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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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rkhurxnx Music for my heart
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Hi everyone, My name is Rose and I'm new to Beyond Blue. This is my first forum and in it I would actually like to tell you about my experience with pulling myself out of moments when it feels like I'm drowning in my own mind... I'm the type of perso... View more

Hi everyone, My name is Rose and I'm new to Beyond Blue. This is my first forum and in it I would actually like to tell you about my experience with pulling myself out of moments when it feels like I'm drowning in my own mind... I'm the type of person who kind of pretends like i have it all together until I get home and faceplant into my pillow and sob for like an hour, at one stage when I had really bad anxiety and felt really debilitated all the time, it felt like a routine. Like all day I would let all my emotions simmer and then at the end of the day, I would let them all out and cry until my head hurt. I'm sure this sounds relatable for some of you, and what I discovered helped me out of this routine was music. I wasn't really someone who listened to music very much before, kind of just a radio listener in the mornings but through a journey I've discovered music really can lift so much weight off your shoulders and honestly give you so much relief. I took time to discover artists, listen to their albums and find my favourite genres. This really helped me because now whenever I feel super overwhelmed I listen to my spotify playlist and it really lets me relax. On this playlist I have sad songs as well as really upbeat songs, I'll listen to music and all of my worries get washed away with the sound. I'm not very good at singing or dancing but I'll always push myself to sing and dance when I'm at a low because then I don't feel so bad anymore. It's definitely something I would recommend to others as well, let me know if you've had any similar experiences, if not with music, with something else like for example reading or your favourite TV show that never fails to make you smile, let me know your favourite singers and how you've learnt to cope with the weight on your shoulders. This is a safe space so feel free to speak your mind. Please reply because it would be so nice to hear from you all, thank you!

staceyyy What's wrong with me?
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Hi everyone, I really don't know what to put here but I'm here because I don't want to bother people with my problems and I'm embarrassed, they probably won't even care. Lately I've noticed that I don't care about many things and I don't know how to ... View more

Hi everyone, I really don't know what to put here but I'm here because I don't want to bother people with my problems and I'm embarrassed, they probably won't even care. Lately I've noticed that I don't care about many things and I don't know how to comfort people either. I just feel so useless and empty you know? I have no motivation to do anything and I'm just emotionless like I can hardly cry. I smile, laugh and joke a lot but I can't tell if it's fake or genuine now. I can't remember being happy. But anyway, I'm not sure if this is just a part of being a teen or if I need some help.

Jolly_Chaplin How to make the right decisions
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Figuring out what is best for you can be challenging. I do have a helpful tactic. It can be simplified by pulling the information from your head and writing it down. It sounds simple, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t effective. Writing things down will... View more

Figuring out what is best for you can be challenging. I do have a helpful tactic. It can be simplified by pulling the information from your head and writing it down. It sounds simple, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t effective. Writing things down will clear space in your mind, allowing you to think in a more logical way. Logic comes from a sound mind. When you’re looking at all your options on paper, you can become better at making that choice. Spend time by yourself to do this, write down all your worries/concerns What are all the solutions? Which is the best solution? When will I start following the choice I’ve made? Hope this helps. -Chris

Jolly_Chaplin Therapy Through Music
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Hello everyone. Music has been a huge part of my life now and has been part of my life for over a decade. Learning musical instruments is awesome for brain development and can be a way to express yourself through the sound of your chosen instrument. ... View more

Hello everyone. Music has been a huge part of my life now and has been part of my life for over a decade. Learning musical instruments is awesome for brain development and can be a way to express yourself through the sound of your chosen instrument. It can be a great way to heal yourself and let all your other thoughts fade away. It's also rewarding and exciting! It might become your new passion which you've always needed. Or if it doesn't, that's fine. Better to have tried than never at all. If anyone wants tips for where they can start or how to learn, let me know. -Chris

smitty651 Dealing with emptiness and loneliness
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All my life I have never really felt like someone out their genuinely cares about my existence, it just like I am here and I have to deal with it and I am just an inconvience to people. Relationship wise I am totally scarred, every single time I get ... View more

All my life I have never really felt like someone out their genuinely cares about my existence, it just like I am here and I have to deal with it and I am just an inconvience to people. Relationship wise I am totally scarred, every single time I get close to a woman, I am left hurt and in so much pain and in the past I was able to focus on other things and sorta of brush past it but now, I feel like my life is just crushing ontop of me and I am being squeezed to death. I left school and had a plan which didn't go to plan at all, I spent over a year sitting around at home in my own version of hell. Covid sorta of nearly put the nail in the coffin with the chance of employment being snatched away. I am currently unemployed and got no drivers licence. It is hard because I want to fix these things but I just don't know how long I can hold on for, people all around my life are pressuring me to get all this stuff done and it hurts me to lie to them just so they can be somewhat satisfied. I have dreams, I want to be a father, walk a future daughter hopefully down the aisle at her wedding, this dream keeps fading darker and darker. I am terrified of anyone of my family to find out what I am going through because I don't want to be looked at differently, I just wanted to be treated normally. The last girl I got close to I told her about my problem with depression and ultimately rejected me, I don't know if it changed anything by telling her but it is the story of my life, rejection after rejection. People say that you will find someone that will care about you, but I have been waiting five years and nothing. People also say you shouldn't need to have someone to make you happy, you should be happy with yourself, but the thing is with me I have never had anyone like that. I have never had a girlfriend that says good morning and good night, a shoulder to lean on when I am upset, someone who I can enjoy life with. It is so frustrating, I look in the mirror and see a not bad looking dude, but whenever I see myself in a picture my first thought is wow what an ulgy person. My self confidence is nearly at a rock bottom, even tho I am nearly at the best shape in my life, it just confuses me. I am studying a course atm which is good atleast but it is online so I find myself stuck in the house most days. I spend most of my free time either watching sports or gaming because those are the only things that help me cope with all these emotions.

MoodedOut Feeling overwhelemed, stress and phone addiction
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Hi everyone, Hope we're all well. I've recently been really struggling with university work even though I'm in 3rd year. I have been trying really hard but it seems to be getting nowhere, I feel like I'm wasting time, and to make it worse as a coping... View more

Hi everyone, Hope we're all well. I've recently been really struggling with university work even though I'm in 3rd year. I have been trying really hard but it seems to be getting nowhere, I feel like I'm wasting time, and to make it worse as a coping mechanism I go on my phone and endlessly scroll through social media which is making me feel even more worse. I guess there's not much I wanted to do, but just to have an outlet to get it all out. Hopefully, this forum ends up being a better coping mechanism than endless social media and I appreciate you all for hearing me out

sandy77 feeling lost and overwhelmed
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Hi, I'm unsre whether posting will help, if you've the time to read/listen that would mean so much! Sorry for the overkill of information. I am 22 and an artist who has lost all meanful employment due to covid (for context). I've always been a fairly... View more

Hi, I'm unsre whether posting will help, if you've the time to read/listen that would mean so much! Sorry for the overkill of information. I am 22 and an artist who has lost all meanful employment due to covid (for context). I've always been a fairly anxious and erratic personality, never really had any close freinds growing up and tended to use escapism to cope with the lonliness as a kid. Was taught from my father that mental instability was weakness and vulnerability was to be shunned. He would often yell and berate me for crying. 2018 I found my best friend, whom I owe so much too. We moved in together about a year ago, and it was great, but recently we've been having so many issues I'm scared im going to lose him. He's started raising his voice, and cutting me out. Calling me out for being mentally unwell but not wanting to help because he has his own problems to deal with. And all I want is to care for him and give him what he needs, which right now is space, the opposite of what I need. He's only just told me he's seeing a psycologist but doesnt trust me with sensitive informtion anymore as 'its none of my business' when I used to be the one he would turn to for everything. On top of this, another close friend has called me a burden for 'weighing them down' with my requests for help and companionship. I have been having more panic attacks, more periods of hyper energised mania type episodes, crying more than I ever have and am struggling to sleep or feel rested when I do. This has been going on for roughly a year now but greatly intensified over covid as everyone lost their incomes and their futures. I am stuck working in hospitality as my artistic career simply doesnt exist anymore. I have no future that I am passionate about. How can I fix my apathy towards life right now? How can I fix my relationships with the people who mean the absolute world to me? How can I stop the fear the induces the panic attacks of having everyone walk out on me? How do I stop being so 'needy'? I'm scared to admit I might need help to cope with it all, but have never learnt how to ask for it. I dont know if anything/anyone can actually help. Apologies once again, thank you for reading xx

One9Eight i don't know what to do anymore
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i dont want a job, i dont want to exercise, i push people away, if i try something and i'm shit at it then i never want to do it again. i hate myself and i have no idea what to do

i dont want a job, i dont want to exercise, i push people away, if i try something and i'm shit at it then i never want to do it again. i hate myself and i have no idea what to do

Jimmy19 Struggling with being unhappy + breakup help.
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My girlfriend left me a week ago. Bit of backstory on when things headed downhill. December we were fantastic, exploring new things together and we both have agreed even during the breakup that we were happy. suddenly she stopped putting in effort to... View more

My girlfriend left me a week ago. Bit of backstory on when things headed downhill. December we were fantastic, exploring new things together and we both have agreed even during the breakup that we were happy. suddenly she stopped putting in effort to see me, she had things going on that made it difficult. Months went on like this, I got increasingly frustrated. I blamed her for it all, I was trying so hard to see her and it was like a fort wall. This went on for 8 months, barely seeing eachother until last week she told me she didn't think it was healthy and that she had every intention of trying to work things out. I instantly was crushed by it. I channelled that sadness to exercise, and haven't contacted her since. Now I'm beginning to realise my flaws and that my problems were a lot more subtle but possibly more influential. Nothing was enough for me. Even in December when I was "happy", I was pushing her for more, Despite it taking a great deal of effort from her. I realise now that no matter how far we went it wasn't ever enough for me. I realise I placed all my happiness on her, and constantly argued with her when she wouldn't make effort. I think about how that looked from her perspective; She was worried one mistake from her would send me into a dark place.(History of mental health) I realise that it wasn't her that made me unhappy. I was unhappy with my life and I was making it her job to fix it. She said she cherishes every moment we had together, but thinks the relationship is unhealthy and blames herself for not making effort (saying it was all her fault and she was sorry). You can imagine my guilt now. Nothing I did was attractive behavior, it's no wonder the consequence. I have watched seminars, Ted talks, the lot. They say a person needs to be happy on their own before a relationship can be healthy. I believe I truly love her, and I accept the consequence of my failure. So my question is, how do you become happy when you are alone? Where do I start? I don't think I am depressed in the general sense, I just don't know how to be happy. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you for reading. Ps. I would appreciate advice on getting another chance with her. My plan is to wait a couple weeks to a month of no talking and reach out to get some of this off my chest, for my sake and hers. I don't expect a fairytale, and I think if I got another chance now I would doom it again. I want to be happy for my sake first, not just for her.

GreysAnatomyFan I had a panic attack in front of my parents and know they know about my anxiety
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I have had anxiety for a few years and recently it has gotten so bad to the point of panic attacks. After a panic attack in front of my parents they wanted me to go see a GP. This increased my anxiety and I started to pick at my nails as well as gett... View more

I have had anxiety for a few years and recently it has gotten so bad to the point of panic attacks. After a panic attack in front of my parents they wanted me to go see a GP. This increased my anxiety and I started to pick at my nails as well as getting heart palpitations and a sickening feeling constantly. Finally when I got to the appointment I started to cry and could not stop I think I may of had another panic attack. The doctor was really nice and handled it very well so I was not overly embarrassed. I did get worried when she started talking about my thyroid and getting me to get a blood test. What does the blood test show? Could my anxiety be caused by a medical condition? And what is the doctor going to do when we meet next?

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