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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Katniss91 Trying to conceive and Anxiety
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Does anyone else have anxiety and is trying to conceive or have conceived/had a baby? i am only 2 months into trying for a baby and i would like to know what helped you not feel anxious about everything pregnancy. -the pain -body changing (i have bod... View more

Does anyone else have anxiety and is trying to conceive or have conceived/had a baby? i am only 2 months into trying for a baby and i would like to know what helped you not feel anxious about everything pregnancy. -the pain -body changing (i have body image issues, so putting on weight and looking fat is worrying me) -if my mental health will change (get worse) -the time its taking to get pregnant (i am very impatient) my partner and i aren't "religiously" tracking my cycle or only having sex when i am ovulating, we are just not using protection. so the whole stress of "having sex when you ovulate" makes me feel overwhelmed and forced. i dont want this feeling as it may hinder us getting pregnant. Tips and advice, thanks in advance.

lemonyb Anxiety during isolation
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I've lived with general and social anxiety for a looong time, and can normally manage it just fine myself. But lately, being stuck inside 24/7, mostly alone in my room, has resulted in my anxiety becoming a lot worse not only at home, but going out a... View more

I've lived with general and social anxiety for a looong time, and can normally manage it just fine myself. But lately, being stuck inside 24/7, mostly alone in my room, has resulted in my anxiety becoming a lot worse not only at home, but going out at all is enough to almost- or to give me a panic/anxiety attack. Being in quarantine has made me realise how lonely I really am. Being in the midst of a confusing situation.. where I can't talk to the person I used to always speak to at all definitely isn't helping that. People who I considered close friends haven't tried to contact me at all, and those who I do try to contact often don't respond. I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong? Or saying the wrong things? Maybe those people don't wish to speak with me at all? I don't want to annoy them, yet somehow I think I manage to do so anyway. It's also made me realise how much I adore human interaction (with those close to me anyway). I hate not being able to spend time with people, not being able to hug my friends or act goofy with them at school or home. I miss hearing voices and stories. I know this all probably sounds really silly but... it's genuinely bothering me. Plus the mere idea of having to do online schooling freaks me out. I cannot stay at home all day- on my computer- on a video call with my teachers and students. I'd much, much, much rather endure in-school time than go through it all at home. School gives me a break from my home and family, it gives me structure and routine to work around, not having any of that really throws me off sometimes. Everything is just feeling a little overwhelming at the moment. And I need to sort this situation I'm going through out, but I can't due to quarantine/isolation I'm sure some, if not most of you feel a similar way about isolation and this whole COVID business, but I need to get a little bit off my chest so... here I am. Not quite sure how to end this post... I hope whoever's reading this is feeling better than I am right now.

Guest_9043 In support of others in challenging times.
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Hi, Don't expect anyone to respond to this. It's just a post to talk about how I am feeling and to offer much love and understanding to those who are also struggling. For the first few weeks I did not take Covid 19 too seriously. I knew Italy had bee... View more

Hi, Don't expect anyone to respond to this. It's just a post to talk about how I am feeling and to offer much love and understanding to those who are also struggling. For the first few weeks I did not take Covid 19 too seriously. I knew Italy had been hit hard and I truly felt so much for Italy. Sad even. Felt powerless to help. I at first got so angry with Australians panic buying. I was so annoyed at the ridiculousness of it and thought it would blow over very soon. I was wrong, it got much worse. I found myself getting very depressed after a shopping trip for a weekly shop. I was upset I could not get certain things to make meals. I was upset I could not even get a bottle of hand sanitizer or methylated spirits to make my own hand sanitizer. Then the government started making changes, social distancing and events I was going to were cancelled. From there on in it was a snowball effect. In my state of WA, our borders were shut today and no businesses with food such as restaurants, cafes, pubs are not allowed open after 12pm daytime. Gyms, cinemas, casino and nightclubs all shut down. I'm concerned about the clean up after this has eased more. Many people have lost their jobs with no second income. People will hardly be hiring right now. The hit to the economy is going to have a large dent in it. I'm really struggling to even come to terms with such rapid and fast changes. I just want to wish you all better days sooner rather tater. Keep your heads up and pay attention to washing your hands very popular. I wish everyone very well and take good always. 2quik.

Twice_lucky Trying to find a balance during isolation
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Hi , I am new to this forum & find that my anxiety levels have skyrocketed over the last two days, my husband & I are both fit & health over 70’s. and are self isolating as directed. I am having trouble with the what if’s & last night I never slept a... View more

Hi , I am new to this forum & find that my anxiety levels have skyrocketed over the last two days, my husband & I are both fit & health over 70’s. and are self isolating as directed. I am having trouble with the what if’s & last night I never slept at all, I feel nauseous & stirred up, I tried focusing on my breathing but still couldn’t sleep. any advise would be appreciated

Anon808 Anxiety and international move during covid 19
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Hi there! Am new Male 42, Having a really tough time, I lived in Canada for 16 years, got divorced and lost house. Came back recently to Australia to find a rental (grew up here) to get before wrapping everything up. Anyway, been diagnosed with anxie... View more

Hi there! Am new Male 42, Having a really tough time, I lived in Canada for 16 years, got divorced and lost house. Came back recently to Australia to find a rental (grew up here) to get before wrapping everything up. Anyway, been diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks since. All my stuff is in a storage locker in Canada which I cannot get to during this covid 19 pandemic. Had planned this month to fly back and fix loose ends and to ship, had to cancel everything. I have one suitcase and a bed and couch. All my mindfulness and hobbies are in locker. Cannot ship locker as it contains items considered illegal here. I need to personally cull a bunch of stuff before shipping. My partner lost her job and is applying for Centrelink but needs all my financials which are in locker, I have no access as they are on lockdown. My postal forwarding is expired and I am required to go into Canada Post with my ID, tried calling but I just get a ticket and cannot stay up all night waiting for a call as of course the time difference. Same with ATO, huge wait times. No one understands how bad it is for me right now with no end in sight. I feel pressure from my partner to get information relating to her Centrelink. I am in a bad mood and it's unfair on her, I feel guilty. All I can do is lay in bed and sometimes do a workout. I have no Medicare here which makes any therapy a drain on my limited resources. I do still have my social security there but it is useless being stuck here. Had two very important hobbies, one I am world renowned for and the other is therapeutic. Losing interest in everything and drinking too much to cover the pain. I had booked a course which was also cancelled, have not left the house for 4 days. Stuck, useless, frustrated, and feeling depressed. Guess I keep trying is all I can do, anyone else in this situation?

Jcob5839 anxiety while driving
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Hello everyone im a 17 year old year 12 student and im having some anxiety issues with driving a car, i am diagnosed with OCD and depression and im medicated for it. I recently got my drivers license and while i do like the freedom it gives me i try ... View more

Hello everyone im a 17 year old year 12 student and im having some anxiety issues with driving a car, i am diagnosed with OCD and depression and im medicated for it. I recently got my drivers license and while i do like the freedom it gives me i try to avoid driving because it makes me feel so anxious. i need to constantly check the dashboard to make sure im not speeding, every time i change lanes im convinced to could have hit someone on a motorcycle or a bike. i panic every time i go through lights because im scared it will go yellow and i might make the wrong decision if it is safe to stop or not. i had a particularly bad experience on the way to school this morning, i was about to go through some lights which had a crossing on them the speed limit was 70 and the light went yellow and panicked and didn't think i could stop in time and the light went red when i was halfway through it the thing that made it so horrible was that there was a group of school kids waiting to cross and i thought if they started crossing i would have killed and innocent group of kids i have been thinking about it all day and i got to the point where i had to make this account and express my feelings because im too scared to tell anyone in real life, has anybody gone through any similar experiences and know how i could deal with them thank you

Amy12345 Depersonalisation/derealisation
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Does anyone else suffer from DPDR? Mine is really bad at the moment and I was hoping to get some tips for what helps

Does anyone else suffer from DPDR? Mine is really bad at the moment and I was hoping to get some tips for what helps

AmzzmA1993 “Hit and run” OCD
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Hey guys! I’ve recently developed the fear of running someone or something over when I’m driving, particularly at night time but it’s becoming more and more frequent throughout the day as well. Whenever I hit a bump in the road or take my eyes off th... View more

Hey guys! I’ve recently developed the fear of running someone or something over when I’m driving, particularly at night time but it’s becoming more and more frequent throughout the day as well. Whenever I hit a bump in the road or take my eyes off the road for a second to check the time or change the station I am overcome with the fear that it was a living thing which I just ran over in my car. If I can’t be sure I have an overwhelming urge to turn around and double check but then I need to double check what I’ve already double checked. Does anyone else deal with this? Does anyone know what I can to do stop myself from thinking this way? It’s so exhausting, I know in the bottom of heart that it’s just a bump in the road but I’m so scared of leaving someone injured or getting in to trouble that I need to double check. thanks guys

TishaJade Compulsive Negative Thoughts
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I can't seem to stop my intrusive negative thinking. EVERYTHING triggers me. I am SO emotional. I had an argument with my boyfriend yesterday over something silly. He is so patient with me and my moods, that this time he flipped out and said some hur... View more

I can't seem to stop my intrusive negative thinking. EVERYTHING triggers me. I am SO emotional. I had an argument with my boyfriend yesterday over something silly. He is so patient with me and my moods, that this time he flipped out and said some hurtful things. I can't get them out of my head... One in particular is bringing me down every hour or so. I said that I wished he would grow up a little bit and stop being forgetful with things, because when we have children I can't be dealing with him as well as the kids. And he said "well we just won't have kids then!" Out of anger. But it stuck with me and I can't move past it. I have had about 4 emotional outbursts to him, all of which he has made clear he was sorry and he did not mean what he said, and that when we are ready he wants to have kids with me. This makes it hard for me because he already has a child to someone else who we look after weekly. This has been a struggle for me since the beginning because I am envious that he has had a child already with someone else. I feel like my progress has been ruined in trying to cope with the situation. I feel like he doesn't want kids with me, never did, and that I will just have to deal with the fact he wanted to have a kid with someone else and not me. I have no reason to think this way but I am and I can't help it. It feels as real to me as anything even though it's not. I feel so depressed... I feel like I can't get past this or accept that he didn't mean what he said and believe that we will have children together and all be a happy family. All that is running through my head is things such as. "He never wanted children with you" and "he only wanted children with her" and "what's wrong with me for him to not want that with me." I am so confused because I know he loves me and I do believe that he wants a real family with me but i can't seem to shake the negative thoughts... words such as the ones he said to me are so damaging they literally ruin me for weeks and even months. I love him a lot and having a family and getting married mean SO much to me that any small fraction of a chance that he does not want the same as me (Even though) he does, I obsess over. How do I stop hurting myself and driving my partner nuts because he really doesn't do anything wrong and gives me no REAL reason to believe anything that I put in my head. But I continue to feel terrible all the time.

Gumtree77 Self Sabotage
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Hi All I hope everyone is coping as best they can during this nightmare. I personally am not. I am self isolating with my 16 year old son. He is totally addicted to computer and it is all I can do to get him to have a shower. He has not left the hous... View more

Hi All I hope everyone is coping as best they can during this nightmare. I personally am not. I am self isolating with my 16 year old son. He is totally addicted to computer and it is all I can do to get him to have a shower. He has not left the house in three weeks. I had major shoulder surgery three weeks ago and he was here to help me bless him. It was a terrible time as the pain was indescribable and I basically did not sleep for one week. I also ended up in emergency with a possible embolism which luckily I did not have. Prior to all this I have been on work cover for the shoulder injury so was limited anyway. Last year I developed neuralgia which initially presented as throat cancer. MRI and other tests ruled all this out. I used to drink and smoke a lot due to my depression and anxiety. During this time I of course stopped all of that. Now with this current debacle I am back to my bad habits. I am so useless and pathetic. I worry about the ramifications but I feel powerless to stop. I know I sabotage myself. I try to eat healthy and go for walks and go days on end without the drinks/smokes...then I see the news and what is going on and go back to the old rubbish again. Then suffer major anxiety and the neuralgia comes back. I just cannot see a light at the end of the tunnel and my only real concern is my son. Then again as he is only 16 I feel the full responsibility of being here for him as he really does not like his dad and there is barely any contact between them. I also lost my beloved dog in December and I just feel overwhelmed with loss, anxiety, grief, depression and total chaos. I try to do the right thing! I walk everyday, do my pt exercises daily....keep the house clean and on top of finances etc. I guess we are all in this and nobody knows when it will end. I know I can't keep doing this shit to myself but I truly do not know what else to do. Please help.