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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Lost89 So down, so confused
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Hello online community. This is my 1st post so yay for me, I suppose this is a good step. Where do I begin? I have suffered from depression and anxiety since my teens and it has been an up and down battle ever since. I have been in a loving relations... View more

Hello online community. This is my 1st post so yay for me, I suppose this is a good step. Where do I begin? I have suffered from depression and anxiety since my teens and it has been an up and down battle ever since. I have been in a loving relationship for over 6 years now. My partner is what dreams are made of, supportive, understanding, loving and will do anything for me. Lately though I am so depressed and anxious, I can't even get off the couch. I don't sleep, I don't eat and I have zero motivation. Yesterday I couldn't go to work, which makes me more anxious as I had to call in sick (gotta love the power of anxiety hey?) I try to zero in on my thoughts to try and work through them, but they are going so fast I don't even know what they are. I feel so guilty as I have completely removed myself from my partner and I can see that im hurting him. How can he love the half version of myself? I feel so lost and unfulfilled, like I've wasted my prime time. I guess I feel like I don't even know myself anymore. Anyway, I don't even know where I'm going with this, I guess I just need to hear that im not alone, not crazy and there are others out there that feel the same. Thank you and stay strong!

Wilhelmina_Spankbottom Young Onset Parkinson's Disease and depression
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Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is ... View more

Hi everyone. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease about when I was 32 years of age. Since it became an issue, I have not been able to hold down a job for longer than 6 months. I have constant bouts of depression, for which my husband's answer is "suck it up". He is a control freak, has kicked me out of the house, and is having an emotional relationship with a once close female family friend and says it's all in my head. I am about to lose it completely. I just don't know what to do.......

SG1993 Anxiety or Depression?
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Hi All, this is following on from my last post a couple weeks ago with where I am at and how things are. I haven't been able to see a GP yet and haven't been overly keen to due to the fact that I would probably lose my Gov. job and have a cascade of ... View more

Hi All, this is following on from my last post a couple weeks ago with where I am at and how things are. I haven't been able to see a GP yet and haven't been overly keen to due to the fact that I would probably lose my Gov. job and have a cascade of other events occur, however I have more-so just been monitoring how I have been going and will make the decision to see someone if there is no improvement. Long story short from my other thread, I've had issues at work the last 12 months with definitely some workplace bullying (Management told me to basically suck it up and be resilient) . This has had me extremely depressed whenever I would travel away for work for the few days I would be there (I work away from home so I spend 3-4 days a week away from home). Last week the culprit with this workplace bullying tried to put me in the spotlight for something I did not do, and just interacting with him and rightly justifying myself left me extremely anxious and I could feel my heart beating through my chest. I literally cannot enjoy my last day off any more because I know I will have to travel to work, and it's gotten to the point where I don't want to do anything really on that last day off because I just feel really down and sad about travelling back. Someone might be able to weigh in here on this - currently I can only be happy when being around home and with my girlfriend. At work I feel like I have this heavy weight on me where I am just constantly feeling upset and just anxious about things that I shouldn't get anxious or worried about (for example, worried about my girlfriend when she has proven to me she is extremely loyal and would never do me wrong). My biggest problem is that I just go into my shell when I am at work and it feels like that roller coaster of emotions like I explained. I have gone from an out-going care-free kind of person to someone now who is constantly down about being away from work & my partner, and just feeling like I can't really be properly happy and enjoy the things I would usually do even when I am away from that environment. Does anyone else experience these acute fluctuations in feelings? I can be walking around and just feel dizzy, and generally unwell at work. Even travelling to work at the end of my last day off can easily get me quite upset and again nearly making me feel sick .I've always tried to push through this, my work performance is suffering as a result and I feel my relationship may suffer as well.

Sdm Relapse after 15 years on medication
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Was diagnosed with depression in 2002 and started taking anti-depressants, these worked, but after a prolonged period of financial stress I have fallen into a debilitating depression with extreme anxiety and don't know what I can do as the medication... View more

Was diagnosed with depression in 2002 and started taking anti-depressants, these worked, but after a prolonged period of financial stress I have fallen into a debilitating depression with extreme anxiety and don't know what I can do as the medication isn't working anymore.

Debzmite Tunnel vision
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So I saw my psychologist this morning and he pointed out I have tunnel vision. For example I'm convinced I need to go to a health retreat, lose 30kg get married and have kids. I'm convinced I need a uni degree so I earn enough so I can get married an... View more

So I saw my psychologist this morning and he pointed out I have tunnel vision. For example I'm convinced I need to go to a health retreat, lose 30kg get married and have kids. I'm convinced I need a uni degree so I earn enough so I can get married and have kids. Uhhhh how do you fix that? My psychiatrist told me there's more to life than Marriage and kids and it's totally blown my mind. help please....

Moomsy Don't know where to turn.
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I'm sick of being alone, acting like I'm fine and pretending like everything is okay and looking after everyone while no one pays any attention to me. I'm sick of being the one who people use to vent to and then discard once they're finished being sa... View more

I'm sick of being alone, acting like I'm fine and pretending like everything is okay and looking after everyone while no one pays any attention to me. I'm sick of being the one who people use to vent to and then discard once they're finished being sad, of being treated like an object. I'm sick of never having anyone ask me something that I can actually expand on because I know that they do not care about me. They have too much on their plates to be worried about what I have going on in my life; too much of their own problems for me to add onto it. I'm sick of never being able to talk, and never being happy. I'm sick of never enjoying a moment of my life for more than 10 minutes without a wave of depression being dumped on me by either myself or one of the many people I have to look after and support. I am sick of the fact that no matter how good life seems to be getting, I can't turn the corner and not have some tragedy come and hit me in the face. I never get to be me, I never get to experience things the way I want to. I'm sick of the fact that any time I want to talk or vent or express any form of sadness, someone else has something happen in their life and that becomes the focal point for them and me, meaning that my problems are pushed aside and forgotten. I hate that I can't do anything for myself without thinking about someone else the entire time. The fact that no matter what I plan for myself, I know that it will never happen without the entire activity being overshadowed by my feelings and thoughts being focused on someone else destroys me, it makes me realise that I am not living my own life, I am just an extra in everyone else’s. It doesn't help that half of the messages I send to people are ignored for hours on end, even when the person I messaged has come online at least 3 or 4 times since I sent the message and they still haven't bothered to even look at it let alone respond. I just wish someone would put in the effort to talk to me and to see me. I just want someone to care about me and how I am. But this will never happen, and I know that I will never be okay with that. Both of my best friends have significant others whom they can talk to and rely on. I have no one and I never will. I am so lonely and sad all of the time that I can't spend a day with the two most important people in my life without ruining it by becoming sad. I can't remember the last full day I had where I was happy. I am so lost and don't know where to go.

TET Anger Issues
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Hi Everyone. I'm a 28 year old Male, who is struggling with my Anger and Depression more now than anything. I have been laid off work, and am finding it extremely hard to get another job. I have a Fiancé and 2 year old daughter, and we are financiall... View more

Hi Everyone. I'm a 28 year old Male, who is struggling with my Anger and Depression more now than anything. I have been laid off work, and am finding it extremely hard to get another job. I have a Fiancé and 2 year old daughter, and we are financially struggling. Very much so, that we have to sell Household items to live, which is becoming hard because we really have nothing left to sell. I feel like a Failure, that I can't support my Family, and that each day comes, I don't know whether we will eat. We both have no family who talk to us, and it limits us to help. My anger of late, is really taking a toll on our Relationship. I'm always so Angry. The smallest thing sets me off. I instantly regret when I go off, but I can't help but go off. My Fiancé and Daughter are my world. We are all we have. But I feel as though I'm going to lose them soon, if I don't stop my Anger. Ive tried getting help, but it never seems to help me. Can anyone relate, or have any advice for me. I am struggling. I don't want to be Angry and Depressed no more. Suicide has never and will never be an option. I just want to be happy and normal again. Thanks

Sarahg94 I'm scared
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I hate this No sleep Wake up, work No eat Talk, be happy, be loving Get over it Your problems aren't problems "You're being stupid, You're dumb. What is wrong with you" There's always something, i always want more. So i work, i sleep (barely, or too ... View more

I hate this No sleep Wake up, work No eat Talk, be happy, be loving Get over it Your problems aren't problems "You're being stupid, You're dumb. What is wrong with you" There's always something, i always want more. So i work, i sleep (barely, or too much) i study, i love, i try. But nothing but feelings I'm just 'getting by'. I take pills, they'll help, "they just make you feel numb". Then why do i feel like i still need a gun?

Rukirra Having an identity crisis
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Hi, I'm new to the forums. I'm 31, and i have bipolar, panic disorder, ptsd, and bdp. I'm currently studying at uni, however, I feel like I have no direction in life, no life goals. I have changed degrees so many times, because i am just not happy wi... View more

Hi, I'm new to the forums. I'm 31, and i have bipolar, panic disorder, ptsd, and bdp. I'm currently studying at uni, however, I feel like I have no direction in life, no life goals. I have changed degrees so many times, because i am just not happy with what i'm doing. I constantly feel like i'm stuck on step one and can never move forward. I've had a lot of issues in my life, particularity being in a domestic violence relationship for 8 years where i wasnt allowed to do anything. Now that i am out of that situation, and with a loving partner, i have no real idea of what i want to do with my life. I do not handle any kind of stress well, however, i'm trying to preserver with uni because i do want to learn and feel educated, and i do want a career. But every time i think i have chosen my set career, i end up feeling quickly bored by it, or too overwhelmingly stressed by it. I even changed unis to see if that was my problem, but no, here i am again, completely unsure as to who i am and what i should do. The other thing is, i have never had a job before. I was in that horrible relationship from a young age, and for the past five years i have been just trying to get back on my feet again without crumbling into a heap every two seconds. I just feel like I have no identity. I dont know who i am, and nothing i have found so far seems to fit me. How can i move past this?

M2 Depression and self sabotage
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Is it normal to constantly want to"hurt" yourself during a particularly bad period of depression? I don't mean physically. Any way of sabotaging my future seems to be on the cards. This time it cost me a redundancy payout (20 years). Another time it ... View more

Is it normal to constantly want to"hurt" yourself during a particularly bad period of depression? I don't mean physically. Any way of sabotaging my future seems to be on the cards. This time it cost me a redundancy payout (20 years). Another time it was a split of my divorce settlement (I gave everything instead to my ex). Usually it is smaller, not financial, more a way of putting myself last somehow, others always first. It's obviously some kind of martyr complex. Often others don't know about it, else I'd guess it was to make others feel sorry for me. I think perhaps it's because I have somehow come to like being hopeless? Does anyone else have this? It has been extremely destructive to my life.