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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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powerchord007 Catastrophic thoughts that take root in our thinking
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Hi All My anxiety seems to have taken the form of brooding, catastrophic thoughts. Things I find abhorrent and opposite to my character, I worry that I'll spontaneously act on them, even though I know I never would. One 'go-to' example for my mind in... View more

Hi All My anxiety seems to have taken the form of brooding, catastrophic thoughts. Things I find abhorrent and opposite to my character, I worry that I'll spontaneously act on them, even though I know I never would. One 'go-to' example for my mind involves swerving to nudge a cyclist, or into an oncoming vehicle on a narrow highway. Not only that, but I project into a hypothetical catastrophic future/fallout from such an event. eg run into a cyclist > the cyclist doesn't survive > their family is understandably devastated > my 'life' will be over > I'll be arrested, tried and receive a jail sentence etc. As if all of that isn't ludicrous enough, I then start to predict what will happen during incarceration, and it goes on and on. This occasionally impacts on my life activities, as I feel anxious the moment I know I have to drive somewhere on a certain route/s. If it's in 2 weeks' time, I'll feel anxious for the whole 2 weeks leading up to it, with my mind trying to convince me that all of these negative events will occur. I move between avoidance and occasional deliberate exposure, during which I'll practice driving down the coast where there are cyclists. Of course I never bump into any(!), although I sometimes feel a horrible tingling, a hot flush, and knotted stomach as I pass by them. I'm sure others have had similar unpleasant thought processes, with various coping techniques? Thanks for having a read, and I look forward to any responses

loz8927 ADHD - every day is either a high or a low - trying meds doesn’t seem to be working?
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I’m 25 yo, knew I had ADHD my whole life just didn’t know what ADHD was if that makes sense. I have tics which will come as an urge and I’ll have to do the movement to get rid of the urge. In December I had a really bad flare up with tics and anxiety... View more

I’m 25 yo, knew I had ADHD my whole life just didn’t know what ADHD was if that makes sense. I have tics which will come as an urge and I’ll have to do the movement to get rid of the urge. In December I had a really bad flare up with tics and anxiety so I went to the doctor and he diagnosed me. I thought everything would get better and I’d feel normal but some days I feel like they make no difference some days i feel great & some days I feel so low and can go into such a dark place which is just terrifying. I just don’t know what to do anymore - I would never harm myself but I can see how in these awful moments where you don’t even recognise yourself why people do it please any guidance on adhd medication? I am on daily ADHD medication. My tics haven’t gone they have reduced slightly. I just want them to stop. I could have identical days with sleep, food, activity, amount of excerise etc and it’s just luck of the draw if I feel happy or extremely worried or depressed? Not wanting to live a life where I can wake up and have the most awful day for no reason

Humpty Anxiety
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Well after having 5 weeks off im attempting to go back to my job tommorow im telling myself you can do this . I feel sick in the stomach that my anxiety is going to get the better of me and i feel the embarrassment of it all is just going to get to m... View more

Well after having 5 weeks off im attempting to go back to my job tommorow im telling myself you can do this . I feel sick in the stomach that my anxiety is going to get the better of me and i feel the embarrassment of it all is just going to get to me . Wish me luck

Sweesoft What essential oils are good for anxiety?
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I've been reading a lot about how essential oils help with anxiety, stress, and better sleep. Are there specific oils for this?

I've been reading a lot about how essential oils help with anxiety, stress, and better sleep. Are there specific oils for this?

jelly12 Alone and being bullied by neighbours
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I live alone and I suffer from long term depression (almost 20 years). I take medication regularly and have counselling twice a month. I have always had problems with the neighbours where I live. Some of them would park in my driveway, be noisy at ni... View more

I live alone and I suffer from long term depression (almost 20 years). I take medication regularly and have counselling twice a month. I have always had problems with the neighbours where I live. Some of them would park in my driveway, be noisy at night when I was trying to sleep and put their rubbish in my rubbish bins. I have very few visitors to my house, no current male partner, no family and I am small in size with a young and vulnerable appearance, which may make me appear an easy target. I moved from my last home approximately 10 years ago due to repeated burglaries and stalking and my neighbours had not been supportive, Recently there has been an increase again in my neighbours (I don;t know who t is) putting their hard rubbish and chemical waste into my bins. I became extremely angry and went out and shouted in the street that they need to stop putting their rubbish in my bins, use their own bins, etc). Yesterday there was an unsigned letter in my bin, calling me a "disgrace" and a "psycho". It stated that I needed to go to my "shrink" as my meds were not working, etc. I have not reacted to the letter but it has caused me distress and I have noticed an increase in my anxiety and a reduction in my ability to do regular activities, including working. I spoke to a friend who suggested ignoring the letter completely, as she thinks that the writer is looking for a reaction from me for further ammunition. So far, I have taken her advice. However, I am concerned that further bullying tactics will be tried and I am also concerned about my levels of anxiety. Does anyone have any suggestions to help?

RamonaQ Am I Alone in my Anxieties?
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Hi everyone, My anxiety has been reeeeally playing up recently, and I was curious to see if anyone else experiences any of the anxieties I get. Here are some of the things that have recently been making me anxious: there are too many movies and artwo... View more

Hi everyone, My anxiety has been reeeeally playing up recently, and I was curious to see if anyone else experiences any of the anxieties I get. Here are some of the things that have recently been making me anxious: there are too many movies and artworks and music and books and beautiful places in the world, and I'm never going to experience everything I want to past regrets - things I missed out on people judging my gym outfit being robbed, or a traumatic incident my parents passing away one day - will I be able to survive without them germs from dogs, dirty laundry, food laundry care instructions - what if I ruin clothes? microplastics shedding from clothes plastic contamination from plastic cooking utensils or containers every plastic thing I throw away is going to end up in landfill I've graduated uni and my friends haven't - I can't connect with them and I shouldn't be friends with them thinking I don't deserve the beautiful people in my life or the opportunities that have fallen into my lap Thank you

RamonaQ How to reduce anxiety and FOMO
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Hi everyone,I am a 23 year old female-identifying person who has recently noticed a spike in my FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and anxiety. I have just returned from a camp for a university sketch comedy show, but the experience, which should have been f... View more

Hi everyone,I am a 23 year old female-identifying person who has recently noticed a spike in my FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and anxiety. I have just returned from a camp for a university sketch comedy show, but the experience, which should have been fun, was instead very anxiety-inducing. Here's why: I constantly worry about getting the most out of everything I do. I am a singer, but there were actors (loud, funny people who tell stories) at camp too. I wanted to be in their presence, but simultaneously felt the need to try and strengthen relationships with my singer or band friends. I was constantly looking around the room trying to find interesting conversations, and was also worried people would notice this and think "wow she's so opportunistic."A lot of the people at this camp are very bubbly and high-energy, dishing out lots of compliments and positivity. I smile and laugh often, but I'm fairly soft-spoken and less verbally expressive. I often tried to match this energy when complimenting or saying hello to people, but worried they would realise I was not being genuine.I stressed over which cabin I slept in. I was in the "quiet cabin" but the "general cabin" seemed super fun, so I ended up sleeping there for one night. In the morning, I accidentally left too early for breakfast, and THEN was upset that I had missed the morning conversations as everyone went down to eat!!! I thought "for god's sake, will I never be satisfied?"I was very tired the entirety of the camp - I could have slept more in the quiet cabin but didn't want to be thought of as boring, or miss out on things.I am currently seeing a therapist, but thought this forum might be a good place to write about this as well. I do realise that I am only 23, and if I overthink and deliberate over every single thing I say or do then I am going to have a very long and unecessarily painful life. I know I'm very blessed, and privileged, and that these problems are not worth this amount of stress. Unfortunately this is not enough to make me stop.I'd love to hear any advice or suggestions for reducing anxiety and FOMO. Thank you

Matchy69 Cherophobia The fear of being happy
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Hi I think have this Cherophobia and wonder if anyone else has this. I am scared when I am happy that something bad will happen as this is the usual case with me all out through my life.I seem to want to be unhappy and just waiting for something bad ... View more

Hi I think have this Cherophobia and wonder if anyone else has this. I am scared when I am happy that something bad will happen as this is the usual case with me all out through my life.I seem to want to be unhappy and just waiting for something bad to happen.How do i overcome this fear or do I just live with it as this is the safe option.I am scared of heights so i stay away from hsights so do i just stay away from happiness? Your thoughts are welcome. Take care, Mark.

N_D Withdrawing from one medication to try another
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I have GAD, Bipolar 2 and have recently been diagnosed with CPTSD. I’m currently on medications. My Dr wants to trial another medication. ( He has commented that it doesn’t seem to be doing anything for my anxiety p, which I agree with ). It’s been a... View more

I have GAD, Bipolar 2 and have recently been diagnosed with CPTSD. I’m currently on medications. My Dr wants to trial another medication. ( He has commented that it doesn’t seem to be doing anything for my anxiety p, which I agree with ). It’s been a month since I’ve been of my previous medication and my anxiety is sky high and getting headaches, which I understand to be withdrawal symptoms but I’m not improving. Why can’t he tell me it’s all withdrawal symptoms or if I’ll need another medication and just prescribe it so I don’t have to live in this limbo? I’ve read online forums that say withdrawing can take anywhere from a few weeks to a few months and don’t know whether to keep persevering🧐

Eagle Ray Facing challenging health issues
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I wasn’t sure where to put this post. Will just mention that for anyone with health anxiety it might be stressful, just so you are aware if you would prefer not to read it. As I’ve written elsewhere in the Trauma/PTSD section I’ve been diagnosed with... View more

I wasn’t sure where to put this post. Will just mention that for anyone with health anxiety it might be stressful, just so you are aware if you would prefer not to read it. As I’ve written elsewhere in the Trauma/PTSD section I’ve been diagnosed with an autoimmune liver disease. The specialist gave me fairly depressing info at the start, that I had about 10-12 years before I’d need a liver transplant to stay alive. Through my own research and a helpful support organisation I’ve learned this is not necessarily true, and many go on to live a fairly normal lifespan. So I felt like I was coping ok with it and there was hope. But over the last year or so I’ve experienced increasing periods of quite severe shortness of breath. Heart tests last year showed mitral valve regurgitation. Pulmonary hypertension (affecting the lungs) has an association with both the liver disease and mitral valve dysfunction. I’m going to contact my GP for possible further testing as the symptoms are now worse than last year. But my reason for posting is if it is pulmonary hypertension the prognosis is not great. It’s described as a universally fatal disease and without treatment death can be in 2-3 years. I know I shouldn’t get ahead of myself and I know the initial info I was given on the liver disease was not entirely accurate, so if I do find out I’ve got pulmonary hypertension it’s not necessarily the end for me. But I just felt the need to post as I live alone and deal with all these things on my own. I have to advocate for myself with medical professionals but it feels such a lonely battle at times. I don’t tell much to friends or relatives as I don’t like to worry them or bring bad thoughts. But I’ve had the strong feeling in the last year and a half I’m facing my own mortality. I guess I just feel alone with it. Is anyone else dealing with similar issues and what strategies have helped you manage any health anxiety? I have a trauma history with a lot of very stressful experiences throughout my life and sometimes I feel like my body’s had enough and is packing it in.