I’ve always hated school. I’m a 23 year old high school dropout

Guest_10090

I’ve always hated school.

I’m a 23 year old social hermit.

Croix

Dear new member~

Welcome here to the Forum. I thin if you were to look around you would find others saying the same thing.

I was wondering what it was about school you hated, the other young people there perhaps? They can be very cruel, ostracizing and giving a hard time to one person to ingratiate themselves together as a group.

The best you can say about them is their brains have not fully developed at those ages and social behavior not become a real factor in their lives. Anyone on the outside, or with a disability or even just different is picked on.

Yes, I know I'm guessing, you may have had an entirely different experience, study difficulties perhaps, so please pardon me if I've guessed wrong.

Maltreatment has many effects, the first being to avoid the kids concerned, and that may mean simply not going to school. Teachers, parents, councilors etc are simply not able to control unkind behavior unless it comes down to a physical fight.

At 23 all that is behind you and you have reached an age where hopefully you can look back at all those episodes and see them for the cruel and uncivilized acts they were. To be picked on constantly can leave one with a completely unjustified feeling one is less important, or less worthy than others, and this is a biggie that needs to be rectified.

Being a hermit sort of avoids the problem - but creates others. You have so much to offer others in friendship - it is only the legacy of school holding you back. Friendships can be fun and enjoyable!

Can I suggest you contact the Kids Help Line (who help people up to 25), they a knowledgeable and even a comfort. See what they have to say.

You know you are always welcome here

Croix

Guest_10090

I wish high school worked like uni. So you could just focus on the study and getting the graduation certificate.

Year 10 was my worst year. I wanted to drop out. Because I failed year 10.

Everything social about school I hated.

Croix

Dear New Member~

I'm afraid high school is not the same as uni, mainly becuse while there are a few student who single-mindly study and manage to avoid socializing the vast majority are still learning. It takes time to learn how to study, how to behave in a social manner, how to know what is acceptable and what is not, how to tell the truth in difficult circumstances, and on and on.

School can be a very uncivilized and unpleasant place. Would you like to say what happened in year 10? Also if you went back and had another go at it?

I dropped out of education but went back to it many years later as a mature age student and found it enjoyable and did well. I must admit I only had a couple of friends there but could concentrate on studies wihtout distractions.

Croix

Guest_10090

I got trapped in popular people dating drama. Like I wanted drama and wanted to start fighting to prove my popularity in year 9 and year 10.

Now it’s 2025, only 7 years later do I release I was an idiot.

Croix

Dear New Member~

There is a lot of pressure in the dating game (not sure it is a game really) and one can box oneself into a corner and feel most unhappy.

You knew it was not all right when you were in year 10 and took action. Under the circumstances the action was one of the few you could take.

OK, so now you can look back on it all with the vision of hindsight. It does not mean you were an idiot then -or now. It means you went down paths that turned out to be mistakes. You now have wisdom in that area and could probably advise some of our younger members who may be making the same mistakes.

If I look back I can see it might have been be better if I had not dropped out but finished then rather than a lot later, however if I had then my life would probably been completely different, I'd not have met my wife, or all the things that make up my life now. -because of that choice.

I don't think you are (or were) an idiot in the least.

Croix

Guest_10090

I had the biggest crush on Jason Ly

Croix

Dear New Member~

OK, I'm afraid to say I do not know (gasp) Jason Ly, a student at your school or a media personality? But in a way it does not matter.

The reason being you said you had a srush - which is very common and most people have had at least one, even if they are reluctant ot admit it. I had a crush on a teacher, who never even knew I existed. It did wear off in time.

I guess the big thing is humans seek relationships, usually two people are needed to make one, each giving to the other. A crush is essentially one-sided. You pour out your emotion and nothing comes back (or very little). This leaves one feeling let down, silly and worthless, even though you don't deserve to feel that way.

I beleive crushes are a stage in learning how to have a proper relationship, and while it might hurt you can see in yourself the things that if you did them would hurt others.

You are gaining wisdom and expereince, I'm sure it will stand you in good stead.

Croix

Guest_10090

Yeah I thought Jason Ly as hot since the first day of year 7. Because I was in his class in year 7.

Croix

Dear New Member~

i hope you can get to the stage I've reached and know I had a crush, but now do not feel I was an idiot, I know I was simply a kid growing up. That age problems and kid's problems are just as intense and far reach as the problems adults have and need to be taken more seriously than many are.

i guess at 23 yo have a fresh set of hassles to try to cope with . Would you like to say more? I'm sure I and many others will understand and empathize.

Croix