I dont live with mum anymore, i wanted to have my own life, and didnt
want mum clinging to me. but now, between mum's memory loss and her
depression getting far far worse. she talks about wishing she was dead,
crying all day, being unbearably lonely ...
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I dont live with mum anymore, i wanted to have my own life, and didnt
want mum clinging to me. but now, between mum's memory loss and her
depression getting far far worse. she talks about wishing she was dead,
crying all day, being unbearably lonely all the time. i have tried to
get her to see the GP. and her psychologist. neither has really helped.
Finally mum met a woman who has had ECT and thought she too might
benefit from hospital treatment to get on the right meds. she told the
doctor and the doctor gave her a psychiatrist. she didn't like last
years psychiatrist. this years psych, she can't see for 2 months. two
months of her telling me every day that she never wants to leave the
house again, that she hates where she lives, that she wishes she were
dead. then of course every other day where she seems aware of her
situation and wants to try to fight it... but I know by the time she
gets around ot doing anything the feelings will change (within the day).
i suffer depression and anxiety too. not to her extent, i'm able to self
manage. talk myself up, mostly. but i dont wantto be around mum when she
is like this. she makes me so angry, she one day is asking me to help
her get a dog trainer, the next day she's cancelling and telling me it's
all too much... i dont have much time or energy in my own life, i work
full time and i barely cope with that. i like my alone time. i sleep
poorly. amd i'm generally just struggling to have any social life at
all. i called the crisis team and they told me to get a sooner
appointment with the psychiatrist, but i dont know who they are, mum
will never get around to doing anything about it, and her doctor wont
tell me anything, or generally do anything much of use... they've left
her like this for thirty years... they did nothing for my dad either. i
feel trapped. i want to take her to a hospital and say to them" take
her, make her better." but i know because she doesn't actually plan how
to commit suicide they wont do anything. i'm the only person in the
world she has. i feel guilty half the tie, angry the other half and
overlay it all with a desperation. i know others have it harder, i know
some daughters are full time carers for their parents... but i want to
have a life.. and i dont know how to cope the next two months or longer
until some medical professional sees how serious it is and bothers to
get involved and actually help her.