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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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laz360 Working with Crippling Anxiety
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Hi all, I have terrible anxiety and at the start of the year I got my first job but quit after one shift and I found it was too much for me and too overwhelming. I have finally worked up the courage to apply for another job and got it. I have worked ... View more

Hi all, I have terrible anxiety and at the start of the year I got my first job but quit after one shift and I found it was too much for me and too overwhelming. I have finally worked up the courage to apply for another job and got it. I have worked one shift and have been crying for three days straight after it. I haven’t eaten in days and can barely sleep and when I do the moment I wake up I am filled with dread and can hardly bring myself to get out of bed. It doesn’t help that my family isn’t being supportive and they tell me that I don’t have it bad and there are people out there worse than me so I should suck it up, and they are threatening that if I don’t keep the job they will no longer look after or support me in any way. I was seeing a psychologist earlier in the year but stopped cause I didn’t have the money for it. I really just don’t know what to do. Every time I think about work i have a panic attack and want to quit but I also can’t help but feel if I can’t do this job then I’m never going to be able to do any, but I know I have to work but I genuinley feel like I can’t and I just don’t know what to do with myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

LesDave This has helped me with anxiety
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Not sure if you are allowed to post links, so instead I will suggest you look for this yourself. It more or less backs up a few of the things that are tips on this forum. When I feel anxiety creeping back into my life I use this technique to keep it ... View more

Not sure if you are allowed to post links, so instead I will suggest you look for this yourself. It more or less backs up a few of the things that are tips on this forum. When I feel anxiety creeping back into my life I use this technique to keep it under control. Search YouTube for 10 steps to improve your memory by London Real. While the focus is on improving memory, the step where they talking about 'killing ANTs (automatic negative thoughts)' is similar to what you will see elsewhere about acceptance and commitment therapy. In this case, they say all this negativity that creates ANXIETY has a detrimental affect on your health, as your body does not know the difference between real threats or fears, or perceived threats or fears. So to LOOK AFTER YOURSELF you need to get rid of the negative thoughts. If you are having trouble learning how to do this, search for some assistance on acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)

Gossips Lost and can’t control myself
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I’m new to this and I don’t really know where to start. iv been dealing with myself for a good few years now, I’m only young but lately it just seems to have become too much. Everything I’m doing doesn’t feel like enough, I feel I push those around m... View more

I’m new to this and I don’t really know where to start. iv been dealing with myself for a good few years now, I’m only young but lately it just seems to have become too much. Everything I’m doing doesn’t feel like enough, I feel I push those around me away that I truly care about and want to share my life with. Iv shut down, I feel nothing and I’m all I can feel is emptiness. its affected my job, myself, my partner and I love my partner with everything I am. Doing this for her and for us to be happy again is the only way I can write this post. I’m not used to opening up, I can’t do it to other people. I’m hoping that doing it anonymously online might help. But I’m terrified if I don’t find myself again, I’m going to lose everything around me I care about.. life has been black, and all I want is the light back in my life. I want to be happy.

corolla struggling with anxiety day by day
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name is adam online name corolla and I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I have been seeing a psycologist 4 times already and it has been helping me but the last 3 weeks I have been having trouble trying to get to sleep at night and... View more

name is adam online name corolla and I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I have been seeing a psycologist 4 times already and it has been helping me but the last 3 weeks I have been having trouble trying to get to sleep at night and then when I am asleep I have trouble trying to wake up in the morning so I have been missing out on heaps of work o I haven't been getting paid because I have no sick leave left I had a full week of feeling great about 4 weeks ago but since then I have felt worse and I don't know why I am on anti depressents but they always keep me drowsy and not seem to be working has anyone else been going through the same effects as I am

binschnady Strange uneasiness when waking sometimes
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Hi I don't know if this is even the right place, but I don't really know how to explain this. But lately, about once a fortnight, not too bad, I've been waking up with this weird feeling almost of incompleteness I guess. But not like having not done ... View more

Hi I don't know if this is even the right place, but I don't really know how to explain this. But lately, about once a fortnight, not too bad, I've been waking up with this weird feeling almost of incompleteness I guess. But not like having not done something; it will be a group or numbers, or a group of people, usually 6ish, and of that group everything is fine, but then usually its 2 of them are just wrong for some reason, and this is usually with a weird unrelated picture as well with something where things just aren't working. This weird feeling overcomes me and it's of unease I'd probably say and I can't get to sleep because this incompleted kind of thing just keeps giving me this weird uneasiness. Sometimes it will be complete, say the 2 people are finally enjoying whatever they're doing, but then it just happens again. Being a Christian, I'll read my Bible and pray and it tends to let me go to sleep, but up until then it just worries me weirdly. I'm sorry about how confused this is but it just seems to not make any sense. Ben

john321 Dealing with anxiety
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Hi everyone, I'm off to see a counsellor in a couple of weeks. I wanted help with some techniques for dealing with some of my anxious habits. I tend to project my anxieties in my conversation. Being meta, this forum is that projection as well. All my... View more

Hi everyone, I'm off to see a counsellor in a couple of weeks. I wanted help with some techniques for dealing with some of my anxious habits. I tend to project my anxieties in my conversation. Being meta, this forum is that projection as well. All my conversations seem to revolve around an issue I'm having (which are never ending being an overthinker). I want to stop this. I'm always serious in conversations. I can't remember the last time I laughed heartily. I find conversation without a good deep/meaningful topic rather boring. But I'm also embarassed to laugh like people are judging me if I laugh. As though laughter is a sign of stupidity. (I know its me, how do I overcome it?) I find talking with family and friends have limits. No one really listens, they just react with a basic answer that tends to make me feel guilt like I'm complaining. While I concede I am on the negative side (positives seem to remain unsaid), I am usually observing a situation and trying to decide if its right for me. Then I ask advice to validate my direction. One example of an issue I'm having is I'm a guy bisexual, which is confusing as it is (my parents prefer I be either gay or straight). I like this girl who is amazing in so many ways, perfect for me and likes me for me. I find I can't seem to have conversation deep enough with her for me. When I ask her opinion on something, I never really get one. So when I talk about her with people, I come off as a villian for the most part, complaining but to me its just observing and trying to figure out if she is right for me or not. I focus on the negatives. Any advice? I find I'm extremely frustrated lately. I live with my family still and sick of the seemingly never ending guilt trips or manipulations. Alot of demanding things be done in their timeframe but not mine. I am trying to have boundaries to help this. But I also don't know how to relax. When I relax I start thinking and the thinking then becomes a loop. Constantly figuring out an endless puzzle. Its much worse on weekends and my self control weakens. (I eat way too much sugar and chocolate as a vice). I am trying to attach action to a thought but then I find I don't follow through with the action (when the self control weakens) so the thinking occurs that I have to do this or that. Mindfulness doesn't quite work for me. Any advice? I dont want to be stuck on this hedonic treadmill of anxiety and dissatisfaction.I surpass one issue then another one creates itself.

A_luc I'm tired all the time
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Recently I've been tired all the time. I go to bed at a very good time and get at least 8 hours of sleep yet when I wake up it feels as though I haven't the whole night. I'm even getting eye bag and dark circles and that never happens to me. I don't ... View more

Recently I've been tired all the time. I go to bed at a very good time and get at least 8 hours of sleep yet when I wake up it feels as though I haven't the whole night. I'm even getting eye bag and dark circles and that never happens to me. I don't have trouble sleeping and I don't toss and turn yet I am exhausted all the time and at times it is affecting my school work as I feel like I'm going to fall asleep all the time. I'm just confused as to why this is happening because it feel as though the more I sleep, the more tired I get.

lil_lila_x Getting a job/making friends
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I am struggling with overcoming my anxiety and getting a job and making friends. I always feel like I'm awkward and weird and I can't be a part of society or do "normal people things" I'm 18 and live alone, only have a couple of not very close friend... View more

I am struggling with overcoming my anxiety and getting a job and making friends. I always feel like I'm awkward and weird and I can't be a part of society or do "normal people things" I'm 18 and live alone, only have a couple of not very close friends, I've worked before but it was too overwhelming and I'm scared of putting myself in a situation like that again but I'm struggling really bad financially.. I was recently introduced to a group of people that seem really cool but I sat there awkward the whole time I didn't know what to do or say, where to look, how to behave.. I can't stop overthinking everything I do and say.. If you have been through or are going through similar struggles please just say hey or if you could offer me any advice or ways you have overcome it/are overcoming it please let me know

Yenny Anxiety, panic attacks and obsessive thinking! Help please :(
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Hello everyone! I am 23 years old, I am from South America and 1 year ago I began to feel anxiety and it all started because my partner used to cheated on me through social media and I found too many disturbing things that left me in shock, with imme... View more

Hello everyone! I am 23 years old, I am from South America and 1 year ago I began to feel anxiety and it all started because my partner used to cheated on me through social media and I found too many disturbing things that left me in shock, with immense sadness and anxiety x1000. I started to cry every day without stopping, to think too much, to feel alone and worthless. My partner is helping me get my residence in this country, so we are in that process, which has also been very stressful. My whole family lives in South America and although I have told them my situation, they do not support me very much because they care more about the Visa situation and they always put on me so much pressure every time I call them, and that’s why Im scared to call them sometimes because I know I’m gonna feel worst and they always talk to me about my country situation. I live with my partner since 1 year ago and although we have many material things, Good jobs and some money to live decently, our relationship has been a disaster. I love him but I also know that if I want to be happy, I must get away from him but is not easy and that is the problem. So after everything he did to me, he has tried to change but not quite. My partner has serious addictions that I don't feel comfortable with either. Anxiety has gotten worse, it gives me panic attacks that I can't breathe and I feel like I'm going to die, my hands shake, I wake up in the night scared, I have nightmares, during the day I suffer from dizziness and obsessive thoughts, Crying for not reason and at anytime, Especially when I am alone. I work in childcare and my work has been very therapeutic for me, it makes me happy and it has become my refuge but when I'm not working, anxiety takes over my body and my mind again. It is difficult to leave my partner, since we have some bills to pay, the lease of the house, commitments, a visa in process that cost 8000 dollars. All this makes me anxious, extremely sad and has even put me in discussions with my family. My parents have always advised me and have been for me all the time and I have had a good relationship with them but all this has weakened that relationship. My partner does not like to see me cry because he always feels bad and guilty and becomes a bad temper. I’ve seen 3 psychologists already, and I’ve been in the church also but I haven’t get better. I’ve told him to go to the psychologist but he is not keen. Im gonna get crazy. Any advice please?