Hi all, I’m posting here as I’m all out of ideas or good conversation to
have with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend are both from Norway,
living in Australia. I moved here initially for uni, and as she is
studying online she decided to move down w...
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Hi all, I’m posting here as I’m all out of ideas or good conversation to
have with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend are both from Norway,
living in Australia. I moved here initially for uni, and as she is
studying online she decided to move down with me. We are both due to
move back home either July or November 2024 depending on my
enrolment.Before leaving for Australia she did start a downwards curve
as the uni she applied to and is now studying online at wasn’t what she
expected. We were both living in Oslo (not together) and her uni wasn’t
very social and it only had like 1 lecture a week, additionally most of
her friends were living in different cities so already here she was
feeling slightly alone from time to time. In the end she decided she
might as well be uneasy in beautiful Australia with me than being alone
in Norway. Long story short - her situation is rooted in her life in
general, but moving here has worsened it at an alarming rate.Fast
forward to now - we are both living here, but she has no friends, no
physical uni to attend or go to, and she struggled a lot getting a job
with no luck. For the past month or so she has gotten gradually worse
waking up and going to bed depressed, we have a lot of nice moments
together and laugh a lot but ultimately she is growing more and more
frustrated with her situation. She feels a lack of purpose, which might
be due to her having no passion or hobbies (still figuring her life out,
fair enough) and that combined with little to no social life and no job
or routines to keep her afloat she seems like she is drowning. Both me
and her are trying to include her more in my social life, and to add
some structure otherwise - like going to study at the library while I’m
at uni, or to come study with me at my campus and such, along with
social stuff with my friends from uni. However nothing feels quite
"real", permanent or her own she says, and though it helps a little, it
doesn’t to much in the grand scheme of her situation.Now she is unsure
of whether or not she should stay and keep pushing through, leave me and
travel the country, or go back home to Norway - and in that case whether
or not we should do long distance for over a year before I get home or
if she should break up with me. We did long distance for 6 months and it
was excruciating, however we both love each other and both feel like
once we land back in Norway we are good to go and start our lives
together for real. I suggested we should pull through as a couple no
matter what she does, but she feels desperate and anxious and feels she
is choosing between different "evils" and that breaking up - making a
serious change - is at least a change.I agree that SOMETHING needs to
happen, be that getting a job and routines to give her purpose on a day
to day basis, or move back home. However with her emotional and mental
state fluctuating a lot, I suggested maybe getting professional help to
sort out her head and help justify or solidify whatever decision she
lands on.I am at a loss and I can tell I am getting more and more
frustrated myself as her state just gets worse and I am running out of
smart things to say about it. There is nothing I can currently do and I
feel like I am watching the love of my life slowly crumble to bits.
How do I talk to my doctor?
