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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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HelloGail Helpless
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I don't know where to start, I can't ring Lifeline. I rang waiting for the police to come but as I was so stressed the person listening to me grew angry with me telling me to listen! I felt he wasn't listening to me but just wanted to tell me what he... View more

I don't know where to start, I can't ring Lifeline. I rang waiting for the police to come but as I was so stressed the person listening to me grew angry with me telling me to listen! I felt he wasn't listening to me but just wanted to tell me what he thought. I could not believe I was arguing with the Lifeline person at end of the phone, I apologised when I signed off, I am just in shock this had happened, gas meter tampered with. My worries (anxiety/hurt) started last Thursday, early morning: When I stepped out from my front door at 6:30am for my regular walk, I noticed a neighbour aged 80 seated outside in his courtyard (we live in a social housing complex) rolling his tobacco cigarette as usual. Sometimes I use to wave to him if he had his head up this was before the troubles started. When I arrived back from my 6:30am walk at 7:30am my three (3) large beautiful Sunflower bushes were missing, what was left were half the stems, sliced, sticking up from the garden bed. It was that neighbour, he came out with it and said he threw them in the bin. Yesterday, 2 days later, Saturday, after arriving home from my walk, my large bird bath was gone. And tonight Sunday, as I was preparing to have a shower, I heard him outside near my bathroom. I waited until he passed on his usual walk around the complex. I eventually was ready and I turned on the shower. No hot water. Long story, at 9:30pm, Jemena Gas Company said someone had turned it off. So they guided me over the phone to turn the lever to vertical position as apparently it is supposed to be. I rang the police but they refuse to come. I rang 000 at 9:38pm and again 10:20pm to ask if they were coming but they just rang me at 12:30 after midnight telling me that it is a civil matter and that you have the gas back on now so you should be okay. I replied, yes but behaviour of this man. I am afraid of him. I forgot to mention week my windscreen on my car has a circular scratch. We have a car park for tenants only. All these things in one week. He hassles me in the garden told me to stop gardening. A lot has happened but I have no where to go, this man has scratched my car, slashed my flowers, stolen my birdbath and tonight turned off my gas meter but still the police refuse to come and speak with him. The police returned the bird bath after this tenant gave it to them. Am I left to live in fear since the police refuse to protect me. I cannot sleep tonight.

Ali75 My daughter's school refusal and my mental health
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Hello, I was on here a while back, speaking about my daughter. I just need some support again. My daughter is refusing school. She did so most of last year as well. She is now flat out refusing. I am seeing a psychologist to better support myself and... View more

Hello, I was on here a while back, speaking about my daughter. I just need some support again. My daughter is refusing school. She did so most of last year as well. She is now flat out refusing. I am seeing a psychologist to better support myself and my own mental health and to support my daughter. She is starting equine therapy this week with a psychologist. I am on anti depressants but they are not working at the moment. I just feel like crying everyday. I feel like crawling into bed and sleeping and doing nothing. I know this is not good for me so will go for a walk but I am sick of feeling this way. I am not suicidal but just want to be happy again. I want her to be at school and have my life back. Has anyone else had trouble with their children refusing school and come out the other side. At the moment I have no hope she will.Thank you

Maher1903 Rushing
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I rush slot and always forget where I put things

I rush slot and always forget where I put things

Itsjustnotme A few symptoms but debilitating fear
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Hi,I am just not sure with my emotional brain what to take seriously and what not to. My logical brain tells me I am panicking about minor things but I don't want to be that person who ignored things and then died!I have little collections of symptom... View more

Hi,I am just not sure with my emotional brain what to take seriously and what not to. My logical brain tells me I am panicking about minor things but I don't want to be that person who ignored things and then died!I have little collections of symptoms, leg swelling, low back ache, hip ache tiredness, occasional palpitations and itching skin. I am 49 and it has been suggested that many of these things can happen in the peri-menopausal woman. However, the main problem now is the obsession that something is wrong. I can't sleep for the anxiety and fear of illness or death coming for me. It is not rational and I cannot talk myself out of it. The worse my anxiety gets, the worse my sleep is. My lovely GP pays attention and orders tests etc as things occur but to date there is nothing much to find. She thinks however that it is an unusual presentation for perimenopause. Therefore is it all in my head? How do I control this feeling of teariness and terrible emotional lability? I try to be self actualised and have read resources but has anyone experienced this? What has worked because this is just not who I am as a person and can be very distressing?

unicorn2580 Feeling Trapped
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I have been in unhealthy relationship with a work colleague for 7 years that I can’t seem to get out of because of my fears of the unknown and my lack of self worth. Whenever we fight we dont talk for weeks and I get really bad anxiety. During this t... View more

I have been in unhealthy relationship with a work colleague for 7 years that I can’t seem to get out of because of my fears of the unknown and my lack of self worth. Whenever we fight we dont talk for weeks and I get really bad anxiety. During this time I try to keep my mind busy but I don’t feel like doing anything although I try to push myself ie. gym, being social, eating, sleeping.I try to keep my boundaries from him, because im always the one who reaches out, but because I can’t handle the anxiety I do end up reaching out to try sort it so I can make the feelings stop. Because we have to work closely together I have found it difficult to distance myself .I feel so obligated to work as I have a lot of responsibility with people relying on me and have so much to do. I actually like my job but I feel like I have to leave it if the relationship stops- which I don’t want to do. It feels like no matter where I turn there is something I can’t/don’t want to do because im either too scared or feel lost and I can’t stick to decisions I made. With all of that, would like to ask: - How do you manage your anxiety if you have no motivation to look after yourself? - How do you make life changes when you are too scared?- is trying to sort things out to ease feelings a good thing to do? I have been seeking counselling but thought to this forum. Thank you

chippy_ insomnia
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Hi Guys New to this site, can anyone please help me I am having a lot of trouble sleeping generally getting about 2 to3 hours broken sleep per night unless i take a sleeping pill then I can get between 4 and 6 hours pretty good sleep I used sleeping ... View more

Hi Guys New to this site, can anyone please help me I am having a lot of trouble sleeping generally getting about 2 to3 hours broken sleep per night unless i take a sleeping pill then I can get between 4 and 6 hours pretty good sleep I used sleeping pills on and of for a few weeks but I don’t want to take it regularly as I hear it can be very addictive, (I had a very stressful family breakdown and court case which is where the initial insomnia started because of anxiety and depression. I am still on an antidepressant but I think the anxiety has eased a lot but my sleeping will not return. I have tried regular bed times and waking times, no coffee or coke, dark room, reading for 15 minutes before bed (after watching TV etc

Benny_21 Boss is trying to get rid of me
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I've got a boss who is trying to get rid of me. I'm an apprentice 4th year. In my first 3 years I never had any issues other then some criticism which is fine. But I had just started my 4th year and my boss as been given me two written warnings in 2 ... View more

I've got a boss who is trying to get rid of me. I'm an apprentice 4th year. In my first 3 years I never had any issues other then some criticism which is fine. But I had just started my 4th year and my boss as been given me two written warnings in 2 weeks and I've never been rude to my boss and always polite and my warnings have been for poor reasons. He's said hurtful things to me and abused me on the phone if I do something he doesn't like. I never bite back at all and say okay I'm sorry and he still keeps swearing at me. I get bad anxiety now and going to work makes me feel sick, especially now I know he wants me gone. I feel myself getting depressed due to this situation.. I'm at a dead end right now and needed to let it all out. Some advice would be awesome. Thank you

...Gekota A rant about anxiety and ASD
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Lately I have been doing okay, I haven’t been sh often and I’ve been feeling okay in general I guess. But I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things and it’s been getting me a bit down I guess. I’ve had multiple doctors and professionals tell m... View more

Lately I have been doing okay, I haven’t been sh often and I’ve been feeling okay in general I guess. But I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things and it’s been getting me a bit down I guess. I’ve had multiple doctors and professionals tell me they believe I am autistic and was told to get an ADOS assessment which I did but later found out that is not a very effective way to diagnose my demographic and anyone’s other then a AMAB person under the age of 9. My psychologist who I really like and am so glad I have now gave me an online assessment test for autism after I brought up my confusion after the ADOS came back inconclusive. She believed I was autistic and told me so as she is Neurodiverse herself but the test results came back confirming I am not autistic however I have many autistic traits (probably due to my anxiety) I was unsure how to feel. I don’t want to be autistic it’s not like that at all. When I first heard the suggestion of autism it didn’t make sense to me in relation to myself but after more understanding i finally thought I understand why I am the way I am. So when it turned out I’m not actually autistic I just feel really confused. I feel like an alien, that I don’t belong in this world and everyone around me is normal, I just wanted a sense of belonging. I asked my psychologist what that means for me then and what does that make me and she told me “your a really anxious little guy” it might not sound like much but it helped me a bit I guess. I know I have anxiety but why do I feel so inhuman? It doesn’t feel like that’s all that’s going on. And it’s not there’s other things but I’m just having a hard time excepting it for the past 3 years I haven’t admitted I’m depressed I’ve been diagnosed and for some reason I still can’t wrap my head around it, I don’t want to admit it because I don’t want to except it. I feel so isolated in myself and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I just want an answer to why I’m like this but no one can give me one. I just want to know myself I just want to feel like I’m not so out of place. I just want some comfort.

Arrogantwizard I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and think I am a narcissist
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I've never posted like this before so bare with me. Me and my ex girlfriend the other night had a big argument/discussion about me and my problems that I've been lying about for 3 years and trying to hide from her. I don't want to talk about specific... View more

I've never posted like this before so bare with me. Me and my ex girlfriend the other night had a big argument/discussion about me and my problems that I've been lying about for 3 years and trying to hide from her. I don't want to talk about specifics but she would've prefered if I had cheated on her than know what the real truth was. I don't feel anything about it, she just kept asking questions and for once I tried to answer fully sincerely and even then could not stop lying. Eventually she got the whole truth and felt utterly distraught and horrified at me. I am going to tell my only closest friend too and am so scared. I want to fix myself and in hoping this is part of that process. I am wondering if there is any narcissist or person with narcissistic tendencies who is getting active therapy that has any advice at all.

T-otts Emotions around adopting a second pet
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Hi, we have had a cat for over a year now and she is our world and we love her so much. We have been thinking of getting a friend for her as we are both at work during the day. We adopted another lil kitten yesterday and our cat isn’t a fan. I know i... View more

Hi, we have had a cat for over a year now and she is our world and we love her so much. We have been thinking of getting a friend for her as we are both at work during the day. We adopted another lil kitten yesterday and our cat isn’t a fan. I know it’s not even been a day so it will take time but I have been so emotional and crying non stop since coming home. I don’t want to have to rehome the new lil kitten. I just want to know if anyone else has felt like this. I don’t know if it’s regret or feeling guilty bringing in a new animal. Any advice would be amazing. Thanks