Hi Nati-R,
There is no doubt that the unexpected twists and turns of life hit hard, especially when things are going well one moment and then they're all of a sudden not going well!
Given this happened yesterday, I want to encourage you to give yourself some time to process and reflect on the change in dynamic. It's perfectly normal to have an unpleasant emotional response to such news, and grieving is a healthy part of processing difficult changes.
You describe some physical reactions to this change, such as not being able to sleep, and when you do finally nod off you wake with a jolt like you've had a coffee. These kind of feelings and characteristics describe how my anxiety affects me when it is getting big on me. Is anxiety something you have experienced in the past? Do you identify as having anxiety at all?
How does it sit with you that this person has let their needs be known in what sounds like an assertive and clear manner? Do you have any reason to doubt the sincerity of his situation? Is your response coming from a place of mistrust or is it confusing to you why you're reacting to this change?
Hope to hear from you soon, and I sincerely hope you have a good day without too many intrusions from your thinking and feeling centres in your heart and head. 🙂
