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[Chris D]

I need to talk to someone. I need encouragement. Please help me.

[Chris D]

Thankyou Jo,

My trust and confidence doesn't even exist anymore because of these people and services. I don't get it how come other people with the same issues get the help they need and i can't. I must b doing something wrong. Doesn't make sense. What is so wrong with me that people won't help me. Why?

I'm trying to change but i need people supporting me, feel like no one is beside me, no one is around to help, give me encouragement no one. I'm a person that is just crying out for help but no one is around to hear my pleas for help. Feel like i'm in a dark and cold forest alone. I don't get it. WHY? WHY? WHY?

[hamishandme]

Hi Chris d, 

fill me in on what's happened in the past week. You have a supportive friend who you spoke to, and also the callback service. There was a support group which wasn't very supportive. Did you get in touch with the police? They may be able to help with referrals to good doctors, social workers, counsellors etc. 

what is your GP like? Can you talk to them and tell them exactly what you've told us in the last post? Sometimes they need to have it spelled out for them so they can refer you to the counsellors you need. Should you be in hospital do you think? If you feel in danger and terrified then that may be an option. Do you live alone, ie is there someone who keeps you company, and can help you organise appointments etc. and have you tried any different doctors counsellors or groups if the current ones are not working. 

What specific help do you think you need - eg discussion group, one to one psychologist, psychiatrist, career counselling, cognitive therapy, medications? All of the above? i dont understand why you arent getting any of these. Tell us here what kind of help you need and people here may have some great advice. 

Did you speak to the beyond blue people? They, like the suicide callback service and lifeline, will be able to help in a very practical way. Ring all of them. Don't give up. 

Hope this helps.

[Chris D]

Thankyou Hamishandme,

It has given me some ideas in terms of how to go about getting the right people for myself.

I have told all of these people and services what is going on, i'm just really fustrated, angry, annoyed and most of all disappointed by them all.

BB, what should i do even my gp, mental health nurse and local mental health office and people aren't helping. i can,t get into see a psyhciatrist until end of January same with my gp and mental health nurse. I got the runaround by people and services again last Friday.

BB, do you have any ways or any other contacts that are able to give me the support i need.

I'm starting to think about looking for work again even though i know i'm not a 100% i feel i have no choice but to start looking.

Kind Regards

Chris

[geoff]

dear Chris, no your not 100% better yet, but I would suggest that if you find any work for it not to be a 40 hour week, because your not strong enough for this, sorry, but my concern is for your own health.

Please don't push your limits beyond comprehension, because you are slowly improving, you can tell by your posts, even though it's a struggle and annoying to find a psych, so please take it slowly. Geoff.

[Chris_B]

Hi Chris,

I think Hamishandme's post is a great place to start, even though the feeling of 'no one is helping' can be overwhelming, taking even 15 minutes (you can put it on a timer if you like) to sit down with a piece of paper and write down what specific help you would like is going to make things move along quicker.

It would be great if our heads were like cars and we could just go to the mechanic and say - take a look inside, something's wrong, fix it, but with GPs, psychs, and mental health services, they will need some guidance from you as to what you need.  The better ones will ask good questions to help you with this.

I'd try the list, and then I would suggest giving our support service a call on 1300 22 4636 and having this conversation, they could help you clarify what kind of support you need right now - if you're uncomfortable with talking on the phone, you can speak to the support service via live web chat between 4 and 10pm - the link to access this is at the top right of the page.

Geoff is right as well, you may not be able to see it from where you are, but your posts show that you are seeming less stressed and more able to think about moving forward.  One step at a time, and please keep talking to us in here.

best
CB

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[Stephen123]

Hi Chris D, I would just like to say exactly what CB just said.

i would just like to add that we are all behind you %100 and please keep in contact with us as   You move forward. We,re all here for you Chris, good luck

[R_]

Chris,

Just joined but read the thread all the way through and pulling for you here mate. Depression screws with your perception, I know, i'm there in the same place.

“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ― Anaïs Nin

things can change, things can get better.

[hamishandme]

Chris d, I think the worst thing about depression, which other people just don't seem to get, is that it messes with our brain. So, at a time when we need to organise appointments, remember to call people, meet new doctors and nurses and counsellors and heaven forbid DECIDE which ones are best, and our brain isn't working properly to start with, then it is the bravest struggle you will ever achieve. It is the worst irony, that when we're already stressed beyond belief, that we have to get even more stressed in order to get better. We get exhausted, we get angry, we get frustrated, we get sad. It's normal for us - it's the depression, it's not you! 

Our brains aren't thinking straight and they will convince us we're worthless - it's simply not true. Hang in there, keep at it, I promise you it will get easier. 

Personally I can see you've come a huge way since you first started this thread. Absolutely huge. Even just talking to us fellow sufferers here is helping you take little steps maybe without you even realising it. Keep up the great work and keep posting!!!

[Chris D]

Feeling down and lonely at the moment. I have told my gp, counsellor, mental health nurse everything and i can't see a psychiatrist till the end of Jan just like my mental health nurse. The local mental health team aren't to gd either. I do tell people everything i do write down how i am feeling and what has been happening. I have been getting the runaround by all of these services and people. I have told them that too,yet they still don't do anything. I have tried different gp, cousellor mental health nurse numerous times. I need more frequent counselling than once every 3 wks because of the dumb medicare system that only offers 10 session per yr. I'm paying $125 ph for private counselling sessions plus can't afford it. This is just really sad that they are treating me like this.

My family don't get it, they think i'm right to look for work they want me off the meds they just don't understand. Not been supported by them which is even very sad, i mean there not even buying books or anything on depression to try and learn about it. Some family. Thought i could count on them for support but obviously i was wrong again.

People don't get it. Never will.

[Jo3]

Hey Chris,

Glad you're still on here.  I'm feeling a bit like you tonight - lonely and sad.  I really hope you find a pysch that will help you. I wish that the government would help with mental illnesses regarding number of psych visits,  They cut it down from 12-15 down to 10 sessions per year.  It's crazy, you need weekly sessions.

I get what you're saying about family support.  I don't have my parents support as they aren't talking to me when I told them of the abuse 3 yrs ago. It sucks because they are the ones you need the most - family.  I thought too that I could count on them but no I was very wrong.

I hope you feel better soon.  By the way you are amazing with the support you are giving to others including me  Thank you for that, I really appreciate it because I know what it's like to be so down but you are still here and it's great.

Take care Chris,

Jo