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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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...Gekota A rant about anxiety and ASD
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Lately I have been doing okay, I haven’t been sh often and I’ve been feeling okay in general I guess. But I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things and it’s been getting me a bit down I guess. I’ve had multiple doctors and professionals tell m... View more

Lately I have been doing okay, I haven’t been sh often and I’ve been feeling okay in general I guess. But I have been thinking a lot about a lot of things and it’s been getting me a bit down I guess. I’ve had multiple doctors and professionals tell me they believe I am autistic and was told to get an ADOS assessment which I did but later found out that is not a very effective way to diagnose my demographic and anyone’s other then a AMAB person under the age of 9. My psychologist who I really like and am so glad I have now gave me an online assessment test for autism after I brought up my confusion after the ADOS came back inconclusive. She believed I was autistic and told me so as she is Neurodiverse herself but the test results came back confirming I am not autistic however I have many autistic traits (probably due to my anxiety) I was unsure how to feel. I don’t want to be autistic it’s not like that at all. When I first heard the suggestion of autism it didn’t make sense to me in relation to myself but after more understanding i finally thought I understand why I am the way I am. So when it turned out I’m not actually autistic I just feel really confused. I feel like an alien, that I don’t belong in this world and everyone around me is normal, I just wanted a sense of belonging. I asked my psychologist what that means for me then and what does that make me and she told me “your a really anxious little guy” it might not sound like much but it helped me a bit I guess. I know I have anxiety but why do I feel so inhuman? It doesn’t feel like that’s all that’s going on. And it’s not there’s other things but I’m just having a hard time excepting it for the past 3 years I haven’t admitted I’m depressed I’ve been diagnosed and for some reason I still can’t wrap my head around it, I don’t want to admit it because I don’t want to except it. I feel so isolated in myself and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I just want an answer to why I’m like this but no one can give me one. I just want to know myself I just want to feel like I’m not so out of place. I just want some comfort.

Arrogantwizard I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and think I am a narcissist
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I've never posted like this before so bare with me. Me and my ex girlfriend the other night had a big argument/discussion about me and my problems that I've been lying about for 3 years and trying to hide from her. I don't want to talk about specific... View more

I've never posted like this before so bare with me. Me and my ex girlfriend the other night had a big argument/discussion about me and my problems that I've been lying about for 3 years and trying to hide from her. I don't want to talk about specifics but she would've prefered if I had cheated on her than know what the real truth was. I don't feel anything about it, she just kept asking questions and for once I tried to answer fully sincerely and even then could not stop lying. Eventually she got the whole truth and felt utterly distraught and horrified at me. I am going to tell my only closest friend too and am so scared. I want to fix myself and in hoping this is part of that process. I am wondering if there is any narcissist or person with narcissistic tendencies who is getting active therapy that has any advice at all.

T-otts Emotions around adopting a second pet
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Hi, we have had a cat for over a year now and she is our world and we love her so much. We have been thinking of getting a friend for her as we are both at work during the day. We adopted another lil kitten yesterday and our cat isn’t a fan. I know i... View more

Hi, we have had a cat for over a year now and she is our world and we love her so much. We have been thinking of getting a friend for her as we are both at work during the day. We adopted another lil kitten yesterday and our cat isn’t a fan. I know it’s not even been a day so it will take time but I have been so emotional and crying non stop since coming home. I don’t want to have to rehome the new lil kitten. I just want to know if anyone else has felt like this. I don’t know if it’s regret or feeling guilty bringing in a new animal. Any advice would be amazing. Thanks

Nickname_A6 Recurrence of sleepless anxiety
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Hi everybody I’ve always had empathy for anyone who suffers from a mental health condition. I’ve been a member of Beyond Blue for a few years but rarely post. I have been hospitalised in the past for severe depression & thanks to ect I miraculously m... View more

Hi everybody I’ve always had empathy for anyone who suffers from a mental health condition. I’ve been a member of Beyond Blue for a few years but rarely post. I have been hospitalised in the past for severe depression & thanks to ect I miraculously made a healthy recovery. That was over 5 years ago. Thing is it’s come back a few times & I need to get to the root of the problem. ( I assume it stems from my childhood & has escalated from there. I’m so angry at myself this time. I can’t believe the symptoms have returned. (I can’t sleep or relax) I feel I’m letting everyone down. My negative thoughts are sabotaging my relationship with my partner. It’s not fair on her. It’s early days since this anxiety has popped back into my life & she says she is there for me. However I’m afraid I’m going to scare her away eventually if I don’t get better. She has made lots of self progress & found a job she enjoys. She has really come along way. My friends are supportive. (I don’t have siblings & my parents are elderly & live in another state. I just want to be my happy self. I’m afraid I’m not going to be able to sleep again tonight & hesitant of taking medication, although I have taken some sleep supplements. I will be seeing a hypnotherapist next week to hopefully get me back on track. Any advice or similar experiences would be appreciated. I’m more angry at myself. I don’t like being a burden on others.

EDMClub21 Been mildly anxious for one year, already set my mental objective for 2023
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Hi everyone. I am a 23 year old male that has been under Mutual Obligations regarding JobSeeker payments. Throughout, my biggest worries have been being placed into forced labour, being abused by staff at compulsory appointments, and even being press... View more

Hi everyone. I am a 23 year old male that has been under Mutual Obligations regarding JobSeeker payments. Throughout, my biggest worries have been being placed into forced labour, being abused by staff at compulsory appointments, and even being pressured to find a job in the quickest time possible. I knew that finding a job isn't easy, so I undertook online courses, networked with like-minded individuals and done some volunteering and internships regarding my passion of marketing. In 2023, in order to fulfil my mental health and financial welfare, I am excited to become a freelancer, which has become a popular trend. After doing a DJ competition last year, I've realised that it's time to get into freelancing, become my own boss and overthrow those dreadful mutual obligations through earning multiple income sources. I think health and wellbeing should be considered when finding a job or starting a career, right?

Noah134 Can i get a proof of i’d without leaving my home
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hey i’m noah i’m a 17 year old male who has agoraphobia due to anxiety and depression i’m looking to see if i can get a proof of age or some form of id such as a passport or a drivers licence without leaving my house. I’ve been looking into getting a... View more

hey i’m noah i’m a 17 year old male who has agoraphobia due to anxiety and depression i’m looking to see if i can get a proof of age or some form of id such as a passport or a drivers licence without leaving my house. I’ve been looking into getting a stay at home job for a while now and i’ll need a proof of age card and setup a bank account but i need i’d but i can’t go into bank is the problem and i’ve spoken to my gp and psychiatrist about getting a medical exemption for these such things and they are not sure so i was wondering if anyone else has had a similar issue or knows away for this to work

lower_case Adult ADHD
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Hi Guys, just looking for anyone wanting to talk about ADHD. I've only just found out that i have it after years of anxiety/depression and some obsessive behaviours too. I could always 'handle' it but last year I lost control and hit a wall so to spe... View more

Hi Guys, just looking for anyone wanting to talk about ADHD. I've only just found out that i have it after years of anxiety/depression and some obsessive behaviours too. I could always 'handle' it but last year I lost control and hit a wall so to speak. After some really helpful visits to my GP, phycologist and physiatrist it was agreed try some medication of for my ADHD issues. I have to say it's been a great relief to put a name to it all. My life has been a real mess just hanging on by a thread. I a married with kids and that has been pretty tough at times. I started watching some TED talks on ADHD and really related to many of the issues that these people deal with on a daily basis. I am the finding the idea that other people out there are experiencing that same thing really comforting! ADHD can be quite isolating sometimes.

Orangeicy The narcissist smear campaign
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Hey everyone.I've been thinking about smear campaigns...the evil, vile, insidious way a narcissist will try to alienate you.I think I am finding myself in the middle of one. People looking at me like I just rolled in dog poo and staying away like I'v... View more

Hey everyone.I've been thinking about smear campaigns...the evil, vile, insidious way a narcissist will try to alienate you.I think I am finding myself in the middle of one. People looking at me like I just rolled in dog poo and staying away like I've got the plague.I'm not sure what it being said and I don't want to know either I'm sure it's vile. Everything I read says just ignore and don't engage. That eventually the narcissist will reveal themselves, the lies and hurt they've caused. The eventually is all good. It's the right now that is doing my head in. How do you deal with the right now without going crazy?

Athenry Social paranoia
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I’m not really sure what the point of this post is. I just feel kinda alone but I’m also distancing myself a bit. I’m struggling with my hormones so bad and I think I’m imagining people are mad at me and I don’t know if they are or not. Sounds a bit ... View more

I’m not really sure what the point of this post is. I just feel kinda alone but I’m also distancing myself a bit. I’m struggling with my hormones so bad and I think I’m imagining people are mad at me and I don’t know if they are or not. Sounds a bit silly, I know… but the intrusive thoughts really suck. I don’t really have many close friends and I wish there was someone who understood. Pretending to be fine is really hard.

criss Learning to let go on control
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Hi everyone. Ive been struggling with this for years. Im not a seemingly strong control freak but, over the years I have learned to manage and assert my life and conduct in a certain way in order to progress effectively and feel comfortable without o... View more

Hi everyone. Ive been struggling with this for years. Im not a seemingly strong control freak but, over the years I have learned to manage and assert my life and conduct in a certain way in order to progress effectively and feel comfortable without of course, hurting anyone. I ask alot of questions so I can make informed decisions. This brings me peace of mind. I noticed lately, many people operate and respond at different levels, some outright avoid, or redirect questions as to not be accountable etc. My issue is I feel anxious or frustrated when others dont answer the question, or answer a question with a question or dont give me a timeline for things when I ask.I mean this by way of everyday comitments and things to do such as dealing with companies online and off, trade, or every day issues with people at work or otherwise that require info for me to do a project or something. I find myself really stressing, feeling lost and out of control, not heard or respected. I understand everyone has issues but I just feel that times have changed and society just dont want to deal with others or common expectations or comittments. When I feel I can gain control of my circumstances and am at the mercy of waiting constantly for others it really affects me and my outlook. I get down, negative and it makes me feel like being the same back because thats the only way people learn. I hate being like that because its not my true self.Just putting it out there.