Support
Support

Young people

A space for people aged 12-25 to discuss life. If you’re over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect.

Start a conversation

FAQ

Find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions on the Forums.

View the FAQ

Forums guidelines

Our guidelines keep the Forums a safe place for people to share and learn information.

View the guidelines
Categories
Start a conversation

Pinned discussions

BeyondBlue New to this Forum? Please read this first!
  • replies: 0

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

All discussions

Start a conversation

Teagan_rose My boyfriend has depression
  • replies: 1

Im needing help. My boyfriend and I have known eachother for nearly 2 years and have been dating for 15 months. He had a really rough child hood, raised around drugs. Bullied in school and a rough step dad with barley any support. He had depression b... View more

Im needing help. My boyfriend and I have known eachother for nearly 2 years and have been dating for 15 months. He had a really rough child hood, raised around drugs. Bullied in school and a rough step dad with barley any support. He had depression before we started dating and he said he had depression since he was 15 (now nearly 21) but it seemed good, like he was always active, extrovert, funny and just fun to be around. But about 5 months into the relationship things were changing, he was becoming upset alot easier. I got worried and thought it was something to do with me. So i asked. He said that its his depression because hes never cared for anyone before and I'm his first. I didn't think anything too drastic of it because its his depression and he knows it better than I do. But then it got worse. I was getting bullied, stressing and getting sick. Then i could no longer try and help or deal with his emotions especially after his 20th birthday, his family completely neglected it.. Fights started to become a regular occurrence. I couldn't take it, i would cry all the time. Worried for the relationship and my well being i went and got check ups and seen a Councillor. I tried to encourage him to try and do something to help himself. He stopped dancing which was something that took away his pain, but he wouldn't. Because i could no longer help him without getting upset and annoyed he shut himself off a lot. Then i felt i was expected to know things when he wouldn't tell me. It was getting to me and i would try and break it off, he said he relied on me too much and said he shouldnt be here if we arent together, i stayed and encouraged a fresh start with a clean slate. Its getting easier as i am becoming stronger but im still concerned about him and our relationship weather we will even be together. His depression takes over him and he isnt happy where he is living and the job he is in. So hes trying to move to the next town and get another job. But im scared. I need some advice to help him and our relationship as i love him too much. I made a promise card for him to show i am NOT going anywhere. But i am just worried for his happiness. I couldn't live with out him, like it would drive me insane, hes done so much for me, always trying to make me happy first. And i know he loves me and cares for me sooo much but his depression is bringing any hope of his happiness down.. Please help.

Maddie97 I need help!
  • replies: 2

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and 18 years old. My partner and I are constantly fighting and lately he has been talking to another girl, his become more and more disinterested in anything to do with me or the baby, he complains about our appointments, it eve... View more

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and 18 years old. My partner and I are constantly fighting and lately he has been talking to another girl, his become more and more disinterested in anything to do with me or the baby, he complains about our appointments, it even got to the point where I was in hospital all day, he got home from work and didn't even bother to ask what happened or if we were okay. I'm suffering from prenatal depression because I don't have any family and his my only support network, but he refuses to talk to me, I don't know what to do, I'm stressed out to the max, and everything just feels like it's falling down around me. I can't do this on my own, I don't want to be going through this anymore, I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life..

Jrv15 being outgoing doesn't always mean happy
  • replies: 3

I've always been a really out going person. People are always complimenting me and telling me how jealous they are that I can be so loud and happy and out there all the time. I used to smile and agree cause I was happy. But in the last year I have st... View more

I've always been a really out going person. People are always complimenting me and telling me how jealous they are that I can be so loud and happy and out there all the time. I used to smile and agree cause I was happy. But in the last year I have started to feel myself change. I started to feel stressed all the time and anxious about everything. I came of my birth control pill which helped bring my stress levels down but the anxiety stuck around. I'm not dealing with it as bad as a lot of other people out there are. When im out and around people occupying myself it's like i am my old self- Happy without a care in the world. It's when I am alone, or at night when I get into bed that I feel like the whole world is pushing against me and pinning me to the bed. I feel heavy and sad. I have 100 thoughts race through my head at the same time and I can't sort through them. Half the time I can't even keep up with what my thoughts are saying and feel like I am being attacked by the words in my head. No one knows I am going through a tough time. Looking at me I have a great job, a great boyfriend, just moved into my first apartment.. So what could be wrong? What is making me feel the way I do? I wish I knew, I wish I could help myself. I wish I could be happy all the time. I'm sick of feeling like I have two hands Inside my chest squeezing my heart till it aches. This is the first time I've opened up at all, or even properly admitted to myself that things are not right. I hope I can find what I need to help me through this, I don't want to feel this way anymore.

maybeunsure I want my best friend back
  • replies: 2

So this guy and I have been friends for 10 months and I consoder him to be my best friend. A week after we met, he got drunk and told me a lot about himself, including that he has depression. For 8-9 months he seemed fine and we grew really close. Th... View more

So this guy and I have been friends for 10 months and I consoder him to be my best friend. A week after we met, he got drunk and told me a lot about himself, including that he has depression. For 8-9 months he seemed fine and we grew really close. Then he started shutting me out and kept making excuses for not hanging out with me. I know a series of things have happened as he told me about them and they've obviously taken their toll on him. One night he opened up a bit but wouldn't tell me anymore than I already knew. But I told him that I'm going through the same feeligs and thoughts and now he thinks that my problems are more important than his, which they most definitely are not. I thought this was a bit of a turning point but the next day he went back to ignoring me. I had tickets to see a movie and invited him along, which he happily agreed to. But on the night he stood me up. So I saw it alone. Since that night he has apologized nunerous times for being rude and understands if I hate him, which I don't. I'm sick of him apologizing and want him to do something about it. But I can't force him to talk to me or hang out with me. I just want to help him and work through our problems together. I don't know what to do. ​

Rae123 Boyfriend with depression
  • replies: 2

Hi, so I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 5 months although I have known him for about 3 years. He has talked about having depression before, but since I have known him he has been okay. Recently he has been acting odd, like promising to hang... View more

Hi, so I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 5 months although I have known him for about 3 years. He has talked about having depression before, but since I have known him he has been okay. Recently he has been acting odd, like promising to hang out then cancelling or not wanting to hang out with any friends. Yesterday we got in a silly fight which resulted in him not talking to me and then sending a message about leaving for a while to work out personal stuff (stuff was in " marks) and after getting worried and trying to contact me he told me he had depression again and had been crying all day, he then said he loved me no matter what happened next (his words)and left again. I'm worried about him and was hoping for some advice. Thanks, Rae

Shahnny Changing for the better I think
  • replies: 2

Hey guys I am new to this forum but I needed to sign up because I needed some advice from people who may have gone through the same thing as me. During school I was bullied by my best friends and so for me that sent me into very deep depression and g... View more

Hey guys I am new to this forum but I needed to sign up because I needed some advice from people who may have gone through the same thing as me. During school I was bullied by my best friends and so for me that sent me into very deep depression and gave me anxiety from then on. That was about 4 years ago and I have only really been better for about a year now and things are really look up. I am now in my first ever relationship but this is worrying me a lot. My mum is very worried that this may make me relapse because in her mind I never got better because I didn't go on medication I just sort of fixed myself which was what I always wanted to do. So the other day she came into my room out of the blue and started yelling saying that I am going to fall back into it because of this new relationship and so on and now I am starting to feel she maybe right. I don't feel anything like I did during those four years but she has gotten into my head and now I am worried. I have also just started a new job that is very stressful but does anyone know anything I can do to make sure I am not falling back into bad depression and aniety? thank you

justdoit100 Finished school, supposed to be happy but... lonely, I just want to completely transform myself
  • replies: 1

I recently finished all my school exams and I have a few months of free time. Before the holidays, I was feeling so motivated - I wanted to go out, try and learn new things, catch up on everything I didn't have time for during school... but I just fe... View more

I recently finished all my school exams and I have a few months of free time. Before the holidays, I was feeling so motivated - I wanted to go out, try and learn new things, catch up on everything I didn't have time for during school... but I just feel so empty and demotivated. Seeing photos of people having fun and all these beautiful places online make me want to go out with friends, but nobody wants to go with me and I don't really have anyone to talk to. This is an immediate problem, and I know it isn't a significant one. However, this is related to a more long term problem - I find it so difficult to connect with people and am struggling to accept myself. So many times I have tried to organise outings with my friends and most of the time nobody goes. I understand this though - why would someone want to hang out with someone who is so serious and boring? Sometimes I really enjoy alone time, and go out alone (and people think I'm odd). But sometimes I really just want company, someone to talk to, to motivate and support each other, to exchange ideas, to have a laugh, to grow together. I hardly ever smile or laugh, and I seem so detached and serious. People think I'm secretly judging them when I actually am not; I don't wish to sound arrogant, but if I were to be honest, I'm more open-minded and accepting than a lot of people I know. In general, my thoughts don't seem to align with my actions - even when I'm happy, I find it hard to smile (I actually find it harder to smile with my family as they're so used to me not smiling) and I find it so hard to show affection and warmth to people. My appearance is appalling - I'm so bony and I look so flimsy and awkward. My face is sharp and bony so I look even more serious. In general I just look like a really unlikeable and awkward person. I'm also extremely quiet around everyone outside of my home, to the point where a lot of the times people can't hear me and I have to repeat the same thing multiple times until they give up. Moreover I feel like I did so poorly in my final exams. I genuinely can't think of anything I am good at. I hate how I'm such a failure. And this pervasive feeling of loneliness has in turn obstructed my motivation to read and learn other things... I want to use this free time that I have to transform myself but I'm not sure how. I've tried volunteering and working some shifts to talk to other people but it hasn't helped... I know it's ultimately up to myself but I would really like help.

Shaggy1701 University lack of motivation
  • replies: 3

So, I am creating this new thread because, while similar to other threads, it bears some significant differences. Anyway, on to the problems. So I just finished my first year of university, and quite frankly... I did terribly. I have failed at least ... View more

So, I am creating this new thread because, while similar to other threads, it bears some significant differences. Anyway, on to the problems. So I just finished my first year of university, and quite frankly... I did terribly. I have failed at least 3 if 8 subjects (some marks aren't out yet), even failing some classes on topics I love. This is compared to highschool where I consistently got A's and the occasional B. And as I said earlier, some of the classes I failed, namely linear algebra, I love and know the information well. However come to the exam and there was a typo in one of the questions, which caused me to break down and cry silently for 2.5 of a 3hr exam. Now, back to the beginning of semester 2. As I failed one subject in first semester (also do to a panic attack in the exam hall), my parents got me to see a GP who referred me to a psychologist specialising in anxiety and ADHD. After psychoanalysing me, gave me the all clear and told me and my parents that I have no mental disorders. However, in semester 2 I lost 100% of my motivation. I lost my appetite, couldn't do classwork, and spent most of my day just sitting (and stressing) in my room. Furthermore, on 3 occasions I completely broke down into uncontrollable crying (where I would cry hysterically from anywhere between 30min and a 2hr). In one occasion, I broke down on a main street outside the university and fortunately my girlfriend managed to get me to a quiet spot, where I simply cried for who knows how long. Finally, in recent months, I have lost all interest in things I used to love. For example, I have passed grade 6 piano exams and was a passionate trekky. I used to be able to spend several hours per day playing the piano, and then watch an episode or 2 of tng at night. Now none of this interests me. I mean, I feel like it should, but I just can't build up interest within myself. With all this in mind, I can't imagine this is normal, but at the same time I don't want to contradict a trained professional (or my parents who agree with him). At the same time, I know who I am right now isn't me, and I don't think crying in the exam hall over a typo is normal either. What should I do? Thanks in advance. P.S. sorry for the long post, but I wanted to be thorough

Ethan1 foster care
  • replies: 1

Why am i in foster care? I still dont really understand

Why am i in foster care? I still dont really understand

Liam007 Graduating from School, Miserable time
  • replies: 8

My graduation is coming up in about 3 weeks and I don't want to go. It's a been back and forth situation for the last few months but I'm pretty much settled on this option, I can't think of a single good reason to go. I'm just alone all the time, I t... View more

My graduation is coming up in about 3 weeks and I don't want to go. It's a been back and forth situation for the last few months but I'm pretty much settled on this option, I can't think of a single good reason to go. I'm just alone all the time, I try to sit next to some of my "friends" but they find excuses "I'm saving this seat" and "I'm going over there". I don't invited to parties but they pretend to care when I don't want to do stuff like formals. I feel like I have to take on new personas to come close to being normal I hate myself and feel like such a useless person, I'm not thinking of self harm or anything but still.

As an organisation that supports people from across Australia, Beyond Blue acknowledges the Traditional Owners and Custodians of Country and their continuing connection to land, waters and community. We pay respect to Elders past and present.

First Nations Peoples are advised that this website may include reference to and images of deceased persons.

Beyond Blue is committed to safe inclusive spaces, policies and services for people of LGBTIQ+ communities and their families.

Helpful information

Stay in touch

Sign up below for regular emails from Beyond Blue, filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.

Stay in touch

Talk it through with us, we'll point you in the right direction.

Call 1300 224 636

24 hours / 7 days a week

Chat Online

24 hours / 7 days a week

Email us

Get a reply in 24 hours

Copyright � 2026 Beyond Blue Ltd

All rights reserved

Contact us Terms of use Privacy policy Site map