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Not viewing life as something worth living.

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As the title states, I struggle with the fact that I do not view life worth living. However, this is not from a mental illness, but rather stems from my philosophical views. I believe that life is meaningless and ultimately, that it is a negative exp... View more

As the title states, I struggle with the fact that I do not view life worth living. However, this is not from a mental illness, but rather stems from my philosophical views. I believe that life is meaningless and ultimately, that it is a negative experience. I have read multiple philosophical texts looking for answers, but almost always I find the answers supplied by those texts to be unsatisfactory. That is to say, the answers given do not seem logically sound, or reasonable enough to me (such as Camus' Absurdism, or Sartre's personalised existentialism.) It also does not help when reading works of pessimistic philosophers, such as Schopenhauer or Cioran, I find myself agreeing with their viewpoints that I cannot refrain myself from finding realistic. Furthermore, the result of having such views lead to quite a lonely, unsuccessful life. Unsuccessful in such a way that I procrastinate and waste opportunities (for example, I have several outstanding assignments that I have yet to complete and may not ever complete.) To further expand on my previous mention of loneliness, whenever I find myself expressing my nihilistic views, I am more often than not met with impertinence and disdain. It is almost like others see my philosophy as a threat to their way of life, and push me away (this is evident through the fact that my friendships have suffered greatly from the expression of my views.) Consequently, I also have developed a more negative view of my parents, for the reason being that they thoughtlessly brought me into this meaningless existence (an existence that I would rather not have to endure.) However, my main problem originates in the fact that I cannot rationalise to continue living. That is to say, due to my nihilistic views on life, it occurs to me that it is illogical for myself to continue living. Almost hypocritical, in fact.

High school dropout, don't know where to go from here

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I'm 17, turning 18 in a few months. I left school at the start of this year. Since I was 13 I've dealt with depression and anxiety, and it became this recurring cycle year after year. I moved schools at the end of 2018 hoping it would help. After one... View more

I'm 17, turning 18 in a few months. I left school at the start of this year. Since I was 13 I've dealt with depression and anxiety, and it became this recurring cycle year after year. I moved schools at the end of 2018 hoping it would help. After one year at this new school, I realised I was at my wit's end. I made no new friends at this new school, I ended up skipping classes and going home early because I couldn't handle being in the classroom, and I ended up failing the school year. I had to leave because I didn't see the school situation getting any better. At that point, after years of anxiety attacks and depressive episodes, I was so burnt out and exhausted. At the start of this year when I decided not to return to school, I had a chat with the career counsellors at school. They told me what my options were and they gave me places to research and look into. I started seeing a psychologist regularly again, and the plan was to get me ready to go to TAFE in July. But my heart was never in it. I kept putting off contacting the TAFE institutes I was recommended, and I had no idea what kind of course I wanted to do, and where I wanted to go after doing TAFE. So I told my psychologist how I felt, and she told me it was okay, that I didn't need to jump into anything too quickly, etc. But it's really hard for me to just accept that my life is "on hold". I used to have a plan, I wanted to get good grades, take a gap year and go to uni to study media and communications. My plans have changed a lot and I'm not even sure what I want to do anymore, if I even want to go to uni. But I hate not doing anything. My life feels meaningless and everyday is the same. Everyone keeps asking me what I'm doing and what I'm going to do and I just don't know. My dad wants me to go back to doing VCE. My family has always believed in me, always expected big things from me and now it's like I've let them down and they don't expect anything from me anymore. I know it's not too late, I believe it's never too late to turn your life around. I'm only 17 for crying out loud, my life has barely started. I would really love some advice or to hear other people's stories of being a dropout and what they ended up doing.

Advice on what to do

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I'll make it a brief as possible as I'm not really one who tends to open up but it's killing me inside When I was 18 though to 20 I lost my best friend and other friends from suicide or an accident, that messed me up for years now, I felt like I was ... View more

I'll make it a brief as possible as I'm not really one who tends to open up but it's killing me inside When I was 18 though to 20 I lost my best friend and other friends from suicide or an accident, that messed me up for years now, I felt like I was getting better but I pushed alot of people away because of it, now just recently I spent 7 and a half months bed ridden, unable to look after myself and do anything for myself for the longest time which has made me fall into a deeper hole I thought couldn't get deeper, I was alone and in pain constantly, I pushed my friends and family away cause no one showed they actually cared towards me. Now that I've had surgery and in the process still recovering my loss of strength. I've come to the point that I don't know why I keep trying to recover, having no friends anyone and no one around really eats at me, but I really am trying my best to make myself better but it's so hard when you always feel lonely. If there is any advice anyone can offer I'm willing to try, I do wanna improve myself but I just keep feeling worst and worst the more I try it alone

Opening up

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My whole life I have suffered with depression and anxiety. I have gotten to the point I need to do something as it’s affecting me so much now and losing me opportunities I want. The one thing is I find it impossible to talk to people, I won’t ever fu... View more

My whole life I have suffered with depression and anxiety. I have gotten to the point I need to do something as it’s affecting me so much now and losing me opportunities I want. The one thing is I find it impossible to talk to people, I won’t ever fully open up and talking to a professional I just completely close up on them, no matter how much I want to open up. please help any ideas on how to get through this? Bit of background I am looking after my sick mum and being a single mum and also working and studying. My mum has never been supportive and very self absorbed my whole life only due to dealing with her own issues. I’ve been through a dv situation with my daughters father and constantly feel anxious.

I've got no one to turn to, so I just wanna let my thoughts out here.

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I'm new here and I'm gonna make this quick because I can't be bothered to type a lot. I'm 15 and I have a few friends but none of them like to talk about serious stuff. My parents a generally ignorant and I can be in literal tears and say I'm just ti... View more

I'm new here and I'm gonna make this quick because I can't be bothered to type a lot. I'm 15 and I have a few friends but none of them like to talk about serious stuff. My parents a generally ignorant and I can be in literal tears and say I'm just tired and they believe me. My parents do not believe in mental illnesses and when my sister asked to see a therapist my mum told her there is nothing wrong with her. I'm not close with my sister, by the way, so talking to her isn't really an option. I've been feeling really down lately. I don't remember when this started, but I have no energy and I keep crying. I don't have the energy to talk much and I cried twice in class today. I feel really alone and I can't stop thinking about it. I can't concentrate and I don't really care about much now. I'm writing this instead of doing an assignment that's due in half an hour, actually. I just don't know what happened. I used to feel fine despite the lack of attention I get from my parents. Now I just can't stop crying and I don't want to go to school tomorrow at all. My parents don't know about any of this, they think I'm always fine and there's nothing wrong with me. I guess I'll just leave it as that.

'White Picket Fence'

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Hi Everyone, I'm sure alot of you have heard the lay metaphor 'White picket fence life' ... if not, this metaphor usually starts to relates at a certain age (late 20s) where you settle down with a partner, get married, have kids, live in the family h... View more

Hi Everyone, I'm sure alot of you have heard the lay metaphor 'White picket fence life' ... if not, this metaphor usually starts to relates at a certain age (late 20s) where you settle down with a partner, get married, have kids, live in the family home which comes together as the 'white picket fence life' So it's 2020 and times have REALLY changed but there is still alot of stigma and weight behind this term for young people in their late 20s. I have been doing alot of mental training to try and get this toxic thought out of my head as i don't believe it's is one of my own thoughts but merely a pressure of society that we have been born with blue printed into our minds. For those who experience this struggle in society i'd like to hear any thoughts as to your experience with this ... if it's something you think about alot? or if its never crossed your mind. Billiee

Friends

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Hi Dose anyone know of any support groups? Also I'm trying to make friends but have had no luck I been on social apps but most people on there won't talk to you or they are after fun and some are just bullies. I have tried apps like meet me tagged. T... View more

Hi Dose anyone know of any support groups? Also I'm trying to make friends but have had no luck I been on social apps but most people on there won't talk to you or they are after fun and some are just bullies. I have tried apps like meet me tagged. Thank you

What more can I do?

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Hi, everyone. I'm 16 years old. I've been depressed for a while now. Well I haven't officially been diagnosed because my therapist doesn't like to diagnose. I do take antidepressants though and I have been visiting a therapist and psychiatrist for so... View more

Hi, everyone. I'm 16 years old. I've been depressed for a while now. Well I haven't officially been diagnosed because my therapist doesn't like to diagnose. I do take antidepressants though and I have been visiting a therapist and psychiatrist for some time. The medication has helped. I don't feel a benefit in the therapy at the moment though. It's just being told to do the same thing over and over and nothing more. I currently have feelings for someone, I have for 5 months, they don't feel the same way and I have no idea what to do. I feel that I love them so deeply and that they mean everything to me. I don't know how to get over this or make my life worth living. What more can I do? Thanks everyone!

year 12 student struggling with loss of motivation, flunking school

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I don't actually know whether I'm just constantly really depressed or whether I actually have depression but either way I'm struggling to find motivation to do school work and pass my tests. Every time I do badly in a test the stress and anxiety pile... View more

I don't actually know whether I'm just constantly really depressed or whether I actually have depression but either way I'm struggling to find motivation to do school work and pass my tests. Every time I do badly in a test the stress and anxiety piles up and then in the next one I feel worse about it, and most of the time end up flunking it. I don't know what to do and I'm getting super stressed about my future and having mild breakdowns.

Feeling alone and stupid

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Hi, my name is Olivia and this is the first time i have ever written anything like this before. I haven't really talked to anyone about how im feeling except myself. I usually try to reason with my feelings by talking aloud to no one, but eventually ... View more

Hi, my name is Olivia and this is the first time i have ever written anything like this before. I haven't really talked to anyone about how im feeling except myself. I usually try to reason with my feelings by talking aloud to no one, but eventually i get all worked up and start crying, making myself sad about nothing. So i figured i should stop doing that and try this. So here it is. I am really sad. I am really sad because i constantly feel alone in this world. i feel really dumb all the time. whenever i meet people i really struggle to engage on an intellectual level with them and that really bothers me! I idealise people who are knowledgeable. I idealise people that know sports, science, maths, literature, history! When people rattle of information too me i find it the coolest thing and i WISH i could do that to but i can't. I am useless when it comes to that. I only know a little or none. And the rare moments i try to sound smart or intellectual i will always be squandered by someone else who knows more. When i study i feel like i could read something 10 times and i still wont be able to recite what i learnt the next day. Maybe the concept will sound familiar but i will have to search it up again so that i can remember. I mainly feel alone, because i feel like everyone in this world thinks differently to me. I feel like i talk to myself way too much because i am the only one who will understand. and i really do believe that. And i have noticed the more i do this, the more i have developed hateful judgement towards people i know, because i convince myself they will never understand, they have perfect lives and i hate that and them for it. However, i am able to put a poker face on, and hide this side to my friends and family. I just feel so stupid all the time. And i hear myself getting angry about. I just want to run away sometimes so that i dont feel like i have put on this fake image that i know stuff and that im interesting when really i know i am not.

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