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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Oj1234 Trying to pick myself up
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Im currently 28, i met my ex 4 years ago and was in a 3 year relationship, for a good year it was perfect. She would communicate with me, be proud of who i am and love showing me off. But as time changed, so did her temper. I understand everyone has ... View more

Im currently 28, i met my ex 4 years ago and was in a 3 year relationship, for a good year it was perfect. She would communicate with me, be proud of who i am and love showing me off. But as time changed, so did her temper. I understand everyone has there days but it felt more constant to be walking on egg shells to avoid upsetting her. I cared deeply for this girl and did so much to keep her happy. Even when i was struggling with hard days, it was her before me, but it was getting to much, she would tell me if i couldnt lift her up shed find someone who could. When we began to argue, i always tried to resolve things as soon as possible, i wanted to communicate with her. But she wasn't interested, she would have her say, express how she felt and would tell me she would talk to me when she was ready. So she would block me on all forms of communication so i couldn't attempt to talk. This hurt me more so as i felt that communication is crucial for a happy relationship. I'm not perfect myself but i never hurt her or verbally put her down. But in time she became more and more aggressive. She insulted me and questioned my manhood. As time progressed she would tell me she didn't love me But would stalk my social media pages and would constantly msg me telling me im someone im not. When i finally had enough, i walked away only to have her come back into my life 3 weeks later telling me she was pregnant. We never kept the child. She wanted to but after a discussion with her parents she told me she was ashamed of me, i worked to much, i didn't have a career, i wasnt fit to be a father and I wasn't a man. This has stuck with me since. I forgave her and was there with her through the abortion. She told me she still loved me but was talking to guys behind my back. She was un aware I knew. It became to much for me, especially as on several occasions she told me she kissed another guy and even as much as slept with another person. She then told me it was to push me away but i began to have trust issues more so then before, she refused to spend new years eve with me but instead told me she wanted to drink with her female friends. I know it wasn't a healthy relationship but its been over a year and I'm still struggling to find happiness. Recently I felt as if ive fallen into depression. My passions have faded and I wake up with anxiety. Does anyone have any strategies to help because its effecting my quality of life

missbee81 Health anxiety
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I suffer from health anxiety it all started after my Aunty had a stroke suddenly and that was it! I get the left sided chest stabbing pain towards my back, headaches etc! I have had an ecg as I called the ambulance a month ago during an attack! The e... View more

I suffer from health anxiety it all started after my Aunty had a stroke suddenly and that was it! I get the left sided chest stabbing pain towards my back, headaches etc! I have had an ecg as I called the ambulance a month ago during an attack! The ecg and heart was fine and all my blood tests have come back clear also! My chest pain went away for a couple of weeks and now returned again after I had a really bad migraine and started worrying about aneurysms as my uncle died from one last year! How do u all deal with this pain and worrying

MsCroft This past year my personal hygiene has declined dramatically to where I will go up to two weeks without bathing....
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I've been depressed for as long as I could remember, but it's never been this bad. I don't feel the need to shower, wash my hair, brush my hair or teeth, I barely leave my room, and I've become pale. I usually don't eat food, but when I do, It's junk... View more

I've been depressed for as long as I could remember, but it's never been this bad. I don't feel the need to shower, wash my hair, brush my hair or teeth, I barely leave my room, and I've become pale. I usually don't eat food, but when I do, It's junk food. I've lost a lot of weight (Which I am not complaining about) But I'm losing it to fast. I usually get told I smell and I get super defensive and sad to the point where I have a complete meltdown, I just can't work up the energy to allow my personal hygiene to be accepted.... I feel ugly, and there's nothing I can do... Why is this happening? I know it's disgusting and rather inhuman... But I can't change this, I barely wash my clothes.... Help.

DylanS36 Have no friends
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I'm a 19 year old male and ever since I was diagnosed with depression, every single one of my friends have left me. I don't have anyone anymore and I feel so alone. Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day I just end up crying for long stretches of a... View more

I'm a 19 year old male and ever since I was diagnosed with depression, every single one of my friends have left me. I don't have anyone anymore and I feel so alone. Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day I just end up crying for long stretches of a time. I don't know how to cope and what I can do.

Frankie1962 My daughter has very low self esteem and depression
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Hi my daughter is 24 years old, she has very low self esteem, she’s beautiful, loving, generous, she got a degree, she works, she has what most would think is a good like. But she has severe low self esteem when it comes to friends and relationships.... View more

Hi my daughter is 24 years old, she has very low self esteem, she’s beautiful, loving, generous, she got a degree, she works, she has what most would think is a good like. But she has severe low self esteem when it comes to friends and relationships. She performs very well at work, she thinks people won’t and don’t like her, don’t want to be her friend, won’t want to get to know her, she thinks they will think she’s boring, has nothing interesting to say, she doesn’t want to try and be friends with anyone because they won’t like her, will let her down. She has 3 friends from school but states that if she doesn’t imitate contact with them they will never see her, she does not have a partner and never has for this exact same reason. She states that she doesn’t like herself, she thinks she boring and has nothing to contribute so why would anyone else like her. I have dried to reason this with her which makes it only worse, I cannot get her to join anything or try and meet or make new friends, be cause she is so scared of the rejection. I have no idea how to help her, she is so clever yet she cannot see that this is only what she sees. When she is with people she turns the attention onto them all the time and wants to give nothing of herself as NO one will be interested. As her mother I’m having a real problem working through this in my own head and helping her without saying things that will only make it worse. can anyone help me?

Visterra I'm new and I'd like to talk
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Hi I'm new here and new to this website I have been experiencing feelings of sadness and disappointed because my Father was cheating on my Mum online with multiple women, it made me angry, sad and confused. I struggle to relate to him anymore. I wish... View more

Hi I'm new here and new to this website I have been experiencing feelings of sadness and disappointed because my Father was cheating on my Mum online with multiple women, it made me angry, sad and confused. I struggle to relate to him anymore. I wish to have a relationship with him which I have tried many times but gave up as he repeatedly broke my trust on many occasions. I have seen the messages he'd send to the girls and left me crying saying he didn't know as to what I was talking about. I don't know what to do if I either want a relationship with him or for him to stay out of my life. It's been hard to cope with the fact that my Father has changed alot and its very hard to accept the fact that he'll never be the same. Any advice as to what I should do?

Anxiety1p101 Severe GAD or a physical Disorder?!?
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I am 19 years old and 5 Months ago i travelled to europe and had a massive couple of nights in amsterdam where i did mdma and coke (regret every bit of it trust me). 5 months later i am obviously much better but i still have alot of physical symptons... View more

I am 19 years old and 5 Months ago i travelled to europe and had a massive couple of nights in amsterdam where i did mdma and coke (regret every bit of it trust me). 5 months later i am obviously much better but i still have alot of physical symptons that extremely concern me. I have never had anxiety but for the last 5 months, all i can think about is how i have done some awful neurodegenerative disease (als, ms and the list goes on in my motor neurones). - This is due to the fact that i now have a slight tremor (most noticeable in thumbs) almost all the time and my muscle movements feel different (clockwise when move). After exercise i also shake vigorously for about 25mins after. - My muscles also feel weak after moderate walks which would never used to happen. - I think alot about my jaw chattering when my bottom and top teeth are together which creates strain and stopping me from closing my jaw. - I have a high pressure feeling in my nose/eyes (sinus). - Also i get the occasional muscle twitch every day. I have visited a neurologist once for about 20mins and he did a spine tap and said "all is well you might have a slight essential tremor". But this seriously has not convinced me one bit for all the other symptons that allign perfectly with other Nerve Disorders. I was just wondering if my gut feeling is right about an actual physical effect i have done to myself or this is severe GAD of some sort??!! Any response would be much appreciated cheers

Gabstar77 Young people interested in a career/studies in mental health
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Hi, I'm Gabby. I am about to begin my first year in a Bachelor of Psychology. I am interested in doing volunteer work in mental health, that is what lead me to this website. I thought it might be meaningful to join the forum while I'm here, in the ho... View more

Hi, I'm Gabby. I am about to begin my first year in a Bachelor of Psychology. I am interested in doing volunteer work in mental health, that is what lead me to this website. I thought it might be meaningful to join the forum while I'm here, in the hopes of making like-minded friends. A bit of background about me: I am a christian, I battle with anxiety and episodes of depression, but I am passionate about making a difference in other people's lives and making our world a bit brighter. I feel very strongly about mental health, travelling on the road to recovery and reducing the stigma around it. If anyone is similar to me, lets chat!

Abigail_1274 i need help.
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idk what to do at the moment, my family expects me to be perfect and I can’t be, I try help mom out as much as I can she works all the time and I just wish we could spend more time with us but we need the money dad doesn’t do anything but sit on he’s... View more

idk what to do at the moment, my family expects me to be perfect and I can’t be, I try help mom out as much as I can she works all the time and I just wish we could spend more time with us but we need the money dad doesn’t do anything but sit on he’s butt, school is hard for me so much drama everyone does drugs and it’s all in my face 24/7, everyone expects me to be there for them I lisen to there shit but they act like they don’t give a , I just wanna be a little girl again that was easy.

Embarrasedsrry Hey im 13 and I cry secretly in my room or the toilet!
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Hey im 13! I moved to this school last year for 2018 and im not excited for school starting this 2019 (2 more weeks untill school). I have selective mutism whenever my teachers around (its getting better). My grades are bad I never gotten an a in a r... View more

Hey im 13! I moved to this school last year for 2018 and im not excited for school starting this 2019 (2 more weeks untill school). I have selective mutism whenever my teachers around (its getting better). My grades are bad I never gotten an a in a report card and only get b's or c's. Ive gotten 3D's, All the d's i got, i felt crushed. I would cry in my room pretending im playing but I wasnt, I was crying. Whenever my mum gets mad at me she would try relating to my grades. She would say something like "JUST LIKE YOUR GRADES!!!". Now everytime my mum gets mad at me no matter what i do, even tho she doesnt mention my grades, i still think about my grades and i just cry in my room pretending im not. Last year was very depressing for me. That is why i feel depressed about school next year, i feel like it will be the same, i feel like im going to get bad grades, i feel like im still going to get teased because im short. My grandparents came over to Australia and i was so excited, i counted each day when they will arrive but they only stayed for 6days. All the 6 days spent with them i felt i was supported with them. My grandparent went back to America yesterday and i felt crush, i felt lonely again. I went to the toilet excusing myself pretending to take a dump, but in reality i was crying about feeling beyond blue going to school and depressed about my grandparents leaving. I feel lonely now and each day that gets closer to school i feel sad. Anyone have suggestions please. I dont want to talk to anyone about it and thats why my username is not a name. Please dont say see a gp or talk to skmeone. Thanks