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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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krack01 Help! anxiety and relationships
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Hi everyoneI have a tough situation with my partner for 5 years and I need some understanding.My partner suffers from anxiety, she has had this diagnosed and has been on medication before. She was told that she was a rare case where her anxiety level... View more

Hi everyoneI have a tough situation with my partner for 5 years and I need some understanding.My partner suffers from anxiety, she has had this diagnosed and has been on medication before. She was told that she was a rare case where her anxiety levels were off the charts but her depression levels were very low. She came off medication after a few months as she didn't like the way she felt and suspected she still wasn't happy with her life but couldn't truly feel that as it was being masked by medication.She is a long term marijuana smoker since her very early teens and now uses that as part of self medicating for anxiety. It's worth noting I don't smoke and her smoking has led to a few minor issues.Since having our child 2 years ago our relationship has been patchy, We have both made mistakes but not those uncommon to many relationships. I feel I have been very patient and forgiving with her, while I don't feel I've been afforded the same luxury.Recently her anxiety has snuck in to our relationship. Our bickering over small things has made her fearful of even the smallest argument. This I believe has led her to start to become anxious about me calling, messing and coming home. That in turn has made her anxious about whether our relationship is right for her and now we are in a vicious circle. She says she loves me but doesn't know if she is 'in love' with me.Continued

Marnz Is it possible I have social anxiety?
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Hey guys, Im 21 and always been a very introverted and shy person. I've never been very good at socializing in large groups of people but in the last year it's gotten worse. I've been introduced to a lot of new people in the last year as I got a boyf... View more

Hey guys, Im 21 and always been a very introverted and shy person. I've never been very good at socializing in large groups of people but in the last year it's gotten worse. I've been introduced to a lot of new people in the last year as I got a boyfriend with a very large family that I'm not use too as I grew up with just mum and dad, and I knew that would be hard for me to adjust to anyway. But I find that whenever I am told of an event with them or an event with anyone who I havnt been friends with for along time I get filled with fear. I feel anxious and sick and I just want to avoid going at all. If I can't avoid going I get even more terrified and sit there the whole time with my mind racing about what they might be thinking of me. I like the people there, I just can't get any words out. It's making me really hate myself because I don't know what to do and I think they think I am rude and don't want to talk to them but that's not the case at all. I just physically feel so overwhelmed with fear I can't get any words out and I don't know what to do...

Jainist Chest pains and severe anxiety
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Hi all, I'm 40, married and a mum of 2. To keep it simple, I have suffered panic attacks since I was 18. Spent most of my twenties with few episodes. Thirties, a few episodes of depression/anxiety and panic. I turned 40 this year and my anxiety has n... View more

Hi all, I'm 40, married and a mum of 2. To keep it simple, I have suffered panic attacks since I was 18. Spent most of my twenties with few episodes. Thirties, a few episodes of depression/anxiety and panic. I turned 40 this year and my anxiety has never been worse. I am currently experiencing chest pains. It feels like my chest muscles and upper back are torn and sore. My heart has been racing for days, sometimes out of control. I have been walking, breathing, stretching and also practicing The Linden Method. His "Panic Eliminator" audio is genius and has REALLY helped me. (This method reminds you that anxiety is actually a fear of fear and you mistake the heart racing/sweating/mind racing as the FEAR you're so afraid of) Has anyone else experienced these horrible chest pains? When combined with the usual lost feelings of doom that anxiety can bring it's truly horrible.

Schmegs Seperation Anxiety/Too many changes
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I have recently been diagnosed with severe anxiety, I've lost count how many panic attacks I would have in one day! My life turned when I had my 3rd child and my grandparent went into a nursing home extremely ill and I haven't been able to go and see... View more

I have recently been diagnosed with severe anxiety, I've lost count how many panic attacks I would have in one day! My life turned when I had my 3rd child and my grandparent went into a nursing home extremely ill and I haven't been able to go and see her. I am used to always looking after her and doing things for her and with her. I'm after some advice on how I can turn my life around or how have you turned it around? I'm currently stuck in a body of aching, tired muscles that made me believe I was dying of some nuero disorder and that is the beginning of panic attack after panic attack, sometimes so paralysed I can't get out of bed. I'm currently under the care of my doctor but after other peoples experiences and advice.

Mary4670 Fear of death is crippling me
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I was raised in a strict Christian household but rejected my religious upbringing as a teenager. For many years I have considered myself agnostic. Rejecting religion was difficult for my family who continue to encourage me to return to it. This is so... View more

I was raised in a strict Christian household but rejected my religious upbringing as a teenager. For many years I have considered myself agnostic. Rejecting religion was difficult for my family who continue to encourage me to return to it. This is something I simply can't do. I've been through a few traumas in my life but nothing that many people before me haven't experienced. Eg sexual abuse as a child, infidelity, divorce. I have been stoic through any trials that come my way and most people would tell you I appear calm and collected. Over the past 6 months however, my fear of death (not particularly just mine but the death of those around me) has plagued me. My parents are elderly and I am a single parent. I'm horrified and heartbroken at the thought of their death. My parents will die soon and while most people would be very sad but appreciative of their long life, I am bereft. I spend hours in tears at the thought they might die. The idea of burying them and having them decay and rot in the ground terrifies me. I know they believe they will go to a beautiful place and be with their loved ones in heaven but all I see is decaying flesh and their bodies being consumed by insects. Lately I have been thinking that once my children move on with their lives and leave there may be no further point in living for me. My mind has turned to how I might carry that out. I have friends, interests and a good career, but none of this seems to help. The thought that something might happen to my children also paralyses me with fear. I could never bury my children and go on living. I know rationally that there is no reason for this to happen but I watch the news and see tragedy everywhere. Why should I be exempt? I see people go to family funerals and be extremely sad, but I break down at the thought of people dying that I don't even know. When I think of going to my own parent's funeral I am uncontrollably heartbroken and it saps my will to live. I'm afraid that when the day comes that I have to bury a parent that I will reach breaking point. I am not someone who ever falls apart publicly, but I can feel this coming like a wave that's about to crash and drown me.

iamanon Please dont judge me
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My name is... lets just call me anon21. For years now ive faced depression and social anxiety that I swear borders on agoraphobia. I'm also insanely paranoid to the point I cover all camera lenses on all my digital device and have massive trust issue... View more

My name is... lets just call me anon21. For years now ive faced depression and social anxiety that I swear borders on agoraphobia. I'm also insanely paranoid to the point I cover all camera lenses on all my digital device and have massive trust issues (I got a new phone 2 months ago, havent been able to answer a single call). I've faced a lot of judgment and have faced several issues that have made me scared of all that is outside my home. This ranges from being bullied throughout my school years to being beaten black and blue by my "friends at the time" while it was filmed and i was laughed at by a crowd of at least 20 people at a train station during the incident. I was set up by them regarding something that was not their business, totally unjustified. I'm guessing thats a primary factor towards my massive trust issues. After this incident, I didnt leave my home for 11 months, I couldn't even set foot in my backyard. Years have passed since then and i still find myself in the same situation, though I occasionally force myself to leave the house just so I can say to myself "See, this isnt so bad, you're just as safe here as you are at home". Whenever i go out, I have this thought recurring in my head saying "you shouldnt be here, its not safe", Regardless of the place. Recently it has started manifesting itself in physical ways and whenever im out, for every second, I feel like im going to wet myself, regardless of previous toilet trips. I couldnt even stay the night at my best mates (known for 9 years) place 2 weeks ago without having to go home due to almost having an anxiety attack. Having already being a sufferer of Depression, The feeling that my bedroom is a prison has added weight onto it, I feel hopeless. I had to leave my previous workplace due to the anxiety/depression, which didnt feel good as I let down the people I worked with and didnt provide notice or a reason why I left. I self harmed for a long period of time but havent in years now, Just as well, I could never feel good working in short sleeves due to my scars. I'm considering applying for DSP due to the fact that I dont see myself as being fit to work due to my psychological issues which have started causing physical distress, Would this be a viable idea? Could someone also provide information on whether or not centrelink will pay for a psychologist for me? (Not that it would be easy for me to get to with my conditions) P.S had an anxiety attack posting this as its so personal.

hearn99 do i have anxiety?
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Hi i'm 15 and i don't know if i have anxiety or not? I've looked through the symptoms and i can name a few that are similar to mine like not long ago my parents split up over an affair involving abuse and all that and i've been having terrible nightm... View more

Hi i'm 15 and i don't know if i have anxiety or not? I've looked through the symptoms and i can name a few that are similar to mine like not long ago my parents split up over an affair involving abuse and all that and i've been having terrible nightmares of those scenes and i keep picturing these scenes at school and at home. I find it hard to concentrate on simple things and i've become very bad at remembering what im doing and what im saying like i forget what im talking about halfway through a sentence. i get scared of going out of the house and going to school and i panic over a lot of things. i haven't told anyone but my friends have started to notice strange things that im doing. What does all this mean?

gmc Have you been through this?
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Hello everyone, I've been for around 1 week and a half on this forums and I am deeply thankful for the support I've received from the wonderful people here. I try to read all your stories and in time return all the great support. I've decided to open... View more

Hello everyone, I've been for around 1 week and a half on this forums and I am deeply thankful for the support I've received from the wonderful people here. I try to read all your stories and in time return all the great support. I've decided to open another post to talk about something that's on my mind for a long long time, since I can't remember. I get very enthusiastic about some plans and even decisions I make sometimes and after I express them, how I feel and what do I plan to do, it seems like it all gets away, like it's not mine and everything it's hopeless, I can't do it anymore, it was a bad decision. Even if I want it badly, I get back to what my mom sometimes says, that I'd be better if I wouldn't want "that much"... Or I don't think about it too much to see if it's a good decision or not. Last time it happened today. I decided I'd follow a master program in psychology, something I want to do for a while, and be an arts therapist specialised in theatre, as acting is a big passion of mine. Talking to my mom about it and how excited I am to have decided this, I felt very awkward about my own dream. I think that I am too confused, that I am desperately thinking of a reason to live, actually, that I feel the presure from my parents that I have to follow my studies, that depression and anxiety are controlling my life and I have to do something about it, that maybe I don't follow my passion for psychology and acting because I am too scared or my parents even if they would support me, they wouldn't agree with my choice... I don't know. It's like too much going on. So I hope you get that I won't even tell you about the almost unbearable level of anxiety I've been through, but the story (or better said the adventure) of finding a good specialist to treat me is in another thread. And I don't live in Australia. Have you been through this, through feeling that thoughts are not anymore yours as you put it in spoken words?

jrb having a hard time
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I'm struggling day by day & i can't find anything to be happy about. I'm having a hard time with my anxiety & depression and sometimes i just want to give in but i have to tell myself just try to cope with these feelings. My anxiety started when i wa... View more

I'm struggling day by day & i can't find anything to be happy about. I'm having a hard time with my anxiety & depression and sometimes i just want to give in but i have to tell myself just try to cope with these feelings. My anxiety started when i was in high school where i was bullied everyday for five years. I hid the bruises from my mum and dad because i wanted to handle it myself until the middle of year twelve when i lifted my shirt and showed them the bruises and they were very upset i didn't come to them.

CSmith Mixed anxiety-depression - let's talk about it.
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I have had troubles with anxiety for as long as I can remember, but it wasn't until I was diagnosed with mixed anxiety-depression (this year), that I actually realised that how I have been living is very energy-consuming and no healthy. There are tim... View more

I have had troubles with anxiety for as long as I can remember, but it wasn't until I was diagnosed with mixed anxiety-depression (this year), that I actually realised that how I have been living is very energy-consuming and no healthy. There are times when I feel absolutely fine and can talk to anyone without felling self-conscious or worthless, but there are other times when the anxiety is so bad that I just repeat negative and hurtful thoughts about myself in my mind, like my own mantra. I go to university and find it quite difficult to walk into a room that has more than a few people in it. If I am late to class, I usually don't go. But the main thing that gets me is that when I look around and see people being so carefree and completely comfortable in their own skin, it makes me hate myself more and I often get very emotional about this. I feel like I put more pressure on myself to be better than I can, because it shouldn't actually be this hard. What I really want is to be able to enjoy my life and not feel so trapped within my own body. I am trying to meditate when I can, but so far I don't think that much of a change has occurred. I am also talking to a counsellor regularly, and this has helped me work through some of my issues. Are there any other ideas for dealing with anxiety and/or depression (besides medication) that anyone thinks are beneficial?

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