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Newbie with GAD

Justme00
Community Member
Hi 
I'm new to this website. I've been struggling with anxiety for my whole life. It got worse after I had my last child quite awhile ago now. It has got worse over the last year or so. Stress from my marriage break up & from negativity from my workplace. I'm so confused as what to do next. 
I'm not sure if I want to give my marriage ago again or not. 
I've found a new independence in myself since my marriage breakdown so I'm not sure if I want that to change. 
My workplace has seemed to cause me a lot of stress at the moment. 
I'm so sick of my anxiety & how it makes me feel. It's hard for others to understand it. 
I feel so lonely.
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StevieN1981R
Community Member

Hey .. I have suffered since I was 11. But as I get older it gets worse. I suffer more health anxiety as i have an extreme fear of dying . I dont know where it came from. But when the anxiety is low I then suffer depression because the anxiety rules and ruins my life . I just joined tonight as I want to try talk with other with my condition. It's so easy to feel alone . Even when surrounded by people who care .but they done understand

Hey
Thankyou for your reply.
It's hard dealing with anxiety & depression.
It helps when you know that there are others out there dealing with the same fears as you are. That you're not alone. I have a fear of dying as well. Hopefully you can talk to people that do understand & can help you, even if it's just to listen.
You're not alone.
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Hi Stevie,

Your post resonated with me, as I am going through the same thing, extreme fear of dying. I do not have the health anxiety but I seem to be constantly thinking about my death. I have absolutely nothing else to worry about. It is as if my mind cant find something to be anxious about so it picks that! This then drives depressive episodes and feelings.

Do you have any strategies to help over come this Debilitating anxiety?

Katyonthehamsterwheel
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi all

Another long term sufferer here. I agree that unless you've experienced it you really can't understand it. It's killed all my relationships, including very recently my boyfriend leaving me because he's just done with my extreme anxiety making our relationship suffer. I've been getting help for 10 years, but I wish it was more often than 6 weekly. I'd love some intensive assistance to keep on top of things. I'll feel good for a bit and then go back under. I've recently started yoga and I find that helpful mentally. I also scour the internet for positive quotes that make me feel ok about me, and inspire me to keep going. I don't really know what the "key" is though.

As for health anxiety, I suffered that for a few years, but it seems to have left. Now I have other anxieties. So perhaps you're right Fromthegong, our anxious brains just focus on something. My latest was my relationship, so let's see what's next I guess...

Hi Katy,

It is very frustrating, and at time debilitating. This is the longest time it has taken me to recover. I fear that my anxiety might drive my partner away too, though sometimes I wonder if they are actually contributing to the problem.

spaceshuttle18
Community Member
Hi all, dealing with something very similar. It comes in waves and sometimes im okay and sometimes im really not. Constantly worried about the future and what happens when my loved ones die and my fear of my own death. I want to live and live happily and contently but my thoughts keep dragging me into horrible shit about what might happen in the future and I am so sick of it. I feel like my thoughts will always be this way and can't see any way out of it. Got an appointment with a psych next week to try CBT but at the moment, I can't see anything ever changing and it sucks.