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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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whonow17 I think i'm afraid to leave the house
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Hello, this is my first post here so I'll add some background info. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for 6 or so years and have had my ups and down with it and have managed to conquer somethings that previously held me back. But during thi... View more

Hello, this is my first post here so I'll add some background info. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for 6 or so years and have had my ups and down with it and have managed to conquer somethings that previously held me back. But during this time I mainly stayed at home, didn't go to school and if I did it was to see friends, and even after school finished I continued to remain at home other than to see friends. Now I'm nearly 3 years out of school and find that anything that takes me out of home for more than a few hours makes me so anxious and I sometimes don't go! I'm currently studying at a TAFE and I'm studying something I want to do as a career, but have missed so much class this semester, then recently I got a job but quit two weeks in because the management was bad, but I'm starting to think that maybe it's my subconscious telling me that I need to be at home? I wouldn't say I was depressed at the moment but have had a lot of anxiety this year that has stopped me from doing this. I do see a psychologist once a month but feel like I needed this off my chest. Has anyone else ever experienced this? Or am I going mad? Just need some guidance.

heyheyhey i keep crying
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Hey! I'm new to this and just needed some advice. Up until the start of last year I was always a very optimistic, care free person. Anything could have happened and I would've been able to pick myself back up again. But for a couple of months last ye... View more

Hey! I'm new to this and just needed some advice. Up until the start of last year I was always a very optimistic, care free person. Anything could have happened and I would've been able to pick myself back up again. But for a couple of months last year and a few months this year this hasn't been the case. I just don't feel me. I find myself in bed more than I'm with friends, at uni or working. I feel like I'm pathetic, like everyone else around me is achieving these amazing goals while the only changes in my life are bad ones. I find myself on the verge of tears at any given moment, I'll cry while I'm out with friends and am unable to stop myself. Sometimes I think that seeing my friends is pointless because I'm just pretending to be happy when I'm not. I'm worried about the future and put things off because I don't want to deal with it. I am dissatisfied with where I'm at in my life. Overall I just feel this sad sort of feeling and I just want to hear any advice or experience you guys may have with this xx

lulu01 Quater-life Crisis
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I'm living at home with my parents, got it pretty good as I have money saved up for when I need it and I don't pay rent. I have nearly finished a uni degree which I have no interest in anymore so I feel like I've wasted money on a debt that I'll have... View more

I'm living at home with my parents, got it pretty good as I have money saved up for when I need it and I don't pay rent. I have nearly finished a uni degree which I have no interest in anymore so I feel like I've wasted money on a debt that I'll have to pay off. None of my interests as of last year interest me anymore and I wish I had my future self come back in time to just help me!! I'm so lost as to where to work or where to find a job, all the job websites are irrelevant because you either need experience or need training (which I'm not prepared to gk back to school anytime soon for). And anyone that I ask for help doesn't have a clue. I've had two freak outs tonight and haven't slept and I feel like these past 2 month of staying at home have left me anxiety ridden and just wanting to sleep all the time. I need some real advice.

Karv94 Feeling like I'm back to square 1
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Welp. I don't really know where to begin - the only thing I can describe is that I feel as though there is a lot of anger, confusion and chaos raging through me and I don't know what to do about it For as long as I've known, I've had periods of time ... View more

Welp. I don't really know where to begin - the only thing I can describe is that I feel as though there is a lot of anger, confusion and chaos raging through me and I don't know what to do about it For as long as I've known, I've had periods of time throughout a year where I feel like I don't know myself - like nothing matters. I'm a human body with no soul, spirit or desire for anything. Even writing this post is difficult because I don't really know what I truly feel or believe - its like I'm completely detached from my personality. I frustrates and saddens me. I'm only in my early 20s but I don't want to lose anymore more time to this toxic mind frame. This is by far the worst slump I've been in, in years. In years gone by, I had uni to pull me through - keeping my head above water. I know that it's my choice to be in this slump but I don't know what will make me feel like "me" again. The only thing I've been doing the past week is go to hot yoga everyday - but I'm a ghost. I don't know what else to do with myself. I dont wanna be around friends in this state of mind. So I rather they just go about their lives without me. I'm just exhausted with feeling pathetic all. the. time.

Aroha4ever Overloading stress in school
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Hello Recently in school, there are so many assignments, tests due and I feel hopeless in successfully getting a good grade. I keep on trying to do work but I am not motivated as I keep thinking 'what is the point of trying when you know you are goin... View more

Hello Recently in school, there are so many assignments, tests due and I feel hopeless in successfully getting a good grade. I keep on trying to do work but I am not motivated as I keep thinking 'what is the point of trying when you know you are going to fail?' but I want to be determined to succeed. I feel isolated in this as I know so many people who are coping with all these assignments just fine passing with great grades yet I couldn't. Is there anything I could do to help myself with becoming more motivated to pass?

JessicaJaneDunn_ Anxiety
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So is there any tips on managing anxiety anxiety seems to be holding me back from things I want to do is medication for anxiety worth it?

So is there any tips on managing anxiety anxiety seems to be holding me back from things I want to do is medication for anxiety worth it?

MysticMarine Anxiety Physical symptoms persiting
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Hello, So I have been dealing with severe anxiety over the past 5 days, I always have anxiety but not all the time and not usually with physical symptoms. I do in fact have anxiety but I haven't had it this bad, I have been rather stress-free lately ... View more

Hello, So I have been dealing with severe anxiety over the past 5 days, I always have anxiety but not all the time and not usually with physical symptoms. I do in fact have anxiety but I haven't had it this bad, I have been rather stress-free lately which I have been very happy about. Symptoms I am experiencing: - shortness of breath (breathing issues) - heart palpitations - insomnia (already diagnosed) - muscle pains and aches (mostly armpit area and back and arms) - sweating when anxious - feeling exhausted doing anything I have been to the doctors twice for different opinions and both concluded it was anxiety. I accept that it may be that but I just don't know why these symptoms are staying for so long. Possible causes - mother going into surgery yesterday - school (maybe?) - worrying about health I have been told I'm not exercising enough etc. I have been trying to do as much as I can do but it's always too much for me. Before getting these symptoms I had a sleepover with some friends and hadn't gotten much sleep the night before and the night of the sleepover so I was fatigued the next day, I freaked about being fatigued and began looking up symptoms getting myself into a panic. I then began getting the symptoms as above. I just want all these symptoms to end so I can feel normal again. I have booked my psychologist to talk about medication but I don't think my parents will agree to anxiety medication as they don't believe in it. I am also seeing a healer or someone that uses methods of helping muscles.

purpleskyy just a bit lonely
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hey. i haven't been on here a while, so i'll introduce myself. I'm Jessie and i'm 14, nearly 15. I joined Beyond Blue in February last year because of depression and had a pretty bad year. Pleased to say i've pretty much recovered - well i'm trying t... View more

hey. i haven't been on here a while, so i'll introduce myself. I'm Jessie and i'm 14, nearly 15. I joined Beyond Blue in February last year because of depression and had a pretty bad year. Pleased to say i've pretty much recovered - well i'm trying to - but i guess lately i've been feeling pretty down. Mostly out of loneliness. I'm in the blue zone, as my OT would say. I find it quite hard to interact with people, because of my Asperger's Syndrome, which doesn't really help me with the loneliness side of things either. When I am surrounded by people, I feel even more alone, because they have all their own friendship groups and it rubs in the fact that I'm a total loner too. So i tend to hide inside myself and spend even more time alone, which also makes me lonely! I really don't know what to do! A while ago, my psychiatrist encouraged me to invite this other girl who had been friendly to me in the past, to a movie. I did that. It went okay...until we caught up a second time for lunch at a shopping centre. Let's just say we somehow got into a conversation about mental illness and a lot of things slipped out. I tend to be an over teller, so the poor girl got full blown with a whole pile of dark stuff! Since then, she's pretty much ignored me. My doctor said that i probably should have slowly eased it out bit by bit (if i had to), instead of loading a whole pile of doom and gloom on her, so I now know for next time. But yeah. I'm not the best with people, when i have to be around them, as you can probably tell. I always act the wrong way and say the wrong thing and constantly have to have jokes and sarcasm explained to me. I find it much easier just to hide inside myself and pretend there's nobody there. But that makes me more lonely! But when I'm around people, i feel lonely too... So i don't really know what to do. I want friends...but i dont want friends. I need to be around people...but i can't be around people - that much. Sorry about the huge vent. Thank you for reading. Getting this out made me feel much better.

Waterlily67 21. No friends. No boyfriend. Something wrong with me?
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For the last 2 years, I was severely depressed and this year I told myself I'd try to be more positive and put myself out there more. I got involved in a production at uni as a director, did a campaign, wrote an article...yet somehow I managed to end... View more

For the last 2 years, I was severely depressed and this year I told myself I'd try to be more positive and put myself out there more. I got involved in a production at uni as a director, did a campaign, wrote an article...yet somehow I managed to end a relationship, still have no friends and I feel like I'm the reason why no one actually wants to be friends with me, let alone date me...

Meatballs1234 This is gonna be a long one
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First of all, i don't exactly know if i'm just 'sad' or actually depressed, just wanted to put that out there. But anyways, i'm 15 years old and the past 2 years have been the hardest 730 days of my life, so many changes occurring in my life. 2 years... View more

First of all, i don't exactly know if i'm just 'sad' or actually depressed, just wanted to put that out there. But anyways, i'm 15 years old and the past 2 years have been the hardest 730 days of my life, so many changes occurring in my life. 2 years ago i found out i was moving to a different country, a country where i would be thousands of kilometres away from my friends, the city i loved, the things that basically kept me sane and alive. I was devastated but fast forward to today, i've been here for 6 months now, yes i miss my friends, the city. Not to mention, this country is completely different from Australia, far more dangerous for a young girl like myself. Anyways, despite being very upset about the move, after a month or so, i slowly stopped crying, i actually started feeling this weird, unusual feeling - i felt happy?? Anyways so i start feeling a bit better but all of a sudden a dark conniving shadow glooms over me, it goes by the name of 'My mum's partner', i would say stepdad but i wouldn't give him that title. So they have been together since i was around 4 (10 years) and have always had their ups and downs but recently its been a weekly tradition to argue, not talk for two days, then i wake up in the morning to everything being 'normal' and them being lovey dovey like nothing ever happened. Also i'm sorry if these things are irrelevant but i just really have to get it out of my system. So where was i. The constant bickering has somehow affected me, because i feel like they take their anger out on me and it really hurts (mentally). Her partner is not an all round malicious monster, theres some good in him, i guess. He is constantly on my case, telling me off as if he's my actual father, calling me names, he thinks just because i've only lived for 15 years that he automatically knows more than i do, not saying i know more than him, but he refuses to listen to anything my mum and i have to say, he seems to think he's superior to us. And i'm so sick and tired of it, he makes me feel like shit honestly, the degrading comments and all. I can tell my mum is not happy and she hasn't been for a while, we feel the same way about him, i always check on her after a fight to make sure she's doing fine. I just don't know what could possibly be holding her back I love my mum when it's just us, that's when i'm truly happy and i think she is too but when he's around she seems to be his evil sidekick.