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Someone to talk too

Chris D
Community Member
I need to talk to someone. I need encouragement. Please help me.
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Stephen123
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thanks for responding chris, I dread writing the wrong thing to a person that is obviously at a crisis point in their life. It is such a relief to hear that you are meeting with someone this afternoon, this is really good news for us chris well done! I must say I really liked CB,s idea that you type out some major points that you are struggling with and print it off and take it with you to the meeting. If you feel strong enough just hand it over to your friend you don,t have to say anything for now, but please believe me if you learn to talk and release that pit in your stomach will start to go away. I can still remember lying in bed in the phoetal position with that knot in my stomach the size of a football not able to move. It,s a memory for me now chris but I believe that if you find the right person that you can confide in, I strongly believe that that pit in your stomach can be a memory for you as well. Small steps chris, it,s not going to happen overnight but I swear to you it will happen. Great news that you are going to meet that person, great news!

chelsea_
Community Member

hi chris D,

i know im really late to reply, i understand the way you are feeling nobody can really help you because i got told that you have to help yourself. it isn't easy and it may sound stupid. but you have to try. you have to understand that no matter the way you feel there is always going to some annoying person who cares about you. Nobody understands i get that. Every sigle person is differnt and w=from what i can see in what you write is a person who can release their feelings and to me that is something bloody amazing. i can't. everyone is always like you come to me is want. the thing is that they turn on me when i really needed them. you need to find something to take your mind off the bad thoughts. it doesn't matter what it is appart from hurting yourself because if you try that- then everyone else out there suffers. I understand you. there is always one person in the world to help us. you just have to look no matter how tiring because you have to think of the end result. there was a time before you were sad. you may not remember but there will be pictures or videos. whatever could make you smile, take your mind off of them bad thoughts. music helps me try anything BUT hurting yourself. do not say goodbye because then you wont be able to say hello and I want to help you. you better reply. Your not burdening anyone with your thoughts your just reaching out for help, this my fellow human, is good keep doing it x

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Chris, back on deck 1.30am. lol

Meeting this person for a coffee is a great step, a little step forward, because depressed people wouldn't give a damn, they wouldn't have the energy to get out of bed, and by saying step forward only means that you are seeking help in other areas, like here as well, because the medical fraternity have let you down.

Sometimes people like all of us who have been through exactly what you are going through now have a more basic but definitely experienced understanding of how you feel.

OK professionals do their job, but it's only for 30 minutes a week, so what happens the rest of the time, well these professionals won't talk to you because they don't get paid, so it's all about money for them, but your friend and all of us are always here to support you.

I wonder whether you could find more time with your friend, as they also want to help you. Geoff.

Chris D
Community Member
Went to sydney last night to watch motorsport to try and reignite the flame that was burning inside me, it has been an interest of mine for over 20 yrs. It didn't work i sat there for 4 hours worrying and wandedring about things. Just could not get into, i don't know what else to try and do. This latest bout has consumed me for a week now still feeling the same i was a week ago. Nothing is working, things that did work aren't and my intersets aren't igniting the flame. Got the runaround by health professionals on friday again, going in circles, i can't get off this cycle. Just don't know what to do.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Chris, our interest in the hobbies that we once had, and I am talking about myself, which seems to relate to you now, is that all my past hobbies, my career and all those activities that I once loved, have now no interest with me one bit.

I used to love my handyman work, working full time 6 days a week, but then doing it at home on the last day of the week as well as at night time, so it was a full time job, but I loved everything about it, but now I couldn't give a damn about any of this work, the thought of changing a tap washer horrifies me, and I hate other people asking me to do anything, this is the scenario from having depression.

So my interests have done a full circle, and with me it's because my depression and thoughts of doing something happened when I was a handyman, so I associate both of these together, that's why I dislike any handyman work.

I am quite happy to tell my sons what to do, but to actually do it that's out of the question, although my youngest can do most things without any instructions.

I know your disappointment in watching the motorsports, but you might also do a full circle.

I know how you are feeling but I can an improvement on how you are thinking, and that's so much better than it was weeks ago, I also know that you have a long way to go, but it's a day by day proposition, so please take care. Geoff.

Chris D
Community Member
So just got home earlier than usual after being at a group for people with a mental illness, who are support people like us. Sat there for 3.30 hrs with barely anyone talking to me. People knew i wasn't in gd mood but no one came and sat with me or tried to have conversation with me. I feel really let down by this group now plus a couple of people haven't been to nice to me they keep bringing up things from the past, they know it gets under my skin but they keep doing it. I have told the bosses but they haven't done anything or said anything to this person. It was like no one cared about me. I knew i should not have gone today, now i feel worse than this morning. Absolutely pathetic.

Chris D
Community Member
Nothing is working for me. I have tried things that have worked in the past and also new things. I don't know what else to try. I can't relax, watch tv, exercise, enjoy the days,music nothing i can't even enjoy any of my interests. Very fustrating. Been like this for over a wk now, can't see gp or anyone else until end of january. Really worried about how i am going to go over christmas, new year period. I can't even deal with things now, so how am i meant to cope with christmas etc. I don't know what else to say or do anymore. I don't know who else to see or what other things to try, i'm lost all of my paths are dead end's.

Jo3
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Chris,

I understand how difficult Christmas can be for a lot of us.  Are you able to phone your GP and ask if you can see him/her this week as it's urgent.  Waiting until January, I feel, is too long to wait.  You really need to see or speak to someone before then.

Please give them a call and see how you go

Let us know

Jo

Chris D
Community Member

Everything is my fault. How come no one is willing to help me, what am i doing wrong. I tell people what is going on and still they don't help me, i get the runaround. I don't get why people won't help me is it because i'm a lost cause that no one can help me.

Not getting the help or support i need and i have told all of my health professionals this but no one is listening to what i am saying. It's like people have given up on me, feel like a piece of trash that has been lying in the gutter for wks and is slowly deteriorating away.

Jo3
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Chris,

You are not a loser, and everything is not your fault.  I just wish someone could help you.  You need to find someone that you can trust & gain confidence. 

It's disappointing to see that no one is helping you.  And just so you know - we are not giving up on you.  

Take care

Jo