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I don’t know what to do anymore.

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As a school student, I’m constantly pressured by studies, grades etc. But my problem is, I’m absorbing myself into everyone else’s problems. What I mean is: If someone is having a rough time, I’ll offer support, but it’s gotten to the point, where I ... View more

As a school student, I’m constantly pressured by studies, grades etc. But my problem is, I’m absorbing myself into everyone else’s problems. What I mean is: If someone is having a rough time, I’ll offer support, but it’s gotten to the point, where I am being everyone else’s emotional anchor... It’s taking its toll on me, because I have problems of my own, but automatically I throw myself into everyone else’s feelings. According to relatives, I’m empathetic. I don’t know how to handle all this, I’m stuck in a constant limbo, because I can’t bring myself to say “No” instead, I be the “strong one.” I put on a mask to appear happy, and to try and manage a happy atmosphere. It feels like there’s a gaping hole in my chest, I emotionally attach to one person, I devote my everything to this person... Yet they still leave. I understand why the first victim of this attaching left; it may be because I would sit at his fence 30 minutes before we would walk to school. To this day, I’ve attached to 6 people, all but one has left me, because this one is my newest person I’ve attached to. I’m constantly being accused of being gay, (Now before you think I have anything against any of the sexualities, I don’t, infact I believe that a person has the right to love WHOEVER they love.) now the reason why being called gay is something I get offended by is because I’m getting called something that I’m not. My best friends father has left her household, and so I’m trying to be her emotional anchor, people have left her side because she’s gotten depression and anger issues, this has made her feel isolated. This is my problem, and I’m sorry for rambling.

self hate

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ive been through a lot in my life, stuff way to depressing and messed up to explain on this forum. anyway its led me to have a lot of issues with self esteem and self hate, to an extreme point were I have great difficulty loving myself for who I am a... View more

ive been through a lot in my life, stuff way to depressing and messed up to explain on this forum. anyway its led me to have a lot of issues with self esteem and self hate, to an extreme point were I have great difficulty loving myself for who I am and not consistently trying to change myself. I was wondering if anyone else experiences such extreme self hate in relation to their mental illnesses and how they have learnt to cope with it and counteract it. xx

I feel like I don't have any real friends

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Hi, this is my first time posting. I am 17 and currently in year 12. I would say I'm an introverted person who gets anxious when meeting new people but I have been able to develop a group of friends over my time at high school. However, for the past ... View more

Hi, this is my first time posting. I am 17 and currently in year 12. I would say I'm an introverted person who gets anxious when meeting new people but I have been able to develop a group of friends over my time at high school. However, for the past couple of years I feel like my group of friends have started to shift away from me. They still act like they include me but they tend not care how I feel even though in my opinion I have been a good friend. Not that I am constantly checking social media to see what people are doing but often I see my 'friends' out together doing something and they do not even consider to invite me. I know this because they will tell me about their outing while I'm on the train with them the next day going to school and they seem not to care. I feel like I am losing my friends and I don't know if it's me or I should try to find new friends but I find it difficult to make lasting friendships. I am in multiple sports teams and get on well with those people but besides training and games I do hang out with them. I feel lonely a lot of the time and don't know if it is my fault or not. I often question what I am doing and if I need to change. I feel invisible.

Social phobia - do I really need a diagnosis to get better? :/

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Hi, Warning; migraine induced rant. I've never spoken about my feelings with anyone before, so this is a little bit hard for me. I hope it all makes sense. A friend shared a SAD link on Facebook last week and almost everything in the article related ... View more

Hi, Warning; migraine induced rant. I've never spoken about my feelings with anyone before, so this is a little bit hard for me. I hope it all makes sense. A friend shared a SAD link on Facebook last week and almost everything in the article related to me. I did a bit of research and I'm pretty sure I've had SAD my whole life. Every article I've read has suggested getting a diagnosis. I want to listen to this advice, but I've spent three days worrying about how and why to get a diagnosis and now I've given myself a migraine over it. I'm an unemployed uni student so I can't afford to go to a psychologist. I live in a small town, too, so I'd be worried someone would see my car parked there. I don't know if a GP is the right person to go to, either. I keep worrying that they'll tell me I don't have SAD and to just live with it, or that I need to see a psychologist for a diagnosis, or I won't even be able to speak to the doctor once I get in there; that has happened before. The website for the GP doesn't say which docs are bulk billing and which aren't, so I'll have to call to make an appointment. I tried to call today, but couldn't make myself do it. I'm not entirely sure I have SAD. I avoid situations where I'll be invited to social events (if that makes sense), but if I'm invited to an event I almost always go with only a little anxiety beforehand - although I always regret it as soon as I'm there and lose sleep over it for at least a week afterwards. I have never been able to have a normal conversation with anyone except my mum and one particular friend (my only friend). I can get really anxious about things I do all the time, like going to the shops or gym, but I can make myself go 98% of the time. I can answer the phone, but that's because the fear of answering isn't as great as the fear of calling them back. I know a lot of people with SAD have the same dilemma and I'm not alone (although it feels like I am). But do I really need a diagnosis to start 'getting better'? Now that I'm (pretty) sure I have it, can't I just deal with it and fix it alone? I'm tired of living like this, but just can't make myself get help.

Feel like I don't know myself and who I am changes

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I feel like who I was last night and this morning isn't someone who I recognize. The memories don't feel like mine, or at least they feel like a dream, only they did happen. I've had dreams feel like real memories before, but never something that fee... View more

I feel like who I was last night and this morning isn't someone who I recognize. The memories don't feel like mine, or at least they feel like a dream, only they did happen. I've had dreams feel like real memories before, but never something that feels for all intents and purposes like a dream, only for the fact that I know it happened, the people involved know it happened and the effects of it have resonated throughout my day. I feel different now, but still not myself, and I find it hard to recall myself through the fog in my brain. This comes from(before last night) knowing who I was with almost certainty, and having confidence in myself as a human being.

Why do I let the fear of failure get to me so much?

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Hi, I'm in my first year of my degree and I love what im studying (I'm studying nutrition). My problems is that I have a habit of not doing things or leaving them to the last minute simply because i'll spend most of the time thinking 'what's the poin... View more

Hi, I'm in my first year of my degree and I love what im studying (I'm studying nutrition). My problems is that I have a habit of not doing things or leaving them to the last minute simply because i'll spend most of the time thinking 'what's the point, I'll never succeed or get anywhere'. My highschool years were not great. I felt so unintelligent compared to all the other girls, my struggles were always right there on my shoulders weighing down any potential I had. I embraced my bad grades and at one point became proud of them, taking them as jokes and laughing with others about it. That is until one day i realised that that's not who i wanted to be. As organised as I can be in uni, I go through these funks where it will take me a week to actually start something. I go through so much self pity that I become so depressed. I don't have friends at uni (my class consists of mainly people I have little in common with, fake people). I never used to be insecure and now all my insecurities are coming out and I honestly don't know how to handle them. I feel as though I'm missing out on my life by not enjoying it. I have already failed two units and I'm afraid that I'll fail more this trimester. Its my own fault, I hardly attended any classes because my motivation was at zero. I'm afraid that I wont ever do anything with my life and I know it's up to me to change but I'm lost and confused. Thank you for reading this much needed vent.

New

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Hi, I'm new on here and I want to be able to talk to someone (I am not giving away personal thing)

Fear of Depression

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Hi I'm new. I've been in recovery from depression for two years but the fear of it coming back is consuming me. I try to control everything, so I don't relapse but I'm still paralysed by the fear. I do everything :I eat healthy, I take my medication,... View more

Hi I'm new. I've been in recovery from depression for two years but the fear of it coming back is consuming me. I try to control everything, so I don't relapse but I'm still paralysed by the fear. I do everything :I eat healthy, I take my medication, I do yoga but last month or so I haven't exercised and the guilt is eating away at me. What if I relapse because i haven't been exercising?

Obsessive food related anxiety?

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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I don't know where else to go and I'm getting really worked up about it. I have generalised anxiety disorder and it seems to "latch onto" something every few months. Since about christmas of l... View more

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I don't know where else to go and I'm getting really worked up about it. I have generalised anxiety disorder and it seems to "latch onto" something every few months. Since about christmas of last year, I've felt chubby and gross. I've been obsessing over looking at my stomach in the mirror, or the flab on my arms, or the fat on my thighs. I tried a calorie counting app for about two weeks, but I got too obsessed so I deleted it before it got any worse. I'm a healthy weight supposedly, my doctor confirmed what everyone tells me, but I hate seeing my stomach grow through the day, even though it's perfectly natural. I keep seeing all these girls with flat stomachs and toned arms, and I know that they live in the gym and watch what they eat because that's what they like, but I can't help but chew myself out for not being like them. I feel gross and I'm just not sure how to get over this thought habit? I've tried telling myself over and over that I'm fine, but I feel like I'm lying to myself. Sorry for the word vomit, I can't find an eloquent way to say it. Any advice would be so good, I just want to feel normal-ish again.

Not sure how this works?

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Hi, I am kind of new to this site, or any kind of mental health forum. I no longer feel like I have any words to say how I feel exactly, and that everything I do feel is kind of just a big blur of different points in my life that have all led to this... View more

Hi, I am kind of new to this site, or any kind of mental health forum. I no longer feel like I have any words to say how I feel exactly, and that everything I do feel is kind of just a big blur of different points in my life that have all led to this moment. I feel the need to share everything I feel but also keep it to myself, and nights like these it becomes very difficult to contain my emotions. I very much hate the person I am and can see that it influences my relationships with others, and obviously eats away at my own self-esteem. I don't wish I was dead, but I often wish that I was someone else, or that I could be someone else and have traits I feel would make me a better person. I don't want someone to tell me to not feel this way because I don't particularly remember a point in my life where I was completely at peace with who I am as a person, and so simply telling me to stop thinking like this I feel is kind of just dismissive. I no longer feel like I can talk to my friends about these feelings because not only do they go through their own dramas, but they tell me often that I am the only person who can help myself. I don't feel like I can talk to a stranger because they do not know me at all; not my past or the way I deal with things or the way I think... how could they help me if I cannot help myself? I am afraid of so many things in my life. I am afraid to see people and catch up with them, I am afraid of parties and I am afraid of simply walking my dog past the main road. I am afraid to get intimate with people I care about. Sometimes situations make me so excited that it becomes so overwhelming I get scared, and so I avoid it. I am afraid of so many situations and possibilities and the future and the past and I hate myself so much because I feel it ruining my relationships with others. I want to be confident and I want to feel good in social situations - not disgusting and awkward and nervous. I want someone to give me the answers, or 'fix' it, but I know that is not how it works. I am here to ask what I should do, because I don't want to be like this anymore, I honestly cannot.

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