Anxiety

Debilitating anxiety about death

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Hi friends, My anxiety has latched on to death and its unrelenting. I always thought that when I go I'd be surrounded by loved ones, especially my mum but I'm the youngest in my family and I don't want kids. So now I'm terrified of dying alone and th... View more

Hi friends, My anxiety has latched on to death and its unrelenting. I always thought that when I go I'd be surrounded by loved ones, especially my mum but I'm the youngest in my family and I don't want kids. So now I'm terrified of dying alone and that I won't which is all mixed up with losing my mum. See, she's been one of my main support systems and shes been helping me through all of this but what happens if she goes and I'm still like this. I'm really scared. And of course it's more extensive than that because I end up spiralling and I think of other things, like I'm not close with my brothers and I don't know how to start communicating with them. Normally when I get anxious I can tell myseld I'm being silly and I can talk myself down, but in this case my fear is a real possibility. And everytime mum helps me through an episode I struggle not think about what would happen if wasn't here. I rarely feel anything except anxiety, my stomach is constantly tense, I feel confused about my relationship with my partner because of it. I don't feel comfort when we hug or when he reaches out, I don't really feel live for him right now and I know that's cause I'm So wrapped up in my fear but it makes everything ten times harder. Im paralysed from fear of this. And I don't understand how no one else is. YellowPoppy

How do you tell people?

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Hi all, I have been attending counselling through uni and I have now been told that I should visit a GP and obtain a mental health care plan from them and discuss various options going foward. So basically I feel like this just got real, like before ... View more

Hi all, I have been attending counselling through uni and I have now been told that I should visit a GP and obtain a mental health care plan from them and discuss various options going foward. So basically I feel like this just got real, like before I could pretend that what I was feeling was everyday stress- I knew it wasn't but accepting that has been hard. I also recently went to the doctors to ensure there wasn't any physiological cause for my anxiety and felt like I was being judged the whole time and honestly didn't find the whole experience very helpful- so going back even to a different place is causing me a whole heap of stress. Is there any advice on how to approach this, even just what to expect going forward. I am in a whole new place and new things and me do not mix very well. I feel like I'm in danger of burying my head in the sand and ignoring this problem, even though I'm at the stage where I Think that will no longer work. I think my main concern is people finding out I don't share my feelings very often and hide panic attacks when they occur- how do I tell people and when I do how do I get Over the constant feeling of judgement?

Anxiety or just not attracted to the person?

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Hi, So I've recently started a relationship with a guy. He's soo sweet and has been very supportive about feeling overwhelmed and anxious. I was diagnosed with GAD a few years ago and for the most part, it has been well managed with medication and th... View more

Hi, So I've recently started a relationship with a guy. He's soo sweet and has been very supportive about feeling overwhelmed and anxious. I was diagnosed with GAD a few years ago and for the most part, it has been well managed with medication and therapy. Around the same time the relationship started, I started my first full-time job after graduating from uni. My anxiety has been at an all-time high. I've somehow convinced myself that I can't do both at the same time (full-time work + relationship). It's gotten to the point where sometimes it feels like a chore to hang out with this guy, I get nervous and almost need to plan for our dates mentally. I didn't feel like that in the first week or two. I feel that my anxiety is stopping me from enjoying my time with this guy. But I'm also confused because I feel that if I liked the guy a lot, I shouldn't feel like this? Or is this a normal thing to feel when you have anxiety? I've resumed therapy with my psych, but wondering if anyone has ever experienced something similar? Would love your insights Thanks

Scared feeling?

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I frequently get this weird scared feeling when i try to go to sleep. Its hard to explain but its like it feels like ive got evil eyes watching me. I also get the feeling during the day sometimes. I suffer from cptsd,major depression,ocd,gad. I dont ... View more

I frequently get this weird scared feeling when i try to go to sleep. Its hard to explain but its like it feels like ive got evil eyes watching me. I also get the feeling during the day sometimes. I suffer from cptsd,major depression,ocd,gad. I dont know if its related. Its only started in the last few yrs.

Dealing with Anxious Father

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I am a 30 year old single mother who has taken in a parent after a separation as he does not earn enough income to be independent and he has trouble doing basic things due to his anxiety. (Eg. Pay a bill, talk to centrelink) a lot has gone wrong for ... View more

I am a 30 year old single mother who has taken in a parent after a separation as he does not earn enough income to be independent and he has trouble doing basic things due to his anxiety. (Eg. Pay a bill, talk to centrelink) a lot has gone wrong for us, at the top being him losing all his identity documents and getting them all back is a 6 month + process due to being a refugee. I’m not only supporting him financially as of next week on my benefits, I’m trying to be his rock of rationality and it’s taking a toll. i have a 2 month old and he isn’t able to help me for long because his anxiety takes over and I am starting to feel a little resentful because I do so much and I’m burning out, but I also understand it’s his anxiety and I feel so guilty. what can I do to help my own mental health, but his as well? Thank you x

New job anxiety

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Hi, this is my first post so unsure exactly where to start! I've recently (6 weeks ago) started a new job which is more senior & more money than I’ve had before & im completely overwhelmed & suffering with really bad anxiety & feeling totally incapab... View more

Hi, this is my first post so unsure exactly where to start! I've recently (6 weeks ago) started a new job which is more senior & more money than I’ve had before & im completely overwhelmed & suffering with really bad anxiety & feeling totally incapable! feels like it’s too much of a big step up there has been no training and no time to settle in as I’ve got so many tasks to complete, I’ve got little to no support from my boss & feel with such a senior role I’m expected to just get on with it which is making me anxious about failing! I’m trying to meditate when I can which isn’t very often as the anxiety makes me so agitated! Ive seen my gp & had 1 appointment with a psychologist which helped at the time but can’t seem to control my anxiety! friends have advised me to either speak up at work or leave but too anxious to do either! Any suggestions? reading other posts have helped me realise so many other people are in similar situations! just want it to stop

How do I help my friend with their body issues?

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Hello all, I saw that this category of thread discusses eating disorders. (forgive me if I am wrong) Anyways here I go¬ For a little while now, my friend has been experiencing a lot of self -loathing relating to their appearance, in particular their ... View more

Hello all, I saw that this category of thread discusses eating disorders. (forgive me if I am wrong) Anyways here I go¬ For a little while now, my friend has been experiencing a lot of self -loathing relating to their appearance, in particular their weight. They have confided in me their feelings, their obsessiveness with keeping count of calories and have scratched the surface along the lines of starving themselves/vomiting up their food. Though they haven't been overly descriptive of their experience, I'm certain that I have a clear idea of what they have been struggling with. Every time this person confides in me I try to do things that have been recommended to me on the internet. I'm aware I'm not a professional, and I'm not trying to be one when it comes to peoples struggles. I just want to be able to support my friend the best way I can, because I don't want them to feel alone in this, and I'm worried if I say the wrong thing it will cause them to suffer more. From the internet I have been ¬ avoiding talking about their body, and focusing more on their feelings at the time ¬ always recommending talking to a specialist about their problems (if they are comfortable enough) ¬ reminding them that they have a lot of people supporting them (including me), that will be there for them to talk to and rely on (mainly that they aren't alone in this) ¬ telling them that getting help early is the best option, but to take each day at their own pace and that nobody is forcing them to do anything Though I think these techniques has helped me talk them through this a bit, I feel as though I'm not doing enough. I know it is not my place to be a professional or anything along those lines, but I would love some advice on how to talk to them about it in a way that will positively impact them. To remind them that they aren't alone, and they have friends who want/can to support them. (Since some of the talks I think they may have gone to a professional and talked about it, so I'm really happy about that for them, even if it only helped a little. They are an amazing person who deserves the best, and it would be great for them to live life to the fullest) Thanks for any reply's, I really would appreciate any help for my friend.

anxious about school camp?

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i don’t know why i’m feeling this way, but all i can think about recently is my school camp. it’s still months away but for the past few weeks it’s all that’s been on my mind and i’m so worried. i’m 15 and i’ve been on school camps before with little... View more

i don’t know why i’m feeling this way, but all i can think about recently is my school camp. it’s still months away but for the past few weeks it’s all that’s been on my mind and i’m so worried. i’m 15 and i’ve been on school camps before with little to no issues, but recently i fell down a deep hole of mental health struggles and i know it may be stupid but my cat really helped me with getting over these struggles- or at least toning them down a bit. i got my cat three months ago and i’ve already relied so heavily on him to calm down and remind myself that i have at least one reason to try, one reason to stay alive. i’m worried about leaving him for three days. i don’t know how i’m going to react when he’s not there to help me. recently i’ve become so stressed in social situations, even teachers have noticed and tried to send me to the school councillor. what if i feel too overwhelmed on camp and my cats not there to help me feel calmer during my anxious breakdowns? i already don’t sleep when i’m on school camps because i feel too nervous around everyone, and now i’m also going to have to try to sleep without him curling up next to me. it will be too strange. in my house, i’m the one that takes care of my cat too. what if my he gets sick when i’m gone? or what if he runs away and i never see him again? he’s an indoor cat and is only allowed out for around an hour a day when i’m outside with him. my siblings don’t see why i’m so clingy, what if they let him outside and he runs off? between the fear that i’ll be too overwhelmed at camp and the fear that i’ll leave for camp and never see him again, i can’t think of anything else. i would just like to clarify that i haven’t been to a doctor and had any mental illnesses diagnosed. my parents and teachers have recommended therapy/school councillors, but i’ve never gone to them. i feel too dumb expressing how i feel, because i hear myself and realise how insignificant my problems are. i hate feeling this way, but i also can’t bring myself to speak up anywhere that’s not online. i’m actually doing significantly better than i was a few months ago, but i know that the smallest things can send me down a spiral of feeling nothing and loneliness for weeks or months at a time. i’m worried that school camp will be the thing that sends me down that spiral, and i really don’t want to feel that way again. i need to go to the camp, but i don’t know how to get over my concerns.

Washing my hands over and over - a sign of OCD?

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Hi everyone! So here's my story - the past year or so, I've been really obsessed with washing my hands even if they get slightly polluted. There's no deep meaning behind this - I just don't want furniture and accessories to be contaminated with whate... View more

Hi everyone! So here's my story - the past year or so, I've been really obsessed with washing my hands even if they get slightly polluted. There's no deep meaning behind this - I just don't want furniture and accessories to be contaminated with whatever is on my hands, especially bodily fluids like blood. I have a fear of unknowingly spreading germs and making things unclean and unusable in a unsafe way. I had a phase like this in 2010-2012, then it stopped, then it happened again early this year. My family have noticed and think it's odd. I'm just worried that bodily fluids like blood and mucus might be highly contaminating and polluting. I guess I need some advice to calm me and reassure me that I'm not doing anything wrong.

Work anxiety

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Hello, I started my new job 9 months ago. I had a bad feeling about the decision I was making to move jobs to begin with but I thought it was just nervous energy during to change. The job is in the same industry however it is a lot more senior. I was... View more

Hello, I started my new job 9 months ago. I had a bad feeling about the decision I was making to move jobs to begin with but I thought it was just nervous energy during to change. The job is in the same industry however it is a lot more senior. I was not provided any training for the role, no guidance on processes or how they do things, I was left to my own devices. Every catch up with the boss become a negative experience where she would give me negative feedback. There was no support offered at any stage. In the 1:1 meetings she would make comments such as “why did you even leave you past job”. She would behave in a very passive aggressive manner at times, staring at me, and making passing comments. For example once we had a team meeting about company values where they presented psychometric test results for everyone, I was new so I had to do one per-employment and one post-employment. The results were different, and the comment I revived from my boss was, “oh did you lie to get a job in the pre-employment test”. More recently, I called a meeting with Snr Management to discuss issues and provide suggestions regarding one of our markets. The meeting was a disaster, it was a failure. My boss made a comment after everybody left, “I knew this was going to happen”! She would give me feedback to ask questions and then when I do she would tell me how everybody else works independently and I ask too many questions. Lastly, I had to implement changes to one of my markets. There was a communication brake down on all fronts. I was blamed for it. Because of everything that has happen, I question my own ability to do the job. I can’t relax, I feel anxious all the time, I can’t sleep properly. I think about the job all the time and it makes me anxious and sad. It makes me question my decision to take this job, I question my ability to find a different job. Everybody loves my boss and sees her as some really nice person. I don’t hate the job but I hate the environment I am in and the people I work with are all in for themselves, there is nobody I can trust or ask for help. I feel scared and anxious to stay there and I feel anxious to move on and get another job as I feel I lost all my confidence. I want my anxiety to stop. I even called help line they have at work to talk to somebody and the lady advised me that I needed psychiatric help after 20 minutes of talking to me in which she mostly talked and I listened.

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