Hi everyone,This is my very first post here. I decided to come here, because i feel so lost right now. I literally feel numb, i cry all the time, i can't sleep properly.A little about my background: I was diagnosed with severe depression in November 2010, and was on medication. I felt fine, and i believe that it was really helping me to recover. However, i found out that i was pregnant in Feb 2011. I had to stop my anti-d's due to high risk of heart defects in the baby. So i stopped, and i managed to cope somehow.After she was born, i was fine. Fast forward to 2013, we became pregnant with our second. My world came crashing down when our 12 week test came back as positive for trisomy 21 (downs). We decided not to terminate, and we waited until our baby was born. She was born without trisomy 21.It's now 2016, and we decided to start trying for our 3rd baby in late 2015. We fell pregnant in march 2016, and had all the usual tests. All was good. I had my first scan on April the 1st, and they discovered a molar pregnancy. I had a d&c on April the 4th, and I've been having weekly blood tests since then to measure my beta hcg levels. They found a 12 week old baby when the d&c was performed, we thought we were only 7 weeks along; so we decided to cremate the baby.With a molar pregnancy, you need to have regular tests to make sure the hcg levels are coming down. If not, it can be a sign of retained tissue, persistent gestational trophoblastic disease (which needs chemo) or choriocarcinoma (Spreads to the lungs, and other organs. also needs chemo)So not only had we lost our baby, we found out that our baby was older; and we also had a risk of developing cancer. Losing your baby is bad enough, let alone finding out that you may have cancer.My levels were dropping like they were meant to, until may the 1st. From 979 they jumped to 2800, on may the 9th they jumped to 8,000. I'm devastated, i just want to feel better again; be better again. I feel like with everything that has been going on, I've not had a chance to grieve properly.I feel angry. Angry that the d&c was done blindly (not with ultrasound, due to not being "cost effective"), upset that i'll probably have to go in for surgery again. Frustrated with my body. I can't look at a baby, or be around one without getting upset. I don't want to go to family events, because people in the family are trying for babies. It's like a slap in the face, a reminder of what i lost.

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